How often do you have sex??

[Crazymix]

Noooo.... *mumble* *mumble* stupidcrazythinkshesjustsoooosmart

*growl* justcuzhegotsbetterpix...

**stomp**

I mean... Oh. Crazy. those gifs of yours are. off. the. hook.

lmfao

only pussys mumble lol

you stay mad!!

thanks for the kind words.

[gtdmb]

Let me just go on to say that when we do have sex it is AMAZING!! however...I instigate sex 9 outta 10 times...and i feel like when i do..he's like ahh yeah ok...like i'm asking him to do me a favor...kinda sucks I'm so ridiculously crzy about him I just want him to want me as much as i want him..ya know? then I find out this weekend he still looks a porn..which i have already told him before really upsets me. If you can imagine...he has the desire to look at porn...but i have to beg for sex...when i found out he was still looking at it, it made me furious..i thought i was going to explode!!! It made me feel like i was being cheated on, I know its not right to feel that strongly about it...but i literally felt like i had just caught him in bed with another woman..physically sickened me. He said he would quit looking at it, but now i cant seem to let it go, it pisses me off sooooo much . why cant i just be enough for him???

No white knight here, but let me tell you, the porn deal is a slippery slope. Like I said in my previous post, my wife and I have been together 15 years, married 10 and have a GREAT sex life....but I had a point where porn was too big a part of my life and it basically ruined my desire for my wife. I'd find myself wanting to look at it everytime she was not around. I'd try to resist and sometimes would but sometime wouldn't. I don't look at porn anymore at all and try not to even look at sexy, provocative pictures, etc.. Instead I focus that energy on what I am going to do to my wife, with my wife, etc. the next time we are together.

Guys are visual (I know, duh!)...the more a guy looks at porn, the more he is going to be desensatized to the female body, at least that is how it was for me. As I looked at porn more and more, I needed more of it, more variety, and more outragous stuff to really get turned on, therefore good ol' hot and heavy sex with my wife didn't do it for me. I had to make a decision myself to give that stuff up, because it really hindered my desire for sex with my wife and my performance. Now I just focus on her and I am pretty good at that.

I know most all guys look at porn now days, but I really think it is dangerous to a healthy sexual relationship....especially a healthy sex in a monogamous relationship.

[themyth2009]

No white knight here, but let me tell you, the porn deal is a slippery slope. Like I said in my previous post, my wife and I have been together 15 years, married 10 and have a GREAT sex life....but I had a point where porn was too big a part of my life and it basically ruined my desire for my wife. I'd find myself wanting to look at it everytime she was not around. I'd try to resist and sometimes would but sometime wouldn't. I don't look at porn anymore at all and try not to even look at sexy, provocative pictures, etc.. Instead I focus that energy on what I am going to do to my wife, with my wife, etc. the next time we are together.

Guys are visual (I know, duh!)...the more a guy looks at porn, the more he is going to be desensatized to the female body, at least that is how it was for me. As I looked at porn more and more, I needed more of it, more variety, and more outragous stuff to really get turned on, therefore good ol' hot and heavy sex with my wife didn't do it for me. I had to make a decision myself to give that stuff up, because it really hindered my desire for sex with my wife and my performance. Now I just focus on her and I am pretty good at that.

I know most all guys look at porn now days, but I really think it is dangerous to a healthy sexual relationship....especially a healthy sex in a monogamous relationship.

Negged......I think you read every mans battle...so did I. You get too restrictive it can also backfire.


Porn is ok if you can keep it in check. Some people can...some cant just like anything else. Some people can drink...some cant. I dont look at it at all myself.

[RebeccaG]

I know most all guys look at porn now days, but I really think it is dangerous to a healthy sexual relationship....especially a healthy sex in a monogamous relationship.

Really?

My husband and I watch it together on occasion and it's never been detrimental to our sex life. We actually have a lot of fun trying to find the funniest, most ridiculous movies.

[cgh]

I might be a dude lurking in the female misc but this is relevant to my interests. I've been with my gf 8 years and I'm lucky if I get sex once a week and a bj once every couple months.

[fishoildick]

Let me just go on to say that when we do have sex it is AMAZING!! however...I instigate sex 9 outta 10 times...and i feel like when i do..he's like ahh yeah ok...like i'm asking him to do me a favor...kinda sucks I'm so ridiculously crzy about him I just want him to want me as much as i want him..ya know? then I find out this weekend he still looks a porn..which i have already told him before really upsets me. If you can imagine...he has the desire to look at porn...but i have to beg for sex...when i found out he was still looking at it, it made me furious..i thought i was going to explode!!! It made me feel like i was being cheated on, I know its not right to feel that strongly about it...but i literally felt like i had just caught him in bed with another woman..physically sickened me. He said he would quit looking at it, but now i cant seem to let it go, it pisses me off sooooo much . why cant i just be enough for him???

oh jesus...









dont look too deeply into it, men will look at porn until their testosterone production shuts off at age 80 no matter what sort of relationship theyre in

[KyleAaron]

Porn is only a problem if you prefer it to your spouse.

But some guys have that problem with non-porn stuff, too. Once a friend and I had had dinner at a couple's house, the guy was playing a computer game, she draped herself over him and said, "come to bed, honey," in a tone which made it clear she wanted hot action.

"I have to finish this level," he said, not taking his eyes from the screen.

Other guys will be like that about sports, and then some woman will be that way with her exciting novel, or chatting to her friend on the phone, or whatever. Lots of people are easily distracted from intimacy with their spouse. I don't think porn is a particular issue, excepting only that if you have a few orgasms on your own, then when the spouse is interested, well the spirit may be willing but the flesh is weak, so to speak.

Leave some fuel in the tank for the drive home.

[HapaHaoleOkole]

I think in every relationship I have ever had, I wanted sex more then my boyfriend at the time. I think just some women, like some men, have a high sex drive, in comparision to other women or even the men we are with.
The only way it may get better is to communicate what you want and need from him, any other way, probably won't work.

Does your boyfriend lift weights/workout? It does help the libido and relieves stress at the same time.
There are also herbs and some supplements that might help, for instance: yohimbe.
I would do some research and see what you can find out about it.

[themyth2009]

Really?

My husband and I watch it together on occasion and it's never been detrimental to our sex life. We actually have a lot of fun trying to find the funniest, most ridiculous movies.

That must be interesting at 6 months pregnant.

Maybe the OP is a tad too closed minded? Catch him watching porn join in...sounds like a win/win to me.

[MuscleSouth]

No kidding.

We were just getting back 'in the swing of things' and, whaddya know, I ended up pregnant because of it. lol Back to square one we go....

He poked fun and you took him serious.

[whatevergirl]

Porn is only a problem if you prefer it to your spouse.

But some guys have that problem with non-porn stuff, too. Once a friend and I had had dinner at a couple's house, the guy was playing a computer game, she draped herself over him and said, "come to bed, honey," in a tone which made it clear she wanted hot action.

"I have to finish this level," he said, not taking his eyes from the screen.

Other guys will be like that about sports, and then some woman will be that way with her exciting novel, or chatting to her friend on the phone, or whatever. Lots of people are easily distracted from intimacy with their spouse. I don't think porn is a particular issue, excepting only that if you have a few orgasms on your own, then when the spouse is interested, well the spirit may be willing but the flesh is weak, so to speak.

Leave some fuel in the tank for the drive home.

^^^ this

I'd say that while porn viewing is to each's own, if you end up sneaking to view it, to avoid your spouse/SO, there's a problem there. It's a very addictive habit...experts have likened it to a brain on *******, the same pleasure sensors are stimulated, and thus need the rush that the substance provides. I thought that was interesting.

[whatevergirl]

Let me just go on to say that when we do have sex it is AMAZING!! however...I instigate sex 9 outta 10 times...and i feel like when i do..he's like ahh yeah ok...like i'm asking him to do me a favor...kinda sucks I'm so ridiculously crzy about him I just want him to want me as much as i want him..ya know? then I find out this weekend he still looks a porn..which i have already told him before really upsets me. If you can imagine...he has the desire to look at porn...but i have to beg for sex...when i found out he was still looking at it, it made me furious..i thought i was going to explode!!! It made me feel like i was being cheated on, I know its not right to feel that strongly about it...but i literally felt like i had just caught him in bed with another woman..physically sickened me. He said he would quit looking at it, but now i cant seem to let it go, it pisses me off sooooo much . why cant i just be enough for him???

My advice? For whatever it's worth...I'd find a new guy. You shouldn't have to beg for sex...nor be a competitor to your bf's porn use. Yeah, men will view porn...but to prefer it to you...(just from what you post here, it seems like he does, because you have to do the initiating most of the time) shows me that he has a problem. Keep communicating, but my advice...if this keeps up, I'd say goodbye to this guy. There are so many men in the world who would treat you better, and why spend a minute feeling bad about yourself? Not worth it, if you ask me. {{{hugs}}}

[gtdmb]

guess that is what I meant....obviously porn can be OK in moderation for some in the right frame, etc.. I never "preferred it" to my spouse, but I found myself with idle time looking at it more and more. It seemed to escalate. I just looked at it a good bit when we weren't together and I felt it took away from our sex. Anyway, I found that it sort of made me a little more numb to my wife. I just find it is better for me, personally, to stay away from it. It keeps me really hot after my wife and I prefer that. That is what I was getting at.

sorry, obviously I did not explain it very well. I am not very good with words.

[themyth2009]

Porn is only a problem if you prefer it to your spouse.

But some guys have that problem with non-porn stuff, too. Once a friend and I had had dinner at a couple's house, the guy was playing a computer game, she draped herself over him and said, "come to bed, honey," in a tone which made it clear she wanted hot action.

"I have to finish this level," he said, not taking his eyes from the screen.

Other guys will be like that about sports, and then some woman will be that way with her exciting novel, or chatting to her friend on the phone, or whatever. Lots of people are easily distracted from intimacy with their spouse. I don't think porn is a particular issue, excepting only that if you have a few orgasms on your own, then when the spouse is interested, well the spirit may be willing but the flesh is weak, so to speak.

Leave some fuel in the tank for the drive home.

So you had a dinner party and the guy was playing video games? Then his wife said come fck me while u guys were still there?

[RebeccaG]

That must be interesting at 6 months pregnant.

Maybe the OP is a tad too closed minded? Catch him watching porn join in...sounds like a win/win to me.

lol Interesting?

Perhaps part of why it works for us is that I've never 'caught' him watching porn. It's always been something we did together.

He poked fun and you took him serious.

He poked something.....

So you had a dinner party and the guy was playing video games? Then his wife said come fck me while u guys were still there?

LMAO I thought the same thing. Must have been some dinner party!

[StrongWilld]

Wait until you get married. You'll be bragging about having sex twice a week to your friends.

x2.

My hubby is always, always tired. I'm the one who always initiates. It sucks!

[HARRYBEAST]

<---- is married
<---- laughs at twice a week
<---- gets sad because his wife won't be home at lunch today

[pookster01]

<---- is married
<---- laughs at twice a week
<---- gets sad because his wife won't be home at lunch today

Well, I guess I should have been more specific, because our situation is unique. My husband has been battling cancer the last few years so that definitely makes our lives unpredictable. Then add work, kids, etc. You have to go with what life throws at you and make the best of it.

[HARRYBEAST]

Well, I guess I should have been more specific, because our situation is unique. My husband has been battling cancer the last few years so that definitely makes our lives unpredictable. Then add work, kids, etc. You have to go with what life throws at you and make the best of it.

yeah that is a big thing to leave out

[sonti]

1-2x too, but because I'm the size of a house right now (pregnant and due tomorrow!). Def more than that without the baby in the way

[pookster01]

You're right it was. It's not something I normally bring up because its been our norm for so long. He is getting better though and we are looking forward to taking a vacation for the first time since his diagnosis!

[Rigorous Rhombus]

My ex-gf used to get upset that we didn't have sex often enough. The reason I never wanted to have sex is because she was boring and only wanted to do the same stuff. Never wanted to mix it up...

[whatevergirl]

So you had a dinner party and the guy was playing video games? Then his wife said come fck me while u guys were still there?

That's some party. lol

[LilRed03]

I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 years now. We don't live together, but we live in the same town, so we see each other frequently. We have sex at least 5-7 times per week. Sometimes more, but never really any less than that. He's in med school, so his schedule is kinda wacky, especially during rotations - which he starts again in July. Oh boy.

[RebeccaG]

I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 years now. We don't live together, but we live in the same town, so we see each other frequently. We have sex at least 5-7 times per week. Sometimes more, but never really any less than that. He's in med school, so his schedule is kinda wacky, especially during rotations - which he starts again in July. Oh boy.

[sonti]

I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 years now. We don't live together, but we live in the same town, so we see each other frequently. We have sex at least 5-7 times per week. Sometimes more, but never really any less than that. He's in med school, so his schedule is kinda wacky, especially during rotations - which he starts again in July. Oh boy.

This is a good recommendation I hear from a lot of people... you can get married, just don't live together!! That keeps it going!!! LOL!!!!

[LilRed03]

Ummm I believe looking at you, you also need a bow chicka bow wow sticker

[whatevergirl]

To me, it doesn't matter if he is viewing porn, or not viewing it...if you feel bad in the relationship, if you feel ''cheated,'' if you feel on totally separate pages with sex and other things...it's time to reassess the relationship. BEFORE you marry him. Marriage won't cure the problems you had when you're dating...they'll only get worse. So, my advice would be to really think if there is a future here...or are you only going to be sad and offended if you stay with this guy.

Don't settle. Good sex isn't enough to keep a relationship going. Trust me.

[christina916]

I know this is a personal question..but as a woman..how many times a week should we be having sex?? My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year and it seems he never wants to have sex. Its really starting to make me feel unwanted. We probley have sex 1-2 times a week.. I'm dying here!!! I just dont get it.. i know he has alot of stress in his life. But sex is an important part of a relationship, I really hope this is a phase cuz i cannot live my life on sex once a week!!! Thats sounds mean but...what do you think?? anyone ever run into this prob?

Together only a year + 25 yrs old+ only 1-2x a week...doesnt sound good..
unless he's significantly older than you.

Been with my bf for 3 years..and we still have sex at least 4-5x a week

[AnnaLee]

at least 3 times a week