So, for those who have tried this strategy with women to give yourself value and turn the tables on her so she is the one chasing you a bit, how long did it take for you to see any results?
The woman I am going to try this on does talk to other dudes, so she may not even notice or it may take longer since I'll be out of sight out of mind and she gets attention from other dudes.
So all in all, once you decide to cut communication and go cold on her, what time frame am I looking at having to hold out to see if she contacts me? we talking a few days? a week? longer? I'm prepared to stick to my guns here. I sent her the last text today and communicated my interest in getting closer. She has told me in convos that "what girl doesn't like to be chased?" So this could turn into a Cold War.
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Communicated your interest to getting closer? uhg...
Well, since you already told her how you feel then the ball is 100% in her court. If she doesn't msg you back she is not interested. If she does msg you back you have to figure out if she is just being nice to you because you give her attention and she knows she can have you at any time or she genuinely likes you back and also wants to move forward.
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08-23-2010, 07:16 PM #7
I find 4 days is normally long enough before they start contacting you, but there is no set time limit for it. This past week I stopped calling/texting a girl thursday (have talked to her practically every day for awhile now). She contacts me sunday and just asked a random dumb question. Today she wanted to hang out.
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Well, I was about 24 hours into this and she has texted me. A short question, but nonetheless, she made contact. And probably expecting me now to jump and text her back, so I'm resisting.
What's the alpha move here? Sit on the text for a minimum of 24 hours? Longer? Reply with a "I don't give a damn about you attitude" but still show I'm not totally disinterested?
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why play these games? if shes feeling you, she'll text you right back. if she thinks you're a scrub, she won't. and for a fact, i believe 99% of women carry and check their phones at all times.
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08-24-2010, 12:49 PM #15
Wait her out dude. Now that she has made contact that 1 text that you don't reply to, especially since it was a question meaning she wanted a response, will eat her alive. Give it 24-36 more hours bud. She will text you again now. You are on your way to getting the ball back in your court. Hold out bro, hold out.M-drol log http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=123851581
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08-24-2010, 01:09 PM #17
Reply now if you haven't already. When you go a day without talking, you can take 15mins to an hour for you're first response. Give it 3-10mins when going back and forth though?
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24 hours for a question?
She'll probably text you again a few hours after her first text when you don't respond. Waiting 8 hours after her first text is enough if she doesn't text you again. If she brings it up about how long it took, you play it off as if you were tied up with work or sleep and couldn't get back to her because you were too busy (i.e. had more important things than her to worry about).
My BIL tried to play it cool by ignoring a girl for a few days. When she did finally text him, he replied immediately at the speed of light. He put the ball right back in her court because it looked like he was waiting by the phone for her to text him (which he was). She totally has control over him even more so than when they were together.
08-24-2010, 03:33 PM #19
After reading all advice from you guys, I think I'll take the middle road and wait about 8 hours to text back. I didn't text back immediately because I don't want to be THAT GUY sitting, waiting by his phone for her. I also feel like not responding until tomorrow sends a negative message. Waiting 8 hours says, I'm busy, I have a life and it isn't sitting by my phone waiting on you, and that I will get to her when I can.
To the guy above who pointed out that I said I don't like to play these games, I don't. But I also cant allow her to hold all the cards. In the end if a girl is this much drama and games then she's probably not worth it.
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As far as responding to texts the morning after, don't do it immediately but a few hours afterward ain't bad, or put in a time constraint. She texts you good morning at 9 am, reply at 9:10 saying good morning back but that you're at work/school so can't chat now.
And yeah I hate some flaking ass bitches OP. I have a friend who is the flakiest person I have ever met. I KNOW she'll straight up look at my texts and then ignore them because she'll bring up things I texted that she didn't reply to. Yeah, maybe she's busy, looks at it thinking she'll reply later, and then forgets, or maybe she looks at it hours later and figures it's too late for a response, but wtf is that ****? When we hang out she looks at her phone pretty consistently, sometimes she one word replies (does the same to me from time to time), but sometimes I'll see her ignore other people's texts too so I know it's not just a me thing. It's funny when I do the same **** to her she almost immediately starts with the "what's wrong" **** but if I bring it up then I'm being over-sensitive. She sounds just like your girl. I used to think girls were only really flaky to guys who wanted to date them, but now I realize some girls are flaky at all times and with anyone (lol even her dad complains about it).
08-24-2010, 07:23 PM #26
If you want to create this dynamic you'll have to be percieved as greater value in her eyes. If you are nothing in her world other than a comforter than it'll be easy to dismiss any of your strategies to get her chasing you. Instead, continue to text her but shorter responses than her and make it sarcastic until you cease texting all together where upon she'll continue to text you out of the blue to keep the connection alive.
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just did this couple weeks back.
hooked up saturday. spoke on the phone sunday. ran into her in the street randomly monday. spoke on the phone tuesday. i made all the calls, which i rarely ever do, so i stopped all calls cold turkey just out of principle. no contact wed, thurs, fri, sat.
sunday morning at 9am she left a voicemail saying she was thinking about me and to give her a call.
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