I got proposed to today.... what do?

[hai2dehfolks]

Again. I got proposed to again.

I always thought I was a plain Jane with nothing to offer, but I have been getting marriage proposals left and right.

This most recent guy has been contacting me, begging me to be with him in marriage, but I just don't know what to do. I have had to turn down a lot of guys recently, and I have no idea where they came from. At first, I don't see what could be wrong. I mean, they're nice guys and have great personalities, but which one is right for ME, you know?

What do I do? Help me, please.

[John$Galt]

[mfitty9000]

are you um dating him for years first? because if not thats kinda a deal breaker

[anonymous]

[NYY]

Marry them all and move to Utah.

[niosh]

need more infoz.

How long have you been seeing this brah?
Age difference?
Does he have a massive amount of cash money?

[Bosniaque]

Marry them all and move to Utah.

lol'd

[TaeBoNinja]

This most recent guy has been contacting me, begging me to be with him in marriage, but I just don't know what to do.

1) You're only 22, which is way too young unless you want an incredibly boring life.

2) The fact that this guy needs to beg you, and that you're unsure, says everything you need to know. He's not in your league, and the guy is trying to secure you before you realize it.

3) Move on, travel, live.laugh.love

[Kaptn Krunch]

Do you have a fecal fettish? I'm looking for someone who does that is interested in marrying me.

[hai2dehfolks]

are you um dating him for years first? because if not thats kinda a deal breaker

Well... one of them I have known for a few years, and the other three are fairly recent... like months.

Random people asking you to marry them without dating them?

Not understanding your situation... arranged marriage proposals? Religious? Sleeping with a lot of guys? Need more info.

I SORT of dated them. I mean, we talk all the time and it's like we know all of each other's secrets. It's not religious at ALL from where I'm at, but who know's about the others.

The one I've know for the longest is 32 I think... one's 28, one's 27 and one's 21 (he just had his birthday).

They are all awesome guys. I'm so confused.

[hai2dehfolks]

1) You're only 22, which is way too young unless you want an incredibly boring life.

2) The fact that this guy needs to beg you, and that you're unsure, says everything you need to know. He's not in your league, and the guy is trying to secure you before you realize it.

3) Move on, travel, live.laugh.love

-what does age have to do with anything if I'm in love?
-what do you mean by "not in your league"? and secure me? I'm not property....
- I'm still in school and can't travel...

[bambiemcfly]

tell him youve contracted the aids, and if he wants to spend eternity (short as it may be) with you, he must spend it with aids as well.
tell him youre a lesbian and show him my picture.
tell him hes just going into nesting mode because winter is around the corner; he will snap out of it by april.


or just be glad you are wife material to this man and apparently many others, and select your husband.

[niosh]

Whats does "SORT of dated" mean?

Assuming this isn't a troll thread, it sounds like WhiteKnights trying to find an in to sex.

[nvrstopworking]

Not sure if trolling....

4 different guys proposing to you at roughly the same time? How does that even happen?

At any rate, 22 is VERY young to be getting married. IMO anyway.

[bambiemcfly]

Not sure if trolling....

4 different guys proposing to you at roughly the same time? How does that even happen?

At any rate, 22 is VERY young to be getting married. IMO anyway.

^^strong this. where are my proposals?

[TheStimulation]

The answer to your first question is in all the questions if you asked throughout this thread....since you've had to ask them, you're definitely not ready. You don't even to seem to have the mentality of a 22 yr old, more like 16 yr old. Srs. Don't mean to be a d*ck but the truth hurts. Better to hear it than be blind to it and get hurt more down the line.

Till the time is right, disregard marriage, acquire aesthetics and currency.

[TaeBoNinja]

-what does age have to do with anything if I'm in love?
-what do you mean by "not in your league"? and secure me? I'm not property....
- I'm still in school and can't travel...

1) Age is VERY important because the kind of person you're attracted to at 22, isn't usually the same type post 25+. Why in the World would you get married so young? That's for ugly/fat women who expect to be a housewife their whole life(sad, but true).

2) The act of begging, is a possessive act. he's doing that because he "doesn't want to lose you". Which means he sees a legit reason why you would leave him. That tells me that the relationship is imbalanced, with you being out of his league. "Securing" you at 22, means he wants tot ake you off the market before you mature and move on.

And yes, this means he sees you kind of like property. His property. That's how insecure guys think of women, and a big red flag.

3) The fact that you're still in school tells me you haven't even lived yet. What's the rush for marriage.

[hai2dehfolks]

tell him youve contracted the aids, and if he wants to spend eternity (short as it may be) with you, he must spend it with aids as well.
tell him youre a lesbian and show him my picture.
tell him hes just going into nesting mode because winter is around the corner; he will snap out of it by april.


or just be glad you are wife material to this man and apparently many others, and select your husband.

The most recent one (21)isn't sure he wants to get married NOW, but knows that he wants to marry me... We've had deep conversations about it. He's really attractive and I know our children would be aesthetic. the 32yo whom I've known for quite a while is like my rock. He's so compassionate and supportive of everything I do. He recently gave me money so I could do more with my philanthropy. He's truly amazing.

While the 28yo is a really good guy and has a lot to offer, I don't think he'd last very long... he seems to get bored easily. Def nesting with him... and the other one is wishywash with his EX... sooo those two are probably out. *sigh*

Whats does "SORT of dated" mean?

Assuming this isn't a troll thread, it sounds like WhiteKnights trying to find an in to sex.

We have talked a whole lot but never really GONE OUT. and I haven't had sex with any of them...

[fukc]

^^strong this. where are my proposals?

this

[ohword]

What the **** does this even mean?

[kickblake]

tell him hes just going into nesting mode because winter is around the corner; he will snap out of it by april.

someone else who belives in the nesting cycle. reps

[nvrstopworking]

-what does age have to do with anything if I'm in love?

I really hate that argument... because it's one that's ALWAYS used by young people who get hitched. Unfortunately, they're usually the same ones who end up divorced 5 years later claiming "man, I got married way too young".

The person in question isn't going to fall off the face of the earth because you didn't walk down the aisle with them. If you're really in love then take your time and really get to know each other. There's no rush.

^^strong this. where are my proposals?

Maybe you need teh double-D bewbies like her?

[kineticforce]

^^strong this. where are my proposals?
[IMG]http://i1107.photobucket.com/albums/h395/writeonman/1b6ea471.png[IMG]

are you into an open marriage?

[Clever Mouse]

[digitalbath11]

this

Triple this.

Do it brahette. Dont wait till you're old like me. They never ask when you're old.

[anonymous]

they do sound Awesome so I can see why you're so excited to share this with the Internet.

I'm sure this thread will help you make the right life-choice

[intense77]

So you are playing like 4 different guys right now who are all different ages? I mean, good for you cause you are living life but obviously you are just going to end up ****ing with all these dudes. You clearly don't want to marry one of them and the fact that they are proposing to you when you clearly aren't exclusive makes no sense.

[nvrstopworking]

The most recent one (21)isn't sure he wants to get married NOW, but knows that he wants to marry me... We've had deep conversations about it. He's really attractive and I know our children would be aesthetic. the 32yo whom I've known for quite a while is like my rock. He's so compassionate and supportive of everything I do. He recently gave me money so I could do more with my philanthropy. He's truly amazing.

While the 28yo is a really good guy and has a lot to offer, I don't think he'd last very long... he seems to get bored easily. Def nesting with him... and the other one is wishywash with his EX... sooo those two are probably out. *sigh*



We have talked a whole lot but never really GONE OUT. and I haven't had sex with any of them...

OK... must be trolling.

inb4 hai marries one of these dudes and finds out that he can only get off by watching chicks eat his "Italian French Toast" (look it up in UD lulz).

[kineticforce]

this

same question as bambie?

[hai2dehfolks]

1) Age is VERY important because the kind of person you're attracted to at 22, isn't usually the same type post 25+. Why in the World would you get married so young? That's for ugly/fat women who expect to be a housewife their whole life(sad, but true).

2) The act of begging, is a possessive act. he's doing that because he "doesn't want to lose you". Which means he sees a legit reason why you would leave him. That tells me that the relationship is imbalanced, with you being out of his league. "Securing" you at 22, means he wants tot ake you off the market before you mature and move on.

And yes, this means he sees you kind of like property. His property. That's how insecure guys think of women, and a big red flag.

3) The fact that you're still in school tells me you haven't even lived yet. What's the rush for marriage.

- I would like to be a housewife if I can... srs. I would have TONS of hobbies, but I would do it.
- Well... maybe he didn't BEG then... I don't wanna totally dismiss him yet.....
- look at post below for this one.

I really hate that argument... because it's one that's ALWAYS used by young people who get hitched. Unfortunately, they're usually the same ones who end up divorced 5 years later claiming "man, I got married way too young".

The person in question isn't going to fall off the face of the earth because you didn't walk down the aisle with them. If you're really in love then take your time and really get to know each other. There's no rush.

My parents have been married long enough to be YOUR parents. They got married when they were younger than me... They dated for a year, were engaged a FEW MONTHS and got hitched by my great grandfather. srs to all of this.

Isn't it possible I could find lasting love at my age?