On a serious note!

[paolo59]

Why is it that we never realize how much something is worth until we lose it? We're not morons, relatively educated generally speaking, cognizant, recognizing what is important and what is not. It will be Halloween before you know it. The kids are jacked up already. After that, if you're an American, Thanksgiving, and in three or four weeks time, Christmas. The year is gone before you know it! Sit back and take stock of life, what's around you daily, and what is of worth and real value. If it "counts," and to be truthful, very few things count in life other than a breathing, living soul; make sure that they know it! People are what this life is about. Things and possessions are pathetically relative in the larger scope of this life that we live. Just the musings of a growing grey and daily more wrinkled old man!

[dungeonmistress]

Originally Posted by paolo59

Why is it that we never realize how much something is worth until we lose it? We're not morons, relatively educated generally speaking, cognizant, recognizing what is important and what is not. It will be Halloween before you know it. The kids are jacked up already. After that, if you're an American, Thanksgiving, and in three or four weeks time, Christmas. The year is gone before you know it! Sit back and take stock of life, what's around you daily, and what is of worth and real value. If it "counts," and to be truthful, very few things count in life other than a breathing, living soul; make sure that they know it! People are what this life is about. Things and possessions are pathetically relative in the larger scope of this life that we live. Just the musings of a growing grey and daily more wrinkled old man!

amen brother! i learned this lesson when my boyfriend died going on 4 months ago. i try to tell those for whom i care how much they mean to me, and show it. you never know whether today will be the last time you see them and then you will never have the chance to let them how much they meant to you.

holidaze this year will be rough, for sure.

[hochspeyer]

Back in the day (whatever that means! ), folks used to say "count your blessings." One of my dad's favorite expressions (he grew up in the Great Depression) was "I used to complain about not having shoes until I met a man with no feet." All of this used to be part of the fabric of the American people at one level or another. There were always those that were ungrateful or unsatisfied, but NEVER to the extent that we find them today.

Every day really is a gift.

[Deborah_Lyn]

OP - very good point!

Live the love you have for family and friends. You really never know what life will throw at you.

Originally Posted by dungeonmistress

amen brother! i learned this lesson when my boyfriend died going on 4 months ago. i try to tell those for whom i care how much they mean to me, and show it. you never know whether today will be the last time you see them and then you will never have the chance to let them how much they meant to you.

holidaze this year will be rough, for sure.

I'd really suggest not being home for the holidays. Go to a friend's place or resturant and try to be outside yourself. The shock of mourning is realizing the world really does carry on w/o them. My totally unsolicted advice - allow yourself to heal as you can, don't feel guilt.

I just realized the other day, it's 27 years this month since my Sister died. 10 since Mom passed last May. Dad is 70 and I pray he's got another 20+ years left in him he's a rock in my world.

[sluge]

You know. I know I take a lot of things for granted. Not sure why , but i do. Many of you know the issue's I have faced and still facing. Over the past 1 1/2 or 2 months I have been doing a lot of thinking. Not just about my failing marriage, but everything. One thing I have come to realize is the fact that I do not love myself. Yes, I train to be in good shape and good health,but to me that is a way of life and not "love" for myself. I have been working on this issue. Again I owe alot to my female friend, she means a lot to me and she helps me with so many things. Do you all know up until 2 months ago I thougth of susicide daily for 4 years, I know this is a touchy subject and I apologize but I want to be honest with myself and with you all. I went to my first counseling session this week because to honest I am just worn out mentally. I have to fix myself and learn to love ME before I can truely love anyone else. I'm still debating divorce, still fighting some emotions, but I have to take it one day at a time and one obsticle at a time. I'm learning to shut down negative thoughts as soon as they pop in my head, I'm learning to be more patient , and I'm learning to slow down my thought processes.

I do know outside of learning to love myself one of my greatest battles lies ahead. That is the battle of courage, courage to stand and say to my other half that it is over. I have no emotional feelings towards our marriage anymore, it sucks but as it has been mentioned before life throws things at you with no explanation. Maybe it's the things she has told me that caused me to drift, maybe it's things I have said that caused us both to drift or maybe it just that fact that people's desires , needs, and wants change as they get older. Whatever the answer is I'm tired of just co-existing in a relationship that is filled with distrust, anger, and 80% arguing.

I will overcome, I will not succumb to the temptation to die or to give up on hope. I am a fighter, I refuse to be anything else but that.

peace

[paulb72]

Originally Posted by paolo59

Why is it that we never realize how much something is worth until we lose it? We're not morons, relatively educated generally speaking, cognizant, recognizing what is important and what is not. It will be Halloween before you know it. The kids are jacked up already. After that, if you're an American, Thanksgiving, and in three or four weeks time, Christmas. The year is gone before you know it! Sit back and take stock of life, what's around you daily, and what is of worth and real value. If it "counts," and to be truthful, very few things count in life other than a breathing, living soul; make sure that they know it! People are what this life is about. Things and possessions are pathetically relative in the larger scope of this life that we live. Just the musings of a growing grey and daily more wrinkled old man!

Thanks for the reminder. Life seems to get in the way of what really matters.

Very poignant at the moment as I watch my father in law daily engage in a battle for life against prostate cancer, yet somehow he finds the time to remind us all that the most important thing in life is to make the most of it, every second. Especially to make the most of the time with loved ones, especially coming into the holiday season.

[Ctrainer]

Originally Posted by dungeonmistress

amen brother! i learned this lesson when my boyfriend died going on 4 months ago. i try to tell those for whom i care how much they mean to me, and show it. you never know whether today will be the last time you see them and then you will never have the chance to let them how much they meant to you.

holidaze this year will be rough, for sure.

Sorry about your loss!!


My sister was killed in a car accident when I was 16..had a pretty big chip on my shoulder for a long time but as I get older I try to turn it into keeping my priorities in line...I tell my husband and my boys I love them everytime we part!!!

Somedays when I get to bishin', I take a deep breath and count my blessings...works everytime!!

[Minotaur]

Originally Posted by paolo59

Things and possessions are pathetically relative in the larger scope of this life that we live.

Don't cry over things that can't cry over you. It's OK to grieve for animals because they grieve for us.

[KeepItMoving]

I don't take things for granted. I really don't. That perspective has come with age. Letting go of placing some kind of intrinsic or personal value to material things took me a long ways towards this perspective.

I wise man once told me, "There's nothing more overrated than a piece of ass and more underrated than a good bowel movement" Now, he was something of a course man, and he used different terms, but I took meaning from this. Keep things in perspective. I don't miss things of true value while chasing the other stuff. Sure, it makes me something of an anomaly amongst my peers, but, so be it.

[dungeonmistress]

Originally Posted by sluge

You know. I know I take a lot of things for granted. Not sure why , but i do. Many of you know the issue's I have faced and still facing. Over the past 1 1/2 or 2 months I have been doing a lot of thinking. Not just about my failing marriage, but everything. One thing I have come to realize is the fact that I do not love myself. Yes, I train to be in good shape and good health,but to me that is a way of life and not "love" for myself. I have been working on this issue. Again I owe alot to my female friend, she means a lot to me and she helps me with so many things. Do you all know up until 2 months ago I thougth of susicide daily for 4 years, I know this is a touchy subject and I apologize but I want to be honest with myself and with you all. I went to my first counseling session this week because to honest I am just worn out mentally. I have to fix myself and learn to love ME before I can truely love anyone else. I'm still debating divorce, still fighting some emotions, but I have to take it one day at a time and one obsticle at a time. I'm learning to shut down negative thoughts as soon as they pop in my head, I'm learning to be more patient , and I'm learning to slow down my thought processes.

I do know outside of learning to love myself one of my greatest battles lies ahead. That is the battle of courage, courage to stand and say to my other half that it is over. I have no emotional feelings towards our marriage anymore, it sucks but as it has been mentioned before life throws things at you with no explanation. Maybe it's the things she has told me that caused me to drift, maybe it's things I have said that caused us both to drift or maybe it just that fact that people's desires , needs, and wants change as they get older. Whatever the answer is I'm tired of just co-existing in a relationship that is filled with distrust, anger, and 80% arguing.

I will overcome, I will not succumb to the temptation to die or to give up on hope. I am a fighter, I refuse to be anything else but that.

peace

((((big tight hug)))) realizing is the first step to healing. I wish you peace, joy
and love.

[dungeonmistress]

Originally Posted by Ctrainer

Sorry about your loss!!


My sister was killed in a car accident when I was 16..had a pretty big chip on my shoulder for a long time but as I get older I try to turn it into keeping my priorities in line...I tell my husband and my boys I love them everytime we part!!!

Somedays when I get to bishin', I take a deep breath and count my blessings...works everytime!!

Thanks much. I am sorry for yours as well. I k ow death is a part of
life but it's only recently that i've decided
to turn the loss into a life lesson.

[sluge]

Originally Posted by dungeonmistress

((((big tight hug)))) realizing is the first step to healing. I wish you peace, joy
and love.

Thank you very much!