Have you ever seen people split up and successfully get back together?

[Fire8085]

I asked this in RH, but curious to see some more mature opinions on these things.

Just curious as to what reasons were behind the split and how long it was.

Have you ever seen or been involved in this?

Thanks.

[GnomusMaximus]

Yes. One case (my parents) around a year and 1/2. Another one the couple split for almost 30 years then got back together.

[Fire8085]

Wow insane, really?

[rockangel]

For me, ime, it depends on the reason they split.
I have rarely seen people get back together successfully after one partner cheated for example.
I have seen people been able to get back together for a variety of other reasons though. So I would say possible but not always probable.

[*STEVE*]

I would say possible but not always probable.

This ^

[Fire8085]

Another question.

Have you ever seen a flame (passion whatever you want to call it) die down with some people to be reignited?

[-=FLEX=-]

No.

-=FLEX=-

[Defiant1]

Just in the one Star Trek episode where Kirk was split into his "evil" side and his "good" side because of a transporter malfunction. Eventually they figured it out and put him back together again, using the now-repaired transporter.


That being said..

My experience has been when you try to get back together, it ends up being a formalized booty-call. After the "deed" is done, you realize why you split up in the first place.

[*STEVE*]

Another question.

Have you ever seen a flame (passion whatever you want to call it) die down with some people to be reignited?

Yes !

[redheadlaw7]

Husband and I broke up after dating for a few years. He was a "commitmentphobe." We eventually got back together because we couldn't live without each other...went to premarital counseling...and voila...married with two kids. Happy as clams.

[socket]

OP, Yes to both questions. I have witnessed the first question many times.
My wife and I are living proof of the second question

[Fire8085]

Thanks.

Anyone have issues with some dried up attraction and any tips to help it again?

Just space+time?

[Tyrbolift]

What's really fun is being used to create jealousy, and then after they get back together he comes and threatens me.

They can both suck my dick.

[Fire8085]

What's really fun is being used to create jealousy, and then after they get back together he comes and threatens me.

They can both suck my dick.

You were someone on the side or what?

Sorry to hear regardless man, that **** is not cool.

[Fire8085]

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Has anyone basically felt like they lost attraction completely and somehow made it work again?

Does it take time apart? Changes in life?

[Tyrbolift]

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Has anyone basically felt like they lost attraction completely and somehow made it work again?

Does it take time apart? Changes in life?

Spill it bro.

[Fire8085]

Spill it bro.

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bah maybe later when my head is a little clearer.

[immuno]

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bah maybe later when my head is a little clearer.

It's pretty easy to tell what happened. Sorry bro. If you have weights or an exercise bike at home, late night workouts can be therapeutic. And tomorrow, if you have a bike, a hella long ride would help as well.

[Fire8085]

It's pretty easy to tell what happened. Sorry bro. If you have weights or an exercise bike at home, late night workouts can be therapeutic. And tomorrow, if you have a bike, a hella long ride would help as well.

Thanks.

Maybe I'll divulge a bit more tomorrow.

[cozener]

Saw people split up and get back together in high school and college all the time

[08WVGT]

Saw people split up and get back together in high school and college all the time

Best thing someone ever told me after my divorce.............She is your ex for a reason. Whatever you do.......don't forget that reason. Did not like hearing it, but it was exactly what I needed to hear. Going to have to buy him dinner sometime for being man enough to tell me that.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

What's really fun is being used to create jealousy, and then after they get back together he comes and threatens me.

They can both suck my dick.

You're saying the dude too?

I knew a couple that got divorced 5 times and married 6 to each other.

[redheadlaw7]

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Has anyone basically felt like they lost attraction completely and somehow made it work again?

Does it take time apart? Changes in life?

Did you stop finding her attractive or the other way around?

[rab71]

Yes, my wife and I did this. Broke up for nine months after being together for three years. Now been a total of twelve. That nine months sucked...

[Hikemike]

Just in the one Star Trek episode where Kirk was split into his "evil" side and his "good" side because of a transporter malfunction. Eventually they figured it out and put him back together again, using the now-repaired transporter.


That being said..

My experience has been when you try to get back together, it ends up being a formalized booty-call. After the "deed" is done, you realize why you split up in the first place.

Epic Star Trek metaphor is EPIC!!!!

[Fire8085]

Best thing someone ever told me after my divorce.............She is your ex for a reason. Whatever you do.......don't forget that reason. Did not like hearing it, but it was exactly what I needed to hear. Going to have to buy him dinner sometime for being man enough to tell me that.

The thing is, it wasn't bad or anything. Just mistakes were made (no cheating[guess i can never know, but I trust her]/yelling). It just kind of got fizzled because honestly, I put her on the backburner and eventually she just kind of started losing attraction for me. I didn't do anything to really help it. Now I realize the mistakes but it's too late (not going to put all the blame on me either, we're both a little weird about commitment too etc). I know this really put a hold on our connection.

You're saying the dude too?

I knew a couple that got divorced 5 times and married 6 to each other.

Wow...wtf.

Did you stop finding her attractive or the other way around?

I took for granted that she would be there. I kind of was like...meh about it for a long time but still enjoyed the relationship. Then after time it was obvious me not paying attention caused a lot of harm on her end. I didn't really inspire anything inside of her and vice versa, it was kind of sad really. She did break it off with me in the end. To expand on that a bit, a while ago she wanted me to move in with her. She offered to pay a majority of the rent too, but I didn't accept it. I told her I would if I made more money, but couldn't for now. I did show some signs of being uncommitted for a while.

Yes, my wife and I did this. Broke up for nine months after being together for three years. Now been a total of twelve. That nine months sucked...

That's good. Reasons?

Note: I know this thinking is not great for my health, that's fine. I'm really working on staying busy and trying to get my life where I want it. I feel there are issues inside of me I do need to work on as a person and do what I want to do. But I still think she is a great girl with a great personality. Who knows maybe in a year I'll come back here talking about a different girl I'm with, that's fine. The future is the future. I'm just honestly curious.

[Jigfish]

I've been married for 23yrs. You need to follow your heart. If you love her then it will be worth the effort to get back together. Now if you don't love her then continue on with your life and find happyness. You may want to get your life where you want it but she may want to too. You and her may get together and grow together.