GF Cheated, don't know what to do.

[fcuk5]

Need your guys' help. used to have an account but didnt use it for years and it was deleted.

My gf went out the other night with some friends and got drunk, she called me but i didnt pick up and i had a weird voice mail about 7 minutes long, she had left the phone on and running and i could hear background voices. it was her crying saying she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me to her friend. i knew something was up and when i called her on it the next day she said she was just incredibly drunk and nothing was wrong. today she texted me and said she had something to tell me it was eating her inside. she told me she kissed her friend (who is a guy that used to like her) on the cheek but he said she tried to out right kiss him. she was drunk so i dont think anything she has to say is legible. she just told me this today though which is 3 days later. I don't know what the **** to do, been together 2 years have all the same friends, i love her so much. =( help misc =(

[Diab0lic]

Cant make a ho a housewife son

[crunchymilk]

well she says she killed a guy on the cheek, which probably means she blew him, so dump her and move on.

[Riceboi]

leave and don't look back

[bigBOSSguy]

she's being honest with u and its eating her inside for wrongdoing it. Find the guy.

[Athlete218]

my ex girlfriend pulled the same sh*t.... literally.

she told me he went in for the kiss and she turned her head and his lips "nicked" hers... then i'd get woken up at 3 am and have a little more added to the story, then a few weeks later a little more added (again, in the middle of the night she wakes me up for this crap)... and it happened one last time.... more added to it (making it worse)... to they slept in the same bed.

she got on her knees, begging and crying and years later she did it again w/ a new guy. I moved out while she was at work and haven't seen her since. 6 yr relationship down the drain.


Once they start lying, they can't be trusted

[fcuk5]

Cant make a ho a housewife son

funny thing is i said this to her the day after as a joke making fun of her "i wanna be with him for ever".

my biggest piss off is why would she even kiss him on the cheek. i have a good friend who was there that night he said that she only kissed him on the cheek but i don't know. so messed right now

[EntropyS]

**** hos
Get money

[bigBOSSguy]

funny thing is i said this to her the day after as a joke making fun of her "i wanna be with him for ever".

my biggest piss off is why would she even kiss him on the cheek. i have a good friend who was there that night he said that she only kissed him on the cheek but i don't know. so messed right now

what?

[fcuk5]

my ex girlfriend pulled the same sh*t.... literally.

she told me he went in for the kiss and she turned her head and his lips "nicked" hers... then i'd get woken up at 3 am and have a little more added to the story, then a few weeks later a little more added (again, in the middle of the night she wakes me up for this crap)... and it happened one last time.... more added to it (making it worse)... to they slept in the same bed.

she got on her knees, begging and crying and years later she did it again w/ a new guy. I moved out while she was at work and haven't seen her since. 6 yr relationship down the drain.


Once they start lying, they can't be trusted

sh*t man this is good. i know they cant be trusted. shes never lied before but has done some shady **** and i called her on all of it before and told her today look how its ended up i know i cant just forgive her even if she only kissed on the cheek

[fcuk5]

she's being honest with u and its eating her inside for wrongdoing it. Find the guy.

its not the guys fault. he would never let it ammount to anything more he just said what he thought she was trying to do. if she actually did this and he was like that he could have taken her way further than that. my problem is if i let this go how do i have any trust or a good relationship what so ever?

[.aeterna]

you've lost trust, which is the only thing that keeps healthy relationships going.

its time to start withdrawing immediately and starting the process of getting over her

promptly breakup, otherwise you will feel more heartache down the line. forgiving her will happen, but not for a long time after you have broken up.

[CrispyWilly]

Just let it go and watch closely for any progression on this. A drunken peck on the cheek is pretty fukking innocent to be fair and since your friend has backed up her story and you have that ridiculous sounding voicemail, i'd say you have no reason to think that she's lying other than miscscience. She might be, she might not. But if you want a relationship with this chick you have to let it go, on the outside at least.

edit - can't believe some people are suggesting immediately dropping a two year relationship over a drunken pec on the cheek. lol. I do that as a greeting, ffs. Doesn't mean i want to fukaho

[fcuk5]

Just let it go and watch closely for any progression on this. A drunken peck on the cheek is pretty fukking innocent to be fair and since your friend has backed up her story and you have that ridiculous sounding voicemail, i'd say you have no reason to think that she's lying other than miscscience. She might be, she might not. But if you want a relationship with this chick you have to let it go, on the outside at least.

edit - can't believe some people are suggesting immediately dropping a two year relationship over a drunken pec on the cheek. lol. I do that as a greeting, ffs. Doesn't mean i want to fukaho

thanks mate. im gonna meet up with my good buddy tomorrow and ask advice. she would never cheat so i don't know what to say i need more of the story, i need to hear from the guy she kissed on the cheek. this is her first time lieing though which is the biggest thing for me i think i would instantly dealt with it if she told me the next day.

[MrFrumble]

Just let it go and watch closely for any progression on this. A drunken peck on the cheek is pretty fukking innocent to be fair and since your friend has backed up her story and you have that ridiculous sounding voicemail, i'd say you have no reason to think that she's lying other than miscscience. She might be, she might not. But if you want a relationship with this chick you have to let it go, on the outside at least.

Then why is it eating away at HER? She knows it was more than that, HE knows it was more than that. By the sounds of it, the other male might only had to have acted in a slightly different way to have gotten into her pants, but came on too strong or did something to pop the bubble and make her guilt up. She was putting herself out there, available for seduction I believe the phrase is, yet only got the guilts after. And the OP's gut is telling him it's "Defcon 4" time too, and the gut should never be ignored.

What is a girl in a "happy" relationship DOING going out without her man and WITH another man who she knows wants her anyway?....surPRISE SURprise, they almost end up banging.

Geez, Who'da thunk it!



OP get to the bottom of what's happening in your woman's head. Get her drunk and talking if necessary. Why is she putting herself out there? If she's hopelessly fuxored in the head, and your trust is truly broken, then start withdrawing all of yourself that you have invested in her, otherwise you'll end up stomped on.

[KillerRabbity]

they can't be trusted

fixed

[fcuk5]

Then why is it eating away at HER? She knows it was more than that, HE knows it was more than that. By the sounds of it, the other male might only had to have acted in a slightly different way to have gotten into her pants, but came on too strong or did something to pop the bubble and make her guilt up. She was putting herself out there, available for seduction I believe the phrase is, yet only got the guilts after. And the OP's gut is telling him it's "Defcon 4" time too, and the gut should never be ignored.

What is a girl in a "happy" relationship DOING going out without her man and WITH another man who she knows wants her anyway?....surPRISE SURprise, they almost end up banging.

Geez, Who'da thunk it!

OP get to the bottom of what's happening in your woman's head. Get her drunk and talking if necessary. Why is she putting herself out there? If she's hopelessly fuxored in the head, and your trust is truly broken, then start withdrawing all of yourself that you have invested in her, otherwise you'll end up stomped on.

definately gonna get to the bottom of this. for now i have told her to do whatever she wants because i don't care. she is saying she is very sorry and that she hasnt done a proper job of showing me how much she loves me.

[HI_KKM]

it took 3 days to tell you she kissed him on the cheek OR 3 days to convince everyone at the party to go along with her story?

i'm going with the latter

[The_Australian_Oak]

firstly, her 'accidentally' calling you that night with her claiming 'she wants to spend the rest of her life with you' was a set up. guranteed. she pulled this to try sway you.

secondly, she kissed him. no buts about it. possibly ****ed, but i cant gurantee that. shes again, tried to sway you, by twisting the truth.

finally, if you continue to date her. she will cheat again.

but your emotions will most likely get the better of you and you will continue to date her until she cheats again. alot of guys on here have been through similar situations, myself included, so take my advice brah. drop her.

[IsmellMYfarts]

sounds like she sucked him off

[Uncle Bob]

Just gotta sit down and really talk with her to find out what was going through her mind. If what she did will cause you to resent her no matter what she does to try to make up for it there is no point in staying with her. If you think you both can honestly get past this then make a try to work things out.

[SteelCrayon]

my ex girlfriend pulled the same sh*t.... literally.

she told me he went in for the kiss and she turned her head and his lips "nicked" hers... then i'd get woken up at 3 am and have a little more added to the story, then a few weeks later a little more added (again, in the middle of the night she wakes me up for this crap)... and it happened one last time.... more added to it (making it worse)... to they slept in the same bed.

she got on her knees, begging and crying and years later she did it again w/ a new guy. I moved out while she was at work and haven't seen her since. 6 yr relationship down the drain.


Once they start lying, they can't be trusted

This is true OP.... My exfiance who I thought was the most trustworthy girl ever did this exactly.

I read a txt she sent saying "how's your good looking penis"... When I confronted her it went from he's just a friend nothing happened--> I just saw him naked --> I just gave him head--> I was drunk n slept with him but it was only once. I love u and only want u. --> he's my bf and I'm in love with him.

^^^ all that within 2days of breakup.... I was devestated OP. Don't ever trust a girl in small lies. NEVER

[SteelCrayon]

sh*t man this is good. i know they cant be trusted. shes never lied before but has done some shady **** and i called her on all of it before and told her today look how its ended up i know i cant just forgive her even if she only kissed on the cheek

Dude same here bro... Peeps always ask and I even got some pm's here at one point asking "if I could redo one thing in my fckd up rship with ex, what would it be?".... I WISH I WOULD HAVE LEFT HER AFTER THE FIRST SHADY EVENT

[Brahesthetics]

I don't think I'd break up with her per se, but I would make her my personal ****ting post... I would probably treat her like crap and/or be extremely distant. If I really hated her, I would make her fall in love and then crush her.

[Tiffany Wantsmore]

A drunken kiss on the cheek doesn't warrant a break up in itself. People do stupid shyt when they're drunk. I wouldn't even call it cheating. Calm down ffs.

[Virten]

I agree with some of the guys here. I don't think you can fully trust her anymore so you should just let it burn now. You will just suffer if you keep letting it linger around you. Move on and find someone better.

I know how this feels because I was in a similar situation and instead of letting her go, I was weak and kept her around. It ended up being a vicious cycle for about a year after we broke up and I wished I would have just completely cut her off because I felt like I wasted a year for what? For nothing.

Dude same here bro... Peeps always ask and I even got some pm's here at one point asking "if I could redo one thing in my fckd up rship with ex, what would it be?".... I WISH I WOULD HAVE LEFT HER AFTER THE FIRST SHADY EVENT

Trust people who have experienced this but if you must learn it from experience then so be it. For some, that's what it takes. Like myself.

[chaally]

Seriously bro, do you think it would really be eating at her and have her crying if it was just a kiss on the cheek. Even if it was a kiss on the lips? Get out now before it ends up being 5 years and then she does this again. There's so many women out there

[Ggdograa]

my ex girlfriend pulled the same sh*t.... literally.

she told me he went in for the kiss and she turned her head and his lips "nicked" hers... then i'd get woken up at 3 am and have a little more added to the story, then a few weeks later a little more added (again, in the middle of the night she wakes me up for this crap)... and it happened one last time.... more added to it (making it worse)... to they slept in the same bed.

she got on her knees, begging and crying and years later she did it again w/ a new guy. I moved out while she was at work and haven't seen her since. 6 yr relationship down the drain.


Once they start lying, they can't be trusted

this this this

i broke up with last gf over her kissing a random dude. she says the same bs "he came onto me i couldn't push him back bla bla i'm a whore"

once a cheater always a cheater

[xdestron]

Hey OP, when she was saying, "I want to be with him forever"...


she was talking about the other guy.

[chaally]

one more thing. How did she even get herself in that predicament anyways? Why was she so close to that guy? Were they snuggling? She should have never been in that position, getting drunk with some dudes other then you? WTF? Leave now! I know its difficult after being with her for 2 years, but it's going to be even more difficult after 5 years.