-ViperGQ- My Life: Advice & Techniques that have worked for me

[ScratchandSniff]

11 pages to read fuarrrk

[vipergq]

hey Viper no offense, but you cant teach or learn "charisma"

it literally means a 'gift from the gods" its something unexplainble you either have or you don't (X FACTOR)

now you can teach social skills and try to mimic ppl who have charisma, but you will never truly capture it srs

OK, I guess I can technically understand your argument. But what about people who have charisma but don't know how to express it because of social ineptness? Maybe most people have it, but just don't know how to use it? I guess I just basically am just saying practice so that you can execute it to your full potential.

[vipergq]

Viper , do you drink to get hammered? Ive always been hugely introverted , but then I started partying and once im drunk i can do anything , I get in boss mode and can talk to ANYONE , get so many girls. The thing is I cant learn when Im drunk , i forget all my experiences. Would it be a better idea to start partying and clubbing sober?

Yes and no. It's a good starting point to get over your normal fears, but you want to get to the point where you can be just as charming and outgoing sober. I used to think to myself like that in the beginning. How would I act if I was drunk and brave right now. And just do it. That is key. JUST DO IT if you overthink it, most of the time you will talk yourself out of it.

Say whats on your mind and be confident about what you say.

Now, I do party pretty hard and get pretty Yukky. I just like to have a good time and don't usually worry too much about hooking up with girls when I party. If I was going out with the intention of hooking up, I prefer to be sober or just slightly buzzed. I feel like I am much more charming and smooth when I am like that.

[jld010]

Damn Viper, you have really motivated me to lose weight and eat clean and acquire them facial aethetics. You also seem like a really genuine person. ( im not fat or anything, ppl always ask if i bodybuild etc..) Question: How do you cold approach girls, and im talking solid 8s+. Do hotties like being approached by dudes that are not in their cirlce of friends?? Since you around so many beauts due to your career, i think your opinion would be very valid.

[vipergq]

Damn Viper, you have really motivated me to lose weight and eat clean and acquire them facial aethetics. You also seem like a really genuine person. ( im not fat or anything, ppl always ask if i bodybuild etc..) Question: How do you cold approach girls, and im talking solid 8s+. Do hotties like being approached by dudes that are not in their cirlce of friends?? Since you around so many beauts due to your career, i think your opinion would be very valid.

Anytime you cold approach, you are going to get snobby girls that blow you off. Doesn't matter who you are. There are girls that Specifically go out so they can blow guys off and make themselves feel better. seriously. When a Random Girl blows you off, you can't take that personally. she doesn't even know you. I usually call them out and laugh about it a bit, or Just ignore them. $hit happens.

[JmoFinD]

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[zippo69]

Viper- searched but didn't see. How did you get into photography and where did you read/learn about it at first to get started?

[vipergq]

Viper- searched but didn't see. How did you get into photography and where did you read/learn about it at first to get started?

I got into photography originally because I had some hot girl friends that were always complaining how it was hard to find good photographers and crap. I figured if some of these guys could be good at it, so could I. I bought a camera and started practicing.

I learned everything by research and reading books. I'm pretty obsessive compulsive when it comes to learning stuff so I pretty much taught myself all of the technical stuff in a couple of weeks. I rotated between 3 different Barnes and Nobles so that I wouldn't look weird sitting there everyday for 5-6 hrs reading all of their books.

I began shooting and it Turned out I was actually really good at it. If it turned out I wasn't any good, I probably wouldn't have continued to pursue it. Photography is one of those things that you are either very good at it or you are not. There are photographers that have been shooting for 20 years and they still suck. I pretty much went pro 1 year after I learned.

It wasn't until I started assisting another fashion photographer that I learned a lot of tricks of the trade that you simply can't learn from technical reading. From there I developed my own style and became much better over the years.

That combined with my people skills I was able to maneuver and hustle my way into many jobs I was not really supposed to have. I contined doing this to build my name and reputation over time, and that's that.

[upswing]

Cheers brah. Appreciate the write up and some of this **** hits home pretty hard and has me questioning some of my own choices over the last year or two.

Given me a lot to think about

[nn586]

what is ur advice for us follicly challenged brahs (23 yrs old and thinning ALL over the top).. im white btw. looks like complete balding sht when im outside. should i just shave it down for that professional look?

thanks bro

[vipergq]

what is ur advice for us follicly challenged brahs (23 yrs old and thinning ALL over the top).. im white btw. looks like complete balding sht when im outside. should i just shave it down for that professional look?

thanks bro

Shave it buddy. I have a couple friends that are full shaved and they pull lots of chicks with it! Beat mother nature at her own game!

Cheers brah. Appreciate the write up and some of this **** hits home pretty hard and has me questioning some of my own choices over the last year or two.

Given me a lot to think about

Great to hear man! If this helps even just a few people stop and think about the direction of their life, even for just a second, then it was worth writing.

[MiiO]

What are you doing in bakersfield brah

[bgonzalez135]

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[vipergq]

What are you doing in bakersfield brah

Wait....How'd you know I was in Bako?

[jmal2000]

I got into photography originally because I had some hot girl friends that were always complaining how it was hard to find good photographers and crap. I figured if some of these guys could be good at it, so could I. I bought a camera and started practicing.

I learned everything by research and reading books. I'm pretty obsessive compulsive when it comes to learning stuff so I pretty much taught myself all of the technical stuff in a couple of weeks. I rotated between 3 different Barnes and Nobles so that I wouldn't look weird sitting there everyday for 5-6 hrs reading all of their books.

I began shooting and it Turned out I was actually really good at it. If it turned out I wasn't any good, I probably wouldn't have continued to pursue it. Photography is one of those things that you are either very good at it or you are not. There are photographers that have been shooting for 20 years and they still suck. I pretty much went pro 1 year after I learned.

It wasn't until I started assisting another fashion photographer that I learned a lot of tricks of the trade that you simply can't learn from technical reading. From there I developed my own style and became much better over the years.

That combined with my people skills I was able to maneuver and hustle my way into many jobs I was not really supposed to have. I contined doing this to build my name and reputation over time, and that's that.

I'm only curious about this because I don't think it takes much to be a photographer, can you show me like a comparison of a shot you took and someone else took? Or a shot of you and your friends and critique it for me? Like what tricks of the trade could there possibly be?

Did you read up on books when it came to socializing and game?

[waesk]

I feel your pain man, fellow asian here (korean!) For the first time in my life, the past month I've gotten above 10% bf and my face is bloated even though you can still see my abs and veins. What do you do for eyebrows? Mine have no real shape to them, pluck perhaps?

Also do you get the "asian glow"? One of the reasons why I don't like drinking too much (aside from how bad beer tastes) is that my face gets red and my eyes get all bloodshot, even from one beer fuuuuuu!!!!

Have 2-3 antacids before drinking brah. Zero azn glow works a charm.

[fiveonsix]

just saw the link in vipers sig, will read later

[ballzofpeaze]

Hello viper.

You inspired me to get a haircut and moisturise. Tyman, feeling fresh AF.

Keep slaying.

[arsonizt]

quality thread

[FilthyPube]

Bump. A must read for anyone. Thank you viper

[Envi]

Great thread viper, I'm surprised it's only 12 pages. Another miscer recently recommended "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie, just finished reading it for the first time, now I'm going back to re-read it. Great book and really as you are reading it, you think, "that's common sense" yet we forget about it. Too much stuff to remember from one time reading. Thanks.

[SickeningTraps]

Holy Crap, Absolutely Amazing Read. Will read through the rest of the thread as well. Truley inspirational.

[rotatoo]

how do i get lean really fast? just curious

[dsssdfff]

I pm'd you bro, could you please give me ideas on random small talk to people i see during the day like people on public transport/girls too.
people working etc

ive just moved states and wanna improve.

[AfrikaUnite]

did you used to be socially awkward/inept or were you always charming?

[vipergq]

did you used to be socially awkward/inept or were you always charming?

In my younger years I was hyper, but not too social. As I got older I consciously pushed myself to be more outgoing, but I still didn't have the social skills to be considered charming. Once I became aware of my social weaknesses, I could effectively train myself to be a better listener, a better speaker, and better at influencing conversations. You simply cannot train yourself to be well spoken unless you consciously know where you are lacking.

Most people will go through their whole life without realizing how they speak and interact with others and never really notice it.

[KyleSty1e]

Whats up viper? How's the studio coming along?

In your opinion, how much do male fitness models really have to put up with to make it to the top in regards to dealing with gay photographers?

[vipergq]

Whats up viper? How's the studio coming along?

In your opinion, how much do male fitness models really have to put up with to make it to the top in regards to dealing with gay photographers?

I'm not too sure. I havnt really worked in the fitness industry much yet. But generally speaking, people begin shooting the things they like. For most men, it's hot chicks. Some guys are really into fashion, art, cars, ect... Because of that, I'd imagine photographers really into bodybuilding and men's bodies are higher likely to be be into bodybuilding or gay.

[wildchild11]

bump

[BTBAM]

Viper, I am sure you have successfully picked up chicks at random places i.e. gas station, grocery store, etc. Any tips ?