For the last couple semesters of college, ive been daily crossing paths with this girl. She was giving some signs, tho i refused to acknowledge them because i thought i was looking too much into it (made eye contact some times, sometimes she would see me and immediately adjust what she was wearing, get quiet with her friend when she was passing, play with her hair as soon as she saw me,etc. (the reason i brushed them off was because it seems somebody that hot would not really like me) (keep in mind, i have always gotten the shy vibe from her...im positive she's shy)
fast forward to late last week, i approached said chick, asked her name, talked for a few while we were walking out in the parking lot until she got to her car. she made alot of eye contact, and was smiling alot. fast forward again to monday, our paths crossed while she was walking out to the parking lot, and i was walking in. She saw me coming up, but when i got close she wouldnt make eye contact (kinda weird, her eyes got really shifty like they fluttered really quick from the left to right like she wanted to look, but made herself not). then i said 'hey, whats up', and she smiled and looked down.
considering she is shy, im kinda confused on this. whenever girls smile and look down, i always get self conscious about myself, like their laughing at me. (ive been told im good looking, and get looks all the time, but i still dont believe it). with all the aforementioned things, input would be appreciated. is she not interested?
05-25-2010, 02:38 PM #1
is this shy girl just really shy or not interested???
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05-25-2010, 02:52 PM #3
05-25-2010, 03:03 PM #4
Gonna call it a loss. I feel the same, OP. Thinking somebody that hot would not really like me.
Take the next step and she what she has to say. I mean at least you know your girl is single right? If so then it shouldn't be as hard. In my case, that guy I saw kind of ruined it, could be a friend but still. I'm going to bail on that one. I would say, do it OP before it's too late.
05-25-2010, 06:36 PM #5
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05-25-2010, 07:38 PM #7
also, say in the coming up days, if she stares, or talks, or smiles more, even after me saying whats up, should i then become way more aggressive? (moderate, considerate aggressive, but aggressive nonetheless)
about the signs, i am sure i am seeing some self fulfilling prophecy in them, but sometimes its so obvious. i dunno, just saying
05-25-2010, 08:04 PM #8
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05-25-2010, 09:08 PM #10work a little harder
work another way
05-25-2010, 09:51 PM #11
op man I have a story relating to this-
4 years ago I started as a new RN in the hospital and this gorgeous girl (no pics) was in my orientation. I was interested but didn't think she really was, then I suspected that she was just really quiet and shy. she moved away before I had my chance. FAST FORWARD 4 years. I run into her last week, she just moved back to town. Chat her up, be a little more aggressive, and this time I have her number, got her on facebook, and a date next time I'm available. I was thrown off though when we were talking until I realized she is just shy, so I kept that in mind and was patient and it payed off.
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05-26-2010, 09:13 AM #12
ok, i think i need to be more aggressive. today she was straight up staring, then when i looked at her she smiled. i could use your input on how aggressive to be with a shy girl. would stopping when were passing, and chatting her up to her car be too aggressive? i definitely feel like i need to make an aggressive move asap tho. thanks
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