ALCOHOLICS: RECOVERY & FITNESS (Serious Only Please)

[ColonelKlenk]

You got a whole lot of excuses and rationalizations in you. Read what you just posted as if someone else wrote it and it should be obvious (don't read it stoned). You ain't ready to change.

almost forgot. I used to listen to black flag all the time and when I see Henry Rolllins on TV I start to remember some good times I had in high school. Where did you get that quote?

[EjnarKolinkar]

Hi all,

Robert, <<<< Alcoholic

Picked that one year chip up tonight. Today is a good day.

[MarkS51]

Hey Gang,

New to this thread but sober since 3/17/85. At my favorite men's meeting tonight it was newcomer's night and a kid with a year spoke. It's a large meeting and we get lots of young guys from local Halfway houses, rehabs, etc. Started off talking about how his head was filled with this Mayan nonsense until he got sober, went through the steps and came to know God. As he was telling his story he said this about his drinking days:

"...I told my friends I would sell drugs until 2012 and if the world didn't end...I'd go to school." The place fell apart.

Isn't that just like an alcoholic? Is that funny or what?

He was a nice kid and seems to have good handle on the program.

[FATA55]

Hey Gang,

New to this thread but sober since 3/17/85. At my favorite men's meeting tonight it was newcomer's night and a kid with a year spoke. It's a large meeting and we get lots of young guys from local Halfway houses, rehabs, etc. Started off talking about how his head was filled with this Mayan nonsense until he got sober, went through the steps and came to know God. As he was telling his story he said this about his drinking days:

"...I told my friends I would sell drugs until 2012 and if the world didn't end...I'd go to school." The place fell apart.

Isn't that just like an alcoholic? Is that funny or what?

He was a nice kid and seems to have good handle on the program.

I have a former friend who is seriously ****ed in the head from drugs/drinking.. and for the last 3 years his excuse for doing NOTHING with his life is that the world is ending today/tomorrow.

He's 29 lives in his friends parents house rent-free, doesn't have a job, drivers license, high school education, nothing..
I use to feel bad for him, but now I have zero sympathy, he likes to sit around and have a pity party for himself, and literally blames the world for everything. He could slip in the shower and think of a reason it's someone elses fault.
I've told him to get professional help for years, he won't listen, then he claims nobody cares about him. Should be interesting to see what he does when he wakes up tomorrow to realize the world has not ended. I hope he will get his **** together, but I seriously doubt it.

[GirLInterrupted]

Hi all,

Robert, <<<< Alcoholic

Picked that one year chip up tonight. Today is a good day.

That is a beautiful thing! Congrats Robert and Happy 1st AA Birthday

[209vaughn]

Hi all,

Robert, <<<< Alcoholic

Picked that one year chip up tonight. Today is a good day.

GREAT JOB!! 1 year is a huge milestone! Keep up the good work and Merry Christmas.

[Big_Sky_Guy]

Hi all,

Robert, <<<< Alcoholic

Picked that one year chip up tonight. Today is a good day.

Congrats!




And welcome Mark!

[Blacksmith80]

Congrats to all of you sober guys. And you drunk brahs, never stop trying.

[EjnarKolinkar]

That is a beautiful thing! Congrats Robert and Happy 1st AA Birthday

GREAT JOB!! 1 year is a huge milestone! Keep up the good work and Merry Christmas.

Congrats!




And welcome Mark!

Congrats to all of you sober guys. And you drunk brahs, never stop trying.

Thank you, just feeling a lot of gratitude at this time, feel fortunate. You have very sweet thread here, thanks for celebrating with me.

[Spen1971]

Hi all! New to the forum and the first thread I look out for is the recovery one.
I am fast approaching 2 years off the booze and ***s. Took up running to fill the gap and become hooked on ultras. Now want to build a bit of muscle. Is this possible when I regulary run 60 miles a week?

[ckern1]

I'm struggling right now. My friends that don't really know how bad I got started to try to convince me I didn't have a problem. After going through withdrawals, rehab, and aa there is no doubt in my mind that I'm a full blown alcoholic. An alcoholic is an alcoholic. I'm going back to school in a few weeks and these are the friends I will be dealing with. Maybe they are dumb and maybe alcoholic themselves but they are my true friends. How do you guys deal with your pride telling you to defend your decision to people? I just wanna hear some wisdom before I go to bed because I am seriously shaken up after this discussion

[zakatak333]

I'm struggling right now. My friends that don't really know how bad I got started to try to convince me I didn't have a problem. After going through withdrawals, rehab, and aa there is no doubt in my mind that I'm a full blown alcoholic. An alcoholic is an alcoholic. I'm going back to school in a few weeks and these are the friends I will be dealing with. Maybe they are dumb and maybe alcoholic themselves but they are my true friends. How do you guys deal with your pride telling you to defend your decision to people? I just wanna hear some wisdom before I go to bed because I am seriously shaken up after this discussion

some things you can say:

1) i don't drink
2) i'm allergic to alcohol
3) i'm an alcoholic in recovery
4) doctor says i shouldn't drink


EDIT:

Time to make some new friends.

^^This.

[JRT6]

Time to make some new friends.

[Spen1971]

Say you are allergic to alcohol. Makes your heart beat too quick. On meds. Or I just tell people I cannot control it so it is easy not to drink.

[JRT6]

The only thing you need to say to so called friends who try to ruin your sobriety is goodby.

[Quietmarc]

I'm struggling right now. My friends that don't really know how bad I got started to try to convince me I didn't have a problem. After going through withdrawals, rehab, and aa there is no doubt in my mind that I'm a full blown alcoholic. An alcoholic is an alcoholic. I'm going back to school in a few weeks and these are the friends I will be dealing with. Maybe they are dumb and maybe alcoholic themselves but they are my true friends. How do you guys deal with your pride telling you to defend your decision to people? I just wanna hear some wisdom before I go to bed because I am seriously shaken up after this discussion

Some of these dudes may not be your friends, it's surprising how many people think getting wasted every week is the same as true friendship.

One thing I did was made sure to talk with some of my friends one on one to let them know how serious I was. In a group, guys can get less serious and think everything's a joke, but in private you can work something out.

But seriously if you tell them you're serious about not drinking and they ignore you they either 1) don't listen to you or 2) don't care about you, so **** 'em.

[ckern1]

Yep. I just gotta man up and do what's best for me

[fropleyqk]

Hi all! New to the forum and the first thread I look out for is the recovery one.
I am fast approaching 2 years off the booze and ***s. Took up running to fill the gap and become hooked on ultras. Now want to build a bit of muscle. Is this possible when I regulary run 60 miles a week?

Congrats on 2 years and finding something constructive to fill the gap. Theres nothing saying you cant build some muscle and run at the same time. Running 60 miles a week is a LOT. Impressive. You'll have to adjust your diet and your run times may suffer a little. It's all what you want with a little give and take.

I run regularly (not 60 miles though) and have been making gains in the gym. Personally, I prefer to lift over running now but still do both.

[BackwoodsGa]

Happy holidays friends!Hope we all stay safe and sober.

[209vaughn]

Happy holidays friends!Hope we all stay safe and sober.

You too!

[stevie88]

First sober Xmas for 20 years...Merry Xmas to all.....

[BackwoodsGa]

First sober Xmas for 20 years...Merry Xmas to all.....

Merry christmas and congrats!

[LAWLER89]

I'm struggling right now. My friends that don't really know how bad I got started to try to convince me I didn't have a problem. After going through withdrawals, rehab, and aa there is no doubt in my mind that I'm a full blown alcoholic. An alcoholic is an alcoholic. I'm going back to school in a few weeks and these are the friends I will be dealing with. Maybe they are dumb and maybe alcoholic themselves but they are my true friends. How do you guys deal with your pride telling you to defend your decision to people? I just wanna hear some wisdom before I go to bed because I am seriously shaken up after this discussion

Been there. Any time you're under the age of ~25 or so, no one can believe you're an alcoholic. And when you explain it to young people you get idiotic replies like, "I think you just got bad hangovers and don't know how to handle them."

I stopped trying to justify my alcoholism as legitimate and just started either ignoring their stupid questions, or simply saying, "I'm not drinking." When the inevitable "Why?" question comes, I just tell them because I don't want to and they don't need to worry about what I'm doing.

If they can't respect your decision not to drink, leave 'em be. But most people will leave it alone after you look them dead in the eye and say it's not happening; period.

[BackwoodsGa]

I'm struggling right now. My friends that don't really know how bad I got started to try to convince me I didn't have a problem. After going through withdrawals, rehab, and aa there is no doubt in my mind that I'm a full blown alcoholic. An alcoholic is an alcoholic. I'm going back to school in a few weeks and these are the friends I will be dealing with. Maybe they are dumb and maybe alcoholic themselves but they are my true friends. How do you guys deal with your pride telling you to defend your decision to people? I just wanna hear some wisdom before I go to bed because I am seriously shaken up after this discussion

Bro, I had to realise...people,places and things are the key to sobriety.You cant hang with the same people,cant go to the same places...and you cant do the same things.Or..you go back to the same ways.It takes drastic life changes but,you can win.stay strong.

[chodan9]

I was 24 when I got clean and sober, I didn't really have a problem with friends saying I didn't have a problem. I stopped hanging with them and they no longer wanted to hang with someone who didn't drink or use so it was mutual.
My bigger challenge was some of the short timer AA's at the time who could not conceive of someone getting sober at 24.
I actually was told by some "I probably spilled more than you drank!" to which I replied "maybe if you had drank more of it you would have gotten to AA sooner"
Those people eventually went on there way like the vast majority of those who enter into AA, a few stayed though and changed there tune.
Eventually it becomes not about what got you there, but what it takes to stay there.

[209vaughn]

Feels good to be in a meeting tonight. My thoughts and feelings were getting a little sideways and i needed to be calm an still and sit and listen.

Hope everyone is having a good night/week.

[BackwoodsGa]

Keeping you all in my thoughts.Have a great and sober weekend.

[BackwoodsGa]

Wishing everyone a happy and sober new year.Ill greet 2013 sipping coffee as usual.Have a great one.

[EjnarKolinkar]

Wishing everyone a happy and sober new year.Ill greet 2013 sipping coffee as usual.Have a great one.

Thanks, safe and sober to all. I'll be sippin tea and watching Netflix.

Feels good to be in a meeting tonight. My thoughts and feelings were getting a little sideways and i needed to be calm an still and sit and listen.

Hope everyone is having a good night/week.

I used to wait to talk first two times I put together a year. Now I just like to listen, there are always things I need to hear.

[Spen1971]

Heres to another sober year!