What to do when gf/bf breaks up with you

[CelticBhoy]

Unfortunately I've been seeing a lot of threads recently about breakups. Some guys will try to befriend their exes, others are unsure what there next step is. Just figured I'd post this for all of you. I understand that there is no "universal" method for recovering from a breakup. Take this as a guideline and hopefully this simplified method will help YOU keep your life, sanity, and heart in order.



A) You need to stop meeting up with her. Stop everything involved with her. CUT OFF ALL CONTACT.

B) Do not sit at home and do nothing. This just allows you to think about her and what you once had which often triggers an emotional response (such as working things out). GO OUT WITH FRIENDS, drink, have fun, meet new girls just take your mind off her. Remember girls come and go, but true friends are forever.

C) LIFT HARD IN THE GYM. Concentrate on you and only you. Make yourself a better person. Work out, study, make money, look for a better job, basically improve you.

D) REMEMBER, YOU BROKE UP FOR A REASON. Keep telling yourself that. When you do begin to ponder about her (which you will), think of the negatives and how better off you are without her.

E) TIME HEALS ALL. It's hard to imagine not caring about this girl but believe me over time your feelings will change, it just takes time. Be patient. Don't take a backwards step and go back to her. You did the right thing.

F) TAKE CONTROL OF THE THINGS THAT "YOU CAN CONTROL." Meaning, STOP reflecting on your ex, your sorrows, your depression, etc. it's not only negative energy it's wasted time and effort. Stop, because you have absolutely no control whatsoever of that situation. What you DO have control over is: Life (School, work, gym, social life, hobbies, dreams, etc.). By taking control of events that are controllable, everything else will fall in place. You will create order in your life (not chaos) and with order comes peace of mind and a positive attitude.

Good luck, brahs.

If anyone has any questions/comments please feel free to post here.

[janky]

in b4 janky


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Good post op.


1rd

[CelticBhoy]

Originally Posted by janky

in b4 janky


wait ..



Good post op.


1rd

...God, you are bored

[x800venom]

It only takes 1 person to live 1 life. There is no reason why you need "her" in order to live yours.

[Galvatorex]

kill them

[frankenstein]

I guarantee we've all made the mistakes of wallowing in self-pity after a breakup. I know I have. It's important to learn from our own and other's mistakes by simply doing one thing and one thing only. Everything else falls into place after this: concentrate on you. After a breakup is the perfect time to take up a new hobby or learn something new. Start taking martial arts of take some dance lessons. Get a 2nd job completely different than your primary job a few days per week, go travel to someplace new, etc. It takes you out of your head and wakes you up to the fact that there's a bigger world out there than you realized before. Expanding your horizons automatically goes hand in hand with realizing there's a big world out there, with plenty of fish in the sea.