On sharing advice: People might ask where do people get off telling anyone their fantasy life, relationships, etc. are less valid than one's irl? Who are they to tell someone entirely content with their life, as is, that it's some how less than authentic?
When that person gets on a high horse and goes off on how much better they are than everyone else... or are presenting themselves as a source of knowledge and advocating unrealistic notions.
Though I don't mock them, I simply point out flawed logic.
Though it's an empirical fact that some people are drawing on more knowledge in certain areas than others.
Now, going on to this whole question of "value," and how it might shed light on the different ways people choose--or are obliged--to structure their intimacies and connections.
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We, as people, are equal in value. Human value. But we're not the same in terms of relationship levels.
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lol, u mad? Do you honestly believe that? Giving up that absurd delusion of "equal human value" is the first prerequisite for thinking lucidly about
anything.
First, I'm not even going to argue that people have different "value." Why anyone would wish to dispute this I have no idea, unless it's because they're in thrall to some ideology of "democracy" (sic) or are psychologicaly lacking in healthy narcissism and self-confidence. I am also certainly not saying anyone should lose or be barred from the fundamental human rights of life, liberty, self-realization, yada, yada.
It is also true there is no final human nor supernatural "court of appeals" where decisions of "value" and "worth" can be made on the basis of criteria everyone will agree with.
And that's precisely why we have to form these judgements ourselves--based on the subjectivities, feelings, thoughts and perspectives we find most congenial. As we all do anyway, whether we have the gumption to admit it or not.
And test our judgements in dialogue with others. And may the best ideas win? Which they usually do, at least in the spheres of science and the arts.
Now all this is a swerve away from the original question, which was whether people whose only experience is online or LDR should offer any kind of advice? (...Remembering that every intimacy is a kind of black box, certain facets if which will always be invisible and unknown to outside observers...)
lol...and all too often to the participants themselves.
The answer is yes. Why not? And again, as Socrates teaches us, some truths (small t, plural) will always emerge in the course of conversation.
Always. A principle of the cosmos we can rely on.
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