Break up's and getting back together...

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 11:21 AM

Anyone actually have experience with a girl breaking up with you then getting back together or wanted you back? Just looking for some storys to help analize my own situation.

Tiger_Uppercut · 11-02-2009, 11:28 AM

For me they never work even though I've wanted them to. Same problems just happen again eventually.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Tiger_Uppercut

For me they never work even though I've wanted them to. Same problems just happen again eventually.

I guess it really depend's on the situation though.

miketheblade · 11-02-2009, 11:36 AM

well my Ex broke up with me to date another guy... she regreted it.. wanted me back... i said no way in hell... but ended up getting back with her after she was super depressed about losing me for a month... got back with her the relationship was EPIC for the first month it felt renewed after that it slowly went back to the same ol nagging and arguing about dumb **** eventually the relationship fell apart and its over now...

that was a 4 year relationship by the way...

ICQ666 · 11-02-2009, 11:37 AM

Well, it depends the way you guys break up. I broke up with my girl once, but it was something stupid, so we thought about our relationship and now it's been more than a year and way better than ever. You learn to value things and take more care of the loved one

Being UNFAITHFUL should never be tolerated. Don't come back to someone that was unfaithful.

I would say....Never come back to someone if

---Girl (boy) has VERY bad emotional baggage and YOU know it won't chance and needs PRofessional help
---Drug users (Need Professional help, not your "lovely" help)
---Abusive Person (Blackmailers, Physically hurting, Emotional Manipulators, etc...) THEY WON'T CHANCE ACCORDING TO THE PROFESSIONALS. You can only cope with them
---Extremely Jelous Persons (Again, they need professional help)
---Long Distance tore you apart...if can't change it, won't help to come back
---If person has some actual Diagnosed disorder (emotional)

Those are some that you would want to take into consideration ALWAYS! I believe from experience and from reading some Psycology books, etc...

Just think! You have been given that gift by the Creator

USe it! Analyze, re-value, decide!

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by miketheblade

well my Ex broke up with me to date another guy... she regreted it.. wanted me back... i said no way in hell... but ended up getting back with her after she was super depressed about losing me for a month... got back with her the relationship was EPIC for the first month it felt renewed after that it slowly went back to the same ol nagging and arguing about dumb **** eventually the relationship fell apart and its over now...

that was a 4 year relationship by the way...

Hmm so you guy's only broke up for a month? And when she did break up with you, how did she act twards you? For me she would ussually eb the first to contact me and bassically bragged about her new bf the whole time.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by ICQ666

Well, it depends the way you guys break up. I broke up with my girl once, but it was something stupid, so we thought about our relationship and now it's been more than a year and way better than ever. You learn to value things and take more care of the loved one

Being UNFAITHFUL should never be tolerated. Don't come back to someone that was unfaithful.

I would say....Never come back to someone if

---Girl (boy) has VERY bad emotional baggage and YOU know it won't chance and needs PRofessional help
---Drug users (Need Professional help, not your "lovely" help)
---Abusive Person (Blackmailers, Physically hurting, Emotional Manipulators, etc...) THEY WON'T CHANCE ACCORDING TO THE PROFESSIONALS. You can only cope with them
---Extremely Jelous Persons (Again, they need professional help)
---Long Distance tore you apart...if can't change it, won't help to come back
---If person has some actual Diagnosed disorder (emotional)

Those are some that you would want to take into consideration ALWAYS! I believe from experience and from reading some Psycology books, etc...

Just think! You have been given that gift by the Creator

USe it! Analyze, re-value, decide!

Well with her it was the jealousy, it was just extreme, but i didin't mind it.

Wimbeast · 11-02-2009, 11:44 AM

in the process of going through this now, hopefully it works out. read my thread if you want to know more.

Al_Pal · 11-02-2009, 11:46 AM

im going to start negging you OP if you dont get over this bitch... just stop already.

ICQ666 · 11-02-2009, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Well with her it was the jealousy, it was just extreme, but i didin't mind it.

Don't tolerate Jelousy! She will never chance my friend. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER!!! Jelousy can't be changed if the person is already jelous since she was born. They might pretend they can control it, but it won't do them good, and they will treat you DIFFERENT even when they say they "don't care". You will know they are pretending because YOU WILL SEE THEIR "INDIFFERENCE".

Value your happiness! Trust your gut! See beyond the "love"... Be logical!

95zj · 11-02-2009, 11:56 AM

Girlfriend of a year broke up with me through a text message and all she could say was "I care about you, but I'm not happy. I want to break up. We can talk in a few days and see if we'll be in each other's future."

That was two weeks ago and I haven't heard from her since. Tried to contact her and she just said "No thanks. We were together for a year, but we aren't now."

I thought we could get back too. I thought we could patch things up. But it can't man. If this happens once, it's most likely going to happen again. The best thing to do is just stay busy CONSTANTLY and slowly but surely, your mind will work her out of your life. Time heals all wounds, and relationships are one of the hardest things to get past.

Just keep your head up, reconnect with old friends, focus hardcore on the gym, and live your life. Things happen for a reason my man.

miketheblade · 11-02-2009, 12:00 PM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Hmm so you guy's only broke up for a month? And when she did break up with you, how did she act twards you? For me she would ussually eb the first to contact me and bassically bragged about her new bf the whole time.

she acted like she did not even care we broke up did not seem she even shed a tear.. it was because she had someone else to fill the void you know? i did not so i felt all the pain... once she dated him for a week she realized she wanted to be back with me and called crying... and begging me back asking if there was a chance. i said " no chance" but she tried again few weeks later and i gave her back a chance and told her what i wanted in a relationship but it did not end up working out man.

if you break up once i really think there is little chance you will be with that girl forever IMO... what keeps me going is i know there is someone out there that i am going to marry and that makes me happy... someone close to perfect for you.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Wimbeast

in the process of going through this now, hopefully it works out. read my thread if you want to know more.

Hmm yeah i read it, it's just for me there's another guy in the picture.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Al_Pal

im going to start negging you OP if you dont get over this bitch... just stop already.

Neg me if you wish, but she's been playing mind games with me a month instead of just saying we're done. Just like the other day she told me she dousn't know why she's dating him and she wants to be with me, then a day later when her current bf find's out about this she say's she want's nothing to do with me. She said she dleted my number, i just said ok, then she end's up calling me the other night and i didin't pick up. It's just every time i try to move on she put's herself back in my damn life.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by ICQ666

Don't tolerate Jelousy! She will never chance my friend. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER!!! Jelousy can't be changed if the person is already jelous since she was born. They might pretend they can control it, but it won't do them good, and they will treat you DIFFERENT even when they say they "don't care". You will know they are pretending because YOU WILL SEE THEIR "INDIFFERENCE".

Value your happiness! Trust your gut! See beyond the "love"... Be logical!

See with me i actually like a jealous girl, i think it just show's they care. I mean if your gf was'nt jealous woudn't you be bothered?

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by miketheblade

she acted like she did not even care we broke up did not seem she even shed a tear.. it was because she had someone else to fill the void you know? i did not so i felt all the pain... once she dated him for a week she realized she wanted to be back with me and called crying... and begging me back asking if there was a chance. i said " no chance" but she tried again few weeks later and i gave her back a chance and told her what i wanted in a relationship but it did not end up working out man.

if you break up once i really think there is little chance you will be with that girl forever IMO... what keeps me going is i know there is someone out there that i am going to marry and that makes me happy... someone close to perfect for you.

Well another thing she would do is tell me i could never do better than her, well as for me i seriously have girls begging for me bassically all the time, actually just want on a date saturday night with a model from my college, and she's into me. But personality wise i think she could actually be right, it just seem's out of all the girl's i get with know one dous compare.

ICQ666 · 11-02-2009, 12:12 PM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Neg me if you wish, but she's been playing mind games with me a month instead of just saying we're done. Just like the other day she told me she dousn't know why she's dating him and she wants to be with me, then a day later when her current bf find's out about this she say's she want's nothing to do with me. She said she dleted my number, i just said ok, then she end's up calling me the other night and i didin't pick up. It's just every time i try to move on she put's herself back in my damn life.

Ok!! I am going outside to drink a fawking beer (I don't drink) and smoke a fawking pack of cigarettes (I Don't smoke) and scream my life away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If there is a "third" person, WTF are you waiting for to you get the fawk out? Don't wait for her to TELL YOU that it's OFFICIALLY OVER!! Grow up man! She is a FAWKING WHORE THAT KNOWS HOW TO PUSH YOUR STRINGS AND BUTTONS.

I can't believe she can play that bad with you. Just DON'T ANSWER! You don't FAWKING care about her New Dude, much less care about her. She knows she can come back to you anytime, so she feels it's correct to FAWK SOME OTHER COCKS IN THE MEAN TIME. I don't see how you don't see that!!! YOU ARE LAME!!!!!!!!!!!

ICQ666 · 11-02-2009, 12:14 PM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

See with me i actually like a jealous girl, i think it just show's they care. I mean if your gf was'nt jealous woudn't you be bothered?

I won't answer to this because I just know that you are 20 and when you get to at least my age, 25, you will understand more things and will have a better and clear way of seeing NOT GIRLS, woman!! You have only met Girls at this point, WOMAN in the other hand are other things my friend

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 12:14 PM

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Originally Posted by 95zj

Girlfriend of a year broke up with me through a text message and all she could say was "I care about you, but I'm not happy. I want to break up. We can talk in a few days and see if we'll be in each other's future."

That was two weeks ago and I haven't heard from her since. Tried to contact her and she just said "No thanks. We were together for a year, but we aren't now."

I thought we could get back too. I thought we could patch things up. But it can't man. If this happens once, it's most likely going to happen again. The best thing to do is just stay busy CONSTANTLY and slowly but surely, your mind will work her out of your life. Time heals all wounds, and relationships are one of the hardest things to get past.

Just keep your head up, reconnect with old friends, focus hardcore on the gym, and live your life. Things happen for a reason my man.

Yeah i'm def trying bro.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by ICQ666

I won't answer to this because I just know that you are 20 and when you get to at least my age, 25, you will understand more things and will have a better and clear way of seeing NOT GIRLS, woman!! You have only met Girls at this point, WOMAN in the other hand are other things my friend

Well i hope so.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by ICQ666

Ok!! I am going outside to drink a fawking beer (I don't drink) and smoke a fawking pack of cigarettes (I Don't smoke) and scream my life away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If there is a "third" person, WTF are you waiting for to you get the fawk out? Don't wait for her to TELL YOU that it's OFFICIALLY OVER!! Grow up man! She is a FAWKING WHORE THAT KNOWS HOW TO PUSH YOUR STRINGS AND BUTTONS.

I can't believe she can play that bad with you. Just DON'T ANSWER! You don't FAWKING care about her New Dude, much less care about her. She knows she can come back to you anytime, so she feels it's correct to FAWK SOME OTHER COCKS IN THE MEAN TIME. I don't see how you don't see that!!! YOU ARE LAME!!!!!!!!!!!

Well that's what i did, i gave her time to figure out what it was she wanted, she chose him so i got with other girl's, then she would contact me again. Deep down i know i shoudnt be with her nor should want to, but i can't change my feeling's atm.

ICQ666 · 11-02-2009, 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Well that's what i did, i gave her time to figure out what it was she wanted, she chose him so i got with other girl's, then she would contact me again. Deep down i know i shoudnt be with her nor should want to, but i can't change my feeling's atm.

You can't change them at the moment, but you can guide them to where you want!!! BUT as long as you KNOW WHAT YOU WANT!!!

and my last advice:

FOLLOW WHAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY IN THE FUTURE. PICTURE WHAT WOULD BE IDEAL, NO PAIN, NO SUFFERING, DO YOU PICTURE THIS GIRL WITH YOU?

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-02-2009, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by ICQ666

You can't change them at the moment, but you can guide them to where you want!!! BUT as long as you KNOW WHAT YOU WANT!!!

and my last advice:

FOLLOW WHAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY IN THE FUTURE. PICTURE WHAT WOULD BE IDEAL, NO PAIN, NO SUFFERING, DO YOU PICTURE THIS GIRL WITH YOU?

Yes, i actually do. But in the mean time i'm just going to mess with other girl's, because it's really easy for me to them.

Monarchy · 11-02-2009, 12:53 PM

I ended a relationship and then got back together with her 1 month later, if she dumps you then you probably don't have a chance. Girls usually leave you when they find someone else.

MuscleStuck · 11-02-2009, 02:29 PM

^^this

Sicshift · 11-02-2009, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Yeah i'm def trying bro.

My girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me. I used to always believe the saying you'll find someone better but I've been in a lot of relationships (30 yrs old) and she was super successful, funny, smart, exciting, sexy, loyal. I ****ed it up by being lazy.

Anyway, it's been 8 weeks now since I moved out our home. She's said that if I got my **** together and were both single later on like a year or something, she'd maybe want to get back with me. It helps a little but I'm so mad over all this I don't know if I could risk it again.

My cousin broke up with his gf for a year and they got back together and are very happily married. It can happen for sure but odds are against us.

Now I'm totally being a loser and drinking nonstop (drunk now at 2:30) and just watching TV all day long. Sucks ass and I know I'm being lame but just f'd up big time.

Quii · 11-02-2009, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Anyone actually have experience with a girl breaking up with you then getting back together or wanted you back? Just looking for some storys to help analize my own situation.

Yes many times. Break up make up sex up break up make up sex up. It gets dramatic. L E A V E!

WhiteKMaro · 11-02-2009, 03:13 PM

Just leave right now. Happened to me. Bitch wanted me back. Went back with her. Now we're not together anymore. She's obsessed with me and doesn't want to give me back the clothes I left at her place. She has a new bf btw and the guy is super jealous because she still isn't over me. He wants to beat me up she wants to kill me, but neither of them can do ****. Causes a LOOOOOOT of talk**** though. Good luck. End it now.

Fire_mesiah · 11-02-2009, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Neg me if you wish, but she's been playing mind games with me a month instead of just saying we're done. Just like the other day she told me she dousn't know why she's dating him and she wants to be with me, then a day later when her current bf find's out about this she say's she want's nothing to do with me. She said she dleted my number, i just said ok, then she end's up calling me the other night and i didin't pick up. It's just every time i try to move on she put's herself back in my damn life.

Cut all contact with that girl, shes bad news, why would you want to be with someone whos playing you and the other guy off with each other? shes obviously using you for attention when her bf aint there, ditch that b!tch dude and cut all contact and dont awnser her calls dude will just make you think of her more when you/she has hung up. Plenty of nicer girls out there.

WhiteKMaro · 11-02-2009, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Neg me if you wish, but she's been playing mind games with me a month instead of just saying we're done. Just like the other day she told me she dousn't know why she's dating him and she wants to be with me, then a day later when her current bf find's out about this she say's she want's nothing to do with me. She said she dleted my number, i just said ok, then she end's up calling me the other night and i didin't pick up. It's just every time i try to move on she put's herself back in my damn life.

wow you're like her second choice **** that ****ing bitch