Why I think relationships are failing and men are having trouble these days...

BreesieBabby · 10-13-2009, 01:14 PM

COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS.

discuss.

michielp · 10-13-2009, 01:24 PM

Pretty broad subject. Any statements you want to discuss in particular?

DocHol1day · 10-13-2009, 01:25 PM

your tellin me........ i dont even know if i have a gf or not.....

skier_ · 10-13-2009, 01:26 PM

This is the misc and the only reason anything goes wrong is because women leave the kitchen.

GoutDeMiel · 10-13-2009, 01:26 PM

i agree.

they call us out for being thick-skulled space cadets but then bitch when we can't decipher their man-hints. no duh

CUT US A BREAK AND TELL US WHAT YOU WANT

/rant

Jaw-Knee · 10-13-2009, 01:27 PM

LOL, this coming from a woman.

Guy: What's the matter?

Girl: **Sigh.** Nothing.

Guy: Okay... Well, let me know if you need to talk.

(Three hours later)

Girl: OMG you're such a fucking jerk!

Guy: What the hell? What'd I do?

Girl: YOU WEREN'T THERE FOR ME!

bitty_bish · 10-13-2009, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by DocHol1day

your tellin me........ i dont even know if i have a gf or not.....

Ahahahahaha! Seriously??

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Originally Posted by GoutDeMiel

i agree.

they call us being thick-skulled space cadets but then bitch when we can't decipher their man-hints. no duh

CUT US A BREAK AND TELL US WHAT YOU WANT

/rant

Sometimes you make way too much sense.

skier_ · 10-13-2009, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by DocHol1day

your tellin me........ i dont even know if i have a gf or not.....

This still hasn't been cleared up?

GoutDeMiel · 10-13-2009, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

LOL, this coming from a woman.

Guy: What's the matter?

Girl: **Sigh.** Nothing.

Guy: Okay... Well, let me know if you need to talk.

(Three hours later)

Girl: OMG you're such a fucking jerk!

Guy: What the hell? What'd I do?

Girl: YOU WEREN'T THERE FOR ME!

ahh, but look at docholiday's post and remember his situation? communication on his part....FAIL

Tiffany Wantsmore · 10-13-2009, 01:34 PM

Heard this the other day:

Girl: Sorry I was being such a bitch.
Guy: Its ok.
Girl: So you think I'm a bitch? You bastard! etc

Crazy.

michielp · 10-13-2009, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Tiffany Wantsmore

Heard this the other day:

Girl: Sorry I was being such a bitch.
Guy: Its ok.
Girl: So you think I'm a bitch? You bastard! etc

Crazy.

That is, indeed, crazy. What would the world look like if we guys started doing stuff like that as well?

Tingling · 10-13-2009, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by skier_

This is the misc and the only reason anything goes wrong is because women leave the kitchen.

ltmq

Jaw-Knee · 10-13-2009, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by GoutDeMiel

ahh, but look at docholiday's post and remember his situation? communication on his part....FAIL

But is it solely on his part or is that on both of them?

peekay07 · 10-13-2009, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by breessaint35

COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS.

discuss.

having good communication will not always be able to change a person into being "emotional mature, have good money management, can cook and values cleanliness and order in her household/life." things such as qualities, virtues, moral/ ethical values are taught throughout life as a child and is a constant lesson in life, but once a person is already in their mid 20s it is very hard to teach someone the skills of life....no lie

GoutDeMiel · 10-13-2009, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

But is it solely on his part or is that on both of them?

ahh, it falls on both of them....not just her

guys are just as guilty of communication failures as women - they're just different. we aren't able to decipher hints any more than you guys are.

have anything to add, breesiepoo?

beaucephus · 10-13-2009, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by breessaint35

COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS.

discuss.

Being honest, I think its because men & women have lost their identity. Marriages work because men are men and women are women, when those lines are skewed, each loses their identity and becomes resentful of the other. I don't think women should work (my opinion, I'm entitled to it) unless its something that they love doing or a humanitarian type project. I think men should stick to bringing home the income and women should stick to keeping a tight house. This dates back to our beginnings as humans on the planet. I have plenty of friends who I can discuss work stuff with, I don't need a wife to discuss it with. I need a wife to be good where I am lacking. I suck at taking care of myself. hell, I've got a broken foot right now and I'm still training Jiu Jitsu several nights a week. My wife went from her parents house to our home, never lived on her own, never did the "independant woman" thing, never had the chance to act like a man and for that, she's very feminine. Women should be loved and cared for by men that take care of them and love them. They shouldn't be out testing several diks to see which one feels best or discussing their sex lives with other women. be feminine ladies, if we wanted to sex other men, all of us men would be gay.

At least that's the way I see it. I like feminine, petite, ladies that put 100% of their faith in me to take charge and lead the way, for better or worse. I guess there's other guys that want a partner in success, but that's not for me. My friends can help me excel financially, I don't want a wife for that.

Tiffany Wantsmore · 10-13-2009, 02:00 PM

That's all very well beaucephus, but what if you need someone to lean on? Putting the man in charge places all the pressure on him, when the woman could be equally as emotionally strong.

Personally I think a couple should take care of each other, not have one relying on the other to shoulder all the burden.

Jaw-Knee · 10-13-2009, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by GoutDeMiel

ahh, it falls on both of them....not just her

guys are just as guilty of communication failures as women - they're just different. we aren't able to decipher hints any more than you guys are.

True. And both genders like to pretend they know it all. Lol @ people.

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Originally Posted by Tiffany Wantsmore

That's all very well beaucephus, but what if you need someone to lean on? Putting the man in charge places all the pressure on him, when the woman could be equally as emotionally strong.

Personally I think a couple should take care of each other, not have one relying on the other to shoulder all the burden.

Well whaddaya know? I concur.

Tiffany Wantsmore · 10-13-2009, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

Well whaddaya know? I concur.

There's a first time for everything!

AldoX · 10-13-2009, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Tiffany Wantsmore

That's all very well beaucephus, but what if you need someone to lean on? Putting the man in charge places all the pressure on him, when the woman could be equally as emotionally strong.

Personally I think a couple should take care of each other, not have one relying on the other to shoulder all the burden.

Idk.. but I think if a relationship is going to work there has to be a dominant person in the relationship. I think a lot of arguments/problems come up when someone doesn't take clear control of the situation. ( not saying it has to be a male )

Bones98 · 10-13-2009, 02:16 PM

Things to blame:
-Modern feminism
-Sex In The City
-Desperate Housewives
-....And all that whore ****.

bitty_bish · 10-13-2009, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Bones98

Things to blame:
-Modern feminism
-Sex In The City
-Desperate Housewives
-....And all that whore ****.

You forgot Miley Cyrus.

EPMD · 10-13-2009, 02:41 PM

Were people happier in relationships 100 years ago than they are today? I'm not so sure they were. Just because divorce is more acceptable and commonplace now doesn't mean relationship problems are now more common than they used to be.

beaucephus · 10-13-2009, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Tiffany Wantsmore

That's all very well beaucephus, but what if you need someone to lean on? Putting the man in charge places all the pressure on him, when the woman could be equally as emotionally strong.

Personally I think a couple should take care of each other, not have one relying on the other to shoulder all the burden.

I accepted the responsibility when I decided to get married. Emotionally, I leave my wife to lead the way, she's better at it than I am. Taking care of each other is complimenting each other (not saying "you're hot"), where one of the spouses fill the others voids. Men, today, are pu$$ies. They don't know (nor want) how to take charge. How many guys do you see ordering for their wives? Its rare. There's the unspoken rules that "marriage material" lives by. Don't be home after midnight, call when you are going to be late, don't let me come home to a dirty house and you laying on the couch... Little things like this are unspoken rules that people who "should be" married are automatically in-tuned to. I honestly think that there are marriage material people and non-marriage material people.

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Originally Posted by AldoX

Idk.. but I think if a relationship is going to work there has to be a dominant person in the relationship. I think a lot of arguments/problems come up when someone doesn't take clear control of the situation. ( not saying it has to be a male )

If it's not the male, then she better have a long strap-on.

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Originally Posted by EPMD

Were people happier in relationships 100 years ago than they are today? I'm not so sure they were. Just because divorce is more acceptable and commonplace now doesn't mean relationship problems are now more common than they used to be.

I think they were.

13Zulu · 10-13-2009, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by skier_

This is the misc and the only reason anything goes wrong is because women leave the kitchen.

The misc is strong in this one...

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

LOL, this coming from a woman.

Guy: What's the matter?

Girl: **Sigh.** Nothing.

Guy: Okay... Well, let me know if you need to talk.

(Three hours later)

Girl: OMG you're such a fucking jerk!

Guy: What the hell? What'd I do?

Girl: YOU WEREN'T THERE FOR ME!

Wow that's never happened to me...

*rolls eyes*

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Originally Posted by Tiffany Wantsmore

Heard this the other day:

Girl: Sorry I was being such a bitch.
Guy: Its ok.
Girl: So you think I'm a bitch? You bastard! etc

.

Sometimes Tid can be hard to live with.....

Tiffany Wantsmore · 10-13-2009, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by beaucephus

I accepted the responsibility when I decided to get married. Emotionally, I leave my wife to lead the way, she's better at it than I am. Taking care of each other is complimenting each other (not saying "you're hot"), where one of the spouses fill the others voids. Men, today, are pu$$ies. They don't know (nor want) how to take charge. How many guys do you see ordering for their wives? Its rare. There's the unspoken rules that "marriage material" lives by. Don't be home after midnight, call when you are going to be late, don't let me come home to a dirty house and you laying on the couch... Little things like this are unspoken rules that people who "should be" married are automatically in-tuned to. I honestly think that there are marriage material people and non-marriage material people.

I agree with you here, this kind of relationship is exactly what it should be. Mutual respect and consideration of each other.

NyC_BosaNaC · 10-13-2009, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Tiffany Wantsmore

I agree with you here, this kind of relationship is exactly what it should be. Mutual respect and consideration of each other.

a women with a brain! about time....

maeru · 10-13-2009, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by breessaint35

COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS.

discuss.

the irony is strong in this post.

"Hey guys communicate about communicating because no communication is the problem"
Damn where is that meme generator for xzibit when I need it ; ;

God I have to tell you the story about the lesbian later, much drama and lulz.

CelticBhoy · 10-13-2009, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by breessaint35

COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS.

discuss.

I'll say that is an extremely broad and obvious statement. The majority of problems originate from lack of communication and if I haven't said it a thousand times: communicating is absolute ****ing crucial when it comes to having a successful, healthy, and fulfilling relationship.

Once you start closing the gate of communication, the **** starts to hit the fan. Listen to me: When fights occur it's 9 times out of 10 due to a lack of communication. Something was bother you that he/she did and you decided to ignore it. Now it's festering inside, and little trivial things that are completely innocent are bothering you OR everything is GOLDEN and you're being all grumpy and moody...ruining your partner's mood now. And this **** builds and builds until finally it blows up in a stupid, over-acting, and over-temper fight because 2 weeks ago, someTHING was bothering you and you decided to STFU and not openly communicate to alleviate the problem.

The same goes with cheating. Something that your partner is doing/did is still bothering you. Or you turn something dumb around and justify that you were the victim and that sleeping with this person is going to be your revenge! Or something dumb. But my point is: you didn't solve the problem and this is your "escape" from it all.

When communication closes, that's when the lying, cheating, spying, fake stories, stress, jealousy, insecurities, etc. run rampant. Now you two are Mr. and Mrs. Smith: A good-looking couple on the outside, hidden behind miles of deceit, sins, and lies.

xJustin · 10-13-2009, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by breessaint35

COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS.

discuss.

i think its because men dont know how to act around women. Usually its not the womens fault that she loses interest/attraction for her man.

communication is bull**** because men and woman dont speak the same language for the most part