str8 Mormon woman married to gay man speaks out.

[jon555]

It took me a lifetime to appreciate who I am and finally be happy that I am who I am.

I'm glad to hear it brah. It is never too late to make the most out of life no matter what your circumstances.

[oneandonlydwt]

measly reps for being surrounded by mormons too......

[Hemispheres79]

Definately not a choice, I don't remember ever having any attraction to women. I tried my best, at 14 I bought a penthouse and hoped that would work. It didn't, tried dating women, therapy marriage. At the end of the day I was still gay. It took me a lifetime to appreciate who I am and finally be happy that I am who I am.

thanks for speaking candidly.

[CanUbAnKai]

Strong OP user title to OP's post contents relevance.

[OPG]

[Gif_Brah]

That's pretty interesting. Will check it out OP, thanks.

[mntbikedude]

Props for having the balls to post this type of thread on the misc, glad to see there hasn't been too much backlash yet. Haven't seen this, still pretty interesting stuff. Repped.

I actually came out here in 2009, here is the thread..... first 6 pages answer most questions.... people were amazing in that thread, the misc really did me proud.

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?t=113294221

[mntbikedude]

Is homosexual attraction more physical or mental.

I know a few gay people and they seem to be brighter emotionally than alot of people but i think it may be a front i dont think they are any different that any of us other than the obvious

It is both, there is of course the physical attraction but there is also a major emotional part. That is why it is so important for the next generation of gays to be able to have stronger relationships. So much of homosexuals mind set was just physical because that was all we knew.

I don't think we are brighter but homosexuals definately add a lot of spice to life.... just watch the first 5 minutes of the video it says it so much better than me.

[mntbikedude]

Strong OP user title to OP's post contents relevance.

It's funny because I have had that as my title for years. I remember first coming here in 2002 there was a poster named ZachG and he was always speaking up and defending people. (this was before you would get banned for attacking people). At the time he was defending gays and people were accusing him of being gay. I knew he wasn't but it really impressed me at his courage.

I wanted very much to be that brave and to speak up and say what I knew needed to be said. It took me 8 years before I finally got that gots to stand for something here and IRL.

[Finnbhennach]

One of my families closet friends has a very similar story to this man. P, his husband is dead from complications of AIDS and my friend is getting ill. It is sad but they adored each other and P died happier for that. My friend is now getting sicker and is moving in with my parents so my folks can take care of him (both Docs)


op I be mirin' your balls take a lot a courage so fair play. (no homo.......*******)

[jayshmo]

It is both, there is of course the physical attraction but there is also a major emotional part. That is why it is so important for the next generation of gays to be able to have stronger relationships. So much of homosexuals mind set was just physical because that was all we knew.

I don't think we are brighter but homosexuals definately add a lot of spice to life.... just watch the first 5 minutes of the video it says it so much better than me.

Gays are fun to be around and i have no problem with them as long as they are moral charcter (not religious morals lmao)

[Nas_the_realest]

op since u are homosex, have u ever fapped to my avi?

srs, thanks

[ralphlauren55]

why is the gay lifestyle so unhealthy? (doing so many drugs, the average gay man having sex with over 1000 partners in their lifetime, etc) why do gay people do this?

[mntbikedude]

op since u are homosex, have u ever fapped to my avi?

srs, thanks

naw sorry brah.... elbows too pointy

[CountofManlets]

not a *******, but I hope you *******s get the choice to marry. If only to shut up your constant bit ching. Good luck with your marriage goals in 2011.

[fevr]

It took me a lifetime to appreciate who I am and finally be happy that I am who I am.

You're definitely not happy with who you are because you make attention whore threads like this and more in the R&P.

If you were content, you wouldn't.

[mntbikedude]

why is the gay lifestyle so unhealthy? (doing so many drugs, the average gay man having sex with over 1000 partners in their lifetime, etc) why do gay people do this?

Well first off I've only had sex with two people in my entire life. I believe that the unhealthy lifestyle is because most gays never had the chance to be open about it. It was this hidden secret thing. So most younger gays don't get to date in HS and have the chance to just get to know someone.

I think the best thing that is happening today is that the gay community is trying so hard to teach others the value in commited relationships, including marriage. Isn't it interesting that the one thing that could change the so called gay lifestyle ie marriage is being fought so hard by the very people that should be encouraging homosexuals to be in real relationships and not just random hook-ups.

[1GGY]

Damn bro you're gay but you've been married for 28 years to a woman? That must have been brutal for you.

[MindWentBlank]

My Aunt has three daughters that are all gay. They are also Mormon. One of them got married but doesn't feel she can keep it up anymore, the other one has been fighting it but can't seem to keep it up and the oldest one has been openly gay for a long time. I think shes very disappointed in the church because of their stance on gay marriage etc.

[BillBrasky]

OP how did you tell your wife that you're gay? Also, how are you still together if it's known you are attracted to men?(srs) Also, respect for being so open and honest in a hostile environment.

[mntbikedude]

You're definitely not happy with who you are because you make attention whore threads like this and more in the R&P.

If you were content, you wouldn't.

Maybe so, I didn't mean for the thread to go this direction I had just watched the video and was impressed with it. I also don't get to talk about this stuff much IRL ...... so I do have a lot of pent-up things to say.

[mntbikedude]

OP how did you tell your wife that you're gay? Also, how are you still together if it's known you are attracted to men?(srs) Also, respect for being so open and honest in a hostile environment.

I was going in for surgery and the day before I just looked her in the eyes and said I'm gay.

How are we still together? Well I'm pretty surprised as well, we were best friends for 7 years before we were married. We still love each other very much. I guess me being attracted to men isn't alot different than your average guy being attracted to women other than their wifes. And thanks really the forum has been far more supportive than hostile. The world is a changin.

[MindWentBlank]

So do you have sex with other men or are you faithful to your wife? Do you think gay people should be in hetero marriages and not give in to being in a homosexual relationship?

[_Ishy]

That's cool but I really don't care. Live and let live.

[mntbikedude]

So do you have sex with other men or are you faithful to your wife? Do you think gay people should be in hetero marriages and not give in to being in a homosexual relationship?

No I do not have sex with other men and I am faithful to my wife. I would never encourage a gay person to marry a hetero women. I strongly encourage gays to be themselves and to find someone they can love in every way and to be in a commited relationship.

[Lt.Dangle]

hold on...

you are gay and married? does your wife know you are gay? do you have sex with her? why are you married? is she hot? etc...

something i've always wondered:

when i see guys doing gay things i'm pretty disgusted, do you feel the same way about girls doing lezbo things? when you watch porn and it switched to a shot of the girl's face do you look away for a few seconds?

[sb327]

No I do not have sex with other men and I am faithful to my wife. I would never encourage a gay person to marry a hetero women. I strongly encourage gays to be themselves and to find someone they can love in every way and to be in a commited relationship.

so do you at least fap to men? or are your sexual desires not that strong? (srs question)
and would you consider yourself a bi-romantic since you love a woman?

[Zordon]

Why do gays get AIDs so much


or is it just a myth that HIV is more prominent in the homosexual community



I've always been paranoid about being pricked by some HIV needle super villain in a nightclub like that one urban legend

[babbagandu]

Naw I'm actually still married 28 years next month. If I did get divorced I would definately never date another women.

wait, wat?

How does that work? My gf is an LDS member and she has explained the Mormon policy on homosexuality to me before. She said something along the lines of it's ok to be gay as long as you don't do "gay" things with other men. But I never understood how that works.

Are you still a church member? How are you gay and married to a woman? Don't want to be mean I just don't really understand how that would work. Did you do it because of the church?

[mntbikedude]

One of my families closet friends has a very similar story to this man. P, his husband is dead from complications of AIDS and my friend is getting ill. It is sad but they adored each other and P died happier for that. My friend is now getting sicker and is moving in with my parents so my folks can take care of him (both Docs)


op I be mirin' your balls take a lot a courage so fair play. (no homo.......*******)

That is a tragic story, the fear of HIV definately kept me from doing thing that could have endangered both myself and my wife. One positive thing about HIV is that it helped to galvanize the gay community to practice safer sex and also to encourage long term relationships.