12-09-2010, 12:49 PM #31
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12-09-2010, 01:12 PM #32
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I have been out with 6 girls since January, 3 of which I dated longer term/relationships. There was only one girl that I only went out with once (no issues, just how it happened). I've also never had a big shocker (physically or personality) when going out on the first date with these girls (I've only dated asians off POF). One chick I fuked on the first date, another got a BJ on the second. Other than that, pretty standard sexual stuff (within 5 dates or so).
If there is one piece of advice I could give is to TALK TO THEM VERBALLY BEFORE MEETING. Either on the phone, online, webcam, whatever... But talk to them first.
Two chicks that I spent a fair amount of time, messaging/texting only ended up flaking on the date.
12-09-2010, 02:04 PM #36
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Listen to the posts here.
I've been using POF for a few years now. There is a sh!t load of people using it now, its the easiest site to hook up with girls and +free.
Yeah, majority of the girls on the site are average or worse. Sometimes theres some 8-9's but those chicks inboxes are constantly full, so you will never get a response, troll or no-troll. Lots have kids, depends on the age range of course, for mine they have kids.
All and all, I've had success. longest I dated someone was 4 months, lots of 1st and 2nd dates, most flake out after a few times in the sack, but thats expected.
12-09-2010, 03:02 PM #37
OMG yeah, I have! I was chatting to this girl for like 3 months, it was so pathetic, in my head I kinda saw her as my girlfriend. So eventually we arrange to meet up, I get to meet my blonde stunner.....I thought. So I'm standing near the shopping centre looking at passers by, "oh is that her", "dam she's hot", then I feel a firm tap on my shoulder, I turn around, and Nelly the elephant wearing a blonde wig is stood there. We went to starbucks, she had a bit of cake, wasn't a bad day really.
On POF, always bounce to facebook, and maybe msn for a web cam check. Good luck gentlemen, there are some stunners out there, it isn't all bad .++ Positive Crew ++
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12-09-2010, 03:23 PM #38
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Plenty of good advice in here. Take it OP
My girlfriend is off POF and we're going on 11 months. She's a good looking girl and her personality is awesome.
I went on about 10 other dates and they all had some unattractive physical qualities.
Odds are against her being quality, but you should still give it a shot.6'3" crew checking in
12-09-2010, 03:59 PM #39
All good advice.
Make sure you have an out. I always say I have to meet some friends at a certain time, so if it's going horribly I can leave in an hour or so.
I've only had one guy with crazy myspace angles, that was awkward...
Other than that, meh, it's mostly men trying to get easy sex so I've given up.
But since you're a dude, good luck with it!
Use protection etc.etc."If not you, who? If not now, when?"
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12-10-2010, 02:23 PM #43
I only went on 1 date with a girl from pof and it went horribly..
girl was fine physically, looked just like her pictures.
but she misrepresented herself mentally. she seemed real chill online, when I met her in person I realized she was nuts.
made me come to the realization that girls that are good looking on pof are usually on there for a reason.Reps for life-
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12-10-2010, 04:09 PM #51
exact quote in which i said in another thread
POF sucks. I'm the type of guy who doesn't really need to be on there, but of course i'll pass up a hot chick if she's a bitch because i'm super picky so i signed up to see what i could find and it's even worse than meeting girls in person.
1st date - Wrestled with the girl playing around in her dorm. We're on the top bunk and the next thing you know we fall off and she hits the dresser and i hit the floor. Ended awkward.
2nd date - Bitch was pretty looking like the girl you posted. Turns out this ''athletic'' girl was 300lbs. I waived and kept driving when i seen her.
3rd date - The chick came off as a dude. I told her to get out of my car.
4th date - Drove 45 minutes at 1am to see this girl out of complete boredom. I get there, she's trashed. She wants to **** so we do and i never seen her since.
5th date - I liked the girl. She was by far the most normal one i met so far. Only a couple days later i found out she's really spoiled and is the biggest bitch any guy can ever meet.
6th date - The chick was cute in her pics. Decent in person. I decided to just hang out with her, but she was boring. Told her to lose my number.
7th date - The chick was real pretty. But she couldn't make up her mind about things and i'm glad i'm not with her. After looking back, she's just a pretty piece of trash.
8th date - Went to chicks house. She was mexican. Learned she only knows how to text/read english, but can't speak it. So i kept replying bien for everything she said to me. 5 minute's after meeting, we're doing eachother. As soon as i finish i got my shoes on and left. She texted me saying ''Thank you'' and i never contacted her since.
9th date - Went to chicks house last week, and basically did nothing but sit there and listen to music. She didn't give me anything to base a conversation off of or anything. Never talked to her again
10th date - 2 nights ago i met the chick. Went to her house after i got off work. We banged. Condom broke. So i stopped and we sat there and talked. This cute normal looking chick told me she used to be addicted to heroin and meth. She was a convicted felon for assault, forgery, drugs, etc. Spent over a year in solitary confinement. And then the really bad news. She has hepatitus c. I left and went home an emotional wreck. I went to the doc and he said chances of getting it through sex are slim, but to come back in a couple months and keep checking up. That about did it for me. I deleted my POF account, and i'm done meeting nothing but trashy girls from that site. Not to mention having random hook ups.
It's like girls on that site are different from the ones in ''real life.'' It's hard to explain.
12-10-2010, 04:43 PM #52
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12-10-2010, 07:22 PM #54
Cute girls are full of confidence, usually have a lot of friends, can easily get a bf, etc. So you got to question why the girl youre talking to is on POF. Chances are, shes a psycho. Any other dude on this site who's met plenty of chicks off plenty of fakes could tell you how many psychos they met on there.
12-10-2010, 07:48 PM #55
There are religious girls on there too or socially shy people who can't ask out/strike up conversations with strangers etc.
I would assume most people on there are loose and unattractive, but some could be very shy or religious so they aren't getting much luck in the dating scene or they have a very small range of friends whom they can meet people through.
12-10-2010, 08:24 PM #56
I never back up my own gender because i know guys are all about getting laid, but i gurantee more guys truly fit that description than girls on there.
12-10-2010, 08:46 PM #57
On the other hand it's kind of suspicious that good looking men would use dating sites except to have casual sex and I think girls have a preconceived notion that's all men want from them on those sites so they're super picky.
A girl I know is marrying someone she met off internet dating, I think it was a paid site, not POF. She is 31, a bit chunky, but she really is sweet and her face is very pretty. In her 20's she had an absolutely gorgeous figure. I'm surprised she wasn't married sooner, one of the prettiest girls I have ever met. I wouldn't even be surprised if she's still a virgin, she's seriously been a good girl all her life. Never partied, never did drugs or went clubbing. Studied and stayed home...so her dating pool was very restricted.
Most guys would write her off right away because she's not fit.
I guess if you have flaws, you need to look beyond her flaws too.
If you're older 30+, you have to consider that some women in your age range will be out of shape to some degree.
If you hit it off, maybe she'll get into going to the gym with you.
Point is that men pass up good women too because you'll probably never find someone that meets every single criteria.
12-10-2010, 09:06 PM #58
12-10-2010, 09:14 PM #59
Anyways, yeah both men and women pass up people for superficial reasons and we try to rationalize it, e.g not dating overweight women because they are lazy and don't care about their health and the image they project, or not dating men who are not in the top tax bracket because it shows they lack ambition.
I agree it is bs to some extent, but I will still never date a whale or even a "chubby" girl. Just find it physically unappealing, not to mention those who do not actively workout and have a bad body at age 30 will have an atrocious body at 40+. There has to be some basis for physical attraction. Just my priorities now and am very pleased with how things have gone so far. There are many beautiful successful women with good bodies and personalities, no need to compromise too much...
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