Married folks--how often do you have sex?

Jaw-Knee · 04-01-2009, 07:57 PM

1. How often do you have sex?

2. Are you truly happy with the amount you get or are you just content enough not to bitch about it?

3. If sex isn't as frequent as you'd like it to be, what do you think the problem is?

And for the guys:

-How much has sex decreased since you got married?

-Do your wives put as much effort into it as they used to or is more like a "Hurry up and finish already, my show is on" kind of deal?

-What about BJs?

splitsville · 04-01-2009, 10:04 PM

I am married and we dont have sex as often as we used to..but we also have 2 kids, so often times its 11:30pm and we are exhausted so sex is sometimes last thing on our mind.

I think when couples aren't married, there is duel income, there is the nightlife, etc... there seems like less responsibilities that are high priority versus someone who is married (life insurance, diapers, bottles, roof over your family, etc...).

And for some couples, they become accustomed to each other after several years..the desire tones down, maybe the flame goes out completely, but I think that comes more down to routines sometimes. I love my wife very much and wish we could have sex a lot more...but I am literally working 2 jobs while she watches the kids. she is tired, I am tired, and even if we both want sex...its easier sometimes to choose not to in favor of sleep or getting things done. HOwever, it is unacceptable and eventually you drift apart if you don't get things straight and make sure there is intimacy between the two.

So your point on each question.

1. Couple times every 2 weeks...depends on how busy we are
2. Not happy with the amount, but I would love to screw multiple times a day if my wang and libido could handle it.

3. Time, energy, responsibilities - sometimes she is upset with me because I spend too much time working, or don't take the time out of my day to recognize her efforts, accomplishments, etc.. and yes that is all on me... I lose sight of things from time to time.

4. Decreased quite a bit.

5. As mentioned before, we are just tired by the end of the night. We don't substitute tv shows for time with each other..its just hard to spend close time until its almost midnight and the day is gone when dealing with kids, etc...

6. My wife gives a mean bj and I happily accept when she does it. Typically, the bj's are in direct coorelation with intercourse...every so often I get a bj with no reciprocation necessary.

jassako · 04-01-2009, 10:11 PM

1. How often do you have sex?

About once every 2-3 days

2. Are you truly happy with the amount you get or are you just content enough not to bitch about it?

Don't wanna start **** because we have children, but honestly, I'd want more.

3. If sex isn't as frequent as you'd like it to be, what do you think the problem is?

time....

And for the guys:

-How much has sex decreased since you got married?

didn't decrease after marriage....it's after kids that it drops significantly

-Do your wives put as much effort into it as they used to or is more like a "Hurry up and finish already, my show is on" kind of deal?

she puts effort

-What about BJs?

They just stopped all together....idk why

reps brah

janky · 04-01-2009, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

1. How often do you have sex?

2. Are you truly happy with the amount you get or are you just content enough not to bitch about it?

3. If sex isn't as frequent as you'd like it to be, what do you think the problem is?

And for the guys:

-How much has sex decreased since you got married?

-Do your wives put as much effort into it as they used to or is more like a "Hurry up and finish already, my show is on" kind of deal?

-What about BJs?

Not married, but in a relationship I take very serious with a lot of future potential...

1. Daily, but if we're both busy and schedules conflict every other day

2. I'm content and happy. If I get more, cool, sometimes I actually don't wanna do it though. Sometimes I'm beat and just wanna crash and I tell her no lol.

3. Schedules. Lack of energy/drive by the time we finish our daily routines. Well, that's all on me really.. she's a nympho.

4. Sex is the same, but I'm not married lol

5. She's really into it.. always wanting to. Sometimes I'm like "I dont wanna move."

6. BJ's at an all time high

If I don't put out, she goes straight for my pen0r with her mouf. I don't complain

IdahoViking · 04-02-2009, 09:38 AM

Major dry spell, hell it's a full blown draught!

Last time was Valentines Day.

deseee · 04-02-2009, 09:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

1. How often do you have sex?

2. Are you truly happy with the amount you get or are you just content enough not to bitch about it?

3. If sex isn't as frequent as you'd like it to be, what do you think the problem is?

And for the guys:

-How much has sex decreased since you got married?

-Do your wives put as much effort into it as they used to or is more like a "Hurry up and finish already, my show is on" kind of deal?

-What about BJs?

at least twice a week unless she's on the rag
I still bitch about it whether I get more or not.
physical energy/mood/libido
not a ton... when we didn't have kids it was way more often but after kids it's cooled a bit. although we already had 2 kids when we got married.
she'd love it if I'd get in and get off and go to sleep... I can't let that happen though.
they are still there... maybe not givin with the same intensity as they were before but still around.

GoutDeMiel · 04-02-2009, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

And for the guys:

-How much has sex decreased since you got married?

-Do your wives put as much effort into it as they used to or is more like a "Hurry up and finish already, my show is on" kind of deal?

-What about BJs?

leading the witness much, JK?

IdahoViking · 04-02-2009, 10:31 AM

Little did I know that "I do" actually meant "I don't anymore".

Before marriage, more than 10 times/week.

After marriage, sex went from daily, to weekly, to bi-weekly, to monthly.

I can't even remember what a BJ feels like anymore.

deseee · 04-02-2009, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by IdahoViking

Little did I know that "I do" actually meant "I don't anymore".

Before marriage, more than 10 times/week.

After marriage, sex went from daily, to weekly, to bi-weekly, to monthly.

I can't even remember what a BJ feels like anymore.

I told her I'd divorce her ass if I didn't get it on the regular... It's worked so far.... either that our you'll be the buffest 51 year old at the bar in a few weeks here.

Punisher1012 · 04-02-2009, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

1. How often do you have sex?

2. Are you truly happy with the amount you get or are you just content enough not to bitch about it?

3. If sex isn't as frequent as you'd like it to be, what do you think the problem is?

And for the guys:

-How much has sex decreased since you got married?

-Do your wives put as much effort into it as they used to or is more like a "Hurry up and finish already, my show is on" kind of deal?

-What about BJs?

1. about 6 to 8 times a week (I only see her on weekends)

2. I'm more than happy she's always asking for it

3.no problem I just see her on weekends

sex has just been increasing for me and she knows she better put out!!

stsmurf · 04-02-2009, 11:15 AM

Either way, you're all getting regular sex more then me!

ImFromDuval · 04-02-2009, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by stsmurf

Either way, you're all getting regular sex more then me!

You poor thing

Come to Florida the girls here are easy.

Punisher1012 · 04-02-2009, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by DJ-DuvalFLA

You poor thing

Come to Florida the girls here are easy.

I love Florida girls. I wish I could move there

stsmurf · 04-02-2009, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by DJ-DuvalFLA

You poor thing

Come to Florida the girls here are easy.

Hehe i really havent been spitting much game lately, nor putting myself out there much. Usually during the week
Cardio 6:30 - 7:15
Work 8-5
Gym 8-9:15
Sleep - 11

Plus im not drinking due to trying to cut pretty hard.
Weekends, spent 2 weekends focused on a final. Otherwise i try to go boarding so i dont really go out and do much drinking since i get up usually earlier to go boarding then i do for work :P

*shrug* best chances are typically the gym. But i've got bitty with me usually

plus i dont hit on girls at the gym

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I love Florida girls. I wish I could move there

I love visiting florida for vacations and such, but i'm not much for living there.

ImFromDuval · 04-02-2009, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by stsmurf

Hehe i really havent been spitting much game lately, nor putting myself out there much. Usually during the week
Cardio 6:30 - 7:15
Work 8-5
Gym 8-9:15
Sleep - 11

Plus im not drinking due to trying to cut pretty hard.
Weekends, spent 2 weekends focused on a final. Otherwise i try to go boarding so i dont really go out and do much drinking since i get up usually earlier to go boarding then i do for work :P

*shrug* best chances are typically the gym. But i've got bitty with me usually plus i dont hit on girls at the gym

I love visiting florida for vacations and such, but i'm not much for living there.

Tid is going to the gym? WOW!

Yeah you seem like your schedule is pretty hectic. I had to slow down on the drink and going out alot. Too much partying for me plus I was mad whoring around. Its not as fun as its cracked up to be anyways

stsmurf · 04-02-2009, 11:32 AM

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Originally Posted by DJ-DuvalFLA

Tid is going to the gym? WOW!

Yeah you seem like your schedule is pretty hectic. I had to slow down on the drink and going out alot. Too much partying for me plus I was mad whoring around. Its not as fun as its cracked up to be anyways

Haha yeah im basically her trainer, but moreso just making her work hard and having giving her tips etc.

Yep, i mean i could slow it down, but things are going well. Pretty much "the game" and all that bullsh*t im over at this point, its mostly peer pressure of "omfg you gatta lay out some bitches", i dont really care, im having a blast with how things are AND im saving money this way.

as for whoring, i've definitely gone through my stages. I honestly have more fun in the actual pickup and getting a girl to want to f*ck me then i do fuking her honestly. Usually when the time comes and she's all "lets FUK!" i just want to go to sleep

Al_Pal · 04-02-2009, 11:34 AM

my wife has sex with the mail man more than me. serious

szary89 · 04-02-2009, 11:36 AM

My wife, she likes to talk after sex...so she calls me from the hotel room...no respect (sorry just had to)

Punisher1012 · 04-02-2009, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Al_Pal

my wife has sex with the mail man more than me. serious

lol quit trying to sound like the typical miscer

Al Swearengen · 04-02-2009, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

1. How often do you have sex?

couple times a week, varies sometimes more sometimes less.

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2. Are you truly happy with the amount you get or are you just content enough not to bitch about it?

happy with it

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3. If sex isn't as frequent as you'd like it to be, what do you think the problem is?

And for the guys:

-How much has sex decreased since you got married?

usually if you both still love one another it will come down to being a hormonal problem.

sex decreased since i was 20 from 5-7 times a week on average to now 43 and 1-2 times a week on average and we have been together 25 years.

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-Do your wives put as much effort into it as they used to or is more like a "Hurry up and finish already, my show is on" kind of deal?

-What about BJs?

my wife puts as much and even more effort than she used to so no change there and BJ's are on the menu still.

Fred Flinstone · 04-02-2009, 11:56 AM

3-4 times a week. and being married doesnt really have anything to do with a sex decrease, its what comes with it. kids means less time and tire you out of course. but the main thing is, when you get married, that usually means you have a real job, and your wife probably does too. when you are younger, you just **** around all day, go lift, play ball, maybe go to to a few classes etc while your girlfriend lays out by the pool and watches the hills or some stupid **** on tv. no real responsibilites or real life stresses. so of course there is more sex.

so its kind of comparing apples to oranges when comparing married adults sex life to college kids or whatever it may be.

just something to think about

as far as bj's i still dont understand why for some people, they go away when you get married. i wouldn't stand for that

mydawgs · 04-02-2009, 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

1. How often do you have sex?

When we were first married...every day.
Kids came, jobs got tough, mostly only on weekends.
Kids left, careers established, money is good and sex is great....almost every day!!!!!

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

2. Are you truly happy with the amount you get or are you just content enough not to bitch about it??

Yes...and I believe he is as well

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

3. If sex isn't as frequent as you'd like it to be, what do you think the problem is??

When it wasn't as frequent it was kids, job stress and lack of time.

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

And for the guys:

-How much has sex decreased since you got married?

-Do your wives put as much effort into it as they used to or is more like a "Hurry up and finish already, my show is on" kind of deal?

-What about BJs?

None of these ?s apply to me.....

Al_Pal · 04-02-2009, 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Punisher1012

lol quit trying to sound like the typical miscer

what do you mean?

i dont think i have ever posted more than 5 times total in the misc.

tbonez3858 · 04-02-2009, 01:13 PM

1. How often do you have sex?

Once a week sometimes once every two weeks...

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2. Are you truly happy with the amount you get or are you just content enough not to bitch about it?

No bitch and then she does good for a few weeks and then back to the same old...I am VERY lucky compared to some of my friends who rarely if ever get it from their wives...

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3. If sex isn't as frequent as you'd like it to be, what do you think the problem is?

Dont know..I think she has a slightly lower libido than I do. She gets stressed out very easy at work +kids etc so Im sure that has an affect on her....

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-How much has sex decreased since you got married?

A little...It isnt the amount its really the level of intensity/effort that bothers me.

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-Do your wives put as much effort into it as they used to or is more like a "Hurry up and finish already, my show is on" kind of deal?

No....From my experience you will never have the same type of sex you had before you got married. They get lazy because they think you arent going to leave because of the kids and the money....Another words prenup or they got yo a** and they know it! A prenup is about MUCH more than money....It takes their leverage away from becoming lazy. Thats why they fight prenups so hard....Another words if everyone had a guaranteed paycheck at their job and had a severence package of 1,000,000 how much work would the average person put in? How afraid of getting fired would they be?? Im NOT a women hater but many women see marriage as a free ride...They sucker you in with the sex, marry you, have a kid and then stop the sex...If you kick them to the curb YOU pay and they relax...I am lucky because I have a pretty cool wife that really isnt into material things.

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-What about BJs?

I get as many as I want...Its getting laid that is a little harder. I have the reverse of most people...

IdahoViking · 04-02-2009, 01:30 PM

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-Do your wives put as much effort into it as they used to or is more like a "Hurry up and finish already, my show is on" kind of deal?

No....From my experience you will never have the same type of sex you had before you got married. They get lazy because they think you arent going to leave because of the kids and the money....Another words prenup or they got yo a** and they know it! A prenup is about MUCH more than money....It takes their leverage away from becoming lazy. Thats why they fight prenups so hard....Another words if everyone had a guaranteed paycheck at their job and had a severence package of 1,000,000 how much work would the average person put in? How afraid of getting fired would they be?? Im NOT a women hater but many women see marriage as a free ride...They sucker you in with the sex, marry you, have a kid and then stop the sex...If you kick them to the curb YOU pay and they relax...

In my day (the 70;s), it was assumed that most women went to college to get their MRS. degree.

Jaw-Knee · 04-02-2009, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by janky

Not married, but in a relationship I take very serious with a lot of future potential...

Sorry, you don't count.

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Originally Posted by GoutDeMiel

leading the witness much, JK?

It's common knowledge among men and women that guys want to fuck all the time, and it's common knowledge among people with brains that sex decreases after marriage. If guys want to fuck all the time, then it stands to reason that a decrease in sex after marriage is due to a lack of effort on the wife's part.

You can't say that guys are a bunch of horny bastards and then blame the lack of sex in marriages on them. Sorry.

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Originally Posted by tbonez3858

No....From my experience you will never have the same type of sex you had before you got married. They get lazy because they think you arent going to leave because of the kids and the money....Another words prenup or they got yo a** and they know it! A prenup is about MUCH more than money....It takes their leverage away from becoming lazy. Thats why they fight prenups so hard....Another words if everyone had a guaranteed paycheck at their job and had a severence package of 1,000,000 how much work would the average person put in? How afraid of getting fired would they be?? Im NOT a women hater but many women see marriage as a free ride...They sucker you in with the sex, marry you, have a kid and then stop the sex...If you kick them to the curb YOU pay and they relax...I am lucky because I have a pretty cool wife that really isnt into material things.

Damn, dude.

Is this to say that you shouldn't get married if you want to keep having sex?

Kaptn Krunch · 04-02-2009, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

1. How often do you have sex?

Somewhere between 1x and 5x a week. Some weeks it's more, some it's less.

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

2. Are you truly happy with the amount you get or are you just content enough not to bitch about it?

100% content. Between both of us working and 3 kids + me being in school means that there are more pressing things than sex many times.

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

-How much has sex decreased since you got married?

If anything, it increased till we had 2 kids. Kids kill sex. Not marriage

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

Do your wives put as much effort into it as they used to or is more like a "Hurry up and finish already, my show is on" kind of deal?

Wife puts more effort into it now. She has turned into quite the lil' freak the last year and sometimes surprises me with how freaky she's willing to get.

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What about BJs?

If she's drunk, she'll give it a whirl...But I never really liked BJ's anyway. I'd rather fukk than get a BJ that does nothing for me.

mydawgs · 04-02-2009, 01:44 PM

Looks like so far the concensus is having children, that take up a great deal of your time...all day, and when very young, long nights....has the most impact on the frequency a married couple has sex....