Need some input (serious)

Jon0415 · 03-20-2009, 07:03 PM

ok here is the situation. I've been dating my current woman since last July, things started off amazingly, but lately we've ran into some issues. I'll give some background info and such to try and fill you all in as much as i can bc i really just need some third party opinions.

Shes a nursing student and is in her last year and naturally extremely stressed. She has anxiety issues to begin with so shes been goin crazy lately. Her best friends are guys, thats never been an issue and I know and am friends with them as well. They're a good group.

Well, lately she started saying she doesn't want a title in our relationship anymore bc shes extremely stressed as is and doesn't want to feel like she has any added responsibility than what she has to have from being a student. We're still together though, and still exclusive as in not dating any other people BUT:

shes been hanging out with one of her guy friends nearly every single day. I'm friends with him and never thought anything was going on before, but her biggest complaint with me has been that we are together too often and hang out too much. Shes been hanging out with this other guy every single day. She's been blowing me off lately saying things like she doesn't want to do anything and is going to stay in yet ends up hanging out with that guy and her other guy friends.

Does it sound like I should be worried? She tells me that nothing is going on and I always trusted her bc I've never had a reason not to and the guy I consider a friend. Its just bothering me how shes been acting lately and the fact that they're always together now. Idk if I'm just being paranoid so figured I'd ask for some third party input.

saaltydog · 03-20-2009, 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Jon0415

ok here is the situation. I've been dating my current woman since last July, things started off amazingly, but lately we've ran into some issues. I'll give some background info and such to try and fill you all in as much as i can bc i really just need some third party opinions.

Shes a nursing student and is in her last year and naturally extremely stressed. She has anxiety issues to begin with so shes been goin crazy lately. Her best friends are guys, thats never been an issue and I know and am friends with them as well. They're a good group.

Well, lately she started saying she doesn't want a title in our relationship anymore bc shes extremely stressed as is and doesn't want to feel like she has any added responsibility than what she has to have from being a student. We're still together though, and still exclusive as in not dating any other people BUT:

shes been hanging out with one of her guy friends nearly every single day. I'm friends with him and never thought anything was going on before, but her biggest complaint with me has been that we are together too often and hang out too much. Shes been hanging out with this other guy every single day. She's been blowing me off lately saying things like she doesn't want to do anything and is going to stay in yet ends up hanging out with that guy and her other guy friends.

Does it sound like I should be worried? She tells me that nothing is going on and I always trusted her bc I've never had a reason not to and the guy I consider a friend. Its just bothering me how shes been acting lately and the fact that they're always together now. Idk if I'm just being paranoid so figured I'd ask for some third party input.

Uh Yeah you should be worried. Anytime a girl says she wants to change the title of your relationship it's bad. It doesn't matter whether she is stressed or not. It sounds like she wants to leave the relationship but doesn't have the balls to do it right now. So by saying she wants to change the title it is a step in that direction.

As soon as she is comfortable enough with this other prospect she is hanging out with you are getting kicked out. There is no reason to blow you off but then hang out with the other chump. I would put my foot down and act like a man. Let her know you aren't her bitch and you want it to change. If she doesn't listen **** her.

MMA Superstar 2 · 03-20-2009, 07:08 PM

I'm no Nurse, but if I were you, I'd get a scalpel from your gf and stick it so far in the guy's dick that blood starts pouring out like a water fountain.

Jon0415 · 03-20-2009, 07:16 PM

I have put my foot down and talked to her about it but she vehemently denies that anything is going on and says hes just a friend, I just keep getting this feeling. Its just hard bc yeah we haven't dated very long, but its different the way I feel about her. Shes dicking me around lately, but I love the girl

Geno · 03-20-2009, 07:17 PM

Ditch her.

saaltydog · 03-20-2009, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Jon0415

I have put my foot down and talked to her about it but she vehemently denies that anything is going on and says hes just a friend, I just keep getting this feeling. Its just hard bc yeah we haven't dated very long, but its different the way I feel about her. Shes dicking me around lately, but I love the girl

You are getting this feeling because you know the truth deep down. That feeling never lies to you.

If she is already starting this **** about titles and all that in the beginning of the relationship it's only going to get worse. Usually at the beginning two people can't get enough of each other. Yet she is ditching you and chilling with other guys.

If you put your foot down and things haven't changed. Leave her.

Jon0415 · 03-20-2009, 07:28 PM

Thanks for the input guys, I'm going to end it. I just needed to vent and hear it from some random people because tis hard for me. I really love this girl, but realistically its just going to be a waste of time no matter how I feel if this is how shes acting already

NSWC · 03-20-2009, 07:29 PM

tell her to stop hanging out with him or its over

ImFromDuval · 03-20-2009, 07:29 PM

Time to let her go bro. That is the easiest way I can put it. I am sorry but if my GF blew me off to go hang out with her guy friend then she would get dumped that very second

saaltydog · 03-20-2009, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Jon0415

Thanks for the input guys, I'm going to end it. I just needed to vent and hear it from some random people because tis hard for me. I really love this girl, but realistically its just going to be a waste of time no matter how I feel if this is how shes acting already

That's how it usually works. Deep down you know that she is dicking you around and you need to end it. That feeling never lies to you. However your emotional brain is saying no no I really like the girl. She could just be stressed our and blah blah blah.

Then you get other peoples opinion and you get a clearer picture. You realize the right thing to do and you end it. You are better off without her. Find an awesome girl that wants to be in a relationship and wants to spend her time with you instead of some other douche.