Okay so i've been seeing this girl for a few months now, I really like her.
She recently told me that from the ages of 12-15 her stepfather repeatedly raped her, he went to court and is in jail for life now.
Now I feel so weird, how would you brahs feel if you were in my position?
What would you do/say?
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05-18-2010, 11:59 AM #1
GF told me she was raped when she was younger by her stepfather(srs)
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05-18-2010, 12:01 PM #2
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05-18-2010, 12:02 PM #3
Just be there for her if/when she needs to talk. Be supportive, but don't dwell on it. Show her that having a penis does not have to make you an @sshole (wut? ) and that she deserves love.
It's a big deal, but don't make it into something more than it is, so she can continue moving forward with her life.
(I work with a lot of kids that have had this happen - others' reactions to it is more traumatizing than the event itself, so just remember that, and try to just be a good BF.)
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05-18-2010, 12:02 PM #4
thats actually pretty common. get used to it. chances are you will end up meeting a few more girls with similar stories in the future. dont let it get to you, just shut up and listen whenever she wants to talk about it.
oh and OP, i cant generalize, but the girls ive met that have had this happen have alot more issues than girls who it hasnt happened to. im not saying to get out, but before you get into anything too serious realize that you are gonna have to deal with alot more **** than you know.Last edited by de_barathrum; 05-18-2010 at 12:05 PM.
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05-18-2010, 12:04 PM #5
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05-18-2010, 12:06 PM #6
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05-18-2010, 12:06 PM #7
Recognize the srs tag fellas......
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05-18-2010, 12:06 PM #8
stop having sex with her, having sex with her will bring back those horrifying images of her stepfather. What you should do brah is to cook for her, make sammich for her, and lick her toes. But do remember to post few feet pics.
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05-18-2010, 12:07 PM #9
If you are sexually active and there isn't a problem that is a big hurdle. Many women that I have known with that type of history, sex can be a real issue for a long time even with their husband. Often times therapy is needed, or like some of my punk old friends the man will leave her for someone without those issues.
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05-18-2010, 12:07 PM #10
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IMO prob better to just be friends and not be more until you know her better. She might have one of her moments and you'd prob not like it.
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05-18-2010, 12:07 PM #11
Why does it seem like all girls have a rape story?
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05-18-2010, 12:08 PM #12
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05-18-2010, 12:09 PM #13
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I dated a chic when I was highschool that went thru a similar situation. She had been thru lots a theropy to help her deal with the mental issues involved. She claimed that victims usually go one of two ways, they don't like sex at all, or they can't get enough.
She couldn't get enough.
Turned out she was a habitual liar and fuqed anything with a dik, so take that for want you want.
Needless to say, we didn't date long.
Edit: Couldn't agree more with the poster above that stated they have many more issues. I can only draw from that one experience, but if she was indicative of the group then, yeah, buckle your seatbelt.Last edited by haulingboat; 05-18-2010 at 12:13 PM.
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05-18-2010, 12:09 PM #14
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05-18-2010, 12:11 PM #15
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05-18-2010, 12:12 PM #16
I would have Bert stared and changed the subject.
They couldn't go back to the Greasers
All they could do was pick up the pieces
Surely Brenda and Eddie would always find a way to survive
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05-18-2010, 12:13 PM #17
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05-18-2010, 12:13 PM #19
he probably was changing her diaper and they called that rape. lying bishes..
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05-18-2010, 12:14 PM #20
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you trollin brah?
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05-18-2010, 12:14 PM #21
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The question is, does it affect her now. If not, don't bring it up - there's nothing to gain.
If she is affected by this past abuse, help her get over those hurdles. She possibly has male issues, trust issues, intimacy issues, that you can help her get over by proving that what happened to her is not going to happen again.
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05-18-2010, 12:14 PM #22
ive had to deal with a similar situation, girl told me she was raped in highschool....but in highschool she was also the town whore. I cant say i really believe her because the story just has too many holes that make it really hard to believe it was "rape". Ill never know tho.
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05-18-2010, 12:15 PM #23
She will probably never handle her intimate feelings well during the time you know her. Unfortunately she has a jaded few of men and how a father should treat their daughter. I would seriously consider backing away slowly and exiting the relationship. The longer you know her and the closer you try to get she will act out in ways you will not understand or control. A Red flag is waving upon the horizon.
Whoa Guy!
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05-18-2010, 12:15 PM #24
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05-18-2010, 12:18 PM #30
in all seriousness the best thing to do is leave her asap , shes basically letting you know shes fuked in the head and testing how you react to it. shes wheeling you in and youre gonna be fuked , gtfo asap.
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