Totally srs. Not even trying to be a d!ck or troll. Going out on the first date is fine because you all (primarily her) might not be completely comfortable with each other, but the second date should be in an intimate, private setting--like your/her place. If SHE wants to keep going out she's either (1) a prude, or (2) not that interested and using your ass for a "fun" time and free whatever. If YOU want to keep going out you're either stalling, scared, or both. Taking it slow is bullsh!t and early sex doesn't ruin relationships unless you all aren't sexually compatible, which is better to find out sooner anyways. If the second date IS private and intimate but you don't have sex it's either because (1) you puss'd out, or (2) she's a bullsh!tter/not interested--both bad.
Realize that dating comes after sex, not before.
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04-28-2014, 12:23 AM #1
Honestly bros... If you aren't hitting it by the second date you should just drop her
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04-28-2014, 12:35 AM #2
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04-28-2014, 01:09 AM #4
My boyfriend waited until I was comfortable (which was 8 dates over 3 months).
I've been on dates where they want to rush in to it 1st, 2nd, 3rd date etc, but I've not stuck with these men. They give the impression of looking for fuks and not looking to settle down, so we were on completely different pages and it is pointless continuing seeing them.
Some girls want to fuk around the first date, some girls want to really get to know you, want to know your attraction goes beyond sex and will last.
I think it depends on what you are looking for (long term, or fuks) on how soon you should be sleeping together.
But more importantly it depends on the girl.
Some girls are fine sleeping with various new men quite soon that they may come across, and others aren't comfortable.
Putting a time limit on it is arrogant, ignorant to her feelings, and I would suggest if this is your logic, then you don't have the maturity for a relationship.I don't have problems, I have situations.
Situations, you can get out of!
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There will always be imperfections. There will always be a big splodge of brown chit creating disarray in that beautiful emerald sea of grass.
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04-28-2014, 04:45 AM #8
Meh. A lot of women in their 30's have children.
Busy. He works abroad, I have 3 businesses to run. But yes sex is put on pedestal (from my point of view) because I like kinky stuff, which I would only do with someone I trust as opposed to someone I met once previously.
I've always been the same, even at your age. I just wouldn't get experimental with someone I met two nights ago.I don't have problems, I have situations.
Situations, you can get out of!
We all know the grass is green. We just don’t consider what’s been left in the middle of it.
There will always be imperfections. There will always be a big splodge of brown chit creating disarray in that beautiful emerald sea of grass.
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04-28-2014, 05:06 AM #11
As you guys grow up you will come to realize that the girls you want to spend the rest of your life with don't F on the 1 st or 2nd date. Any by pressing to hard for it, you will blow your chances.
When I was younger, I was just like the guys here. I was there for the physical parts of sex and it is/was great. After a while, and I promise it will happen to all of you. It gets to be not enough. Before I met my wife and settled down, I felt like a professional dater. A few dates a week, having fun, juggling girls at various stages of the relationship, nothing exclusive unless I met a stand out. Girls calling me inviting me to come over for dinner, to hang, as well as nights out with the boys prospecting for new girls. Back in my day, there were no fwb by name but the same relationships existed w/o the tittle.
Then bang, one day, you think, this is horrible, I cannot see any of these girls being my soul mate. someone I can really open up to and count on for Trust, loyalty, support and to raise my kids. Nobody I want to spend a rainy day hanging around the house with? Admit it guys, after your done with the act, how many of you start to think, WTF can I say to gracefully get out of here and meet up with my buddies?
When you have that realization, you start to see different traits in people that you might NOT have picked up on before. These girls of which I speak are rare, and if you are lucky enough to find one, I just hope your mentally in the right place to handle it because they are worth their weight in gold.
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04-28-2014, 05:23 AM #13
Well, I can tell you with 100% certainty that your statement is false. I am in a 23+ year marriage with an unbelievable girl. We have 2 boys, 16 and 18 and everything is great. I am not saying we don't have disagreements and even on occasion even fights, but we fight fair.
If you are looking to bang girls on the 1st and 2nd dates, and that's your criteria, you will never find a soul mate or true love. And in all fairness, at the 17-22 year old stage, myself, I was not looking for that either! I was no different than the typical guy who posts on here, but in my day there was no TINDER or POF. Back in my day, it took some work.
Don't give up on finding the right person at the age of 21. We all go through a lot of Chit to get to the good stuff.
Your going to make it..............
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04-28-2014, 07:59 AM #21
You are one of the worst posters on here. Quite the pot calling the kettle black, you have the maturity of 13 yr old.
EDIT: I feel like I just insulted 13 yr olds cause I know I few and they are actually quite mature.
Wow someone with a brain. Refreshing.Last edited by AJ7123; 04-28-2014 at 08:13 AM.
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04-28-2014, 08:11 AM #22
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lol, 23 years old. OP does not know much about life.
most girls that hold out longer than 3 dates are doing so because they dont want to be just a pump and dump. if they REALLY like you, they will try really hard NOT to have sex right away(even though they might want to). they want you to make them a keeper. they want you to see them as someone worth being around for a long time. not just a fling. i dont see why this is hard to understand by some dudes."The more sand that has escaped from the hourglass of our life, the clearer we should see through it."
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04-28-2014, 08:21 AM #23
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I usually don't post here but I do wanna say one thing to this topic.
it depends.
Some girls will put out the first date...some the first month...some a year (the more later the more uncomforatable it is).
Usually the guy can sense when its ready."Learn from Yesterday, Live for Today, Hope for Tomorrow"
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04-28-2014, 08:37 AM #29
I agree. I think putting an arbitrary number on how many dates before sex is stupid.
Actually the less a guy is pressuring me for sex the more comfortable I am going to be around him and the soon sex will probably happen. If he's all about getting in my pants quick I'm more likely to hold out cause I'm going to try and figure out his intentions.ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ
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