gf situation.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 10:36 AM

Well i've recently had another thread on this, but to update the situation i was going nout with this girl for nearly a year. She say's i was the love of her life ect, still say's i was her first true love even though we are broken up now. Bassically our relashionship went down hill and we would argue all the time and she would cry all the time and i would threaten to leave her alot but never did. Well she met another guy last week and already started going on dates with him, but then would tell me she wasn't and we are still together ect.. She say's she still loves me and i'm her first true love and she dousn't know if i'd have another chance with her, she said idk mabey.

But this guy dousn't have a myspace, and near everyone of her myspace statuses are all about him and how amazing he is ect.. She's trying to make me jealous but why? Also she reads my myspace updates all the time to see what i'm doing and i know for a fact she get's extremly jealous if i hangout with other girls yet. People have told me she's just looking for a rebound guy to give into her all the time like this guy dous, and with time she will come back to me. I know everyone will say just move on, but i really can't at this point and i always see couples breaking up and the girl falls for some really nice guy but then breaks up with him to go back with a ex. Any thoughts?

And before i knew about the guy last week she said she wanted time and space, but she didin't want to me to go out and move on.

Box_o_Dynamite · 10-08-2009, 10:38 AM

fight for her before its too late!

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 10:40 AM

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fight for her before its too late!

At first i was begging her, it didin't work, i almost think it's to late to get her back now, i think her mind is set on riding it out with this guy for awhile until she get's bored of him or he turns out to be a douch.

Box_o_Dynamite · 10-08-2009, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

At first i was begging her, it didin't work, i almost think it's to late to get her back now, i think her mind is set on riding it out with this guy for awhile until she get's bored of him or he turns out to be a douch.

ok dont beg

Manly5000 · 10-08-2009, 10:43 AM

It's over, man. Sorry, but that's the truth. Why would you be willing to put up with this **** from her in the first place? As much as you think you love her, there is someone much better out there that you'll love more.

Never ever compete for a girl's affection, ex-gf or not. Seriously. If she doesn't want you and you alone, move on.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Manly5000

It's over, man. Sorry, but that's the truth. Why would you be willing to put up with this **** from her in the first place? As much as you think you love her, there is someone much better out there that you'll love more.

Never ever compete for a girl's affection, ex-gf or not. Seriously. If she doesn't want you and you alone, move on.

I mean you think it's over for good? And i'll never get with her again?

Manly5000 · 10-08-2009, 10:47 AM

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I mean you think it's over for good? And i'll never get with her again?

Maybe she'll want you again someday if it doesn't work out with the other dude, maybe she won't. Who really knows? But one thing's for sure -- she's playing you against him and stroking the hell out of her ego in doing so. She's not worthy of your attention.

I could never be with or take back a girl who did that crap. If a girl doesn't want just you, don't give her the attention she's trying to get by making you compete.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 10:51 AM

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Maybe she'll want you again someday if it doesn't work out with the other dude, maybe she won't. Who really knows? But one thing's for sure -- she's playing you against him and stroking the hell out of her ego in doing so. She's not worthy of your attention.

I could never be with or take back a girl who did that crap. If a girl doesn't want just you, don't give her the attention she's trying to get by making you compete.

See some people told me i should give her flowers ect, but it sound's like i should just ignore it, and see if she gets tired of him and wants me back ect..

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 10:52 AM

To me it's like a new video game that comes out, you jump on the chance to get it and play it, then you get tired of it and go back to the original game you once played. I think that's why some girls break up with there ex to be with somone thats supposed to be so much better, then end up getting back with there ex.

Manly5000 · 10-08-2009, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

See some people told me i should give her flowers ect, but it sound's like i should just ignore it, and see if she gets tired of him and wants me back ect..

The more you try to "win" her back, the more of a chump you'll make yourself look like to her. Especially if you start buying her things. The best thing you can do is just move on brah. It sucks but it's the truth, and you'll feel much better in no time if you just say "She doesn't want to be with me? Fine, her loss." and find someone else.

WizardGlick · 10-08-2009, 10:59 AM

Sounds more like she's keeping you around in case this other guy doesn't work out. Don't be her safety net. Tell her either make a decision on him or you, or it's over.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 11:07 AM

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Sounds more like she's keeping you around in case this other guy doesn't work out. Don't be her safety net. Tell her either make a decision on him or you, or it's over.

She already knows we are done, it's just that i'm hoping she comes back to me someday. And she obviously wants me to know how great this guy is, i mean if i didin't give a **** about my ex, i woudn't go out of my way to make her jealous.

Wolves42 · 10-08-2009, 12:03 PM

Yeah bro i bet she will be back to you like others have been saying, she just wants to see what you will do from all of this by saying how great this dude is when really he's probably just a ***

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 12:08 PM

Yeah plus it sounds like he spoils her to death and pays for everything all the time ect, i think girls like to think they would love that but i think they would get bored with it after awhile.

Wolves42 · 10-08-2009, 12:14 PM

Yeah dude i agree but yeah i bet that's the only way he could keep her around is by trying to spoil her because that's all he has to offer for her

Who? · 10-08-2009, 12:15 PM

weak advice itt.

Your 'gf' is a slut. She's ****ing some other dude and keeping your pussy whipped ass on a leash because she knows you dont have the balls to move on.

She's already proved she's worthless, and that she views you as worthless. Why else would she screw some other guy and fawn over him on myspace?

WTF makes you even want to be with her still?

Find a new girl.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 12:25 PM

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weak advice itt.

Your 'gf' is a slut. She's ****ing some other dude and keeping your pussy whipped ass on a leash because she knows you dont have the balls to move on.

She's already proved she's worthless, and that she views you as worthless. Why else would she screw some other guy and fawn over him on myspace?

WTF makes you even want to be with her still?

Find a new girl.

She's been with 5 guys including me all bf's except one. I'll have to move on, i just hope she wants me back.

PushIt2287 · 10-08-2009, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Manly5000

It's over, man. Sorry, but that's the truth. Why would you be willing to put up with this **** from her in the first place? As much as you think you love her, there is someone much better out there that you'll love more.

Never ever compete for a girl's affection, ex-gf or not. Seriously. If she doesn't want you and you alone, move on.

this!!!^ find things to keep yourself occupied, get rid of myspace, facebook, pictures, etc... as long as you stay occupied then you won't mull over thoughts of her and it'll be much easier to move on.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 12:31 PM

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this!!!^ find things to keep yourself occupied, get rid of myspace, facebook, pictures, etc... as long as you stay occupied then you won't mull over thoughts of her and it'll be much easier to move on.

Yeah i'm saying i know it's over atm, but i want to know if there is another chance i'll have, alot of times girls break up with there bf's to get with someone then end up breaking up with them for there ex. I'm not even saying i'd take her back.

Manly5000 · 10-08-2009, 12:33 PM

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Yeah i'm saying i know it's over atm, but i want to know if there is another chance i'll have, alot of times girls break up with there bf's to get with someone then end up breaking up with them for there ex. I'm not even saying i'd take her back.

Why would you even want another chance? So she'll just get bored of you all over again and repeat the same process?

Find someone better man, all you have to do is look.

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 12:40 PM

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Why would you even want another chance? So she'll just get bored of you all over again and repeat the same process?

Find someone better man, all you have to do is look.

Well alot of it was my fault, i said i was breaking up with her alot and she would cry all the time and i treated her pretty poorly over the last month.

JTLDN · 10-08-2009, 12:51 PM

The harder you try to keep her there, the more inclined she is to leave you.

ICQ666 · 10-08-2009, 12:55 PM

There is no excuse........MOVE ON, GOD DAMN IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Another guy is involved, don't you fawking get it!!!! When there is a third person involved, you are pretty much done sir, please, move on!!

Pisses me off because she has you on a leash, seriously!

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by ICQ666

There is no excuse........MOVE ON, GOD DAMN IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Another guy is involved, don't you fawking get it!!!! When there is a third person involved, you are pretty much done sir, please, move on!!

Pisses me off because she has you on a leash, seriously!

She dosun't though, i don't beg for her or even talk to her unless she dous to me first. I said my final words to her, it's just someday i'd like to have her back.

ICQ666 · 10-08-2009, 01:05 PM

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She dosun't though, i don't beg for her or even talk to her unless she dous to me first. I said my final words to her, it's just someday i'd like to have her back.

NO NO NO NO! Don't be hopeful man, seriously because if she doesn't come back, you will be hurt more. Just forget about her NOW. No body says that in the future you might come back to her, but for now, just forget it. Don't be hopeful!! That's not going to let your mind relax if you are still in hope she will come back. Go out and talk to other girls man! Seriously, give another girl a chance. Just ex isn't doing any good.

BEST OF LUCK!! Be smart!

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by ICQ666

NO NO NO NO! Don't be hopeful man, seriously because if she doesn't come back, you will be hurt more. Just forget about her NOW. No body says that in the future you might come back to her, but for now, just forget it. Don't be hopeful!! That's not going to let your mind relax if you are still in hope she will come back. Go out and talk to other girls man! Seriously, give another girl a chance. Just ex isn't doing any good.

BEST OF LUCK!! Be smart!

For me to try to get over her, i just need to know that it's possable that i could get back with her again, who knows mabey a month from now i won't really care anymore.

NYY · 10-08-2009, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

For me to try to get over her, i just need to know that it's possable that i could get back with her again, who knows mabey a month from now i won't really care anymore.

Why would you want to get back with her in the future? Just so you can have another helping of the same bull**** you're currently eating?

DocHol1day · 10-08-2009, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

For me to try to get over her, i just need to know that it's possable that i could get back with her again, who knows mabey a month from now i won't really care anymore.

stop man just stop! yes there is a chance that you could get her back, in fact i would bet good money that you'll probably **** her within 2 weeks, but thats not the point. when a break up happens you only get one change to man up. its not too late. cut all contact. follow all that other advice you see on here that i'm not gonna bother to retype. you'll be glad you did.

or you can go back to begging and not even be able to look at yourself in the mirror.

the choice is yours

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 10-08-2009, 05:11 PM

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Why would you want to get back with her in the future? Just so you can have another helping of the same bull**** you're currently eating?

Because she was a great gf to me, i mean she drove out my way to see me everytime, she made me feel good, gave into me alot, when my car got trashed she would pick me up all the time ect, i feel like i am the one who ruined it by treating her badly the last month. Thats why i really don't blame her for leaving me when some sweet charming guy came around, but it's like i need that second chance to prove i can be a better person than who i was. And right now she's not willing to give it to me, i just hope if i act like i move on or i do move on she will come back, because i know i could make things work.

Italiantank26 · 10-08-2009, 06:11 PM

no homo my heart goes out for you, it sucks u don't realize what u have till you lose it