Were you treated differently after losing alot of weight?

[everclear111]

I guess it's time to start a new one; this was one of my favorite threads.

[fearbefore]

Read the other one yesterday? Is it gone?

I guess i'll find out how true this really is. When i was a bit younger i was pretty fit and i feel like i've been treated a lot different since then after stacking on the weight rather quickly from sitting around and doing nothing with ross river virus.

It's going to be interesting to see if the same people who went away from be will now come back...

[C29i]

I hope so, The main reason I am losing weight is because I have awful social skills :P especially with women, main reason being I dated the same person from 15-21 so I skipped the main portion of learning how to pick up women :P

[nnam]

To the start of another epic thread...

[Derk4397]

Aw man the other one was deleted?

People seem to treat me better, at least women do. Some bros become haters though.

[cawiau]

Why was the other one deleted?

[OzzBozz]

some guys might feel more intimidated that you're now able to **** on there game, and get the hot chicks.

Woman will give you more attention. I recentley lost around 30 lb's, and i was getting alot of compliments. FEELS GREAT!

[DavidHill76]

Oh yeah.

I lost 60 lbs my senior year in H.S.

I noticed that all the girls would actually talk to me and I'd even catch them checking me out from time to time in class.

Can't forget the guys, they were nicer too. It seemed more of them wanted to be my friend.


There's more to it, but that's the gist of it.

[Dark_Musings]

Threads sometimes get bumped offline by accident. That happened to one of the serge nubret threads, and we were able to get them to reactivate it. I emailed feedback and the csmanager to see if they can do the same to the old weight loss thread.

[trance__dreamer]

Why was the other one deleted?

nooooo!

[kingof_queens]

I'm still not even used it, sometimes I need to pinch myself to remember.

September 16, 2009 - 354lbs 46 waist jeans, xxxl shirts

Today, 268lbs, 36 waist jeans, and xl shirts

So in total almost 90lbs lost in about 5 months.

EVERY aspect of my life has changed for the good, some more then others. It's not even funny. Sometimes I go to look in the mirror, and i'm like wtf, that's me? Sometimes I go to buy some clothes, and i'm like wtf i'm buying xl? (I can wear L but I feel like a douche if I do)
Five months is a very short time to transform mentally from being so obese for so long.

I get treated with so much respect everywhere now, it's crazy, sometimes it's even awkward. Like the other day at work, I was about 30 feet away, walking up to a closed door, when someone walked out of that door, he looked at me, and then for some reason decided to quickly turn back around, catch the door before it closed, and then hold it open for me. I wasn't even close to that door! He was holding it for like five seconds! lol

I make eye contact all the time now, where as I used to be invisible. Man I can go on and on and on, the difference in my life is NIGHT AND DAY, I can't even put into words how I feel inside.

I attached a before picture of my in summer 09, and one of my recently, no current body shots, but you can still see, I don't even look like the same person.

I'm not done yet though, I plan to lose another 30lbs or so by summer time.

[Iron Chicano]

I know that I actually get smiles from girls now when before maybe never looked in a bro's direction. Lots of compliments, they are what bring me back up its amazing how good a compliment can make you feel. Personally more confidence but there is still and always be room for improvement!

[Phatso]

i get 10 roots a minute

[QT]

Its much more easy to be social. Easier to be yourself and therefor its easier to get girls. Its not ONLY because of your Taylor Lautner-looking body

[ctninja9]

when i was 17 i went from 230 to 140 in about 6 months. as soon as i lost the weight i noticed guys were nicer and all wanted to be my friend. and girls looked at me differently, girls that would never talk to me before were all of a sudden wanting to hang out all the time and were calling me all the time. i def. dont regret losing the weight. since then i have bulked up to 165 with 12%bf and plan to get to 180 at 10%bf

[trance__dreamer]

Five months is a very short time to transform mentally from being so obese for so long.

it gets easier w/ time. i know exactly what you mean. in just 10 months, i went from 300+ (...probably close to 325 but never weighed due to shame) in jan of '07 --> around a lean (22.5'ish% w/ the loose skin) 165'ish (...didn't weigh due to feeling mindfcked) in oct of '07. i had so many different thoughts running through my mind. 1 thing that didn't change is that i never ever got big-headed, conceited, or snobby. my dad, before he passed away, influenced me positively in soooo many ways. he was the greatest human being that ever lived. 100% serious.

it was the BIGGEST mindfck everrrr to go from morbid obesity to looking normal in just 3 seasons. even a few years later (this past sept/october), i was in my 1st real relationship. & i had NO idea what the hell i was doing. (i still had a bit of common sense/lessons learned from my dad/etc, though.) but ugh...in retrospect, i feel really bad for this guy, 'cause i had SO many insecurities. ... some of which were harvested/manifested from here; not gunna lie. joining here was probably 1 of the worst things i've ever done for myself. don't get me wrong. it's still cool. but @ 1st, seeing all of those perfect bodies influenced me in negative ways. i also tried out keto, which failed miserably. but yea...i saw all of the perfect bodies on here & got REALLY down on myself that i stiiill didn't look like these fitness models. but even before i joined here, i was frustrated that i didn't look like normal models. so, it may not have been this website but just my internal thoughts. for a while there, i actually forgot just how far i've come. & i forgot that these fitness and normal women don't have loose skin issues that i gotta eventually get taken care of. ($ isn't an issue. my family/relatives will help pay for what I can't come up with myself. ... i'm just terrified of surgery. i'd rather slit my wrists. FUUUUU.) also, a lot of my fellow group fitness instructors/personal trainers around here have negatively influenced me, too. the worst was this women's gym. jesus fcking christ! many clearly suffer from eating disorders but more importantly esteem/worth/confidence/insecurity issues. it seems like for most pple, the closer you get to perfection, the more hatred you feel about yourself. humans are interesting things, for sure. if my dad were still alive, he would've undoubtedly caught my behavior & helped get me out of it. but alas...he's not. @#$%! but if i'm gunna be personal training people & also continue to teach boot camp/aerobics/etc, i've GOTTA have the right healthy mindset; @ least to pass on to my clients/participants. after all, i'm getting paid to help them gain esteem & worth. if i don't posses these characteristics myself, then i'm just a scam artist. =/

anyway. shortly after the relationship ended & i had some time off to reflect on my whirl-wind 2009 during christmas, i snapped out of it & thought to myself "god fcking damn. this guy seemed to REALLY have liked me for who i was." he seemed to have gotten REALLY attached to me REALLY fast; 1 reason is 'cause his dad passed away earlier on in his life, too. (...i think he felt like he could bond with me over that. i would've been more than happy to. but it seemed like that was b.s. & that he mostly just wanted to fck me. ...even though i thought i still didn't look good enough to have sex w/ but still better than average.) in retrospect, it was really hard for me - almost impossible - to wrap my head around that someone actually liked me - both mentally & physically - for the 1st time, as i had NEVER everrr experienced that before. it was truly like shell-shock; as silly as that sounds. & he also obviously liked my body for how it currently is. (...although, the confused looks on his face when i was nekkid made me laugh soooo hard in my head. losing 100+ lbs in 10 months is horrible for the external human body; no matter how much youth you have on your side. =/) but in all fairness to myself, i think he was waaaay too advanced for me. i bet i was his 1,000th gf. & i had a strong feeling he was having sex with other women @ the same time, brahs. he also seemed to have a stroooooong young teenage girl fetish that made me extremely grossed out ... but also somehow fueled my insecurities ten fold. =S

heh...i remember this one time, he said something along the lines of: "wtf? you look as close to my porn/bikini pictures as anyone i've ever met in real life. i can feel your obliques. why are you still eating boring?" i replied back with: "i wonder why. " but i wanted to tell him to stfu 'cause it seemed to be doing him a favour in getting him aroused & giving me nutrients/energy/endorphines to do the stuff that he wanted me to to for/to him, even though i really didn't want to...but didn't tell him that. (i don't understand how you can expect someone to want to be physically intimate w/ you if they haven't developed those feelings for you yet. i REALLY liked him. but i hadn't reached that point yet. i learned that it takes me longer than most pple to get there. ...or perhaps he just didn't care & wanted to fck me, regardless of how i felt. =/) HAH. & in all honesty, women around his part of the area are getting really fat due to drinking + eating shti...which he was giving me a REALLY hard time about for not doing...even though he clearly appreciated that not doing that stuff made me look fantastic. also, my dad passed away from cancer. should anyone have any valid excuse to expect me to stop living healthy & start putting stuff into my body that will cause inflammation & heighten my risk of developing cancer? do you really expect me to give in to your wishes, despite knowing that stuff is nothing but poison? fck you, *******.

i also had a very brief relationship w/ an mma fighter immediately after i stopped hearing from the 1st guy. (i also went on a date w/ him in the summer, before i met the 1st guy. we know the same pple. so, it was pretty non-awkward. but he wasn't really into me 'cause he saw my shoulder stretch marks over my summer clothing & changed his mind. =/ the turned off look on his face when he saw them was mortifying. but he seemed to not care anymore when we both decided to re-kindle to see if it'd work this time around, after halloween. o__O lol.) but he was even worse than i was, in regards to insecurities, which, in turn, negatively influenced/made me feel even worse...on top of everything else that made me feel bad about myself. my god...he was in REALLY good shape; both aesthetically & internally. but even still, he made sooooo many different comments about himself not being good enough for his sport. =S it was quite sad, really. (we both ended it after a couple of dates, 'cause it just wasn't working, once again.) the 1st guy was in average shape...but i've never EVER been so physically attracted to anyone in my whole entire life. i'm not attracted to the separation and stuff that the mma'er had. i'm really attracted to a less dramatic look. & he was pretty cool; probably why he was so good w/ gettin' teh ladies & good @ organizing all of them together @ 1 time for his benefit. it's quite a shame that i fcked it up. the trades-working proletariat small town vibe was really charming & sexy to me, as i come from a well-off family/private schools; probably the difference between us that enticed me. but in retrospect, my 1st bf REALLY should've been w/ someone who was formerly obese as well. @ least they'd know where i was comming from & what i was going through. i doubt this guy had any clue & just thought i was yet another crazy chick psycho broad who wanted to play games w/ him to fuel her ego. but i'm the most down-to-earth, relaxed, & nicest mother****er you'll ever meet. i don't have any experience to even know where to begin to play games. =/ how the hell do you play games? pple always talk about it. but i have no idea what they're referring to! i wanted so bad to show him my before pics. so, everything would click & fall into place. howeverrrr, i didn't want him to get grossed out & tell me to leave his place immediately. =S =S =S shortly after the relationship ended, (...i don't even know how it did. i just stopped hearing from him after a few weeks & noticed one day...didn't wanna make things worse by talking to him to see what was going on; i just took the hint...wish i had closure, though,) i was brave enough to @ least put my before pics up on here. i knew that you guys would applaude me. & i started showing them in my weight training classes/etc that i teach. & it's done nothing but good. every.single.person in my classes is proud of me, & moreover, is in absolute disbelief/shock. some refuse to believe me, even though i wear a name tag in 1 of the pictures. HAH.

...point being, kingof_queens, you're gunna be just fine. just keep a strong mindset & don't EVER forget where you've come from. be proud of where you've been, & look forward to where you're going to be going.

***edit: i know my post is BRUTALLY personal. but i really like everyone on here & don't think you guys will mind hearing each other's stories about this kinda thing.

also, if you feel it's "too long to read/10" or "do not care/10", then just ignore my posts from now on. thank you, kindly. ***

[Nitro21]

first page on epic thread

[cheops21]

I've lost 26 pounds and put on a bunch of muscle in the last 4 months. I'm still at ~26% body fat, but I get compliments every day from people I know about how fit and buff I'm looking these days.

I've changed too though. Now the idea of going out in public to socialize doesn't sound like such a bad idea since I'm feeling better about myself.

Both of those things are self reinforcing, encouraging me to continue improving myself inside and out.

[tdig]

I lost 30 lb's going from 230 to 200 and have kinda been riding out at 200 for awhile but started cardio+weights again now that I joined the gym..

Anyway, Before I never really had a serious relationship with a girl and after I lost that weight a lot of girls noticed and commented on my progress.. It made it a lot easier to talk to girls knowing that some of the girls at the party had their eye on you because you're of equal value to them as the other guys, where as being overweight put you on a different list in their eyes..

Overall it boosted my confidence, and made me wonder why I wasn't doing this in highschool, it would've made it much more enjoyable..

[Iron Chicano]

I lost 30 lb's going from 230 to 200 and have kinda been riding out at 200 for awhile but started cardio+weights again now that I joined the gym..

Anyway, Before I never really had a serious relationship with a girl and after I lost that weight a lot of girls noticed and commented on my progress.. It made it a lot easier to talk to girls knowing that some of the girls at the party had their eye on you because you're of equal value to them as the other guys, where as being overweight put you on a different list in their eyes..

Overall it boosted my confidence, and made me wonder why I wasn't doing this in highschool, it would've made it much more enjoyable..

I feel you man but don't think of what you can't change think about what you CAN!

[cawiau]

Treated differently
=> Other girls besides my wife are paying attention to me.
=> Self esteem went up, so people treat me with more respect.
=> Looking more intimidating, so people really don't mess with me.

Things that comes with losing weight
=> Sex is 10 TIMES better
=> More clothing options
=> Self esteem, self confidence is up
=> More energy
=> Worth to mention again: SEX IS 10 TIMES BETTER

The sex alone makes the weight I have lost worth it.

[DuLac]

Sad to see the old thread die.

Been working out steadily for the past year, now. Started feb 1st 2009, it is now Feb 17th 2010.

I am stronger, faster, lighter and I have a lower resting heart rate. I went from 205 pounds and 22% bodyfat (159.9 pounds of lean mass, 45.1 pounds of fat and a 38" waist) to 193 pounds at about 12% bodyfat (169 pounds lean mass, 23 pounds of fat, and my waist is under 34").

Losing over 20 pounds of fat while adding 10 pounds of muscle has made obvious changes, and random people are actually commenting on my physique. I already have things well-in-hand in my personal life, so no real changes there.

Low-carb high protein and calories-barely-over-maintenance coupled with weight training were my keys to adding muscle, and carb cycling and HIIT were my keys to cutting without getting bored.

Some of my favorite things I learned on this site:
1) Greek Yogurt is better than regular yogurt (more protein, less carbs), but get the tasty organic ones, not the **** in the regular section.
2) Eggs are good for you
3) Milk is the best 'supplement' you can buy
4) If you're really on a cut, you're going to be hungry nearly all the time
5) Deadlifts, Squats, and the classic Bench should be in everyone's routine
6) Women should lift heavy weights, period.

[Il_Dago]

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it was really hard for me - almost impossible - to wrap my head around that someone actually liked me - both mentally & physically - for the 1st time, as i had NEVER everrr experienced that before ... the confused looks on his face when i was nekkid made me laugh soooo hard in my head ... he also seemed to have a stroooooong young teenage girl fetish that made me extremely grossed out ... but also somehow fueled my insecurities ten fold. =S

i don't understand how you can expect someone to want to be physically intimate w/ you if they haven't developed those feelings for you yet... i learned that it takes me longer than most pple to get there.

i also had a very brief relationship w/ an mma fighter immediately after i stopped hearing from the 1st guy... but he was even worse than i was, in regards to insecurities, which, in turn, negatively influenced/made me feel even worse... on top of everything else that made me feel bad about myself. my god...he was in REALLY good shape; both aesthetically & internally. but even still, he made sooooo many different comments about himself not being good enough for his sport. =S it was quite sad, really.

i'm the most down-to-earth, relaxed, & nicest mother****er you'll ever meet. i don't have any experience to even know where to begin to play games. =/ how the hell do you play games? pple always talk about it. but i have no idea what they're referring to!

Wow. That is really heavy stuff. Thanks for sharing it though, because now the nagging doubting voices in my head about "that girl" (the one from the superbowl party I talked about in the original thread) have suddenly stfu. Funny how that works.

(Please don't mistake my edit for a tl;dr. I just singled out a few things you said that really stood out to me)

[andrewdl246]

Quick story. I have never really had issues with women. I am getting married in April. I have being overweight for awhile. My freshman year before I gained a bunch of weight I was 6'1" 210 pounds at 15% body fat. A year ago I gained more wait then I ever had. I went from 270 which was my normal weight when I gained a bunch of wait in high school. I quit smoking cigarettes and gained 40 pounds cause of my candy solution to the addiction tends to make you gain weight. Then I got laid off from my oil rig job and hit the bottle heavily. Come March of 2009 I was pushing 350. Now I knew I didn't want to just lose weight. I wanted to body build and get huge. Not there yet. But I have lost a lot of weight. I am currently 302. I am still body building but more worried about fat loss then bulking up. I currently have to lose 7 percent of my current body fat to enter the Army. I have already lost 2 percent of that why it's now 7%. The main thing I have noticed with weight loss. Skinny f***who like to talk **** about your weight don't cause they actually think you can catch them. An buffer folks know that bodybuilding isn't an overnight thing. It takes dedication and a lot of hard work so they give you respect. Now with women. I am a big flirt and my fiance hates that about me. It's all about confidence and looks women like most people really don't go off your personality at first that's for later. Women hate being ignored, more then they hate their periods in my opinion. That's my little story.

[bikini_babe]

Trance-sorry your transformation wasn't better for your self-esteem. I was with an IFBB guy for almost a decade. I was fit (17%BF) but I definitely still had major curves. He was the best for my ego because he said:

A) Don't look at any "fitness model" because they water deplete, take whatever pill needed to get a great shot...he felt that within 2-3 days of a shoot they wouldn't look the same so why get bothered that I didn't look like that

B) said if he ever grabbed something as hard as his female competitors during a show he would trip thinking he was with some dude...

C)complimented me on my ability to gain weight in my boobs & butt (an extended French vacay was the culprit)

D) didn't trip over what I ate or didn't eat

E) told me I looked hotter after having a kid than before (yes it was his)

F) explained that I worked harder on my abs than he ever did and it was all diet if I wanted a six pack...walked me through it once, waited until I could see them and said, "please tell me you are cool with the fact they are there, now go eat some bread or whatever you normally eat that keeps you mellow because the past 2 months have been like permanent PMS and I like the you that laughs more..."


5 years before I had been with another jock who liked rail thin chicks but asked me out..the boob/butt thing rules out rail thin. He ran my a** off literally(15 miles a day) limited calories,(1000) no junk, no booze etc. It was his world and it worked for him at 36, I was 23 and after hitting about 10% BF, no boobs etc and having people ask me if I was "sick" because they could see my clavicle bone through my shirt, he said I was "almost perfect" and another 10 pounds would render me so. I realized I would have to remove some organs to accomplish that and walked out on the whole thing(life, money etc) because really I wasn't just the sum of my parts???!

I hope you find yourself an ego boost guy who loves the way you look, supports what you are doing to continue that look and doesn't beat you senseless when you grab an occasional ice cream cone because what he is truly attracted to is YOU and not simply the packaging.

[Canucks121]

I cant wait until June! thats when I plan on being 215, then I will be a happy camper

[mrbigdude]

The sex alone makes the weight I have lost worth it.

LOL - that should be the official tag line of bb.com

[nnam]

I always liked "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels." And that's the damn truth. Beyond the superficial improvements and the better treatment by others, the self-satisfaction, confidence, and general feeling of well-being are the greatest rewards for living a healthy lifestyle.

After having been a fitness nut for most of my life, I actually thought that being fat and lazy would make me happier. WRONG! I didn't realize how unhappy being unfit made me until I became fit again. I still have a ways to go before I'm back where I was, but damn does it feel good to be on the journey. As strange as it may sound, I feel like I'm going to be the real me again.

Don't give up guys and gals. The hunger, pain, and frustration are worth it. NO ONE goes from fat to ripped and says "This is not what I wanted." You DO want this and you WILL get there.

[AreaCode201]

Why was the old thread deleted???

[Il_Dago]

Bump since there's been 2 threads asking about the old thread.

RIP old thread