Why is it that 9 out of 10 girls

[BigJayNJ]

Date guys below them looks wise? On the flipside, maybe 1 out of 10 good looking dudes have proportionately good looking girlfriends (on ugly side)?

I definitely think its because of the "threat complex". Meaning: If they date some beneath them they're less likely to be cheated on or left.

Case in point...this absolutely smoking hot chick I used to date is now seeing this absolute trainwreck. I am not a bitter person since I realized we would have never worked. However, I saw this guy and couldn't even settle on the "Well he's a normal looking dude". He was tall, lanky, out of shape, and his nose looked like someone smacked it with a brick.

I think men are more apt and to date on or above their level where as women seem to prefer dating below their level.

[Fiz-iks]

To me it's just further proof that women don't value looks as much as men.

[fretslayer]

I've noticed this too, happens alot. I think it's a case of that peticular guy had the confidence to step up and make a move. Thus bypassing his less than stellar looks. The confidence thing wins again and again.

[BigJayNJ]

To me it's just further proof that women don't value looks as much as men.

I think you're right. It's also a combo of that and they feel threaten. The chick in my situation, when we first started talking asked me:

"Why do you want me? I am not a doctor, lawyer, or anything? I feel like you would want someone better."

I was like

LOL WUT??

[BigJayNJ]

I've noticed this too, happens alot. I think it's a case of that peticular guy had the confidence to step up and make a move. Thus bypassing his less than stellar looks. The confidence thing wins again and again.

I dunno man. I had a lot of confidence with this chick. In the end my boy screwed it up for me (told her lies behind my back to try to get with her). Based on what she told me when we were talking...I am pretty sure I'm spot on.

[Fiz-iks]

I think you're right. It's also a combo of that and they feel threaten. The chick in my situation, when we first started talking asked me:

"Why do you want me? I am not a doctor, lawyer, or anything? I feel like you would want someone better."

I was like

LOL WUT??

[IMG]http://i43.tinypic.com/e84vpy.jpg[IMG]

Haha, don't worry sweetie, I just like you for you!

I've also had girls say that if a guy was better looking than them they would disfigure him in their sleep, yes scary I know. They probably like being the one that gets more attention and you're right they worry less about being cheated on.

[Daewoo_Lanos]

whenever i see someone in a relationship with a blatantly unattractive member of the opposite sex, i always figure it's because they have no idea how good looking they are to most people due to low self-esteem or insecurities.

and low self-esteem seems to be more common in females than males, so it makes sense that we'd see more hot chicks with uglier dudes than vice versa.

[fretslayer]

I dunno man. I had a lot of confidence with this chick. In the end my boy screwed it up for me (told her lies behind my back to try to get with her). Based on what she told me when we were talking...I am pretty sure I'm spot on.

Oh not disagreeing at all, more adding to what you said if anything. I've definitely noticed the hotter they are, the seemingly more insecure they are with their appearance. Not always, but more often than not. What's up with that???

[kineticforce]

women respond to emotion/feelings - if a guy can make her feel incredible/better than any other guy she will stick with him. If he can illicit emotions/feelings shes never experienced she will stick with said guy and chase him like crazy.

[ibzGSZ120]

maybe in some cases they think theyre easier to manipulate/pussy whip

[MentalDragon]

I agree with a lot said. I truely believe the main factor is that the hotter the girl... the less likely they get hit on because of the intimidation factor. The man that has the balls to go up to the girl is the one that has the chance on getting her whether they are good looking or not.

So many times I've been to the gym or club where the hottest girl is just sitting there with one of her friends because guys just don't go up and talk to her.

[Ace056]

well part of it is the fact that good-looking dudes will simply not date beneath them since they know they can get hotter chicks. In general, dudes value looks the most. on the other hand, confidence, money, and game will make uglier guys much more attractive in girls' eyes, so girls date beneath them looks wise.

[LostOne287]

personally, I just take comfort in knowing that I'm 100x better than the new guy in every single way

[wnc817]

I dunno about 9 out of 10. I have seen a lot of couples that seem to have simalar looks, and that compliment each other with similar facial features. I though my ex was cute, but she always said that I was "the cute one". Similar looks are best, IMO.

[WiseElder]

I don't know if it's threat complex as much as insecure "I have to be the one in control" complex.

Dude that I used to hang out with typified it. Not that he was really good looking or anything, average I guess. He made sure to specifically go after busted chicks. His current GF is fat, like 5' 200+. Anyways she works 40 a week, has a car and money, lives about 45 minutes from this guy and when they hang out she's driving him all over the place, paying for him etc.. And he I kid you not would threaten to break up with her whenever she said she didn't want to come over. Which is gay considering she worked a lot, always had to drive to see him, and back and had to be up early for work.

Actually I have another friend like that. But this one goes out with fat "swamp ducks" so he can be in control. The funny thing is he'll brag to people about how he has like 2-3 girls at a time. But he leaves out the part they all look like yetti.

[WiseElder]

Similar looks are best, IMO.

People generally go after people that look like themselves. It's a psychological thing.

[Who?]

There are more 8-9's of women then 8-9's of men, but more 6-7's of men than 6-7's of women.

Maybe they just like the guy, it not like you have to be great looking, there are plenty of 7/10 girls that look great and that I would have no problem dating.

[Dave P]

Probably because guys who don't look like 9's and 10's had to put more effort into developing a good personality growing up.


Odds are that most 6's and 7's are much cooler people than most 9's.


Not saying all....just saying that thats the way the scales tip.

[Italian.Muscle]

I dont know about you guys but everytime i see a hot chick these days shes always dating some loser/fukin d-bag.


Hotchickswithdouchebags.com in real life.

[Jflip2002]

This gets to me. Theres this pretty cute girl I see downtown, every weekend, same bar, same time. I hit on her, shes real receptive, we text, blah blah blah. Well she gets these "boyfriends", and they are all fat and out of shape. Not good looking, etc.

I figure girls know we are a league above them, and want to date down, so they can run the show. They know damn well its not happening with a stud, lol.

[BigJayNJ]

I am trying to think of all the couples i know and VERY FEW of them match in terms of looks. Usually the girl is WAY better looking than the dude.

That's not even the problem though. If the guy is a really cool genuine guy, then i can understand. However, most of the hot chicks i know date losers. Kids who live at home, have no ambition, no manners, nothing go for them, and seemingly don't know how to treat a woman.

I think its this premise that the chicks fall back on "Well he's comfy, kinda plain, and treats me ok. I don't have to worry about him straying"

Meanwhile I get the whole "Wow he's hot...way to hot for him not to be a player or cheat on me"

Great...thanks.

BRB investing in polos, jeans, and getting fat lol

[swearujacked]

You never know brah beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Also, I think girls value personality possibly more than looks.

[Torkiye_Atlit]

My bros...you guys are right. Women ...especially hotter women tend to 'date down'. They prefer to be the more attractive one in the relationship.

It is a well known fact. MOST women , prefer to be the fairer one, the better looking one, the more classy one in the relationship.

That's good news to ugly to semi good looking dudes like me. It means..I have better chances with 8s and 9s. LOL

[NOVA888]

To me it's just further proof that women don't value looks as much as men.

This says it all. Honestly, looks mean 'squat' to me. Couldn't care freakin' less, never have really. Actually, I do care, as I tend to feel more sexually attracted to troglodytes, as opposed to Calvin Klein underwear models.

I don't think it has to do with insecurity either. In my situation, it's a few things that cause me to prefer plainer looking/average men/or even uglies....

a). I prefer dudes that spend 'more' time developing their brains, and less time on their looks.

b). Beauty & Beast fantasies are hot. The whole scenario seems 'dirtier,' therefore hotter IMO. Sex with really gorgeous men makes me think of lesbian love, something I'm not into.

c). Who needs two vain individuals primping and obsessing over their looks? I just prefer when men stay out of all 'that,' and let me be the crazy one obsessing over my looks.

[Fiz-iks]

This says it all. Honestly, looks mean 'squat' to me. Couldn't care freakin' less, never have really. Actually, I do care, as I tend to feel more sexually attracted to troglodytes, as opposed to Calvin Klein underwear models.

I don't think it has to do with insecurity either. In my situation, it's a few things that cause me to prefer plainer looking/average men/or even uglies....

a). I prefer dudes that spend 'more' time developing their brains, and less time on their looks.

b). Beauty & Beast fantasies are hot. The whole scenario seems 'dirtier,' therefore hotter IMO. Sex with really gorgeous men makes me think of lesbian love, something I'm not into.

c). Who needs two vain individuals primping and obsessing over their looks? I just prefer when men stay out of all 'that,' and let me be the crazy one obsessing over my looks.

Here ya go brahette, thanks me when you're done rubbing one out!

[BigJayNJ]

This says it all. Honestly, looks mean 'squat' to me. Couldn't care freakin' less, never have really. Actually, I do care, as I tend to feel more sexually attracted to troglodytes, as opposed to Calvin Klein underwear models.

I don't think it has to do with insecurity either. In my situation, it's a few things that cause me to prefer plainer looking/average men/or even uglies....

a). I prefer dudes that spend 'more' time developing their brains, and less time on their looks.

b). Beauty & Beast fantasies are hot. The whole scenario seems 'dirtier,' therefore hotter IMO. Sex with really gorgeous men makes me think of lesbian love, something I'm not into.

c). Who needs two vain individuals primping and obsessing over their looks? I just prefer when men stay out of all 'that,' and let me be the crazy one obsessing over my looks.

Yes but there's a difference when the person is just plain ugly.

Nobody is talking about her dating a metrosexual here. She's dating some tall, lanky, out of shape, hairy, ogre looking dude lol.

As for brains: I am not lacking there. Which actually is probably one of the reasons we didn't work. She said to her friend she felt dumb around me.

Regardless...this isn't about specifically me. This is further proof that women are emotionally driven. Men are more physically driven.

Call me shallow, but I can't date an ugly girl...BUT...I can't date just a pretty image either. If she has nothing going for her besides her looks, it won't last.

Women can completely throw looks to the wind it seems. Then there's money. That's a WHOLE other can of worms though.

[NOVA888]

Here ya go brahette, thanks me when you're done rubbing one out!

Lol, ffffffuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!

Yes but there's a difference when the person is just plain ugly.

Agreed. However, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everyone I've dated is 'gorgeous' IMO.

Nobody is talking about her dating a metrosexual here. She's dating some tall, lanky, out of shape, hairy, ogre looking dude lol.

Sounds kinda hawt.

As for brains: I am not lacking there. Which actually is probably one of the reasons we didn't work. She said to her friend she felt dumb around me.

What's her problem. I like being dumber than the dude.

Call me shallow, but I can't date an ugly girl...BUT...I can't date just a pretty image either. If she has nothing going for her besides her looks, it won't last.

Actually, I think this is the way it should be.

Women can completely throw looks to the wind it seems. Then there's money. That's a WHOLE other can of worms though.

There it is.

[jacketfan]

i think girls take into account alot more than physical looks when they view someone as attractive bf material.

for most guys, it starts with looks and you weed out the ****ty personalities. and most guys dont put that much emphasis on what a girl does for work. unlike girls, who make that a deal breaker.

for girls, it seems like they wet their panties over alot of things like social status. so thats why they may be dating down look wise because they arent just looking at looks.

[BigJayNJ]

There it is.

Let's put money aside for a second. Besides, I do ok. Not a wealthy individual but I can afford dinners, drinks, have my own place, etc.

Maybe it's who I am that doesn't allow me to see this. I don't care how hot a chick is I am dating...the fear of her cheating on me because she is would never cross my mind. I don't think I could ever date down for THAT reason.

[oatsmore]

I am trying to think of all the couples i know and VERY FEW of them match in terms of looks. Usually the girl is WAY better looking than the dude.

That's not even the problem though. If the guy is a really cool genuine guy, then i can understand. However, most of the hot chicks i know date losers. Kids who live at home, have no ambition, no manners, nothing go for them, and seemingly don't know how to treat a woman.

I think its this premise that the chicks fall back on "Well he's comfy, kinda plain, and treats me ok. I don't have to worry about him straying"

Meanwhile I get the whole "Wow he's hot...way to hot for him not to be a player or cheat on me"

Great...thanks.


BRB investing in polos, jeans, and getting fat lol

Yeah I agree with the last part, alot of girls seem to jump the gun and assume there gonna get cheated on or played due to the fact someone takes care of there appearance (diet, clothes, etiquette) Kinda sad that there missing out and being treated bad by a slob or a douche