girl is playing games....I think

nice_lifts · 06-14-2009, 09:22 PM

so here's the story,I've been seeing this girl for about a month now.we have sex,we go out,stay over at each others house etc...anyways there has never been any power struggle from the beginning and I never had to worry about waiting to call or any of that bs,I would just call when I wanted to see her or when I wanted to say whats up,and she would call and text me just as much.

a couple days ago she called me around noon,and I was really busy,so I told her that I would call her back.I ended up not calling her back all day and I sent her a text that night to say sorry and goodnight,thinking she was probably asleep already.she texts back "sweet dreams babyboy"so I figure its all good.the next day I call her around 1 and she doesn't answer,so I thought she would probably call back,and didn't call her all day.she never gets back to me and then she texts me at 11 at night to say that "I'm on her mind,bla bla bla",acting like she didn't ignore my call all day.So I realized that she was trying to piss me off,because she was unhappy that I forgot to call her the day before.I didn't text back and now we are having a power struggle(waiting to see who's going to give in and call first).

Honestly I hate ****ing games like this and I'm on the verge of just calling it quits,I don't want to give in and call,and i don't want to wait for her to call.am I over-reacting?

any of you guys hate this ****/any advice

cliffs
-forgot to call girl,text her at night
-next day girl ignores my call then texts me at night
-realized she was playing games,ignored text
-power struggle(who's going to give in and call first)
-pissed off,might call it quits with her

Yifan · 06-14-2009, 09:25 PM

maybe you're just making too much of this

Spaghettii · 06-14-2009, 09:26 PM

you lost it at "sorry, goodnight" sorry bub. game over.

Renwo · 06-14-2009, 09:27 PM

Well since you have already been boning her and you were the first one to forget to return the call, so you should probably give in and call her. Bone her again and things should be back to normal.

I'm kinda in the same situation today, but haven't boned the girl.

-text girl
-replies 3 hours later
-doesn't call/text today and I haven't either

nice_lifts · 06-14-2009, 09:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Yifan

maybe you're just making too much of this

you might be right,I'm just pretty choked about it for some reason,so I thought I would get some advice

89FoxBody · 06-14-2009, 09:37 PM

You need to relax brah...Just call her FFS...Calling her doesn't make you beta lol.

nice_lifts · 06-14-2009, 09:38 PM

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Originally Posted by 89FoxBody

You need to relax brah...Just call her FFS...Calling her doesn't make you beta lol.

trust me,I don't concern myself with alpha and beta stuff lol.It's just the a principle thing

acecombact1 · 06-14-2009, 10:34 PM

same thing with the girl im seeing...............she text me after 2 days sometimes. i thought she giving me mixed signals, but she told me that she thought i wasnt into her cuse i dont hang out with her/ call her much.

bottom line girls like attention.

today she text me and ask if i want to hang out tomorrow, and i said we can hang out some other time next week.............she didnt answer yet, been like 12 hours.

girls are crazy and have no trace of logic in them

MillerDecaXC · 06-14-2009, 10:36 PM

send this to her through email:

nice_lifts · 06-14-2009, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by MillerDecaXC

send this to her through email:

lol,pretty funny man,i guess i set myself up for that one

Lieb · 06-14-2009, 11:04 PM

depends how much you like her, but I agree with you. If she is playing games it's not worth the effort (unless you're desperate)

I say call her again but if the pattern presists just move on

fkn_give_me_abs · 06-14-2009, 11:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Yifan

maybe you're just making too much of this

i agree with this

OP i reckon your making something out of nothing, could be any reason she didn't call back. Just call her again next you want to see her. If she makes a regular occurrence of this is when you should start to get pissy.

sydneyelvis · 06-14-2009, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by nice_lifts

so here's the story,I've been seeing this girl for about a month now.we have sex,we go out,stay over at each others house etc...anyways there has never been any power struggle from the beginning and I never had to worry about waiting to call or any of that bs,I would just call when I wanted to see her or when I wanted to say whats up,and she would call and text me just as much.

a couple days ago she called me around noon,and I was really busy,so I told her that I would call her back.I ended up not calling her back all day and I sent her a text that night to say sorry and goodnight,thinking she was probably asleep already.she texts back "sweet dreams babyboy"so I figure its all good.the next day I call her around 1 and she doesn't answer,so I thought she would probably call back,and didn't call her all day.she never gets back to me and then she texts me at 11 at night to say that "I'm on her mind,bla bla bla",acting like she didn't ignore my call all day.So I realized that she was trying to piss me off,because she was unhappy that I forgot to call her the day before.I didn't text back and now we are having a power struggle(waiting to see who's going to give in and call first).

Honestly I hate ****ing games like this and I'm on the verge of just calling it quits,I don't want to give in and call,and i don't want to wait for her to call.am I over-reacting?

any of you guys hate this ****/any advice

cliffs
-forgot to call girl,text her at night
-next day girl ignores my call then texts me at night
-realized she was playing games,ignored text
-power struggle(who's going to give in and call first)
-pissed off,might call it quits with her

stay strong dude... just call her and say ... "hey babe, listen i dont want to play these bull$hit power games, so if that's what your into then im outta here, if not then just say so"

nice_lifts · 06-15-2009, 12:10 AM

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Originally Posted by sydneyelvis

stay strong dude... just call her and say ... "hey babe, listen i dont want to play these bull$hit power games, so if that's what your into then im outta here, if not then just say so"

good advice thanks dude

ccm · 06-15-2009, 02:45 AM

maybe youre the one playin games princess?

HaruHaru · 06-15-2009, 03:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nice_lifts

so here's the story,I've been seeing this girl for about a month now.we have sex,we go out,stay over at each others house etc...anyways there has never been any power struggle from the beginning and I never had to worry about waiting to call or any of that bs,I would just call when I wanted to see her or when I wanted to say whats up,and she would call and text me just as much.

a couple days ago she called me around noon,and I was really busy,so I told her that I would call her back.I ended up not calling her back all day and I sent her a text that night to say sorry and goodnight,thinking she was probably asleep already.she texts back "sweet dreams babyboy"so I figure its all good.the next day I call her around 1 and she doesn't answer,so I thought she would probably call back,and didn't call her all day.she never gets back to me and then she texts me at 11 at night to say that "I'm on her mind,bla bla bla",acting like she didn't ignore my call all day.So I realized that she was trying to piss me off,because she was unhappy that I forgot to call her the day before.I didn't text back and now we are having a power struggle(waiting to see who's going to give in and call first).

Honestly I hate ****ing games like this and I'm on the verge of just calling it quits,I don't want to give in and call,and i don't want to wait for her to call.am I over-reacting?

any of you guys hate this ****/any advice

cliffs
-forgot to call girl,text her at night
-next day girl ignores my call then texts me at night
-realized she was playing games,ignored text
-power struggle(who's going to give in and call first)
-pissed off,might call it quits with her

so stop f*cking playing the game shes made and call her/ see her

lightningwatche · 06-15-2009, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by nice_lifts

Honestly I hate ****ing games like this and I'm on the verge of just calling it quits,I don't want to give in and call,and i don't want to wait for her to call.am I over-reacting?

Obviously you love games or you would not be playing them. Call her.

dindysport · 06-15-2009, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Yifan

maybe you're just making too much of this

gotta go with this...and who cares...just dont call her for a week...that'll teach her...

lightningwatche · 06-15-2009, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by sydneyelvis

stay strong dude... just call her and say ... "hey babe, listen i dont want to play these bull$hit power games, so if that's what your into then im outta here, if not then just say so"

Since she thinks he started it, this would be a dumb idea. He should just call her and explain the phone tag. He needs to explain, and say they both made a mistake.

irishman301 · 06-15-2009, 09:49 AM

The less you care, the easier "how to figure out women" becomes.

lightningwatche · 06-15-2009, 09:58 AM

OP should have appologized the first night. That was his mistake. Fact is some people deliborately don't call someone just to see if they get flustered or not, and then they give an excuse later. It is a messed up game, and the woman was laying down the law. He should have appologized. He did not mean to blow her off, but he still should appologize for forgetting.

Trapstar4.4 · 06-15-2009, 10:37 AM

lol i remember having these issues when i was younger. my advice in this situation is to call the next day like you did, let her play the game that day, and THEN calll her ONCE the next day to effectively "shut the game off" ...if that doesnt work, then she just loves playing games, which will suck for you.

Guardian · 06-15-2009, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by lightningwatche

OP should have appologized the first night. That was his mistake. Fact is some people deliborately don't call someone just to see if they get flustered or not, and then they give an excuse later. It is a messed up game, and the woman was laying down the law. He should have appologized. He did not mean to blow her off, but he still should appologize for forgetting.

Never apologise to a girl for anything

BigE83605 · 06-15-2009, 10:53 AM

just do somethin tonight/tomorrow with your boys and call her up invite her along. act like nothing changed.

nice_lifts · 06-15-2009, 03:35 PM

hey thanks for all the input guys,somebody said that if I didn't like games I wouldn't be playing them,and that hurt because maybe he was right lol

anyways to finish the story,she ended up calling me last night around midnight,we both pretended that nothing happened,and arranged to meet up later this week.she was as sweet as could be,****s all good

oh and to the guy that called me princess,that made me lol