The lack of intimacy in my life is killing my mental health

[PartyAndHockey]

It hunts me everyday, the feeling of being loved, cared for, intimacy, sex. All those obvious vital needs for a healthy human mental state are absent. I've tried dating girls, most of the time girls stop talking to me, recently was because I said I was a virgin. Or I lose interest because I realize that I'm not that attracted to the girl. I don't get it, why is it so hard to find a girlfriend?

Mind is blown at how easy some guys have it, I live in the suburbs of Montreal which is arguably the worst place in north america to get casual sex. Me and my friends are young guys 17-22 and obviously we are pretty good-looking, all about 6' or more, lift, but no results. Last time I went to clubbing in Montreal me nor my friends couldn't get a dance. My inexperienced friend literally asked a girl to get drinks with him, shortly after the girl left saying she has a boyfriend. wtf? This was during my bday, most of the crowd seemed older(22-35) and we went to a bar where I got a bottle and girl I was dated was all over me the whole night. We constantly made out, she gave me a lapdance, she even grabbed my crotch at several points and I reciprocated and grab dat p and ass. Then the b1tch I was dating left at 1h30am like wtf? Saying her dad wanted her home by that point. So we tried getting girls at the bar, but all the girls turned ALL of us down. It's absolutely ridiculous, to the point where NONE of my friends go out with the hopes of getting a ONS, **** just does not happen over here. Oh yeah I live in the suburbs of the city, soooo there is about 0 bars with more than 4 girls at any given moment in a 10km radius. There is only like 1 good club, "Good" club where me and my friends can only pull, our wallets out to pay for the cover. Lol my friend kissed a fat girl there at his bday. The thing is I don't get it, we are all 5/10+ and cannot pull even a 5/10, why? What the f*** gives?


Right now I have options to bang some 5/10, and could always go back to the girl I was dating, but to be honest I was never really attracted to her. She has some pretty masculine features, which I obviously am not attracted to. I am not even sure about getting an escort, because yes I will have sex for the first time in my life and that will be awesome. Will it solve my lack of intimacy, probably not since she's an escort...

I've tried tinder, I got like 21 matches so far, got 1 number, but rest don't respond or are fat. All I ask is to have a 6/10 to have sex with me, or care for me. Is that too much standards in the modern feminist world of ours misc? I feel lonely all the time, I am having anxiety issues related because of this recently, I have no reason to get up in the morning I just over-sleep in hopes of having a dream that is most of the time more entertaining than my life.

I don't have bad game, some girl say I'm a "sweet talker" to be honest I don't see that in myself. My friends who do get laid lie constantly to get girls and it works, unfortunately I am mostly honest about myself and stupid sloots do not appreciate that. I am kind of happy girls get cheated on by douchebags, because it is mostly their fault. They raise their standards to absurd levels where the only men who get with them lie about themselves to raise their value.

Should I just have sex with girls who are 5/10 (I am mostly not attracted to them), would it be beneficial? Is having s*x with girls you're not so attracted to better than jacking off? I always wanted to have s*x with an attractive girl my first time, I guess that is too much to ask for and I am way too lonely despite the fact that I am 19, I can't deal with it anymore. It takes a toll on the mind, and I am not sure it is worth to have standards in my situation as I am getting more and more depressed.

Cliffs---^ just read last paragraph if you're too lazy

[MeAmSuperman]

If intimacy is what you're after, a casual hookup isn't likely to satisfy you anymore than an escort. If you're just looking to lose the v-card, then yeah, doesn't really matter who you smash. You'll be just as much of a non-virgin after banging a 2/10 as you would a 10/10 HBB.

[Violator009]

itt Op cries about no intimacy, but turns down chicks left and right, rofl, i dont give a fock if theyre 5/10s put on your hat and go to work, just because i wanna fock scarlet johansen doesnt mean im gonna turn down a ginger alyson Hannigan..

[Voluspa]

itt Op cries about no intimacy, but turns down chicks left and right,

This, youll get no sympathy here with all the bitter FAs around here op

[PartyAndHockey]

itt Op cries about no intimacy, but turns down chicks left and right, rofl, i dont give a fock if theyre 5/10s put on your hat and go to work, just because i wanna fock scarlet johansen doesnt mean im gonna turn down a ginger alyson Hannigan..

I don't know maybe because I have never experienced intimacy with a girl I am not attracted to? I have no idea if I'd enjoy sex with a girl I am not attracted to, any input on this?

[EctoPlasmic217]

and it also pisses me off that us guys are supposed to make hobbies, passions, goals, mission or purpose, ambition, dreams in life more important, those things we guys are supposed to make more pleasurable than sex and love, intimacy. Angers me

[Violator009]

I don't know maybe because I have never experienced intimacy with a girl I am not attracted to? I have no idea if I'd enjoy sex with a girl I am not attracted to, any input on this?

dude as long as the girl smell good and dont have a hidden cock there should be no problem, there are alot of females i werent initially attracted to but still gave them a chance and grew fond of a few of them, dont just dismiss them because they lack certain qualities youre looking for..

[PartyAndHockey]

and it also pisses me off that us guys are supposed to make hobbies, passions, goals, mission or purpose, ambition, dreams in life more important, those things we guys are supposed to make more pleasurable than sex and love, intimacy. Angers me

I do have hobbies and passions, but I unhappy in my life and because of that Iack motivation for most things

[PartyAndHockey]

dude as long as the girl smell good and dont have a hidden cock there should be no problem, there are alot of females i werent initially attracted to but still gave them a chance and grew fond of a few of them, dont just dismiss them because they lack certain qualities youre looking for..

So I should go for the 5/10s in hope of an eventual attraction?

[otakutrevan]

So I should go for the 5/10s in hope of an eventual attraction?

You obviously don't have the looks,money,status, or skills to get 10/10s so get over yourself or be a alone *******. The choice is yours.

[tom11]

lower your standards or stay virgin forever

btw even 5/10s aren't that easy to get

[Solbrah]

My friend, females (or lack thereof) are not your problem.

I can't tell you what it is because I am not you, but what you're looking for will only solve your problem temporarily. Think hard man, try to find the root of your problem. Bad experiences? ****ty LUCK?(keyword. Bad luck doesn't mean you did something wrong. It just is. Sometimes life is good to you, sometimes it isnt.)

Just my 2 cents, I hope you feel better though.


- bulldog

[Rocawear11]

There are a number things you can do to improve your game.
For most of my adult life (now 26) I didnt get much. I have only recently started to get better at bedding women.

The position you are in now is hard to get out of, women can pick up on your insecurities & nervousness. As hard as it is, the way you need to act, is as if you have an endless supply of women. You cannot come across as needy, women do not want to sleep with a guy who is struggling to get laid.
I'd probably advise against telling girls you are a virgin, and whilst being honest is a good trait to have, its not really going to help you get a quick lay.
If girls ask questions about you, be mysterious, don't give predictable answers, that is boring, when they ask your profession make something funny up.
Ultimately, you need to act like a leader and be in control of the situation.
Watching youtube videos and reading up on pick up artist stuff is a good place to start.
I cant put a link in my post but look in youtube for the 10 mistakes intelligent men make with women. It is a great video.
You should also look at videos on how to read female body language, and then how to talk to women ie. conversation skills etc (this is something I am still perfecting, but if you can get your confidence up, things should start to flow)

[PartyAndHockey]

My friend, females (or lack thereof) are not your problem.

I can't tell you what it is because I am not you, but what you're looking for will only solve your problem temporarily. Think hard man, try to find the root of your problem. Bad experiences? ****ty LUCK?(keyword. Bad luck doesn't mean you did something wrong. It just is. Sometimes life is good to you, sometimes it isnt.)

Just my 2 cents, I hope you feel better though.


- bulldog

I've had lots of bad experiences and bad luck, countless times I've found a girl whom I've very attracted to and things seem to go well, but they always mess up in the end. Or things go well, date, things are too good to be true and mess up when I'm lying in bed with her. It has killed my self-confidence, I obviously am not in a good place mentally. It sucks because it is not something I can fix through mental toughness, it takes a toll on my mind and eventually you hit a wall where you just can't take it anymore. It is quite sad that I cannot get an above-average looking woman, even average girls are hard. I had an overweight girl on tinder with a cute face not respond to me asking for her number after a conversation, wow

I feel like otakutrevan, btw did you finally smash any girls?

I think if I can't feel any better about myself than I'll just smash any girl I can get, at least girls won't turn me down PURELY(in the sense that I have every single attractive features she is looking for looks, confidence, social interaction) because I'm a virgin(oh my gooosh) anymore LMFAO sloots goon sloot

[Mwizzle]

Age: 19


















































































I'm 18 so I feel some pain too

[HeroesFall]

Do you guys know what intimacy is, or just think it means sex?



Here's a hint - it doesn't mean just sex.

[StartAtTheEnd]

Not sure if roll bread.

I was a virgin until I was 25.

I wondered when I would finally get a bit of sexy time, but never let it get me too down. I am too good looking.

If the anxiety/depression is getting to you, perhaps it is worthwhile you go to an escort just to get off the mark. In cricket terms, a drop and run.

I thought about it when I was a virgin, and I probably would have if I could have afforded it. But in a strange away, it reduced the stress of trying to get a sexy time - knowing that, if worse comes to worse, I could simply save up and pay for a sexy time.

In your case, if you feel that not having a sexy time is starting to cause you mental distress to the degree that you can't function, or that it totally encompasses your life, then perhaps you are betting off paying for a sexy time.

It is your bbq cowboy.

[Sandiks]

If you just want to lose your virginity and get it over with might aswell pay a nice looking hooker. That's better than doing it with a chubby 3/10 like i did.

[cc19882012]

Two steps for sucess, you redy op.....





Move out of the arsehole of canada (to big city)

Learn daygame





Problem solved. Or stay put and keep moaning.

[PartyAndHockey]

Do you guys know what intimacy is, or just think it means sex?



Here's a hint - it doesn't mean just sex.

Here's a hint- I'm not a dumbass

[Boffothe]

I've noticed that every single Canadian miscer seems to claim that their specific city is the worst for hooking up. I've heard it claimed by at least Toronto, Montreal, and Vancouver. Someone be lyin, canamiscers

[EctoPlasmic217]

I do have hobbies and passions, but I unhappy in my life and because of that Iack motivation for most things

Well hardest part is.being assertive and taking action without coming across as needy or desperate

[PartyAndHockey]

I've noticed that every single Canadian miscer seems to claim that their specific city is the worst for hooking up. I've heard it claimed by at least Toronto, Montreal, and Vancouver. Someone be lyin, canamiscers

They're all bad

Well hardest part is.being assertive and taking action without coming across as needy or desperate

Hardest part is to game b1tches that have specific standards for personnality types

[deadliftbrah19]

You're only 19, no need to rush.

If it's killing your mental health, go see a professional.

[MrSilverback]

Bro you're 19 and a virgin...but lack of intimacy is killing your mental health? How do you know that lack there of is killing your mental health when you've never had it?

[PartyAndHockey]

Bro you're 19 and a virgin...but lack of intimacy is killing your mental health? How do you know that lack there of is killing your mental health when you've never had it?

Because I have watched romantic movies, pr0n, see couples in public, and even have dated girls before. Even in my dream I have been in relationships and have phucked women, just to wake up and feel empty inside. After watching a good pr0n scene, just realize it's fake and that I indeed have phucked no one. Or watch cute couples outside, just to realize that I don't know dat feel and don't know if I ever will. Today I went out looking pretty good, swear to God about 66% of girls (even really hot ones) look,stared and smiled at me. They all probably think I get laid on the reg, I just wanna date one and tell her that I'm a virgin just to see how fast they can run away. I wish I could have all that positivity in me and go and speak to this girls with confidence, then have sex with them.

But see I'm mentally broken, because of bad experiences my self-esteem and confidence are too shattered to go and approach girls like that. I used to be confident enough, and have been in the past, but time after time again my confidence breaks and I have to rebuild it. I do think I am a good-looking guy, or else girls wouldn't stare me down, fix their hair, or smile when they see me. I'm like a broken vase, I need to take some scotch-tape and fix it, but I just don't know how.

[S0LID]

Sleep with dogs, and watch this video.

*****://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbEa5wEa1YU&list=UUKGiTasUqLcZUuUjQiyKotw

[JarlaxleMD]

lower your standards or stay virgin forever

btw even 5/10s aren't that easy to get

No BS.

I live in the slums, and a lot of the 3's 4's and 5's have their heads so gassed up by the attention they get from bums and freshly released ex-cons who'll smash anything. Fat @$$'s who think they're hot **** because some con high on pcp is sweating them.

[MrSilverback]

Because I have watched romantic movies, pr0n, see couples in public, and even have dated girls before. Even in my dream I have been in relationships and have phucked women, just to wake up and feel empty inside. After watching a good pr0n scene, just realize it's fake and that I indeed have phucked no one. Or watch cute couples outside, just to realize that I don't know dat feel and don't know if I ever will. Today I went out looking pretty good, swear to God about 66% of girls (even really hot ones) look,stared and smiled at me. They all probably think I get laid on the reg, I just wanna date one and tell her that I'm a virgin just to see how fast they can run away. I wish I could have all that positivity in me and go and speak to this girls with confidence, then have sex with them.

But see I'm mentally broken, because of bad experiences my self-esteem and confidence are too shattered to go and approach girls like that. I used to be confident enough, and have been in the past, but time after time again my confidence breaks and I have to rebuild it. I do think I am a good-looking guy, or else girls wouldn't stare me down, fix their hair, or smile when they see me. I'm like a broken vase, I need to take some scotch-tape and fix it, but I just don't know how.

Step 1: Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Step 2: Learn to form a balance in your life. School, fitness, friendships, hobbies, etc.
Step 3: Stop placing your emphasis on relationships to form self esteem

You're 19 bro. 19 years old. I was very much in your shoes back then.

[icemancl1]

It hunts me everyday, the feeling of being loved, cared for, intimacy, sex. All those obvious vital needs for a healthy human mental state are absent. I've tried dating girls, most of the time girls stop talking to me, recently was because I said I was a virgin. Or I lose interest because I realize that I'm not that attracted to the girl. I don't get it, why is it so hard to find a girlfriend?

Mind is blown at how easy some guys have it, I live in the suburbs of Montreal which is arguably the worst place in north america to get casual sex. Me and my friends are young guys 17-22 and obviously we are pretty good-looking, all about 6' or more, lift, but no results. Last time I went to clubbing in Montreal me nor my friends couldn't get a dance. My inexperienced friend literally asked a girl to get drinks with him, shortly after the girl left saying she has a boyfriend. wtf? This was during my bday, most of the crowd seemed older(22-35) and we went to a bar where I got a bottle and girl I was dated was all over me the whole night. We constantly made out, she gave me a lapdance, she even grabbed my crotch at several points and I reciprocated and grab dat p and ass. Then the b1tch I was dating left at 1h30am like wtf? Saying her dad wanted her home by that point. So we tried getting girls at the bar, but all the girls turned ALL of us down. It's absolutely ridiculous, to the point where NONE of my friends go out with the hopes of getting a ONS, **** just does not happen over here. Oh yeah I live in the suburbs of the city, soooo there is about 0 bars with more than 4 girls at any given moment in a 10km radius. There is only like 1 good club, "Good" club where me and my friends can only pull, our wallets out to pay for the cover. Lol my friend kissed a fat girl there at his bday. The thing is I don't get it, we are all 5/10+ and cannot pull even a 5/10, why? What the f*** gives?


Right now I have options to bang some 5/10, and could always go back to the girl I was dating, but to be honest I was never really attracted to her. She has some pretty masculine features, which I obviously am not attracted to. I am not even sure about getting an escort, because yes I will have sex for the first time in my life and that will be awesome. Will it solve my lack of intimacy, probably not since she's an escort...

I've tried tinder, I got like 21 matches so far, got 1 number, but rest don't respond or are fat. All I ask is to have a 6/10 to have sex with me, or care for me. Is that too much standards in the modern feminist world of ours misc? I feel lonely all the time, I am having anxiety issues related because of this recently, I have no reason to get up in the morning I just over-sleep in hopes of having a dream that is most of the time more entertaining than my life.

I don't have bad game, some girl say I'm a "sweet talker" to be honest I don't see that in myself. My friends who do get laid lie constantly to get girls and it works, unfortunately I am mostly honest about myself and stupid sloots do not appreciate that. I am kind of happy girls get cheated on by douchebags, because it is mostly their fault. They raise their standards to absurd levels where the only men who get with them lie about themselves to raise their value.

Should I just have sex with girls who are 5/10 (I am mostly not attracted to them), would it be beneficial? Is having s*x with girls you're not so attracted to better than jacking off? I always wanted to have s*x with an attractive girl my first time, I guess that is too much to ask for and I am way too lonely despite the fact that I am 19, I can't deal with it anymore. It takes a toll on the mind, and I am not sure it is worth to have standards in my situation as I am getting more and more depressed.

Cliffs---^ just read last paragraph if you're too lazy

You are a *******, dealing with women had made me hate them all. They are insane, unreasonable, irresponsible and completely illogical. Dealing with them has worn me out so bad that I don't want to deal with any of them anymore. The happiest moments of my life was when I was single. Phuck escorts, they at least know what they are there for.