There are tons of threads on here about ppl cheating, being cheated on etc etc
But, lets say you're in a relationship, everything is peachy (to you), and then your girlfriend/boyfried tells you they cheated on you.
Would you want to know or no?
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But sometimes, being honest is jus dum, and tellin a lie might save your behind.
Sort of, yeah.
In retrospect, I was just thinking if it happened to me and if I'd really want to know or not. I mean, my curiosity may get the best of me, but really...wtf do I need to know, especially if no good can come of it?
idk man
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Sort of, yeah.
In retrospect, I was just thinking if it happened to me and if I'd really want to know or not. I mean, my curiosity may get the best of me, but really...wtf do I need to know, especially if no good can come of it?
idk man
Now that I think back, if I had done sht with her, then yea I should tell my gf for the sake of being a good man.
But since I didn't even touch her, I chose not to.
Mistakes happen, just make sure they're not big ones and you don't do them again.
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As for you, (i jus realized you're a girl lol), I dont think you'd really need to know if he didn't do anything except flirt (hopefully nothin like my case). It's not right, but it's not something you should break up over. Besides it might crate unwanted tension.
Of course I'd want to know so I can break up with her ASAP. There's absolutely no good excuse for someone to cheat unless they were planning to check out anyways. I'd also have to question their intelligence and loyalty if they put themselves in a compromising situation (alcohol).
I would, but also in a way, ignorance is bliss. :/ life sucks.
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If he was letting subtle signs that he wasn't into me any more & I didn't get them then he cheated & I found out...I'd sort of "blame" myself for not noticing...that was my bad. But still the blames on him.
If it was a random drunk night hook up...that's totally on him...
in all honesty, you want to be happy, I would want to be happy. If I was unhappy and she cheated, **** yeah, otherwise I'd lose tons of weight, fall into depression and waste many days of my life. It sucks that we even live in a world where this is even an issue.
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Yeah I would want to know. I dont want to waste anymore time on somebody who doesnt deserve it
I completely agree with this. If she cheated before, she very likely would do it again also. I'd rather not catch a disease. Plus, if you can't trust her to stay faithful, what other areas is she not trustworthy.
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I would like to know. There is nothing more painful than knowing that the person you're with is having intimate fantasies about someone else. This is disgusting and the girl is not worth ****.
I really need to show this thread to my Friend, maybe it'll get her head straight.
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I'd rather not know. Ignorance is bliss. The main reason people confess is because they feel guilty, but all that does is put their hurt onto the innocent party. Unless you catch an STD or you're planning to leave your partner for this other person, there's no need to say anything, really. Especially if there's no chance of them finding out any other way.
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I'd rather not know. Ignorance is bliss. The main reason people confess is because they feel guilty, but all that does is put their hurt onto the innocent party. Unless you catch an STD or you're planning to leave your partner for this other person, there's no need to say anything, really. Especially if there's no chance of them finding out any other way.
Yeah I would want to know. I dont want to waste anymore time on somebody who doesnt deserve it
This.
I dont understand why any one would want to choose to be any more humiliated and betrayed than they already would be.... all so they can live on in unwitting delusional bliss when the reality that they believe to be true is in actuality all a lie.
IMO it speaks volumes about a persons self esteem and the value of their own self worth for them to willingly justify the rationalisation of ignorance being bliss just to prolong living in an environment that is based on betrayal, deceit and manipulation... all for another human being who's actions speak far far louder than their words of ''I love you''.
Sure its in the cheaters best interests to keep quiet for the sake of having your cake and eating it too.... but to propagate keeping quiet as being some conveyance of martyrdom in protecting another persons hurt is silly....if someone was that concerned of the other persons well-being then they'd never have betrayed them in the first place.
But then again we live in a time where everyone wants to be an Adult but nobody actually wants to behave like one either, because that'd actually mean being made to take personal responsibility and be made to be culpable for your actions. That part of adulthood sucks and clearly doesn't fit in with the 'do it because it feels good man' mentality, so people will justify doing whatever they want no matter what because as long as no one finds out then its all copacetic.
Ooh imagine a society where 1 in 10 Women lived with that mentality........ a Man would be risking being duped into to bringing up a child that wasn't his....oh wait.
Ooh imagine a society where between 1 in 10 and 1 IN 3 Women lived with that mentality........ a Man would be risking being duped into to bringing up a child that wasn't his....oh wait.
Yeah I'd wanna know. I like to know exactly what kind of people I associate with. If I'm with a cheater, then obviously all the time I'd have spent with them would've been a waste.
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I dont understand why any one would want to choose to be any more humiliated and betrayed than they already would be.... all so they can live on in unwitting delusional bliss when the reality that they believe to be true is in actuality all a lie.
IMO it speaks volumes about a persons self esteem and the value of their own self worth for them to willingly justify the rationalisation of ignorance being bliss just to prolong living in an environment that is based on betrayal, deceit and manipulation... all for another human being who's actions speak far far louder than their words of ''I love you''.
Sure its in the cheaters best interests to keep quiet for the sake of having your cake and eating it too.... but to propagate keeping quiet as being some conveyance of martyrdom in protecting another persons hurt is silly....if someone was that concerned of the other persons well-being then they'd never have betrayed them in the first place.
But then again we live in a time where everyone wants to be an Adult but nobody actually wants to behave like one either, because that'd actually mean being made to take personal responsibility and be made to be culpable for your actions. That part of adulthood sucks and clearly doesn't fit in with the 'do it because it feels good man' mentality, so people will justify doing whatever they want no matter what because as long as no one finds out then its all copacetic.
Ooh imagine a society where 1 in 10 Women lived with that mentality........ a Man would be risking being duped into to bringing up a child that wasn't his....oh wait.
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Chances are they will do it again so fukk yeah I would want to know. Herpes is for life.
This, anyone who cheats, probably will do it again or does it on a regular basis. How can you tell someone you love em, then go behind their back and do this ****. I'm sorry but that's Bull****.
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Don't tell me some of you betas wouldn't want to know? You'd prefer to wallow in the blissful unicorn-filled land of happy flowers and the delusion that your whore girlfriend isn't a cockgobbling cumdumpster?
Edit: having read through the responses, I'm glad to see people have the self-respect to say yes, of course they would want to know.
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I got cheated on once when I was 19. Girlfriend of almost 2 years told me she kissed some guy and was sobbing begging me not to leave her. She was at school in Boston, I made her drive to my school in NY so we could "talk".
I hate****ed her with the fury of 10,000 gods then proceeded to throw her clothes into the hallway and tell her I hope she chokes on his c**k and dies. I don't even know if she made it back to Boston.
If you are gunna cheat, have the respect to break up with your partner first.
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i got cheated on once when i was 19. Girlfriend of almost 2 years told me she kissed some guy and was sobbing begging me not to leave her. She was at school in boston, i made her drive to my school in ny so we could "talk".
I hate****ed her with the fury of 10,000 gods then proceeded to throw her clothes into the hallway and tell her i hope she chokes on his c**k and dies. I don't even know if she made it back to boston.
If you are gunna cheat, have the respect to break up with your partner first.
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