Obsessing with girls and forgetting your own life. (Serious).

[210RobinHood]

Here's some stuff I've picked up on:

-Find a chick that has already been through her wild stage.

-Look for a girl who comes from a family that has a history of being monogamous.

-Don't date a girl that you feel is out of your league. She will pick up on it and dump you.

-Look for a best friend in a future wife. You will be spending lots of time together.

-Don't be someone you're not to try to lure a girl in for a relationship. Let her know that you are who you are and you're not changing certain things for anybody, including her. If you just want to bang her you can do whatever necessary.

-Always keep the power.

-Never show your insecurities in a relationship. HUGE!!!

Do these and you will find a lasting relationship.

[mcxk]

glad it worked for you bro

[Unreactive]

Strong bump OP!
Anyways, good advice. I agree.
measly reps being fired straight up ur angus

[mcxk]

thanks guys, appreciate the nice comments.

[PappaDan]

Nice read op always reassuring to know other people think like this. Nice descriptions with many truths! **** this world. Glad ive learn't at a youngish age from these threads that if you can make yourself happy everything you've been chasing becomes irrelevant whether it be women, friends, materialism etc. Make yourself #1 and pretty soon everyone else going to start believing it too lol. in for later

[H8Masculinity06]

Nice read op always reassuring to know other people think like this. Nice descriptions with many truths! **** this world. Glad ive learn't at a youngish age from these threads that if you can make yourself happy everything you've been chasing becomes irrelevant whether it be women, friends, materialism etc. Make yourself #1 and pretty soon everyone else going to start believing it too lol. in for later

women don't have to better themselves, which makes it easy for them

[calbaisey]

agreed ^^^^

[PrinzeAli91]

3 year old bump for great advice ITT

[coldvein]

Excellent post, don't put all of your eggs in one basket, do many different things. However, you really emphasize the point of not focusing on chicks and focusing on your life and interests instead. The thing is, girls are in the SAME category as your interests, hobbies, making money, whatever. Nothing is perfect in life. Fuarking a girl is great, but isn't going to complete your life and make the rest of it some eternal joy. You'll get up the next day or next week and the chemicals in your brain aren't going to be enhanced, you'll be just as happy as before and will have to deal with the same **** in your everday life.

I mean, dragging your knee on a motorcycle at 80mph is thrilling as hell. Climbing to the top of a big mountain and having a spectacular view is great. Seeing your little sister grow up and graduate is a big moment too. So is getting a sweet job. The thing is, none of these things will bring you some eternal happiness or whatever. Just like a girl won't.

It isn't girls vs. other things. It is everything. No particular moment or moments will make your life perfect. Life is about creating those great moments and enjoying them as they happen. If you like hooking up with girls then go ahead. If you like skydiving then go ahead. Do what you like doing, but as the OP said, don't obsess over just one thing.

[Bluesy]

Probably the most truthful thing I've ever read, seriously. Reps when I get on my computer.

May as well add my 2 cents

It's probably only now in my life that I've really been focused on getting a girlfriend and or getting to know them. its fair to say that I am why behind everyone else in my age group, I haven't spent time going clubbing and just turning my brain to 'Pussy mode' instead I have focussed my time on doing things for myself, and I am 100% sure this us going to pay off 1000x over in the future. Iv developed a tone of talents through this time, I know how to drive a car, ride a motorbike, drive a truck, get huge and shredded ( haven't been going out getting drunk and destroying my workout program or diet), travelled to overseas, doing well in school, sat down and accessed my future and what time doing with it and achieving my own goals ( I quickly learnt that this is Wut girls love in a man, haha) and just participate at a high standard in a variety of sports.

I've had this same conversation with a number of my mates who have all had 2+ girlfriends and gave regretted paying all the money and time on them, they realised its not worth it in the end when their wallet is empty.






Once again quality post

[H8Masculinity06]

and women don't need those traits

[yokeybear]

good stuff op.

[jbb1335]

Great post, OP ... totally 100% true!

[huggybearza]

well i agree that women can rationalize a lot of things. and obviously you could find examples of a "good" girl that cheats. what im trying to say is you could find a girl with a much lower chance of cheating, by looking for certain traits: # of partners, amount of partying and drinking they do, their independence level, good morals, etc.

i can totally agree with what you said, certain traits do dictate but there is still a possibility... at the end of the day we all have a check list that needs to be met in one way or another, if you don't fill the requirements page correctly for a girl and someone else does then you WILL get dumped/cheated on or really taken for a ride.

[Answer1o1]

Bumping this one. Really good read OP!

[H8Masculinity06]

i can totally agree with what you said, certain traits do dictate but there is still a possibility... at the end of the day we all have a check list that needs to be met in one way or another, if you don't fill the requirements page correctly for a girl and someone else does then you WILL get dumped/cheated on or really taken for a ride.

it's like as long as a girl is hot, cute, pretty, good-looking, or average or decent-looking, she doesn't really need to have things going for her in her life like we guys do

[sloppyjoe1]

In the end you can only trust yourself, so why should you go into a relationship thinking that you can fully trust them? The more expectations you have the more disappointed you will be coming out of a relationship. We all carry the feeling that shes the one but honestly nothing lasts forever in this life. As long as you put yourself before women you will not care if and when it does fail.

[H8Masculinity06]

In the end you can only trust yourself, so why should you go into a relationship thinking that you can fully trust them? The more expectations you have the more disappointed you will be coming out of a relationship. We all carry the feeling that shes the one but honestly nothing lasts forever in this life. As long as you put yourself before women you will not care if and when it does fail.

"If a guy's life is lonely and meaningless, that makes a guy look desperate, needy, clingy, insecure, pathetic, a loser to girls, women. A guy has to have something he is into, that gives his life meaning, above and beyond dating, relationships, love, sex. If a guy is trying to get meaning for his life out of interactions with girls, women, they will always notice it and reject him instantly, be repulsed by it. Guys too, won't respect that guy."

Girls don't need to be like that, but we guys do unfortuneately

[Fabzulous]

great thread, gjdm.

[blazinbeast]

Wow this thread helped me more then you know. Obsessing over girls and getting laid is a huge problem of mine, and I recognize this but have a hard time being consistent with my thoughts.

I have goals in life, and I am not lazy but recently I have lost interest in my hobbies and am missing that one big goal to keep me distracted. Its really frustrating but I'm going to try hard to find my meaning. I know they shouldn't, but honestly all girls do for me is stress me out. I am done with it.

[calbaisey]

yeah this is definitely one of my fave threads on the misc.

[H8Masculinity06]

girls are allowed to make getting a boyfriend, a relationship their number one priority, but guys are not allowed to make getting a girlfriend, a relationship their number one priority, which really angers me and makes me hate life

[FGCHENG]

Bump for a 5 star thread.

[FitCross]

What a great post.

As some of you may know, I am the definition of Forever Alone/Virgin. It is also something that I am not only really beginning to come to terms with, but it is also something I am really beginning to embrace. When I look at myself right now and wonder what my life would be if I threw a relationship into the mix, I realize it would be like throwing a wrench into the gears. I have way too much ambition, drive, specific interests and a real big chip on my shoulder. The only way I can see a relationship working out for me is if I found someone who was 90% like me, right down to the interests. But this is not likely.

When I look back on my life, my biggest regret is not the lack of girls/relationships/sex. It is that, until very recently, I never took advantage of all of the opportunities I had to better myself. Whether we know it or not, we all have strengths and weaknesses and as long as we exploit those strengths and take responsibility for our actions and lives, we can become somebody extraordinary. Instead, I spent a lot of time sitting around and daydreaming and blaming others for my failures and shortcomings, when it was I who didn't "bring it."

That all having been said, I feel like I am in a very good position right now. I'm starting to realize I am a late-bloomer and I think I'm right where I need to be. But don't get me wrong - sometimes I wonder how things would've turned out had I taken control of my life a lot sooner and conquered my fears. But there's no use in playing the "what-if" games.

So yes, everyone, find out what it is that gets you up in the morning. Find out what your interests and passions are, but understand there is a price to be paid for everything and that, more often than not, you will have to bring your passion with you, rather than go to your passion. Above all else, be accountable, take responsibility for your life, strive to become the best version of you every day and great things will happen. If there is anything I have faith in, its that.

[CanadasFinest]

I've noticed this first hand once I broke up with my Ex, after that I turned to Boxing and my future goals. Just remember if you're choosing between ambition/career/women. Your career can't wake up one morning and tell you they don't love you anymore and walk out of your life.

[chirashi]

5 star thread.

I've noticed this first hand once I broke up with my Ex, after that I turned to Boxing and my future goals. Just remember if you're choosing between ambition/career/women. Your career can't wake up one morning and tell you they don't love you anymore and walk out of your life.

Great analogy. I think its safe to say we all forget this advice from time to time and we need to be reminded.

I've seen too many guys ruin their future/goals for a girl. Ironically, you're more attractive to women when you're focusing on more meaningful pursuits than them.

[everglide123]

great posts in here, we shouldn't obsess and give in to our biological instincts of just spending all our time trying to procreate with women, there is much more to life than just shoving ur dick into a hole and thrusting.

[mcxk]

to the miscer who asked me, here's thread

[otakutrevan]

another generic "disregard women and pursue success" without any information as how to deal with loneliness, sexual frustration ,and etc. Good post OP. srs. *******.

[hickorysmoked1]

another generic "disregard women and pursue success" without any information as how to deal with loneliness, sexual frustration ,and etc. Good post OP. srs. *******.

Dis n1kka either hasn't read the thread, or severly lacks comprehension skills