First i would like to say that i found this fom another forum, but this is quite good and i thought it would be good idea to share it with misc. It's great advice to anyone who has doubts on crush or whatever..
It's long, but interesting manual.
Here we go:
THE 2 STRIKES RULE!
WHAT?: THE 2 STRIKES RULE is the common sense rule which reminds you that if a woman is interested in you as a man/lover, she will not deny you 2 times in a row. It follows the basic fact of life that women will not give you time and attention unless you are attractive to them. Most guys complicate their lives trying to figure them out when they aren't getting what they want out of women, yet they really aren't that difficult if you can accept the fact I stated (if they want you they will not deny you) and follow the 2 STRIKES RULES.
If a woman is in any way interested in a man she might deny him once (and we'll give them the benefit of the doubt) but not twice in a row. You give a woman 2 chances to give you what you want. Do you want a date? do you just want to talk to her on the phone for the first time? a kiss? Giver her 2 strikes. If she likes you she won't deny you twice. If you keep at it after more than 2 strikes you are wasting your time with a woman that isn't attracted in you as a lover.
WHY: The 2 STRIKES RULE will only make you put time and effort on women that you actually have a chance with plus it will save your dignity and self respect, and remind you of a basic principle about women (if they want you, they won't deny you twice in a row). Besides it will keep you from being labeled as a creep by women cause really 3 tries is too much.
HOW: This rule applies to all aspects of dating. Whether it be asking her out and not geting a date (1st strike), not getting a call from a girl you met the other day (1st strike), kiss close attempt (1st strike) etc etc etc
IMPLEMENTATION: It is simple to implement this rule. Follow the 3 steps after the 1st strike
2. Benefit of the doubt
3. 2nd try
If they get a 2nd strike, THEY'RE OUT!
denied you for a date? flaked on you? ignored you? not called you back? resisted your kiss attempt? refused to give out her cell?? did not follow your commands? FORGIVE, BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT, GIVE IT A 2ND TRY WHEN YOU THINK THE TIME IS RIGHT, if that fails...2ND STRIKE! THEY'RE OUT!
Scenario 1: you call a girl to ask her out, tells you shes busy but she was giving you all kinds of signals the other day! what do you do?
Answer: If a woman is hot for you she will make time for you the first time you ask her out. If she really does have a legitimate reason (work, school, family, whatever) go ahead and try again! remember the 3 steps
BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT
If you are denied the 2nd time you ask her out, 2 STRIKES! YOU'RE OUT!
Common sense: If a woman is attracted to you as a man she will not deny you twice. Sure she can have a legitimate reason the 1st time but a 2nd time? better for you to focus your time and energy on women that are really attracted to you. Please remember that women come up with all kinds of bs to deny the wimpy men that ask em out. I don't care what excuse she gave you, if she leaves you hanging for a 2nd time in a row it is time for you to move on. She does not want you as a man.
Scenario 2: you call a girl you met the other day and she doesn't answer and it's been a couple days, what do you do?
Answer: If you met a girl and she was interested in just being your friend she would answer. If she doesn't even answer your first call you can pretty much forget about her BUT if you want to be nice...
BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT
If you don't get a response the 2nd time you call her, 2 STRIKES! YOU'RE OUT!
Scenario 3: you go for the kiss close, are denied, what do you do?
Answer: If she wants you then you won't be denied, but maybe she isn't ready yet? or maybe you haven't built enough attraction and rapport? if so you can wait for a 2nd try later on..
BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT
yup you know it..2 STRIKES! YOU'RE OUT!
Common sense:So you tried to kiss her again the following week and she turned her head?, 2 STRIKES! YOU'RE OUT! if she was interested in you sexually she would have kissed you as you already tried before and she knows a 2nd attempt pretty much should tell you that she doesn't want you (even though most guys can't understand that fact but she doesn't want to just say it). Definitely not interested in you as a man.
FOR THE SCEPTICS:
So you don't want to follow my advice? So still think you have a chance you hopeless afc? go ahead and break the rule and ask her out again some other time so you can only be denied again and she can let all her girlfriends know how creepy you are (and that is a really bad word for a woman to use for a guy). Go ahead and try a third time maybe you will get a different answer from the first 2...NOT!!
3 strikes is only 1 more strike after 2 but it really does make a huge difference.
The strikes can be labeled as
1st strike: Benefit of the doubt
2nd strike: Decider
3rd strike (if you go for it): the self dignity removing finger crosser (cause this is what you're doing, crossing your fingers and removing your self dignity if you try more than twice)
Use this rule in all aspects of dating to simplify your dating life. There are so many scenarios where you can use the rule. If you have any questions or scenarios on the implementation of this rule, just ask.
There are countless scenarios, just give them 2 strikes to get what you want.
04-09-2010, 02:22 PM #1
GREAT guide how to deal with FLAKY girls!
Last edited by muscleholic; 04-09-2010 at 02:27 PM.
04-09-2010, 02:48 PM #2
04-09-2010, 02:58 PM #3
04-09-2010, 03:30 PM #4
Sounds like a manual for having your time wasted. I don't give girls who I haven't met a second chance, as 99% of the time their excuses are BS. If a girl has to reschedule a first date with me, she's got to do it in adequate time and try to reschedule right then, not play games and try to make me work even harder by saying "maybe another time". If she cancels a date and doesn't reschedule on the spot, there are enough other girls out there that I dont need to chase after one that isn't interested.
Having said that, what I would really like to know is how to let women know that it's not ok to string guys along, as I've had two of them recently text me on the day of a first date that we'd arranged 3 or 4 days in advance to cancel it. Both girls said they were feeling unwell. One of them added that she'd call me when she was feeling better (that was 10 days ago) and the other said she hopes we can meet another time (with no indication of when). I know if either of them genuinely wanted to meet me they'd have called on the day they had to cancel, or in the very unlikely event they couldn't because they were so ill they couldn't speak, then the next day (food poisoning lasts for about 24 hours).
Disregarding their obvious BS, these girls never planned to talk to me anyway so why not just say that they're not interested or have met someone else rather than make me wait for a call that's never going to come?
Any ideas - I'm thinking of maybe putting cards in a phone box with their numbers and "call me for a good time".
Last edited by Ironbru; 04-09-2010 at 03:36 PM.
04-09-2010, 03:33 PM #5
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