My 100 approaches thread

[solidhadriel]

Confidence = key.

[HungLAH]

Hey guys sorry for the late update, but not much has happen during the past 4 days. I went out today for about an hour and only managed to do 2 approaches which went nowhere.

Friend asked me if i know any good coffee shops in the CBD(he's not from Melbourne) and i don't drink coffee so i took the liberty to approach this girl.

Approach #21 Asian girl at the traffics light. 7/10:
Me: Hey do you drink coffee?
Her: Yeah.
Me: Oh cool, which shop has the best coffee around here?
Her: hmm, you could try *soandso* street, it's like a small alley filled with shops.
Me: Oh any particular one i should look at for?
Her: Not really, they're all good.
Me: Thanks/
Then the walking lights turned green and i didn't wanted to follow her and continue the conversation.

We were sitting at one of the benches near the state library of Melbourne. I saw a guy i know and went and said hi. Got back and my friend wasn't there but instead a girl was.

Approach #22 Girl sitting down. 6/10
Me: Hey did you see a really tall guy here just before?
Her: Oh yeah, he went that way *points in a direction*
Me: Oh a that's a bit vague, did he go near Melbourne central or RMIT university?
Her: RMIT
Me: Ok thanks a lot
Then i left. In hindsight i should have sat down and continue talking to her while waiting for my friend to come back.

So yeah all in all it was very weak approaches. I just wanted to say thanks for the massive support guys, this challenge has been very hard at times but your words of encouragement is the energy that will help me keep on pushing. (no homo)

I'm gonna head out right now and plan to do 10 approaches. I will do this for myself and for the misc!

[mulattoTim]

Good luck brah! I'll be following this thread.

[gmnc]

You're doing well in the sense that you actually have the balls to approach women, but a big problem I see is that you eject way too early.

Next time you approach stay in set as long as possible. Don't leave until she tells you to **** off or she walks away.

[elephino]

You're doing well in the sense that you actually have the balls to approach women, but a big problem I see is that you eject way too early.

Next time you approach stay in set as long as possible. Don't leave until she tells you to **** off or she walks away.

This is pretty good advice. Learning how far you can push it now, when it doesn't matter, will give you more confidence later. It'll also give you the experience to know the difference between when a girl is really not interested, and when she may be interested, but she's making you work for it a little.

[everglide123]

OP how would you rate yourself /10 ? Can you post some pics so many we can give you tips on your physical appearance.

[Chauboy]

You're starting to do better, I can already see that you are going to start making some huge jumps pretty soon.

A few words of advice though...

You need to approach more women, the first 4-5 are going to be your warm up. A sprinter doesn't just jump on the track 2 minutes before the 100 meter finals, he spends hours warming up. You don't need to go this extreme but before you start scoping out girls you actually want to hook-up with just get in the zone and start opening a few people.

You need to also start getting kino in right away. You might think that you'll creepy doing it and I'm not going to the lie the first few times you probably will. Trust me though, this will make a big difference in the level of success that you will achieve.

I would also suggest teasing the girls you approach more. Try and make the conversation as fun and exciting as possible. Example from the brunette:

you: Wow! That hair...I think I can see a few eggs in that bird's nest!
Her: Aw, you don't like it??
you: Nah, it's fine I love having eggs for breakfast!
her: hopefully laughs, if not she's a boring bitch, drop her
you: so what are you waiting for anyways? Just some cute guy to come and talk to you?
Her: haha maybe! my friends train is delayed, I've been waiting for hours
you: well that sucks, I would wait with you but I've got wayyy better things to do than sit around in the train station. Here put you're number in my phone and I'll give you a call later this week.

It might take you a bit longer to work up enough rapport to get a phone number but in reality it shouldn't take much more than that. You want to maintain control the entire time that you're talking to these women, it seems like you are just waiting around sometimes.

Another point was that you should have decided what the deal was with the girl your friend picked up. If she was all his then why were you just sitting at the table talking with them? You should have gone around and met some more people, either way it seems like you did alright with her, who knows!

I'll be checking in there from time to time, good luck!

how do you think of stuff like that in real life so fast?

It would take me at least an hour to think of funny stuff like that

[benchtochest]

bump

op?? wherre have u been i thought u wernt skipping days

[sm34459]

nice job OP

[suomiviina]

wating for update...

[Tuga88]

Approach #21 Asian girl at the traffics light. 7/10:

Approach #22 Girl sitting down. 6/10

Brah you doing good and all but I don't really count these as approaches...just asking for directions and bailing when she tells you is not an approach. You gotta try and tease/flirt/get her interested in you. Out of all these approaches how many times have you asked for a number? Anyone can walk up to a chick and ask for directions (I hope so anyway lol). I don't want to dishearten you cause you still got lots of guts but it is time to start taking your approaches to the next level.

[Focusfire777]

Sup fellow Melbourne brah. Me and a buddy of mine have started approaching random chicks as well but have had f-all luck. Anyways will be subbing and following your thread. GL man.

[gmnc]

Where the approaches man?

You're not updating.

[AFreshStart]

U still alive broseph?

[AMDuser]

What is the OP hoping to gain by doing approaches that last only a few minutes?

[8.45.Heaven]

What is the OP hoping to gain by doing approaches that last only a few minutes?

It's a start maybe?

[kineticforce]

if he had an hour long conversation would anyone really wanna read it or would OP remember it

if you are socially awkward starting somewhere is better than sitting in your parents basement playing WoW. The man is making changes in his life.... its awesome and better than most the misc

give the guy props and pat on the back for attempting to better himself

[Simmo0508]

Ok here it is i'll lay it out for ya right here bro.

I commend you for wantin to do this, that's all well n good, major props blah blah blah, but you're actual game is weak as ****. I'll gonna give you some pointers.

* i think i read earlier that you're Vietnamese. Now no offense here, but hot white chicks aren't attracted to 6ft tall 150lb vietnamese guys (no racist, but srsly..). I notice you're goin after a lot of asian chicks which is good, so stick with that (again, no racist but cmon, use some social observation here)

* most of those scenarios don't really count. Asking someone for directions or the best coffee shop in town is not a pick-up. That's like asking someone for the time because you left your watch and mobile at home, and then walking on your merry way. There's no challenge there for you. That's just normal human interaction...

* you're way too accommodating and focusing your attention on the girl. Too much of this nicey nice bull**** and ass kissing behaviour. You're not being dominant enough and demonstrating what you want. There's nothing to suggest that you're building attraction with these women. And a hot tip - being purposely nice to a woman does nothing for attraction. Be as arrogant as you want (if you even know how..), granted you know how to tease and recover and have a sense of humour along with it. Girls don't want average, and being just like every other guy out there makes you average too.

* you don't walk off at the end without telling the girl to give you her number. It's great to end the conversation and be the alpha male and break off the situation yourself, but you gotta get the number otherwise you're wasting your time. Part of building up your confidence with all this is to learn and accept all outcomes, so you must get used to getting numbers and learning common responses (so that you can eventually learn how you can overcome things).

* your topics of conversation are boring. That's why you're gettin a lot of one-word replies from these girls.


You gotta lot of support on here so best of luck, just be careful with who you take your advice from because from what i've read so far here, there's plenty of other guys with no game as well. The blind leading the blind.

[KeepLifting]

I think what Simon means is you gotta develop an attitude, be more upbeat, and have some swagger.

- instead of asking for time or direction, compliment their heels, purses, hair etc. and ask where they get it from and go from there. Girls love talking about themselves, so once you spark their interest eg. makeup, shopping, dressing up, and get them talking to the point you want them to shuddap, you're in.

then seal the deal by asking for their phone number so you can continue the convo or go shopping together.

[Jedan01]

Ya this was so much creepier than trying to do magic tricks for a girl you just met

Do you know what flirting is? It's teasing, you want to put the girl on edge right away, take control of the situation have her qualifying to herself to you. The looks part doesn't matter one bit, yes he will have to be smooth, but how else is supposed to get there without trying things like this?

Really a situation like this wouldn't happen in Australia?

Check out this video and see what you think. The guy isn't as bold as I would be, but he does a really good job.

What do you think about him just butting the friend out of the way like that at the beginning? I dont think the average person could make this work

Usually those PUA guys suggest occupying both girls

[Simmo0508]

I think what Simon means is you gotta develop an attitude, be more upbeat, and have some swagger.

- instead of asking for time or direction, compliment their heels, purses, hair etc. and ask where they get it from and go from there. Girls love talking about themselves, so once you spark their interest eg. makeup, shopping, dressing up, and get them talking to the point you want them to shuddap, you're in.

then seal the deal by asking for their phone number so you can continue the convo or go shopping together.

Yeah, i do agree with getting an upgrade in the attitude department, but i wasn't actually saying they should open with the way you suggested. That's lame as fuk, and no girl is gonna buy a guy who wants to talk and/or listen about hair and makeup. No normal guy wants to talk about those things except metrosexuals and ****s, so that kinda puts you into a bit of a friend zone right off the bat. It's not masculine at all.

And never ask for the phone number, ever. You go about it in a more aggressive way. And never go shopping together, ever. "Friends" go shopping together.

So thanks for the kind words in the first sentence, but i think you misinterpreted my post.

[KeepLifting]

yes it may not sound alpha or masculine to talk about fashion, but it could be icebreaker to start a convo if you approach someone on the street, of course not in a club. And if the convo was on shopping, it would go with the flow if you ask for the number to go "shopping". But really once you get the number you can do watever you want with it. If you randomly approach someone on the street, she's not even your friend yet, so I don't think "friend zone" here really applies.

Women dress up so men would notice - can ladies in here comment if they would appreciate it if the guys payed attention to and compliment on your style?

[KouRon]

In on thread.

OP im from Melbourne as well so know about all the places your talkin about.

You have inspired me to get of my ass and actually approach some girls. I don't think i have ever actually approached a girl, cuz i dnno wtf to do/say to them etc. I guess thats the reason why i haven't hooked up with a chick for 1.3 years .

Subbed and looking forward to more!

[_Z0RK_]

Women dress up so men would notice - can ladies in here comment if they would appreciate it if the guys payed attention to and compliment on your style?

Sorry bro, but no. Women dress up for other women, not men. Honestly no straight guy cares about a woman's heels, make-up purses, hair, trendy clothes. It is women who judge and evaluate other women in this respect.

So if you compliment their style by feigning interest, your intentions are very transparent, and women are going to see straight through this. In other words, you are doing exactly what a beta male would do: putting the pussy on the pedestal. She will therefore see you as another loser.

Follow Simmo's advice.

[TheProgressiveOne]

come on bro..we need more updates..and finish thru with them...that one with the girl sitting there was great and i know the point is to do it randomly..u could easily set that up..get ur friend to sit down then wait for a grl to come nearr..then he will leave andull approach..easy man

[Ggdograa]

I tried the whole PUA thing for a while. Have a couple success stories. My only advice is to stop asking them where they work/what they study. It's boring conversation.

Asking for the number is easiest, a trick I remember reading on the net somewhere, which works 99.9% of the time is saying "here give me your number" and shoving the phone into their hands. I don't think a girl has ever gone "um, no" after she's got my phone in her hands.

But then again I did this **** years ago, don't know if **** like that still works. I'm happily spoken for now.

[Simmo0508]

yes it may not sound alpha or masculine to talk about fashion, but it could be icebreaker to start a convo if you approach someone on the street, of course not in a club. And if the convo was on shopping, it would go with the flow if you ask for the number to go "shopping". But really once you get the number you can do watever you want with it. If you randomly approach someone on the street, she's not even your friend yet, so I don't think "friend zone" here really applies.

Women dress up so men would notice - can ladies in here comment if they would appreciate it if the guys payed attention to and compliment on your style?

Advice #1 - you're still spitting this "ask" bull****. No asking. None. You say what you want, and they respond.

Advice #2 - women "dress up" to impress other women, not so much other men. Most men could care less about a woman's taste in fasion or style. We just wanna see their tits out, that's it. A hot body's a hot body, regardless of what clothes they're wearin.

[KeepLifting]

Alright brahs, seems like my style of approach is to make friends, instead of hooking up. Guess this is what happens after oneitis with a GF for 5 years lulz. I'm into fashion myself, so that is generally what I like to talk about (no homo).

[hammbergler]

Any updates?

[Tuga88]

HungLAH is dead.