LOW sex drive!!! :(

irish0418 · 12-23-2008, 06:03 AM

Any of you ladies have the problem of a low sex drive?

I hate it...it's awful. I feel like if I never have sex again, that's ok. I have no desire to have sex!! I love my hubbie sooooooo much and I hate that I'm like that. I want to have an awesome sex life w/ him but I just don't have the desire.

Anyone else have this problem or use to? What can I do to help?

*dwest* · 12-23-2008, 06:48 AM

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Originally Posted by irish0418

Any of you ladies have the problem of a low sex drive?

I hate it...it's awful. I feel like if I never have sex again, that's ok. I have no desire to have sex!! I love my hubbie sooooooo much and I hate that I'm like that. I want to have an awesome sex life w/ him but I just don't have the desire.

Anyone else have this problem or use to? What can I do to help?

Just think of Steve Buscemi and you will be fine.

youngbuck88 · 12-23-2008, 06:48 AM

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Originally Posted by irish0418

Any of you ladies have the problem of a low sex drive?

I hate it...it's awful. I feel like if I never have sex again, that's ok. I have no desire to have sex!! I love my hubbie sooooooo much and I hate that I'm like that. I want to have an awesome sex life w/ him but I just don't have the desire.

Anyone else have this problem or use to? What can I do to help?

does he not last more than 10 mins or something? =p

Eating healthy and exercing can boost up the libido overtime. Plus you are close to 30. Your libido should skyrocket in a few years.

irish0418 · 12-23-2008, 06:54 AM

Can't wait for it to sky rocket then!! LOL

He's fine, it's me....I don't get it. I know being a new mom probably has something to do w/ it but any female viagra? LOL jk

Kate1 · 12-23-2008, 06:57 AM

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Originally Posted by irish0418

Any of you ladies have the problem of a low sex drive?

I hate it...it's awful. I feel like if I never have sex again, that's ok. I have no desire to have sex!! I love my hubbie sooooooo much and I hate that I'm like that. I want to have an awesome sex life w/ him but I just don't have the desire.

Anyone else have this problem or use to? What can I do to help?

Could it be some meds that you may be on? Anti-depressants can do this to you. I've found that since I went back to the gym in October, started losing weight and lifting, my Libido has recovered. My hubby is VERY happy now!

blsmith · 12-23-2008, 06:59 AM

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Originally Posted by irish0418

Can't wait for it to sky rocket then!! LOL

He's fine, it's me....I don't get it. I know being a new mom probably has something to do w/ it but any female viagra? LOL jk

They say Maca root increases libido in both men and women. Might be something to check out.

*dwest* · 12-23-2008, 07:03 AM

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Originally Posted by blsmith

They say Maca root increases libido in both men and women. Might be something to check out.

MACA definitely works, I take it every day and I'm like a walking towel rack.

*dwest* · 12-23-2008, 07:22 AM

paulytosway · 12-23-2008, 07:41 AM

Have you recently dropped a significant amount of body fat? Low body fat can have a negative impact on your libido.

Problem can be both mental and/or physical. Not something to take lightly. This could be simply a symptom of a much bigger problem. Anytime your body functions in a different way than it's accustomed to you should take it seriously and consider seeking a professional.

jwdjrs · 12-23-2008, 07:42 AM

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Originally Posted by irish0418

Any of you ladies have the problem of a low sex drive?

I hate it...it's awful. I feel like if I never have sex again, that's ok. I have no desire to have sex!! I love my hubbie sooooooo much and I hate that I'm like that. I want to have an awesome sex life w/ him but I just don't have the desire.

Anyone else have this problem or use to? What can I do to help?

My wife has the same problem

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Originally Posted by *dwest*

MACA definitely works, I take it every day and I'm like a walking towel rack.

Powder or pills ?? link ?

When my wife turns her back, I'm dumping half a bottle in her drink

*dwest* · 12-23-2008, 07:44 AM

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Originally Posted by jwdjrs

My wife has the same problem

Powder or pills ?? link ?

When my wife turns her back, I'm dumping half a bottle in her drink

I use the NOW pills they have here on BB.com, take 2 a day.

VTSSDUDE · 12-23-2008, 07:44 AM

Yeah it's that thing called a Ring that sits on your left finger. Maybe take that off and yous will be right.

irish0418 · 12-23-2008, 08:16 AM

LMAO!!!

Maybe I'll give that MACA root a try.

It could be effected from the birth control pills too...can't win!

mavrick77 · 12-23-2008, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by paulytosway

Have you recently dropped a significant amount of body fat? Low body fat can have a negative impact on your libido.

Problem can be both mental and/or physical. Not something to take lightly. This could be simply a symptom of a much bigger problem. Anytime your body functions in a different way than it's accustomed to you should take it seriously and consider seeking a professional.

this is true and false.....i decrease in bodyfat can also make a female feel more sexy and desired...this increasing her libido. as I say time and time again, everyone is differnt. thats why some women, who have gained weight, loose there libido..they feel heavier, not as sexual, and would rather be slightly covered...goes both ways on this one

paulytosway · 12-23-2008, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by mavrick77

this is true and false.....i decrease in bodyfat can also make a female feel more sexy and desired...this increasing her libido. as I say time and time again, everyone is differnt. thats why some women, who have gained weight, loose there libido..they feel heavier, not as sexual, and would rather be slightly covered...goes both ways on this one

agreed, one is a mental issue vs physical.

There could be a physical reaction do to a decrease in body fat. Fat is essential for hormone production. Decrease in fat can cause a direct decrease in hormone production thereby physically affecting libido.

However, feeling better about yourself can make you more confident thereby increasing libido and vice versa.

Regardless, there is something at play here whether it be physical or mental it's something worth getting checked out.

irish0418 · 12-23-2008, 08:47 AM

yes, I need to look into it definetly.

when I talked to my OB about it, she said birth control has an effect on the libido.

BrotherWolf · 12-23-2008, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by irish0418

Can't wait for it to sky rocket then!! LOL

He's fine, it's me....I don't get it. I know being a new mom probably has something to do w/ it but any female viagra? LOL jk

It has everything to do with that.. you can see a doctor it is usually an hormonal screw up after the baby is born..
There are cures for that , it will get worse if you don't do something about it

paulytosway · 12-23-2008, 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by *dwest*

Just think of Steve Buscemi and you will be fine.

i'll be back in a few....

irish0418 · 12-23-2008, 09:18 AM

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Originally Posted by BrotherWolf

It has everything to do with that.. you can see a doctor it is usually an hormonal screw up after the baby is born..
There are cures for that , it will get worse if you don't do something about it

oh no!! I'm scared now!!

I just ordered the maca!!! LOL

**PLANETGETLOW** · 12-23-2008, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by irish0418

oh no!! I'm scared now!!

I just ordered the maca!!! LOL

Post a link to it

jwdjrs · 12-23-2008, 09:34 AM

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Originally Posted by PLANETGETLOW

Post a link to it

http://www.bodybuilding.com/store/now/maca.html

runner05 · 12-23-2008, 09:35 AM

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Originally Posted by *dwest*

I use the NOW pills they have here on BB.com, take 2 a day.

I do also... but I do 3 in the a.m. and another 3 in the p.m.

Haven't noticed much in the way of sexual energy, but I think I already have so darn much that it's hard to tell the difference..

BUT... the energy I have found is AMAZING! I notice BIG TIME if I miss my dosing... I just want to take a nap. I used to be so tired all the time, but not anymore w/ my MACA...

Energy for work AND play!!! hehe

**PLANETGETLOW** · 12-23-2008, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by jwdjrs

http://www.bodybuilding.com/store/now/maca.html

Thanks, I always hear about maca.........

maca, maca, maca........

GoutDeMiel · 12-23-2008, 11:14 AM

I found that birth control did just the opposite for me (I'm on the NuvaRing).
Are there any medications you are taking? I was on Zoloft for only 5 months and I had zero sex drive. ZERO. It drove my boyfriend insane...
I came off of it and now I can't keep my hands off him.

RHINO240 · 12-23-2008, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by paulytosway

Have you recently dropped a significant amount of body fat? Low body fat can have a negative impact on your libido.

Problem can be both mental and/or physical. Not something to take lightly. This could be simply a symptom of a much bigger problem. Anytime your body functions in a different way than it's accustomed to you should take it seriously and consider seeking a professional.

This is why I keep my bodyfat high.

paulytosway · 12-23-2008, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by RHINO240

This is why I keep my bodyfat high.

always better to be safe than sorry..I always say

dot1 · 12-23-2008, 03:25 PM

My wife has this issue, recently went off BC to help issue. She has also had a couple of Test shots to see if that helps, not really. Maybe I will get some Macca for her, she will try it for a while. Good luck to the rest of you.

TheBlasterMan · 12-23-2008, 05:49 PM

when im not on ssri's i cant stop masturbating.

I literally have a 5 minute refraction time. And can repeat 3 times in a row. Anymore then that and i shoot blanks.

skalnik · 12-24-2008, 10:20 AM

Ironically, my wife and I are having the same issue.

I know it can be a strain on our marriage at times. Some studies have been released pointing to L-arginine as a good supplement to use too. In fact, BB.com just started selling Arginmax, which has been shown to help some ladies with libido, and lubrication (which can reduce how painful intercourse may be). I can not give you a review right now because my wife is pregnant and will be nursing, so it will be a while before everything is okay to try this out.

At the same time, if Maca, or the Arginmax do not work, look to your OB/Gyn to run tests for you. They may even refer you to a good sex therapist that can help.

Good Luck and Merry Christmas to all!!

J_Bo · 12-24-2008, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by BrotherWolf

It has everything to do with that.. you can see a doctor it is usually an hormonal screw up after the baby is born..
There are cures for that , it will get worse if you don't do something about it

I watched a show on the discovery channel about "love" in a biological sense. And they were saying that after women give birth, they have instincts that kick in that basically can cause them to become completely different people. Since their number one concern in life is now protecting and nurturing their child, they will often times stop caring about making themselves (and their spouse) happy. So this could mean no desire to have sex, as sexual satisfaction is not as important as your child. Some women can change more than others, but for some can be so drastic that they need psychological help in order to start loving themselves and their husband again.

I don't know if this actually applies in this case...