Poll: What do you think is the most important part of a relationship

[djl_ottawa]

Now, I am really curious. With the talk of folks talking about their partners and such, what do you think is the #1 factor in your relationship with your partner that has kept both of you together?

[djl_ottawa]

I would have to say ours has been communication. We talk about everything, and I mean everything. At first was difficult to bring up certain subject, and still is. But I still bring them up and that has been our best move on our part.

We have been though a lot, but talking has eased it and also let each other know how the other feels.

[rpaul11]

I voted other.

My reasoning is you bout have to have a life outside the marraige IMO. Though the majority of the time when not working you are together as a family/couple, I think it is important that you both have some freedom and outside interests/hobies. Everybody needs some "me time" wether it be going to the gym, shopping, art, hunting/fishing, or whaterver.

[uncleroman]

Communication is key. to any relationship if you vote for anything else, seek marriage counsoling immediatly.

[rpaul11]

Communication is key. to any relationship if you vote for anything else, seek marriage counsoling immediatly.

damn....11 happy years of Marraige down the drain....why didn't I give up earlier

[chodan9]

A lot of imortant ones listed
but I think mutual respect is very important, if you have it the others will start to fall into place, including trust, communication etc.

[djl_ottawa]

damn....11 happy years of Marraige down the drain....why didn't I give up earlier

because the sex was good? :P

[phikappa]

Sex. If the sex isn't good, I'm outta there. Once sex is taken care of, I can then think about those other things. As long as I'm with a reasonable person, those other things are pretty easy to handle.

[GnomusMaximus]

Other: Face it, no one else wants me...

[Minotaur]

Several, kind of related: trust and honesty in the faithfulness of the other person; respect and concern for each other. Taking your vows seriously, to heart, and living by them.

[StrongWilld]

Respect, trust, communication and sex.

And depending on the day, not necessarily in that order

[BJE]

I voted other. I think what has kept my wife and me together are common values, common goals, common backgrounds, religion and so forth. Also we went into marriage with the idea that it is forever, not just temporary. Great sex doesn't hurt either!

[ASWEDE]

How about ALL the above including Other.

[NotTooLate]

RESPECT! You can live with many differences but you can't live without respect for each other. It's the foundation for everything else.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

Trust, if you don't trust one another you won't have respect nor communication. Sex is great, but no relationship should be built on it because in every relationship there will come a time when one person or another is out of commission so to say.

[Todd_A]

Other - I'm gonna go with mutual committment. I don't mean a wedding ring or walking down the isle in front of how ever many people either. Plent of relationships (marraiges) have failed that have all experienced that hollow excuse for committment. I am talk ing about a true, dedicated, honest, well thought out committment to one another!

Falling love is easy, but when the dust settles some people want something new. Committment - making the choice to love, not to be confused with "being in love", will probably trump other things as a major player in the relationship. If you dont make the choice to be committed no matter what, then there will always be something that might rock your ship. If you are committed and you mean it, then nothing can stop the two of you.


Though, a lack of the other things will certainly harm even a very committed relationship.

[Jake57]

Honesty is the most important. You can communicate all you want, but if you're not being honest, it won't matter. Perhaps that answer says more about my personality than anything else.

[LyingSac]

for is it's our friendship i value the most.

[KeepItMoving]

Mutual love and trust. But it can't be mutual until my lady...my one and only beautiful forever lady...knows that I honor and adore her alone for the remainder of my gift of a life with her. Once she can feel safe enough in my love and commitment to her, then she will be able to freely open her inner heart's feelings, fears, and desires to me. Once she feels comfortable enough to reveal her true self to me, through the love and trust we have forged, only then can she know and be comforted by the fact that I will spend each minute of my remaining, blessed life striving to understand and care about her feelings, assuage her fears, and fulfill her desires.

That and great blowjobs.

[Stevelegh]

You forgot one.....

KERPOWWWWW!

[GuyJin]

You forgot one.....

KERPOWWWWW!

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Steve,

Is that with the bowling ball or the rolling pin? (Joke).

While all the options are important, I'd have to go with communication. One of these days, we'll all get too old for sex (I can't imagine that day, but it eventually happens) and, sorry to say, the looks will go as well. (In my case, they went a long time ago; in fact, I never had them!).

But with communication, it's important to let your partner know how you feel, what's going right and what isn't. I tell my wife how I feel, and she does the same for me. In our case, it's a bit more difficult, as English isn't her first language and Japanese isn't mine, so it's something we've been working on ever since we met.

Once the lines of communication are open, everything else falls into place.

[BergMuscle]

Communication - everything else, like honesty, trust, etc., roll off of that.

[MalibuDebi1972]

LOL....I was getting nervous on voting. IM glad I picked the right choice

[djl_ottawa]

LOL....I was getting nervous on voting. IM glad I picked the right choice

You went with sex eh? :P

[MalibuDebi1972]

You went with sex eh? :P

LMAO.....No. I was thinking of it thought, but I have no problem with my relationship in that department .....

[EMISGOD]

The thing that has both kept and killed nearly all of the relationships has been the connection or lack thereof, in some way..."connecting" defies an exact literal definition, but includes all of what is already listed in the polls and a number of intangibles...

[DanVanVliet]

I voted for sex. but to those that know me are you really sruprised.

[MalibuDebi1972]

I voted for sex. but to those that know me are you really sruprised.

LMAO.......Yaaaaaaaa.....IM really surprised

[ArchAngel'73]

IMHO, its most important to have a good relationship with yourself before being able to have a good relationship with someone else.
As a single guy, this is my take on the poll options;

Sex- #1, can't have sex with yourself, not in a good space to have sex with someone else.

Communication- You should be able to look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you're gonna fap now, and it should all be good.

Honesty- Be open to yourself and accept your limitations. If your a chronic masturbator, don't lie about it. Chances are, if your single, the person in the mirror is too.

Looks- Fact, ya ain't gonna get no play looking like a grease bum. Pretty yourself up for those special fappin' occasions. I suggest some Old Spice and tea lites. The cologne will make any suitor swoon with delight and the tea lites will help hide one's fugly face in the shadows without seeming creepy. If you're having a bad hair day, mix in a few drinks. I know vodka takes me from a 6 to 9 in about 30 minutes.

Trust- Trust no one more than the one you fap with, you.
This individual knows all of your secrets, all of your quirks, and in the end, that's the only person you can trust.





I think I got this nailed down folks!
I'm proposing to myself tonight, something tells me the bugger is gonna say yes.

[MalibuDebi1972]

IMHO, its most important to have a good relationship with yourself before being able to have a good relationship with someone else.
As a single guy, this is my take on the poll options;

Sex- #1, can't have sex with yourself, not in a good space to have sex with someone else.

Communication- You should be able to look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you're gonna fap now, and it should all be good.

Honesty- Be open to yourself and accept your limitations. If your a chronic masturbator, don't lie about it. Chances are, if your single, the person in the mirror is too.

Looks- Fact, ya ain't gonna get no play looking like a grease bum. Pretty yourself up for those special fappin' occasions. I suggest some Old Spice and tea lites. The cologne will make any suitor swoon with delight and the tea lites will help hide one's fugly face in the shadows without seeming creepy. If you're having a bad hair day, mix in a few drinks. I know vodka takes me from a 6 to 9 in about 30 minutes.

Trust- Trust no one more than the one you fap with, you.
This individual knows all of your secrets, all of your quirks, and in the end, that's the only person you can trust.





I think I got this nailed down folks!
I'm proposing to myself tonight, something tells me the bugger is gonna say yes.

I feel looks and sex is in on the same level.