My husband and I moved to Nashville three years ago. Since then we have had our wonderful son. Anyway I have had a really hard time making friends here. It may have to do with the fact im a younger mom (?). I have a playgroup we go to and while the moms seem nice to my face I feel like they all gossip behind my back, in fact I know it has gone on a couple times. Anyone else have a hard time with this after moving to a new area? If so how did you meet your friends?
Sorry this is kind of a vent but im depressed and I thought someone might have some good advice.
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01-31-2009, 08:03 AM #1Registered User
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Anyone else have a hard time making friends in a new area?
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01-31-2009, 08:07 AM #2Registered User
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I have moved around a lot in my life. It is hard at first whenever you move to a new area.
Usually, the first place I meet people is at work. If you go to some social things with people you work with you meet other people there eventually and it just kind of spreads from there.
All that said, I don't have any life-long friends like a lot of people do. I guess it's just part of the cost of moving.
I wish you luck though and hope you get to feeling better real soon!
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01-31-2009, 08:11 AM #3Registered User
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Thanks. Im a stay at home mom and model and act on the side. The girls I meet at gigs are great but I havent met any with kids and they dont exactly want to come hang out at my house with my kid while I cook and clean lol.
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01-31-2009, 02:47 PM #4
Yes! I keep following my hubby around to every military station they send us and have a hell of a time finding any girlfriends. It's funny, because we're all married, but the second they see any girl who is decent looking and takes care of their body, they shut them down. I'm happily married, so I have no interest in their husbands, but I've been dealing with this for 2 years now. It's sad too, the few girls that I can hang out with do the same to other girls. Military wives are so insecure!!
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01-31-2009, 02:49 PM #5
Oh, and it's very obvious that the other mothers are gossiping about you because you're obviously pretty and they're insecure with themselves. It's funny how women work..
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01-31-2009, 04:39 PM #6Registered User
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Maybe you could create a new playgroup. Is your son old enough for classes like gymnastics or mother morning out programs? I started my son in Gymboree when he was 18 months and Kindermusic even younger. Some of my closest friends are the ones I met in our Moms group. A couple of us have been together for 10 years. Yes, you will meet many moms with whom you don't click with for various reasons but try to extend your friendship to lots of moms and sooner or later you will develop a group of mom friends. I also realized that I have friends that I probably wouldn't be friends with except that my kids are friends with their kids. Age has never been a criteria for friendship except that most of my mom friends have kids with similar ages. See if Nashville has a kid newspaper. We have Carolina Parent. It is found in every library and pediatrics office for free in my area. It has a calendar and articles for and about kids in my area. I bet Nashville has a similar magazine. Good luck.
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01-31-2009, 04:44 PM #7Registered User
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This is the truth to be honest. you are attractive and are 102lbs, they talk trash about you because it makes them feel better about themselves in some weird way. use it as motivation. true friends are hard to find.Originally Posted by liang
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01-31-2009, 04:50 PM #8Registered User
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I've moved around a lot in life. And for the last 13 years, stayed in once place. It's hard find friends to start. And harder to keep them over time. Mine keep moving away.
Sometimes, you need to get out of a rut, get into a different track so you can meet a different crowd.
Do any of the gyms nearby have a daycare center? You can work out, bring the kid, and maybe meet some new people. The other thing you can try is going to book clubs, or wine tasting events.I might be out of the woods...
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02-01-2009, 01:29 PM #9Registered User
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I would say join some sort of (different) social group. What kind of stuff doyou like to do?
uhm, I know here the colleges etc have a lot of "mini" classes where you can sign up for something that lasts like a month like.. a cooking class, or wine tasting or art etc, look around for something like that that interests you..
Or activities for your child as well.. I'm not sure how old he is but there are activities for young children like.. swimming with a parent classes etc I dunno lol I haven't really looked into that much heheh
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02-01-2009, 02:11 PM #10Registered User
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You might look into volunteering in your community or if you're part of a religious congregation, they may have some sort of ladies' club. You might also meet other moms at your local library's storytime.
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02-02-2009, 08:09 AM #11i love eggs
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I agree that they're jealous - doesn't change anything, but just please don't take it personally
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02-02-2009, 08:11 AM #12ummmmm delicious
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friends...how many of us have them...friends...
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02-02-2009, 10:02 AM #13Registered User
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Thanks guys! I am so very lonely and I wish women wouldnt be so caddy. Why cant you girls live nearby? I could use a workout buddy
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02-02-2009, 12:17 PM #14RAWR
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It was hard for me at first when I moved to Honolulu from Florida, leaving everything I've ever known behind. I work a typical day job and don't like meeting people at bars.
The majority of my close friends I met through www.meetin.org
They've probably got one for Nashville. It's an absolute GREAT way to meet people! Anyone can plan events and you just RSVP for whatever you want to go to. I've done so many things with it - hikes, snorkelling, boat trips, dinners, movies, bar nights, parties, the list goes on. Now that I've made good friends from the group, I don't use it as often, unless there's something going on that I really want to do. So definitely check it out
Another good site is www.meetup.com
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02-02-2009, 05:20 PM #15Coconut Oil Pusher
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I think its harder for adults to make friends in general. I mean when your 7 you can just walk up to any other 7 years old and say "I got the new Hawaiian barbie, wanna play?" and the other girl is instantly your best friend!
I will try to be nicer, when you try to be smarter.
I'm the kind of girl who carries her real Glock in her fake Coach...except have a real Coach because I hate faking it.
Why do you need a side dish? Just eat the meat.
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02-02-2009, 06:50 PM #16Registered User
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Thats still how I find guy friends, well, its Ken not barbie, but same idea..........Originally Posted by TeresaMalia
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02-02-2009, 06:57 PM #17Coconut Oil Pusher
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lol........ no (no homo) I noticed.Originally Posted by pryme
I will try to be nicer, when you try to be smarter.
I'm the kind of girl who carries her real Glock in her fake Coach...except have a real Coach because I hate faking it.
Why do you need a side dish? Just eat the meat.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
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02-02-2009, 08:03 PM #18Registered User
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I am 30, not 16. lol.Originally Posted by TeresaMalia
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02-02-2009, 10:43 PM #19Coconut Oil Pusher
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30 huh? Too mature for a (no homo) tag? Let me refer you back to this post you made....Originally Posted by pryme
So.....(no homo)?Originally Posted by pryme
I will try to be nicer, when you try to be smarter.
I'm the kind of girl who carries her real Glock in her fake Coach...except have a real Coach because I hate faking it.
Why do you need a side dish? Just eat the meat.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
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02-03-2009, 10:32 AM #20Hard Work=SUCCESS
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who cares if they talk behind your back lol your hot and they're not.
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02-03-2009, 10:59 AM #21ummmmm delicious
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A friend is a 20 dollar bill in your pocket..
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02-03-2009, 12:22 PM #22Registered User
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I moved from San Diego to a small town West of Knoxville, TN in 1992. I still have problems finding true friends. People I can chat with no problem but women who I actually like not many so far. They are catty. I tried going to local churches and even tried fitting in with my children's friends mom's .. It never did much good. I like me well enough that they honestly don't matter anymore. I do my own thing and am polite in social settings other than that I know a few cool guys that don't mind me being myself.
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02-03-2009, 02:30 PM #23Registered User
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I have been living in a different country for 11 years, in one state for 7 years and I find it hard to make new friends. I did not grow up here, I am now a Mom of 2 and I do not work, so I am not really making friends easily. Kinda sucks!
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02-03-2009, 06:00 PM #24aneasGuest
We have moved 3 times in the last 5 years so I can relate. My wife has always had a hard time making friends with the other moms. She is 35 and we have a 14, 11, and 9 year old. She is 102lbs and very pretty still so most women seem to hate her.
What seemed to help her was either a part time job or volunteering. Even if it was only for 4 hours a week it helped. Being alone with kids all day is not healthy for anyone.
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02-04-2009, 08:56 AM #25User Registered
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My girl and I have moved twice since living together. We have a hard time finding friends that are worth keeping. At first we would take any friend we got but then we started realizing that there's a lot of screwed up couples out there and we didn't want a friend to be dragging us down with drama. So we got a lot more picky and as a result, don't have as many friends.
A lot of times you can find 1 or two from work like it was said. We met one couple online and went to their house for a dinner. They had invited another couple so there were 6 of us. We ended up becoming good friends with that third couple and the original couple that invited us over we dropped. I've invited the guy to do stuff together but we've miss cued a lot and not gotten to know each other. Mostly we just hang out as a couple with them.
I met another guy through craigslist that was looking for a workout partner and he turned out to be a pretty cool guy. Only problem was he moved to England recently.
My fiance and I are getting married in a few weeks and all of the people in our wedding party are either from highschool or college. We've been out of college for 4 years now but haven't even come close to finding friends like the ones we had in college and highschool.
Its hard. If anybody figures it out, let me know too, lol.wut?
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02-04-2009, 11:30 AM #26King of Kings
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I got a ummmm you wanna play????Originally Posted by TeresaMalia
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02-04-2009, 11:32 AM #27King of Kings
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My wife is the same way. When she was prego she was on a board for expecting and they have all kept up after the kids have been born she has a few frineds from there and there are even a couple local.Originally Posted by amberlyann2005
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02-04-2009, 01:28 PM #28#BackInTheGame
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Do you have any hobbies or activities that you enjoy? I'd suggest finding local community clubs or rec groups that share similar interests. Usually that with a nice smile and welcoming attitude is becoming to friendships.
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02-04-2009, 08:38 PM #29Coconut Oil Pusher
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a wife? SUREOriginally Posted by dunkonu9
I got a ummmm you wanna play????
I will try to be nicer, when you try to be smarter.
I'm the kind of girl who carries her real Glock in her fake Coach...except have a real Coach because I hate faking it.
Why do you need a side dish? Just eat the meat.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
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02-05-2009, 06:16 AM #30i love eggs
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So true....those were the days...Originally Posted by TeresaMalia
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