Everythings turned to shi*. Need advice (serious)long no cliffs

SmashItUp · 01-09-2009, 06:59 AM

I met my girlfriend just over 6 months ago, the first night I met her I thought she was a nice decent girl. So I got with her the 3rd time we met and about a week after that we started going out. At the time I had a very good paying job I was going out all the time with my mates. She wanted to see me all the time so I saw her everyday after work before I knew it everything started going down hill because of problems with her I wasn't able to get up at 3:30 am for work so I told my boss I don't expect him to give me work being a good mate of mine I didn't want to let him down so I stopped working and because I wasn't I started seeing her all day everyday thus meaning I stopped hanging out with my mates. A few weeks later she cheated on me and me being a the dumb **** that I am I stayed with her. To cut it short up and till now she pretty much lies with every breath, I'm quite certain she cheats, takes drugs etc. As much as I hate her I can't leave her because everything I've done for the last 6 months I've done with her, I've forgotten who I am without her. I need to get rid of her to better my own life but I'm to afraid that I am going to be lost without her. Yes I know strong puss whipped.

The_Great_One · 01-09-2009, 07:04 AM

If I was in front of you, I'd slap the piss out of you to wake you up!

Dude, she's cheated on you.....what more do you need? You don't need someone like that. And if you're quite certain she's STILL cheating, leave. She can't be trusted.

You're 18, have your whole life to "be in love" and be whipped......

MAN UP AND DUMP THIS BROAD!

TAKE OFF YOUR CAPTAIN SAVE-A-HOE CAPE, ASAP!

Tiffany Wantsmore · 01-09-2009, 07:05 AM

You can manage without her. You managed fine for the previous 18 years before you met her. I'm sure you'll miss her, but it sounds like she's crushed your self-esteem so much that you can't believe you'll ever get over her. But you can. Get rid of her now, go back to work, contact your mates and ask them to help you deal with it (going places with you, taking your mind off it etc). Reading your post, I don't see any positives that you get from being in this relationship.

Dom_88 · 01-09-2009, 07:08 AM

OP - gather up your testicles and leave this bitch. You'll be fine without her. Your life should never be based around your relationships, rather your relationships should be based around your life. The problem started when you had problems getting up for work and ****.

I can't see any positives here. Cost-benefit principle my friends, cost-benefit.

The_Great_One · 01-09-2009, 07:09 AM

Not only that, but you stopped your main source of income.......to be with her?!

And, stopped kicking it with your boys as well? What?!

The rest of the time you're with her, you're going to question everything she does, where she's at, if what she told you today was actually the truth, etc, etc.

Are you seriously telling me you're willing to deal with that insanity over your own happiness?

My man, you know what you need to do.

*starts a fire*

Here man, the fire is raging....throw that cape in, NOW!

SmashItUp · 01-09-2009, 07:11 AM

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Originally Posted by The_Great_One

If I was in front of you, I'd slap the piss out of you to wake you up!

Dude, she's cheated on you.....what more do you need? You don't need someone like that. And if you're quite certain she's STILL cheating, leave. She can't be trusted.

You're 18, have your whole life to "be in love" and be whipped......

MAN UP AND DUMP THIS BROAD!

TAKE OFF YOUR CAPTAIN SAVE-A-HOE CAPE, ASAP!

I know how pathetic I am for still being with her and that she needs to go but it's like an actual fear of not having her because I'd lost my job and contact with my mates I have nothing but her.

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Originally Posted by Tiffany Wantsmore

You can manage without her. You managed fine for the previous 18 years before you met her. I'm sure you'll miss her, but it sounds like she's crushed your self-esteem so much that you can't believe you'll ever get over her. But you can. Get rid of her now, go back to work, contact your mates and ask them to help you deal with it (going places with you, taking your mind off it etc). Reading your post, I don't see any positives that you get from being in this relationship.

It's hard because it's the longest and most serious relationship I've had, I absoloutly despise her but every time I'm without her I feel so lost. It's almost as if my mind makes me believe all her lies. I tried to get back together with all the boys but they've all changed since we all last hung out. I can see what I have to do and how bad she is but I physically cannot bring myself to break up with her and never answer her calls or see her again.

Pierre23 · 01-09-2009, 07:14 AM

If you don't do nothing you be trapped there for a long time. You need to separate yourself from her right now. It is the life you want anyway? I mean you said more or less that your STUCK with her. Break out, apologize to your friends, tell them you made a mistake and if their truly your friends they will understand and otherwise it was for the better.

Your not even 20, I mean you got you whole life in front of you, you don't want to start be miserable, there so much joy in front of your future, you don't want to miss it don't you?. Deep down in your heart you know what to do, do it!

SmashItUp · 01-09-2009, 07:16 AM

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Originally Posted by The_Great_One

Not only that, but you stopped your main source of income.......to be with her?!

And, stopped kicking it with your boys as well? What?!

The rest of the time you're with her, you're going to question everything she does, where she's at, if what she told you today was actually the truth, etc, etc.

Are you seriously telling me you're willing to deal with that insanity over your own happiness?

My man, you know what you need to do.

*starts a fire*

Here man, the fire is raging....throw that cape in, NOW!

I wish I could rep you again that's the **** I need to hear

SmashItUp · 01-09-2009, 07:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Pierre23

If you don't do nothing you be trapped there for a long time. You need to separate yourself from her right now. It is the life you want anyway? I mean you said more or less that your STUCK with her. Break out, apologize to your friends, tell them you made a mistake and if their truly your friends they will understand and otherwise it was for the better.

Your not even 20, I mean you got you whole life in front of you, you don't want to start be miserable, there so much joy in front of your future, you don't want to miss it don't you?. Deep down in your heart you know what to do, do it!

Good man, repped

PitbullJR · 01-09-2009, 07:25 AM

OP what the hell is wrong with you son? 4real? Listen up, dont you ever let anyone control you! People treat you the way you allow them to. She has shown you that she is a person of low character. Look at yourself in the mirror and remember that the only lady you should hold in that much of high regard is your mother! Why the hell would you want to be with a person who hurts you? You are an important person and should be treated as such. I dont care if you have to cry for months but you do not let a person walk all over you. If you keep allowing this to happen then you my friend are the person with the problem not her.

SmashItUp · 01-09-2009, 07:28 AM

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Originally Posted by PitbullJR

OP what the hell is wrong with you son? 4real? Listen up, dont you ever let anyone control you! People treat you the way you allow them to. She has shown you that she is a person of low character. Look at yourself in the mirror and remember that the only lady you should hold in that much of high regard is your mother! Why the hell would you want to be with a person who hurts you? You are an important person and should be treated as such. I dont care if you have to cry for months but you do not let a person walk all over you. If you keep allowing this to happen then you my friend are the person with the problem not her.

Thanks man, reps on recharge

tizom · 01-09-2009, 07:31 AM

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Originally Posted by PitbullJR

OP what the hell is wrong with you son? 4real? Listen up, dont you ever let anyone control you! People treat you the way you allow them to. She has shown you that she is a person of low character. Look at yourself in the mirror and remember that the only lady you should hold in that much of high regard is your mother! Why the hell would you want to be with a person who hurts you? You are an important person and should be treated as such. I dont care if you have to cry for months but you do not let a person walk all over you. If you keep allowing this to happen then you my friend are the person with the problem not her.

this.
the fault might be hers to a point, but the rest is on you. haven't you ever heard to phrase "bros before hoes" dude, its funny and ****, but its true. you lost sight of what was important in your life before this girl... a man is made by how he gets back on his feet after he has fallen.

Paul S25 · 01-09-2009, 07:33 AM

Dont worry about your mates, mates will always be there, and guys forgive each other pretty bloody easily. Ring them up, tell them you wanna see them, tell how some cheating whore has screwed you over for the past 6 months and they will wanna take you out and help you get over her.

Ring your old boss and see if you can have your job back. If these two things work out, you'll be pumped and happy again, and you will have the confidence to tell this chick to get fuked.

EDIT>>**** man, your from Sydney. There are hotties left right and centre over there. Go out and nail some of them!

SmashItUp · 01-09-2009, 07:34 AM

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Originally Posted by tizom

this.
the fault might be hers to a point, but the rest is on you. haven't you ever heard to phrase "bros before hoes" dude, its funny and ****, but its true. you lost sight of what was important in your life before this girl... a man is made by how he gets back on his feet after he has fallen.

greens on recharge

SmashItUp · 01-09-2009, 07:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Paul S25

Dont worry about your mates, mates will always be there, and guys forgive each other pretty bloody easily. Ring them up, tell them you wanna see them, tell how some cheating whore has screwed you over for the past 6 months and they will wanna take you out and help you get over her.

Ring your old boss and see if you can have your job back. If these two things work out, you'll be pumped and happy again, and you will have the confidence to tell this chick to get fuked.

EDIT>>**** man, your from Sydney. There are hotties left right and centre over there. Go out and nail some of them!

That's what I was hoping for mate that once I get a job or meet another girl I'll be able to get rid of her no worries

Paul S25 · 01-09-2009, 07:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Sma****Up

That's what I was hoping for mate that once I get a job or meet another girl I'll be able to get rid of her no worries

Get rid of her now, otherwise she'll only cause issues with any future chick you meet.

Frud · 01-09-2009, 07:42 AM

No reason to weep, honestly dump, chop, kill, mane, and rape her. Then you'll realize later one you'll be doing the same **** with someone else, it's a never ending cycle that ya gotta get used to.

Kanji4488 · 01-09-2009, 08:51 AM

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Originally Posted by The_Great_One

If I was in front of you, I'd slap the piss out of you to wake you up!

Dude, she's cheated on you.....what more do you need? You don't need someone like that. And if you're quite certain she's STILL cheating, leave. She can't be trusted.

You're 18, have your whole life to "be in love" and be whipped......

MAN UP AND DUMP THIS BROAD!

TAKE OFF YOUR CAPTAIN SAVE-A-HOE CAPE, ASAP!

well said, why you in the red dude?

to the op...if you were my friend, i would drive over your house, ring your doorbell and punch u in the face. thats what you need, wake the **** up.

JOB and friends> girls

deseee · 01-09-2009, 09:01 AM

Stop feeling sorry for yourself... your mates will be there for you if they are your true mates. This cheating hoe has no business being with a man like you... kick her to the gutter where she belongs... go find some ONS and move on with your life... also job is always more important than pussy.

rampagefc77 · 01-09-2009, 09:08 AM

Once a girl cheats, it shows blatant disrespect, and the trust that held the relationship together is gone. Its done right there, no need to drag it out. Surround yourself with a good suppot system (friends, coworkers, family) and keep yourself busy (work, lifting, other projects). Cut ALL contact immediately, and do not listen to a damn word she says. She will feed you every line in the book to get you back, and you cannot fall for it.

I was in your position once, and it was miserable. I went back to this chick so many times.. it was the most dysfunctional relationship ever. Best thing I did was get out, keep myself busy, and move on. It will take time, you've invested a lot of time and emotion into this girl, but think about yourself for once here.