"we need to talk" = Definite breakup?

[ToningCh1ck]

My boyfriend texted me that this morning and wants to talk later tonight. What do you think the chances are that this isnt a breakup??

and btw, I spent the night at his house last night. i met his mom and sister for the first time, talked with his dad for a little while, and then me and the bf cuddled while watching some movies, had sex, and fell asleep close to each other holding hands

...but he needs to talk about something serious 12 hours later? I'm so confused and sad and scared

I feel like the phrase "we need to talk" always prior to a breakup, but maybe I'm wrong?

[Patrice_Lumumba]

Well, have you done anything to warrant a breakup? Maybe he found out about some skeletons in your closet?

It doesn't necessairly mean that, but it also can, I dunno, wait and see, it might not be that bad, best of luck with it.

[FGCHENG]

is he that MMA guy?

[LovesMuscles]

It usually means (to me) the person will give you an ultimatum, discuss a problem, or breakup with you.

[mendozaj0214]

Him: "we need to talk"
Her: OMG HE's breaking up with me!
Him : "can i pittb?"

















lol its probably nothing... unless you cheated and you think he found out....

[ToningCh1ck]

Originally Posted by Patrice_Lumumba

Well, have you done anything to warrant a breakup? Maybe he found out about some skeletons in your closet?

It doesn't necessairly mean that, but it also can, I dunno, wait and see, it might not be that bad, best of luck with it.

thanks...and i really dont think ive done anything to warrant a breakup. Maybe its something I'm unaware of, though. A part of me thinks he isnt over his ex and maybe is scared since our relationship is moving kind of fast.

Originally Posted by FGCHENG

is he that MMA guy?

lol nope. he had a girlfriend :/

Originally Posted by LovesMuscles

It usually means (to me) the person will give you an ultimatum, discuss a problem, or breakup with you.

Yeah, I'm thinking its something like that. I hope it isnt a big problem. I feel like if there was a huge problem in our relationship, I would be aware of it... but I can't think of anything.

[ToningCh1ck]

Originally Posted by mendozaj0214

Him: "we need to talk"
Her: OMG HE's breaking up with me!
Him : "can i pittb?"

lol its probably nothing... unless you cheated and you think he found out....

lolz at the PIITB. I didn't cheat on him

but i dont get how you can say its probably nothing. Saying "we need to talk" usually means someone is about to say something big.

[mendozaj0214]

well if you honestly didn't do anything wrong then there's nothing to be worried about...
dont over analyze, your sounding like us guys right now LOL picking apart and over analyzing shiits

[SiKkBaSs]

Originally Posted by ToningCh1ck

lolz at the PIITB. I didn't cheat on him

but i dont get how you can say its probably nothing. Saying "we need to talk" usually means someone is about to say something big.

In for what it is...

[Bollock-chops]

Maybe he's going to tell you that he wants you in the kitchen more often

[lunchbox12]

maybe he gave you the aids

[ToningCh1ck]

Originally Posted by mendozaj0214

well if you honestly didn't do anything wrong then there's nothing to be worried about...
dont over analyze, your sounding like us guys right now LOL picking apart and over analyzing shiits

haha im pretty sure that girls are the overanalyzers in most cases. I just feel horrible because i havent liked someone this much in my whole life.


if i get dumped in the next couple hours, can you guys post funny pictures in this thread to make me feel better??

[mendozaj0214]

will trade funny pics for noodz



























brb calling your said bf to break up with you..
preparing some funny pics...
LOL JK.

[IronAlex]

I doubt he's breaking up with you and if he was you would have at least an idea of why before hand, but best of luck though. I don't think I've ever said "we need to talk" to a girl so cryptic before but every guy is diffrent I guess.

LOL in for noodz

[Lovespell]

Originally Posted by Bollock-chops

Maybe he's going to tell you that he wants you in the kitchen more often

Your 18, Canadian, and not even funny. Do you think wearing a UFC ski cap makes you bad ass? It doesn't - Just stop posting.

TC, while it sucks, I guess all you can do is wait. I'd be thinking the same thing as you right now. I try to expect the worst, that way anything above it is a pleasant surprise. I am sure its nothing though, maybe he really likes you and wants to tell you so. If it is the dreaded ex, can't blame yourself. It will be HIS loss.

Keep us posted =)

[Bollock-chops]

Originally Posted by Lovespell

Your 18, Canadian, and not even funny. Do you think wearing a UFC ski cap makes you bad ass? It doesn't - Just stop posting.

TC, while it sucks, I guess all you can do is wait. I'd be thinking the same thing as you right now. I try to expect the worst, that way anything above it is a pleasant surprise. I am sure its nothing though, maybe he really likes you and wants to tell you so. If it is the dreaded ex, can't blame yourself. It will be HIS loss.

Keep us posted =)

Hey, I'm only joking lighten up. What he hell is wrong with you?

[FreshPrince_01]

Originally Posted by ToningCh1ck

My boyfriend texted me that this morning and wants to talk later tonight. What do you think the chances are that this isnt a breakup??

and btw, I spent the night at his house last night. i met his mom and sister for the first time, talked with his dad for a little while, and then me and the bf cuddled while watching some movies, had sex, and fell asleep close to each other holding hands

...but he needs to talk about something serious 12 hours later? I'm so confused and sad and scared ...I feel like the phrase "we need to talk" always prior to a breakup, but maybe I'm wrong?

if he breaks up with you, post his nudes, profit



























wait wut ?

[ToningCh1ck]

Originally Posted by Lovespell

Your 18, Canadian, and not even funny. Do you think wearing a UFC ski cap makes you bad ass? It doesn't - Just stop posting.

TC, while it sucks, I guess all you can do is wait. I'd be thinking the same thing as you right now. I try to expect the worst, that way anything above it is a pleasant surprise. I am sure its nothing though, maybe he really likes you and wants to tell you so. If it is the dreaded ex, can't blame yourself. It will be HIS loss.

Keep us posted =)

thanks ...yeah right now, I'm expecting the worst and hoping for the best...

[hugs_kisses]

That's never good. One time I got that text and I called him then and there and made him give me the bad news. I can't stand suspense (the bad kind, not the good kind).

[Lovespell]

Originally Posted by Bollock-chops

Hey, I'm only joking lighten up. What he hell is wrong with you?

Cool as a cucumber. But hey, if you like wearing ski caps indoors and/or offering an overused, unoriginal derogatory statement when she is obviously asking for advice and is worried - more power to you.

I am sure she has never heard that phrase though. Is it patented?

[CelticBhoy]

Originally Posted by ToningCh1ck

thanks ...yeah right now, I'm expecting the worst and hoping for the best...

Sadly, it can mean anything. Your initial reaction is pretty normal: A text message saying, "We need to talk" is pretty damn common for a break-up.

How long have you been dating? Have you guys been fighting of recent? How's your communication?

I must say: It's pretty unfair for him to text you with that. Now the mindfukcs are in your head and he doesn't have to deal with that. It's like someone saying, "I have a secret!" and when you inquire about it, they say, "No! It's a secret!"

Why say it in the first place?

TC: Don't go there expecting the worst. Because even if IT does occur, it's going to hurt like a mofo. This is going to be far easier said than done, but: Accept the things you cannot change. Meaning: Thinking and dwelling on what he's going to say is wasted energy. You have to keep yourself occupied. Keep your mind away from this. If you're sitting here, rotting...it's never going to leave your head and the scenarios are going to get worse and worse and worse.

[Bollock-chops]

Originally Posted by Lovespell

Cool as a cucumber. But hey, if you like wearing ski caps indoors and/or offering an overused, unoriginal derogatory statement when she is obviously asking for advice and is worried - more power to you.

I am sure she has never heard that phrase though. Is it patented?

It's used a lot in the Misc. Hopefully you didn't take it the wrong way TC. I just realized from reading your post that it's pretty serious, there was nothing meant by it.

Hope all goes well.

[EN0]

Last time I told a girl we needed to talk i broke up with her :\
if it seems as though the relationship is headed in a good direction i see no reason why he would wanna break up with u
in for results...

[iamtheawesome]

Test results came back.



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[ToningCh1ck]

LoveSpell, you are too sweet haha....I think ive been miscing so long that i dont even notice the sexist comments anymore, though haha. so bollock, im not mad at all. no worries

im gonna go take a shower and wash my hair and do my nails and just clear my head until he calls. I've been completely myself in this relationship and a caring person and if that isnt enough for him, then so be it. I guess its better that it ends sooner rather than later if thats the case.

either way, ill update you guys...i honestly appreciate all of the input, be it positive or negative


p.s. i wrote and recorded him a song that i was gonna give to him on his bday in 2 weeks. if he dumps me, should i just send it anyways to him? i dont want my song to go to waste, and maybe itll make him feel even more guilty. mwahahaha

[balls2wall]

Stop worrying, whatever it is, it will not change weather you spend your time worrying or not.

[mendozaj0214]

Lmao, text him and be like "i know you want to talk...I have to tell you something too..."
so both of you guys would then worry about something.
Genius or what!?!

[du3ce]

he prob wants to tell u that he has.........Herpes

[CelticBhoy]

Originally Posted by ToningCh1ck

p.s. i wrote and recorded him a song that i was gonna give to him on his bday in 2 weeks. if he dumps me, should i just send it anyways to him? i dont want my song to go to waste, and maybe itll make him feel even more guilty. mwahahaha

No. Do not sent him to him. It wouldn't be a waste. Regardless where you get your creativity, inspiration, etc. music is art. So if you create something that is beautiful and you're proud of it, don't think of it as a waste.

"IF" you're thinking that he's breaking up with you (and I get that vibe) you said it best...so be it. I know what I offer and what I need to work on personally when it comes to a relationship (everyone has their strengths and weaknesses) but hell...I KNOW I am a catch. I know that my strengths greatly outweigh my cons. I know that if a girl decides, "Thanks but no thanks" it's her loss...not mine.

Adapt that attitude, TC. Physically you're a very attractive woman. Who you are as a person, I have no idea...but if you adapt that "I'm a keeper...it's his loss" mentality, you'll be golden.

[Miz-Zou]

Could possibly want to take things more slowly since you said its moving fast. Or could just be asking you for a "break".

Definitely don't "expect the worst" like some other posters said, you'll drive yourself crazy worrying about things you have no control over.