lol @ the guys who are in a relationship that pays for everything

[ashin1]

I could never wrap my head around how guys will continue to do this after getting into a relationship with a girl,I hear about it all the time, people at work bichin about how their wife spend all their money and it made me realize that once you get in a relationship you need to establish that its a joint effort(as cheasy as that sounds lulz), and with that being said, you two should both understand that it is a give and take relationship.
At this stage in the game, if you guys aren't at least even alternating who pays for a meal, then i got sum bad news boyo.
What will happen if the longer you keep doing it the more of precedent it will become, then what after you guys get married with kids and hate to say it but after marriage the cards are in the woman's hands most the time.

inb4 op is cheap lol

[ruddager7]

Completely agree OP. This seems super obvious to me but I guess not for some people.
Nothing wrong with buying your partner things or treating them to a meal etc but if it gets to the point where the girl gets shtty if she isn't paid for just lol at how that relationship is going to pan out.
Funny how it makes a guy 'cheap' if he doesn't want to pay for everything but that somehow is not cheap for the girl expecting to never pay

[ashin1]

Completely agree OP. This seems super obvious to me but I guess not for some people.
Nothing wrong with buying your partner things or treating them to a meal etc but if it gets to the point where the girl gets shtty if she isn't paid for just lol at how that relationship is going to pan out.
Funny how it makes a guy 'cheap' if he doesn't want to pay for everything but that somehow is not cheap for the girl expecting to never pay

its so sad, some of the people i know who make a chit ton of money but no nice things because of that reason. its a trap boyos

[bemyguest]

cucks and desperate *******s pay for everything. its not even about being rich or poor, its about mutual respect and knowing that the girl is not using you for money.

[LMAOatYou]

I pay for more but its still split something like 70/30ish. I make substantially more. I also pick where we go and what we do. We don't go out enough for me to even care about the money.

[ashin1]

cucks and desperate *******s pay for everything. its not even about being rich or poor, its about mutual respect and knowing that the girl is not using you for money.

strong this

[vordulmega]

I have to turn down my gf more than anything. She hands me her card all the time even for $200 dinners and I know all her PIN numbers. Just lol if you pay for everything.

[CopeyDan]

unfortunately my girlfriend is skint currently, but in a few years she'll be earning mega $ so hopefully she'll return the favor. She does offer to pay where she can though.

Either that or she'll leave me. lel.

[stevemckenna]

If you're in a relationship and the thought of "give and take" comes into your mind, either: 1) you're petty 2) you're in the wrong relationship.

[hoganrulz]

If you're in a relationship and the thought of "give and take" comes into your mind, either: 1) you're petty 2) you're in the wrong relationship.

this really. be a man. its not expensive to pay for movie tickets, taxis, hotel rooms, meals, drinks unless youre on welfare and making no money.

[boxerbriefsonly]

if she cares about how much money you spend on her and not how much thought you put into things then she's not worth it

[drvillain]

Lol @ letting your woman wear the provider/man pants

[LMAOatYou]

this really. be a man. its not expensive to pay for movie tickets, taxis, hotel rooms, meals, drinks unless youre on welfare and making no money.

This is how I feel. I would feel used if I was buying her expensive ass hand bags and going on crazy vacations... but paying for my gfs dinner? A girl would not be with someone just because he sometimes pays for her 30-60 dollar dinners.... They can get that any day of the week on tinder

[ruddager7]

its so sad, some of the people i know who make a chit ton of money but no nice things because of that reason. its a trap boyos

One of my best friends who I lived with who bought his own place and was working everyday to pay it off struggling week to week because he had a soul sucking manipulative little 'princess' for a gf who thought her pussy was made of gold.
Such a nice guy but his gf was a straight up kunt. I think he suggested paying for their own meals ONCE (he was probably broke that week) and she completely blew up at him. So while he was at work everyday she stayed at home on FB Insta or whatever the fuk she did using whatever she wanted, racking up bills and never paid a cent for anything. Fuk it used to make me rage and was just soul destroying to watch

this really. be a man. its not expensive to pay for movie tickets, taxis, hotel rooms, meals, drinks unless youre on welfare and making no money.

Its not about the money or price of things its more about the principle. If a women is prepared to live off you I feel like that is pretty poor on her part. Give and take isn't 'I paid for this so now you have to spend an equal amount on me' its more compromising and helping each other out

[ashin1]

If you're in a relationship and the thought of "give and take" comes into your mind, either: 1) you're petty 2) you're in the wrong relationship.

this really. be a man. its not expensive to pay for movie tickets, taxis, hotel rooms, meals, drinks unless youre on welfare and making no money.

Lol @ letting your woman wear the provider/man pants

lol must be pretty rough dating a girl who doesn't even offer to pick up tabs, or at least leave the tip for the server. I'm not going to lie Christmas is pretty deadly when you are both surprised from a deadly gift you got each other

[hoganrulz]

Its not about the money or price of things its more about the principle. If a women is prepared to live off you I feel like that is pretty poor on her part. Give and take isn't 'I paid for this so now you have to spend an equal amount on me' its more compromising and helping each other out

on big purchases, fair enough, on smaller things like the aforementioned, meals, cabs, hotels and drinks,of course not, its petty to want a woman to pay for them. unless youre unemployed or have no money in which case your relationship wont last long anyway.

[Tetra123]

I agree, and if the girl you're with gets weird if you asked her to pay, she doesn't really love you. When I was in a relationship I actually felt weird if my bf paid for everything... and I tried to make it 50/50 most of the time, or at least split the check.

[hoganrulz]

I agree, and if the girl you're with gets weird if you asked her to pay, she doesn't really love you. When I was in a relationship I actually felt weird if my bf paid for everything... and I tried to make it 50/50 most of the time, or at least split the check.

kind of this. if a lady offers to pay i'll let her payhalf, but im not gonna wait till a lady pays or offers to pay before i whip out my glorious hugo boss textured cow hide wallet

[ashin1]

I agree, and if the girl you're with gets weird if you asked her to pay, she doesn't really love you. When I was in a relationship I actually felt weird if my bf paid for everything... and I tried to make it 50/50 most of the time, or at least split the check.

exactly it should naturally just work out, like being conscious of keeping tabs on who paid for what last kinda thing so its not awkward when the bill comes. Its till funny though cause anytime we go to bigger city's the waitresses just look shocked when my girlfriend says she'll pay the bill lol

[ruddager7]

on big purchases, fair enough, on smaller things like the aforementioned, meals, cabs, hotels and drinks,of course not, its petty to want a woman to pay for them. unless youre unemployed or have no money in which case your relationship wont last long anyway.

Even then though I don't see why its expected to pay for all those things. If you want to thats all good go for it but for example my last gf actually earned more money then me so it didnt really make sense for me to pay for every meal, cab,drink etc.
I would pay for her sometimes when I wanted to treat her to dinner or movies or whatever but a lot of the time we'd pay for our own or split things.
Guess it depends what your both happy with

[MediocreGains]

If you're in a relationship and the thought of "give and take" comes into your mind, either: 1) you're petty 2) you're in the wrong relationship.

Mostly agreed. But the problem is that many young men confuse being a man and a beta provider.

One of my best friends who I lived with who bought his own place and was working everyday to pay it off struggling week to week because he had a soul sucking manipulative little 'princess' for a gf who thought her pussy was made of gold.
Such a nice guy but his gf was a straight up kunt. I think he suggested paying for their own meals ONCE (he was probably broke that week) and she completely blew up at him. So while he was at work everyday she stayed at home on FB Insta or whatever the fuk she did using whatever she wanted, racking up bills and never paid a cent for anything. Fuk it used to make me rage and was just soul destroying to watch

Its not about the money or price of things its more about the principle. If a women is prepared to live off you I feel like that is pretty poor on her part. Give and take isn't 'I paid for this so now you have to spend an equal amount on me' its more compromising and helping each other out

There's a difference between being a man and a beta provider. Your friend was the latter. And like most beta providers, he has poor taste in women and picked a user.

I agree, and if the girl you're with gets weird if you asked her to pay, she doesn't really love you. When I was in a relationship I actually felt weird if my bf paid for everything... and I tried to make it 50/50 most of the time, or at least split the check.

If you have to ask her to pay, that's already a problem. It's the thought that counts, not the actual money. I never split the check though. That's for friends and Jews (no racist). She's my girl, not my friend. I pay most of the time, but if she offers to pay, I let her. Then I thank her, just as she thanks me when I do stuff for her. I think Americans are too caught up in splitting things down the middle and having "equality." A relationship should be about doing things for each other and not splitting everything down the middle. That's for business partners. And then miscers always complain about females not acting like women and not treating them like men.

[hoganrulz]

Even then though I don't see why its expected to pay for all those things. If you want to thats all good go for it but for example my last gf actually earned more money then me so it didnt really make sense for me to pay for every meal, cab,drink etc.
I would pay for her sometimes when I wanted to treat her to dinner or movies or whatever but a lot of the time we'd pay for our own or split things.
Guess it depends what your both happy with

sure. maybe im just old fashioned.

[drvillain]

lol must be pretty rough dating a girl who doesn't even offer to pick up tabs, or at least leave the tip for the server. I'm not going to lie Christmas is pretty deadly when you are both surprised from a deadly gift you got each other

strong arbitrary assumptions

[aleeboy]

OP is a cheapo tee hee

Whilst it's without a doubt true that relationships are give and take, it is constructive to take a step back and understand the differences between men and women:

Men
- Responsibility driven
- Caring and understanding
- Loyal and generous to those who are loved
- Physically stronger
- Can work on multiple projects and tasks at the same time
- structured approach to doing things and thinking about life (can be derailed by bad relationships and substance abuse)

Women
- diligent on very limited number of things
- unable to complete too many projects and tasks at the same time
- not so generous financially
- can be loyal if showed alot of sincerity and love
- brutally naive, but can be nudged in the right direction
- chaotic and unstructured

We can see that women are conditional in their love, aren't generous financially and are unable to navigate through life without help of a man - believe me, no matter how independent a woman is, there is a bus load of men who are doing things for them. With this knowledge, a man can be sure they find the right woman and provide her the shelter and stability she is seeking. In return, you get what they can do best - which is limited, but done diligently. The hard part is to make sure the girl does not get distracted by her friends and media - thanks social media.

I don't mind paying for the girl as this is realistic since I understand girls can't do this and you will be FA if you take this approach. Unfortunately, this is real life guys.

[ruddager7]

Its till funny though cause anytime we go to bigger city's the waitresses just look shocked when my girlfriend says she'll pay the bill lol

loled. Nearly everytime I used to go out with my gf for the dinner the waitress would look directly at me and ask how I was paying haha

There's a difference between being a man and a beta provider. Your friend was the latter. And like most beta providers, he has poor taste in women and picked a user.

Unfortunately you are right on that. Poor taste in women is an understatement for that guy.

sure. maybe im just old fashioned.

Nothing wrong with that if it works for you. A lot of women like to be paid for and looked after

[ashin1]

Mostly agreed. But the problem is that many young men confuse being a man and a beta provider.



There's a difference between being a man and a beta provider. Your friend was the latter. And like most beta providers, he has poor taste in women and picked a user.




If you have to ask her to pay, that's already a problem. It's the thought that counts, not the actual money. I never split the check though. That's for friends and Jews (no racist). She's my girl, not my friend. I pay most of the time, but if she offers to pay, I let her. Then I thank her, just as she thanks me when I do stuff for her. I think Americans are too caught up in splitting things down the middle and having "equality." A relationship should be about doing things for each other and not splitting everything down the middle. That's for business partners. And then miscers always complain about females not acting like women and not treating them like men.

fuark this

[ashin1]

OP is a cheapo tee hee

Whilst it's without a doubt true that relationships are give and take, it is constructive to take a step back and understand the differences between men and women:

Men
- Responsibility driven
- Caring and understanding
- Loyal and generous to those who are loved
- Physically stronger
- Can work on multiple projects and tasks at the same time
- structured approach to doing things and thinking about life (can be derailed by bad relationships and substance abuse)

Women
- diligent on very limited number of things
- unable to complete too many projects and tasks at the same time
- not so generous financially
- can be loyal if showed alot of sincerity and love
- brutally naive, but can be nudged in the right direction
- chaotic and unstructured

We can see that women are conditional in their love, aren't generous financially and are unable to navigate through life without help of a man - believe me, no matter how independent a woman is, there is a bus load of men who are doing things for them. With this knowledge, a man can be sure they find the right woman and provide her the shelter and stability she is seeking. In return, you get what they can do best - which is limited, but done diligently. The hard part is to make sure the girl does not get distracted by her friends and media - thanks social media.

I don't mind paying for the girl as this is realistic since I understand girls can't do this and you will be FA if you take this approach. Unfortunately, this is real life guys.

if you are already in an relationship, why do you need to be worried of competition?
lol wow, yeah if you are dating a girl and that is your concern...you may need a diff girl there champ

[drvillain]

if you are already in an relationship, why do you need to be worried of competition?
lol wow, yeah if you are dating a girl and that is your concern...you may need a diff girl there champ

lol oh boy. You're really 26? You talk like you have no life experience

If you aren't always bringing forth the best version of yourself, your woman will drop you like a ton of bricks the moment someone she perceives to be better comes along. That's the game/life.

This is why so many marriages fail. Both parties get complacent and no longer care about maintaining what attracted the pair to each other in the first place.

[Lexira]

If the girl is not paying everything, you are doing it wrong.

[ashin1]

lol oh boy. You're really 26? You talk like you have no life experience

nah, If i'm gonna date a girl that has intentions to do me wrong, let her...i'll just move on to something different, not to toot my own horn there brah but if i found out my girl was cheating on me
A. i would have never seen it coming srs most loyal girl i have ever dated.
B. and if she did that was beyond my control, why be upset? Im pretty sure i'll survive out there boyo, plenty of fish in the sea

thats some insecure behavior always thinking the worst could easily happen.