I need help fixing this(serious)(reps)

no_one089 · 07-16-2009, 12:34 PM

So Ive been talking to two girls, I got close with both of them. With girl 1 we started talking about two weeks ago and she went on vacation, we txt at night and eventually started saying I love you before bed(I didnt really mean it) Well girl two comes along and we get really close and I kind of forget about girl 1 but dont stop talking to her in the way I was. Well girl 1 and 2 talked and now they both are mad/hurt I lied to them, mainly girl 2. I really like girl 2, how can I fix this or atleast make it better with her?

Ejjw18 · 07-16-2009, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by no_one089

So Ive been talking to two girls, I got close with both of them. With girl 1 we started talking about two weeks ago and she went on vacation, we txt at night and eventually started saying I love you before bed(I didnt really mean it) Well girl two comes along and we get really close and I kind of forget about girl 1 but dont stop talking to her in the way I was. Well girl 1 and 2 talked and now they both are mad/hurt I lied to them, mainly girl 2. I really like girl 2, how can I fix this or atleast make it better with her?

drop girl 1 one completely for 2 reasons. One, because you like girl 2 more and Second because girl 1 says "i love you? after knowing u 2 weeks? Crazy. Talk to girl 2 and assure her that you're completely done with girl 1 and that you've cut communication from her.

no_one089 · 07-16-2009, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Ejjw18

drop girl 1 one completely for 2 reasons. One, because you like girl 2 more and Second because girl 1 says "i love you? after knowing u 2 weeks? Crazy. Talk to girl 2 and assure her that you're completely done with girl 1 and that you've cut communication from her.

she says she doesnt care I was talking to another girl, she says shes mad because I lied to her.

Rockon2233 · 07-16-2009, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Ejjw18

drop girl 1 one completely for 2 reasons. One, because you like girl 2 more and Second because girl 1 says "i love you? after knowing u 2 weeks? Crazy. Talk to girl 2 and assure her that you're completely done with girl 1 and that you've cut communication from her.

I agree with this.....go for 2

no_one089 · 07-16-2009, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Rockon2233

I agree with this.....go for 2

txt convo from a minute ago: (yes im being very beta lol)
Me:Hey are you going to be busy today?
Her:Probably. Why?
Me:I was just wanting to see you but its okay.
Her:Well.. Thursday isnt a good day for me to hang out. its my family day
Me:Okay, its fine. I hope you have a good day

Her:I want to see you too

So you guys think she is still interested?

Ejjw18 · 07-16-2009, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by no_one089

txt convo from a minute ago: (yes im being very beta lol)
Me:Hey are you going to be busy today?
Her:Probably. Why?
Me:I was just wanting to see you but its okay.
Her:Well.. Thursday isnt a good day for me to hang out. its my family day
Me:Okay, its fine. I hope you have a good day

Her:I want to see you too

So you guys think she is still interested?

She just said "i want to see you too"....

no_one089 · 07-16-2009, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Ejjw18

She just said "i want to see you too"....

Yea but how she acted yesterday was a lot different.

Russ-T · 07-16-2009, 01:04 PM

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Yea but how she acted yesterday was a lot different.

Well to be honest of course she's going to act different in person she probably feels mad but also that if she persues anything she could get hurt. She wants to see you but she just has a guard up that you need to take down again. Don't end the text like that keep the convo flowing.

matt2301 · 07-16-2009, 01:07 PM

From what you last posted I'd say she (girl 2) is definitely still interested. You can definitely salvage this one with girl 2. Just show her that you aren't interested in girl 1. That means don't be texting her all the time and definitely no "I love you".

With alot of girls they will like you even more if you are talking to other girls. you can use this to your advantage, but be careful, especially if the two girls talk

Stick with girl 2 definitely. A girl that says I love you that early in a relationship is definitely a little bit whacked and/or clingy.

no_one089 · 07-16-2009, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Russ-T

Well to be honest of course she's going to act different in person she probably feels mad but also that if she persues anything she could get hurt. She wants to see you but she just has a guard up that you need to take down again. Don't end the text like that keep the convo flowing.

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From what you last posted I'd say she (girl 2) is definitely still interested. You can definitely salvage this one with girl 2. Just show her that you aren't interested in girl 1. That means don't be texting her all the time and definitely no "I love you".

With alot of girls they will like you even more if you are talking to other girls. you can use this to your advantage, but be careful, especially if the two girls talk

Stick with girl 2 definitely. A girl that says I love you that early in a relationship is definitely a little bit whacked and/or clingy.

Shes sending txt like this now lol:

Her:Im laying here in nothing but a towel

You should def be here right now

and

Her: ::blows you a kiss::

So job well done I think and soon we should be back on the right track. Im going to just be friends with girl one and nothing more.

no_one089 · 07-17-2009, 12:31 PM

Update:

So got a txt from girl 1 and asking why girl 2 was mad at her, I didnt know what she was talking about so I called girl 2. That convo ended with a txt sorta like this:

Girl 2: Dont worry I wont let girl1 ruin this. God I miss you.

At the end of the night she asked me:
Girl 2:One last question and then I just want to drop it. did you ever tell girl 1 you loved her?

Me:To be honest, yes. Did I really mean it? no. It started off as a joke and then we just started telling each other that when we were done talking. I never saw myself getting srs with girl 1 so I didnt think it was a big deal.

She said it was okay and knew it was just like a friend I love you not I really did love her.

We talked on the phone around 2 in the morning and she kept telling me to come to bed and everything so I think it helped things. Im beginning to wonder if anything will come out of this though.