Me and my ex were together for 3 months, until this week. We were together at school for the bulk of the relationship, and only started our long distance relationship 3 weeks ago when school ended. I even bought a plane ticket to go see her in 5 weeks (at our university), which now is a waste. Things were going great, no arguments ever, then out of the blue she couldn't deal with the long distance anymore and hinted we should take a break.
So please read this convo (yes long but worth it).
Her (4am): Are you sure you want this?
Me: (noon) Maybe we should just take a break now and we'll see how things go in the fall
Her: I think youre right...
Her: Is that wat you want?
Me: It's fine with me
Her: Okay sexy teddy bear :-P
I thought about the breakup and regretted not talking to her more about it so sent her a message two days later:
Me: Are you sure you want this?
Her: Wat?
Me: to take a break
Her: I just worried about the long distance
Me: Ok
Her: I just dont want to mess things up this summer when I know they could be good this fall
Me: Mess things up?
Her: Yes I tend to do that
Me: So you're saying you were worried you were going to hookup with someone else so you want to take a break so you can do just that and not mess things up between us?
Her: No its not like that. I just want to be able to go out without feeling guilty
Me: Why would you feel guilty? I don't care if u go out
Me: I just think taking a break could mess things up for us in the fall. But if that's what you want, it is what it is. I just wish you told me you felt this way before because I spent $350 to come see you next month. I'm still going down there to hang with friends but it was a waste.
Her: Well what happens when i end up wasted in the back of someones car? Wouldnt you be mad?
Me: No I'd be happy you weren't the one driving. If you told me I could trust you I would. Why would I be mad? Whatever it's done
Her: I still want to see you when you come down! Its just not a good idea to be exclusive right now
Her: This is why I warned you from the beginning...
Me: I never really wanted to break up with you but I didn't think I had a choice. If you really want to go out with other people this summer, I can't stop you. But I'm not promising anything for the fall either.
Her: I was just being honest with you. I guess I wont wait around then for the fall?
Me: There's nothing else I can say. I didn't want to breakup, but if you do, that's your decision. I don't know what the future will hold, but yes this could jeopordize us getting back together
Her: Long distance is just hard and we havent been together long. I would rather be remembered as a flake than as a bitch that broke your heart..
Me: Well if you're saying I wouldn't have been able to trust you, maybe this is for the best
Her: Its not like that. You couldnt understand me that one night when i was really upset and you told me basically to get over myself. Remember?
Me: I don't remember..
Her: Well the point is that you dont get me. I just dont want to waste your time
Me: Explain what you mean
Her: You just dont understand me. But then again few people do. You're logical and im emotional. Im never logical. And im impulsive. I think with my heart.
Me: Got it
Her: Sorry...
Me: If you don't want me to "waste my time" on you, your wish is my command. Have a good summer and maybe I'll see you when I come down there
How did I handle myself? What is my best bet to do from here if I decide I want to get back with her in the fall? I'm not sure if I even want to get back together with her in the fall or if I want to see her when I go down to school in 5 weeks (I'm now going to be chillin with friends instead of staying with her which was the original plan when we were together). I feel like hooking up with her when I'm down there in 5 weeks or getting back together with her in the fall would hurt my pride. Does anyone agree or am I just being an idiot? Is this girl even worth it?
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Thread: Read my epic break-up convo
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05-23-2009, 09:41 PM #1
Read my epic break-up convo
Last edited by ufgator7; 05-23-2009 at 09:43 PM.
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05-23-2009, 09:47 PM #2
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05-23-2009, 09:52 PM #3
Serious reply:
Sounds like she wants an excuse to whore it up this summer. In other words, she wants to be able to sleep with whoever and do whatever she wants this summer, with no guilt. She isn't saying it, but that is what she obviously means. At least she isn't staying with you and then doing it behind your back, although it wouldn't surprise me if she has already. If you do hook up with her, wear a rubber, dude, but I wouldn't consider her serious dating material anymore.
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05-23-2009, 09:52 PM #4
Eh I'm kinda feeling fail on both ends of that convo..
Her= Fail because she's a typical sluty bitch.
You= Fail because you once you realized she was going to **** around on you all summer, didn't lead her on and keep her on the side for the fall, for a real "epic" dumping and breaking of her heart later on.
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05-23-2009, 09:53 PM #5
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05-23-2009, 09:56 PM #6
Trust me, I can still hit it when I visit. I just feel like doing that would hurt my pride though, you know?
Yea, you're probably right. But if she does try to get back with me in the fall and I decide I don't want to, I can point to what happened over the summer and tell her "you told me not to waste my time on you so i'm listening to your advice."
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05-23-2009, 10:01 PM #7
This. I was friends with a girl for a while who moved, and we kept in touch after she left. She moved with every intention of coming back, and we got really close after she left, and we had planned on getting together when she came home. She was like "no we have to wait a year so you can experience the whole 'college life' " which I read as "I wanna fcuk other brahs." I didn't push the issue and just recently she told me she realized she wouldn't be able to be without me when she came home.
So in reality, she just wanted to slut it up and you panicked.
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05-23-2009, 10:03 PM #8
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05-23-2009, 10:07 PM #9
It's fine but you handled it wrong. When she said she didn't wanna ruin things, you knew what she meant, but she didn't necessarily know you knew what she meant. So when you jumped to "so you can hookup with guys" or however you worded it, she automatically went on the defensive. You knew that's what she meant, calling her out wasn't going to solve anything.
Just my two pennies brah
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05-23-2009, 10:11 PM #10
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05-23-2009, 10:13 PM #11
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05-23-2009, 10:32 PM #12
Most fundamental problem I see is this is all taking place via an instant messenger.
I mean seriously...
Also, once someone mentions taking a break, it's over. Well, it is possible that you could get back together, but realize that while you are apart SOMEONE is getting laid.
If a girl mentions taking a break, there is ONLY one appropriate response. That is "ok, sounds reasonable. We'll see how it goes later" and then don't talk to her again till this break period is over.
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05-23-2009, 10:36 PM #13
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05-23-2009, 10:38 PM #14
It was all through texting, i typed it up for the forum. she was the one who initiated it via texting so i thought it'd be ok
by your definition i had the appropriate response the first time i talked to her..then messed it up when i messaged her two days later..but i'm glad i did, because i wanted to get some things off my chest and find out what was really on her mind.
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05-23-2009, 10:54 PM #15
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05-24-2009, 06:57 AM #16
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05-24-2009, 07:09 AM #17
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05-24-2009, 07:23 AM #18
Apparently she wasn't that into you. If you really like someone distance isn't a thing. Especially just for three months. But then again, you've only been dating for three months, so that's not a really strong foundation. I think that when you were together things were convenient for her and now that you're apart, she'd just following the path of less resistance. "Relationships" are oftentimes things people just go along with for fun and convenience. they don't necessarily mean anything.
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05-24-2009, 07:28 AM #19
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05-24-2009, 07:35 AM #20
Idk man. What I thought she was saying is, wouldn't you think it was sketchy if I was drunk and getting a ride home from another guy?
I think you may be right. She's a dumbass though. How does she expect to find a guy like me who is willing to have a serious relationship if he just presents herself to other guys as a slut? I think she made the wrong decision and will regret it later (I hope)
I know, I agree, I just felt like saying something haha. Yea I know it made me look beta, but I'll still have the last laugh when she tries to get back together in the fall and I say no way. I'll hookup with her, but I think that's the furthest this will go from here on out. If she wants to be a slut, I'll treat her as one
Oh and I'm going to make sure I'm extra jacked when I come down next month. She be like :-O
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05-24-2009, 07:49 AM #21
She may not be looking for a serious relationship. Either that or you're just not the one. She's having (her idea of) fun and this situation just isn't her piece of cake. I hate to be cliche but you can't turn a ho into a housewife. Not that I care; what she does is her business. But it seems are making a bigger deal of the fact that you were rejected more than anything. I don't think she's gonna just turn around one day and see you for the first time.
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05-24-2009, 08:05 AM #22
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05-24-2009, 08:15 AM #23
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05-24-2009, 08:27 AM #24
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05-24-2009, 08:41 AM #25
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You said too much. She pretty much said she is going to cheat on you if you continue to go out. You should've not even replied to her after that.
And you should have told her that alright we will hang out when i come down there, **** her..cause she said she wanted to meet you that means she wanted to **** so you should have done that..and not talk to her again after that
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05-24-2009, 08:46 AM #26
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05-24-2009, 08:49 AM #27
shut up bish.
OP:
- your gf is a whore
- nice of her to do so when youse arnt together so shes not really cheating, but still...
- clearly she wants a cock spree. Big cocks, little cocks, fat cocks, skinny cocks, big white cocks, little asain cocks, weird black cocks, female cocks, fake cocks, cockolates, easter eggs (made from cocks), cockadoodle-dos, a cup of cockfee, and maybe some cockuits, with a packet of cockps, and a nice salted cockagle then wash it down with a cockly fresh rum and cock.
- You dd white night in that convo though.
- Go visit your friends and phuck whore ex gf that wunts above ridiculous cock spree discription
- if she wuns yo after the fall, tell her the only fal that will end well is when you fal back on your bed after you blow a mnea load of BOOM! Protein (tm) all over that bishes face, right befoe you kick that bish to the curb.
- make bish feel bad for bein whore and use for pity sex
- never get back with her. She lost her gf material card right when her frieds started planning to go out and party.
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05-24-2009, 09:12 AM #28
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05-24-2009, 09:19 AM #29
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05-24-2009, 01:05 PM #30
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