The perfect soulmate: Myth or Not?

[FOXXIE]

I dont believe in finding your perfect soulmate. YOu will never find your soulmate and even if you do, it will never be in the right time or right moment.


Mostly you will find a mate but soulmate is nearly just impossible. lol

[pidginduck]

iNGLISH u SPYK??

[CelticBhoy]

I dont believe in finding your perfect soulmate. YOu will never find your soulmate and even if you do, it will never be in the right time or right moment.


Mostly you will find a mate but soulmate is nearly just impossible. lol

I'm not sure. There are a few couples (married, of course) that are so happy and close...they truly are "best friends."

I don't believe that "everyone can find that perfect someone." Because I know for a fact that there are mentally disabled, physically handicapped, etc. that will never find someone.

Nonetheless, I believe that your "soulmate" is out there. And it is possible.

As for saying "it will never be the right time or right moment." I disagree.

Now, I'm not saying my girlfriend is my soulmate by any stretch of the imagination. But the timing and moment couldn't have been more perfect and - meeting her - was so rare in the first place.

[Govithoy]

I don't buy into it -- it's too fatalistic. The idea of a soulmate without pre-determined fate is ludicrous, how the hell are you going to find one person in all the billions if there are no supernatural forces guiding you together? I don't believe in fate, and by extension, the idea of a soul mate.

[JMath]

I don't believe in the idea that there is 1 person out there for a person. Finding your life time partner (not necessarily soul mate) is simply about compatibility.

[itzchris]

i definetly believe that certain people have soul mates. i think that everyone is called for a different purpose in life. some are meant to find the person they are meant to be with and live a long happy life with them and others are meant to date/marry the wrong people to learn things about themselves they wouldnt have found out. and then some are meant to not marry at all. the single life is what they want or how the cards fell. bottom line, i just think that everything happen for a reason so i think the whole time and place thing was wrong too. i wish a lot of things didnt happen. but they did, and im sure theres a greater purpose somewhere down the line.

[janky]

I don't buy into it -- it's too fatalistic. The idea of a soulmate without pre-determined fate is ludicrous, how the hell are you going to find one person in all the billions if there are no supernatural forces guiding you together? I don't believe in fate, and by extension, the idea of a soul mate.

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I'm going to attempt to delve into science, so correct me if I'm wrong -

Love/attraction and all this are chemical responses. We're hardwired to seek out certain things in a partner and society's evolution has dictated some drastic changes in that.

When you're around someone who sets off that special "Spark", it's your brain releasing phenylethylamines. They're a form of dopamine, which is why drug addicts use drugs (flood dopamine levels = feels good, man).

As you get intimate with your new partner your brain releases oxytocin, which is the "emotional connection" women feel when cuddling after sex.

The more time you spend with a person, the more you develop a habit, the habit of "being" with them. It takes 2 weeks (correct me if I'm wrong) of repetition to successfully develop any habit. It can take years to undo one you've become attached to.

This process sound familiar? It's the same as a drug addiction, only not illegal and not physically damaging (unless you're an emo cutter).
The withdrawls of love, I'd argue, actually last longer than any drug. The mental tragedies inflicted by bad relationships can last a lifetime. Even heroin withdrawls typically only last the recovering user a week and a half. If they choose to start using again, that's a whole nother story


So there you have it kids, sorry to ruin love for you, but it's just a chasing things that release dopamine levels in your brain to make you feel good


And what govithoy said as well.
The probability of finding ONE perfect person out of billions is ridiculous.

[fodosho]

cliffs plz

[13Zulu]

I dont believe in finding your perfect soulmate. YOu will never find your soulmate and even if you do, it will never be in the right time or right moment.


Mostly you will find a mate but soulmate is nearly just impossible. lol

I think people believe that once you find a soulmate, everything becomes easier, and then you don't need to try so hard at the relationship.

WRONG. Just because you meet that special person and have all that stuff in common you need to try harder. If you want to maintain that special feeling it requires vigilance, and the desire to communicate.

Also being good at oral sex is a huge plus...

[janky]

I think people believe that once you find a soulmate, everything becomes easier, and then you don't need to try so hard at the relationship.

WRONG. Just because you meet that special person and have all that stuff in common you need to try harder. If you want to maintain that special feeling it requires vigilance, and the desire to communicate.

Also being good at oral sex is a huge plus...

Interesting point. I don't wanna discredit love at all, believe me. I think things like law, religion, and love all have very important roles in humanity. Without them there would be sheer chaos and many people would find nothing worth living for.

I won't knock anything that gives people hope, or something to strive for, or the opportunity to better themselves and others.

[CRNAstylin]

i'd like to believe in soulmates but life has taught me otherwise so far-----


if we find someone we really like it's going to take alot of work no matter what to make it last, and a sense of commitment by both ppls

[Govithoy]

I think people believe that once you find a soulmate, everything becomes easier, and then you don't need to try so hard at the relationship.

WRONG. Just because you meet that special person and have all that stuff in common you need to try harder. If you want to maintain that special feeling it requires vigilance, and the desire to communicate.

Also being good at oral sex is a huge plus...

[clorox_me]

I don't believe in the idea that there is 1 person out there for a person. Finding your life time partner (not necessarily soul mate) is simply about compatibility.

this. short and sweet.

[dick_nose_dwane]

I dont believe in finding your perfect soulmate. YOu will never find your soulmate and even if you do, it will never be in the right time or right moment.


Mostly you will find a mate but soulmate is nearly just impossible. lol

I used to be like this until i found my soulmate. Seriously it is insane, we are best friends ever, she would do anything for me, and i would do anything for her. I can be exactly who i am 100 percent of the time. if she's annoying me i can pull my dick out, smack her on the face and we will both laugh our asses off. The key i think is to have no boundries for someone you ultimately want to be with. I have zero boundries with my girl. if she suddenly gets a pee fetish.. guess who is getting pee'd on. Another thing we are both able to do is let **** slide and dont harp on stupid things. If we are in bad money trouble we will figure it out. What's the worst that can happen?? **** it, we will still have eachother even if we lose everything.

cliff notes. have zero boundries and let **** slide

[Crusher_]

I think this gif sums up the answer to this thrad perfectly

[yoj]

I don't believe in soulmates... at least the notion that there is one single person who I am destined to meet and be with forever.

However, I do believe that there is at least one person out there who shares the same beliefs and outlook on relationships, and has all of the traits I'm looking for (including attractiveness obviously :P). I've dated enough girls to know that the person who is exactly what I'm looking for and is looking for exactly what I am is probably one in three billion. If that makes her my soulmate, then I guess I believe in them.

I think we all evolve in what we need and look for, but I think that is only true because we learn from previous experiences that ended less than perfectly. I don't know if I'll ever find something close to that perfect mate, but I hope so .

I also agree with 13Zulu. I think relationships take work FOREVER. I think the most important thing for me is to find someone who realizes this also, and who is into me enough to want to continue to make that effort for possibly forever. Unfortunately these kind of girls are very rare at 20 years old... haha.

[rkf456]

I dont believe in finding your perfect soulmate. YOu will never find your soulmate and even if you do, it will never be in the right time or right moment.


Mostly you will find a mate but soulmate is nearly just impossible. lol

hate u

[fkn_give_me_abs]

i dunno lol (srs)

would be rare, but it's not unheard of for couples married early in life to be happily together till one dies.

[spectre86]

I dont believe in finding your perfect soulmate. YOu will never find your soulmate and even if you do, it will never be in the right time or right moment.


Mostly you will find a mate but soulmate is nearly just impossible. lol

*cough* over hear *cough*

[GulfCoastAquari]

I don't believe in the idea that there is 1 person out there for a person. Finding your life time partner (not necessarily soul mate) is simply about compatibility.

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So there you have it kids, sorry to ruin love for you, but it's just a chasing things that release dopamine levels in your brain to make you feel good

Also this

I think people believe that once you find a soulmate, everything becomes easier, and then you don't need to try so hard at the relationship.
WRONG.

And definitely this.

[shitbrickhouse]

I don't believe in the idea that there is 1 person out there for a person. Finding your life time partner (not necessarily soul mate) is simply about compatibility.

agreed. i dont think there's just 1 person out there for everyone. i think there's probly thousands of girls out there that i could be happy with.

[shitbrickhouse]

I used to be like this until i found my soulmate. Seriously it is insane, we are best friends ever, she would do anything for me, and i would do anything for her. I can be exactly who i am 100 percent of the time. if she's annoying me i can pull my dick out, smack her on the face and we will both laugh our asses off. The key i think is to have no boundries for someone you ultimately want to be with. I have zero boundries with my girl. if she suddenly gets a pee fetish.. guess who is getting pee'd on. Another thing we are both able to do is let **** slide and dont harp on stupid things. If we are in bad money trouble we will figure it out. What's the worst that can happen?? **** it, we will still have eachother even if we lose everything.

cliff notes. have zero boundries and let **** slide

good for you. do you believe she is the only girl in the world you would be fully happy with? what if she developed a thyroid problem and got up to 300 pounds?

[janky]

I think this gif sums up the answer to this thrad perfectly

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I have so many questions......

[I3odyI3uilder]

I do believe in soulmates as i have found mine we would both do anything for each other and we are deeply in love with each other. And honestly it was fate because we met threw her job at tan co and she actually got accepted to a diff location far away from me but they decided to bring her in at my gyms location and from there its been nothing but love. So ya i believe in it.

[YARDGORILLA]

I dont believe in finding your perfect soulmate. YOu will never find your soulmate and even if you do, it will never be in the right time or right moment.


Mostly you will find a mate but soulmate is nearly just impossible. lol

Soulmate "feeling" is a temporary fix for a permanent psychological problem of one's longing for companionship.

[Cosmonaut]

I like your attitude!

[localfool]

I believe that there are many people you can be at peace with relationship-wise, and few people you can be very, very happy with. Nobody will ever make you /completely/ happy and satisfied, it's just the way life is...you have to strive for that unattainable perfection.

However, you should find somebody that is worth your time and worth satisfying and being with, so you strive to be perfect for that person, which will make things work, because you won't want to give up. You need to be accepting and understanding, and realize they have faults just like anyone else...just make sure that their faults are tolerable for you :P

Soulmates is just a term for convenience, two people who get along very well, and both put effort in to make things work and keep each other happy, imo.

[percussion8903]

I'd say soulmate is best person / 1000 that fit what you are looking for, and when you are fit for what someone is looking for / 1000. 1000x1000 = 1 million out of 3 billion = 3,000 soulmates for you

[mydawgs]

I do, been with him for 27 years, if something happens to him there will be no others. It has not been easy all the time, nor has it been hard all the time....but what he gives me is peice of mind, and a peace in my heart, no matter how good things get or how bad....if he is next to me, I know I will be OK.

[Guardian]

I dont believe in finding your perfect soulmate. YOu will never find your soulmate and even if you do, it will never be in the right time or right moment.


Mostly you will find a mate but soulmate is nearly just impossible. lol

I think "soulmate" is really someone that is just very compatible with you, and I do believe they exist its just to many people think its some magical rarity sent by god rather then just a normal person who works well with you.