My own 100 approaches in 100 days.

[little0z]

I know this is an unoriginal thread, I won't deny it was inspired by the other thread of the same name, but this is something I really need to do to get over my confidence issues. I'm sure a lot of the approaches won't be interesting, just a simple hello, but for me that's a start.

I work full time in a government department with pretty much no women, so most of my approaches will be during my lunch break when I head to the local mall (always packed with HOT girls), otherwise I'll go somewhere at night like a supermarket if I don't get a chance during the day. I go out drinking most weekends (friday or saturday night) but I won't be counting any of the approaches I make when I'm out because I consider that something completely different, and not what I'm aiming for here.

I'll be starting tommorow and hope you guys can give me some support and maybe learn a thing or two from my failures

[Nights]

why not start today

[The_Champ01]

Are you from sydney?

[little0z]

why not start today

It's 9:30 at night I'll be sleeping fairly soon...

I'm from Canberra not Sydney

[Woopster]

g'luck bro. I feel to do something like this too cos' ive seen other people do it and it seems like fun looking back at all the approaches etc. U mind if i join in with you on this? or would you prefer I start another thread separately?

[comebakthursday]

Go for the goal.

[jadedandslated]

Any updates yet.

[tbs_rocks]

*subscribed*

Good luck man.

[ADW01]

if your back is half the size of the one in that picture, you should try approaching by walking backwards.

subscribed, gl

[Chris2512]

good luck bro. keep us updated!

[user1792222222222244]

good luck man, im still working on self-help so i will be confident in myself in all situations that doesnt really focus on girls...just confidence (every day body language, small talk, things im saying, etc).

But in about 4 months or so i plan to have myself where i want to be and start reading all David DeAngelo's books and videos and start focusing on girls. ill be doing my own 100 approaches in 100 days all while im reading the books and learning so that after those 100 days. Ill be good to F*cking go...


good luck over the next 100 days, and after your 100 days are over, ill be starting mine





edit - you have to update evryday too. This thread HAS to deliver. lol UPDATE OR NEGS*

[little0z]

Day #1

Well let me start by saying I'm very disappointed with myself, and the way that things turned out today. I went to the mall for lunch as planned, luckily the other guy that I usually get lunch with was having lunch with his gf, so it was just me. I spent an hour there, wandering around, in and out of shops. I said hi to one girl. One girl that worked at a shop and looked at me. It was the most pathetic conversation ever.

Me: Hi
Her: Hey

Then I lost the little nerve I had and left the shop. Not wanting to let myself or you guys down I got home and called my friends to see who would come to the local uni bar to hang out (not to get drunk), they were all "tired" so I went by myself. The place was full of guys, so I left after a bit of pool practice.

So here I am feeling pretty damn pathetic, most likely going to look at porn as usual and jerk off. I don't know why I'm finding it so hard to just start up a conversation with a random girl, it just feels wrong to me, like I'm harassing them or something...don't know. If I'm in a situation with a girl where we have something in common e.g. on a course together, I have no problem talking **** with her and getting along, but with no common ground, I just freeze up. This **** is getting me down...ah well I guess I'll see what happens tomorow...

edit: to the guy that asked...yep that's me in the photo...doesn't seem to help me with the ladies though

[animal-mother]

Sorry to laugh, but LOL. Reps for being honest.

Everyones been in a situation like that.

1 down 99 to go.

Try the 'hi my names mike, whats your name? Oh really, nice to meet you name. So, when are we going to ****?'

I'm going to try it 25 times this weekend, unless I get a black eye before.

[little0z]

Sorry to laugh, but LOL. Reps for being honest.

Everyones been in a situation like that.

1 down 99 to go.

haha yeah...I considered getting on here and making up some awesome story...but I'd be lying to myself too...no use being in denial...

Try the 'hi my names mike, whats your name? Oh really, nice to meet you name.

This is exactly what I do when I go out to bars, but when you're in a bar drunk, and with other drunk people, it's expected. If a girl came up to me randomly in a mall and said "Hi my name's someho", my response would be "um....ok....and?", so I figure a girl's response would be the same if I did it to them...

[animal-mother]

haha yeah...I considered getting on here and making up some awesome story...but I'd be lying to myself too...no use being in denial...

Just do it with a big **** eating grin on your face to get her to smile. If she doesen't smile back then your probably wasting your time because she either isnt interested or has a douche bag personality.

[animal-mother]

This is exactly what I do when I go out to bars, but when you're in a bar drunk, and with other drunk people, it's expected.

Does it work? Or should I expect to get reported for sexual harassment.

[little0z]

Does it work? Or should I expect to get reported for sexual harassment.

Haha yeah the girls are always happy to talk, but in the end they all seem to just want free drinks, which is why I've gone off even trying at bars...

edit: oh...not sure about the "when are we going to ****" part...never tried that

[animal-mother]

Haha yeah the girls are always happy to talk, but in the end they all seem to just want free drinks, which is why I've gone off even trying at bars...

edit: oh...not sure about the "when are we going to ****" part...never tried that

I see my experiment ending in one of 3 ways (in order of least likely to happen)

1) She says yes
2) She laughs and I start a convo
3) I get slapped

[little0z]

I see my experiment ending in one of 3 ways (in order of least likely to happen)

1) She says yes
2) She laughs and I start a convo
3) I get slapped

Being realistic, I think you're most likely to get a bitchy look (with good reason)...then they walk away...assuming they're by themselves. I need to come up with a cunning way to start conversations before tomorrow (it's 8:47 at night now), because the random "Hi" routine obviously isn't right for me...

[animal-mother]

Being realistic, I think you're most likely to get a bitchy look (with good reason)...then they walk away...assuming they're by themselves. I need to come up with a cunning way to start conversations before tomorrow (it's 8:47 at night now), because the random "Hi" routine obviously isn't right for me...

Try 'hey whats up'

'nothing much you'

'just paroosing around (ok dont say paroosing thats gay), how you like working here'

'it sucks'

'ya rly i worked at home depot because im a tool'

etc...

[little0z]

Try 'hey whats up'

'nothing much you'

'just paroosing around (ok dont say paroosing thats gay), how you like working here'

'it sucks'

'ya rly i worked at home depot because im a tool'

etc...

Yeah I was hoping to tell a girl something like
"I feel sorry for you"
"why?"
"having to ask every customer if they need help"
"yeah it sucks blah blah"
"some ****"
"blah"
"give me your phone number"
etc

but none approached me...and following one of the girls to the back of the store or wherever they were would be a bit weird...

[Ripped_carnt]

I dunno about these yanks mate and what they do at the "mall" .. but seriously .. how many times have you seen anyone randomly approach a random in a ****ing shopping centre in Australia?

dead set.. it's not normal.

I see people posting in that PUA thread **** like "yeah just hang out at the mall all day .. wander up to chicks walking along"

Can you imagine walking along and some random **** comes up and is in your face with a cheesy smile and a hello? Especially when he is sweating from all sweatbox compartments and is obviously nervous?

You would be grabbing your handbag and avoiding eye contact, thinking he has a mental disorder or im about to get raped.

Stick to scenarios where meeting random people is accepted behaviour .. eg. bar, lecture, tutorial, school, book club, sport, mates of mates

[animal-mother]

Can you imagine walking along and some random **** comes up and is in your face with a cheesy smile and a hello? Especially when he is sweating from all sweatbox compartments and is obviously nervous?

You would be grabbing your handbag and avoiding eye contact, thinking he has a mental disorder or im about to get raped.

Thats why you approach people who show interest in the first place, the chick who looks behind her and smiles at you.

Or when you say "HI" and she says "HI" with a genuine smile back.

[Ripped_carnt]

Fair point

Only thing i would like to add is do you feel comfortable in a shopping centre? If not, you won't feel confident.

Gotta feel confident before embarking on these quests.

[little0z]

I dunno about these yanks mate and what they do at the "mall" .. but seriously .. how many times have you seen anyone randomly approach a random in a ****ing shopping centre in Australia?

dead set.. it's not normal.

I see people posting in that PUA thread **** like "yeah just hang out at the mall all day .. wander up to chicks walking along"

Can you imagine walking along and some random **** comes up and is in your face with a cheesy smile and a hello? Especially when he is sweating from all sweatbox compartments and is obviously nervous?

You would be grabbing your handbag and avoiding eye contact, thinking he has a mental disorder or im about to get raped.

Stick to scenarios where meeting random people is accepted behaviour .. eg. bar, lecture, tutorial, school, book club, sport, mates of mates

Ah someone agrees, that's exactly what I mean, it just feels wrong man. My main problem is lack of opportunities, my work is basically all guys, my friends are all guys who hardly have female friends and are only interested in computers etc, bars I'm avoiding now because the people aren't after relationships, the gym I know people there don't want to be bugged and usually have their own thing to do, I'm always looking for new activities but there's not much suitable in Canberra, especially when I don't have that much free time. I told myself for a while that I just wanted to go out, get drunk and have sex with randoms, but I really do enjoy the *relationship* part of a relationship, just lying around with a girl etc...

You're right...I've had random people approach me before and just start talking...who were mentally disabled. By the way it is a "mall"...get Americanized damn you

[_Lifter4Life_]

Shopping mall is actually a pretty good place, try the 'hey would you mind helping me find something that fits me nice" and carry it on from their, "hey I really thank you for helpin me out, we should get together sometime"

If its a random chicky, look at what shes doing, what shes wearing, whose she with? theres lots of things to spark a convo, if shes wearing something that catches ur eye, comment on that...

Good luck
Lifter,

[little0z]

Shopping mall is actually a pretty good place, try the 'hey would you mind helping me find something that fits me nice" and carry it on from their, "hey I really thank you for helpin me out, we should get together sometime"

That doesn't sound like such a bad idea. I need a pair of sunglasses so I might take advantage of that opportunity. Atleast then I have a reason to be talking to the girl, I'm not just some random guy going "hi!" then staring dumbly. I feel much more comfortable when I have a friend with me, but on the other hand my friends are likely to scare a girl off...they don't even try to pick up...

[animal-mother]

You're right...I've had random people approach me before and just start talking...who were mentally disabled.

A holes a hole brotha... jk.

[little0z]

I just remembered I did chat up another girl this morning. I was waiting in line to use an ATM, she was standing behind me, next in line. A cold gust of wind blew and messed up her hair, she looked at me, a twinkle in her eye. "Pretty cold eh?" I said, she mumbled something about Winter, in her sexy Russian accent, then I used the ATM and we parted ways.

She couldn't have been much older than 80...that counts right? Ok now I need sleep...let's see how tomorrow goes...

[Milimber]

She couldn't have been much older than 80...that counts right? Ok now I need sleep...let's see how tomorrow goes...

lol.

Reps

good luck sir

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