hardest thing you ever had to get over?

[Tony_S]

or something hard that you are currently going through, involving a female that you have to get over.


i wanna hear about your experiences. plz share. thx

[janky]

sam08?

lolol im sorry, I had to. hahaha


fcking things up with a great girl that didnt deserve to be treated like sht.
All the other girls I could care less because they were sluzzz, but hurting a good person that loved me is one of my biggest regrets.

Learned from it, and she's happier now with someone who is really good to her, sooo in that aspect I'm ok/over it. I guess. :/

[210RobinHood]

Being dumped out of the blue by a GF of 6 years. She gave me some religion excuse that I called her out on, and come to find out she had another dude lined up.

Didn't miss her, but man it really takes a hit on your confidence when something like that happens.

Anyways things have been much better in my life without her. Now I look back and lol about the situation.

[purkel]

dated a chick for 3 years. got really attached without realizing it.

found out she cheated on me with some dude 10 years older than her.

really messed with my self esteem.

every time i was just about to get over her, she'd come back and use sex to keep me from getting over her.

finally a year after the cheating, i finally grew some balls and cut all contact.

[BigJayNJ]

I've been REALLY lucky.

Hardest two things I can remember:

1) Back in college i cheated on my ex with another chick. Other chick fed me a bunch of BS. Jumped ship to her. Then she kicked me to the curb for this loser. I chocked it up to karma i had coming

Was a turning point in my life. Actually when I first got into bodybuilding.

Actually...thats it lol

[Bracket199]

HS I fell head over heels for a girl. She was by far one of the hottest chicks who ever was digging me. She was very flirty, but it took me way too long to get the hint. When I did, i fcuked that up miserably.

I then became obsessive of her because I wanted another chance. I asked her out 2 times. Twice she flaked.

I asked her to prom. I didn't even get a "yes or no" answer from her. It was from her friend to my friend to me .

All in all, that what makes me hate rejection. But I get less of it. I've changed, and she's who she is.

She's a great girl and would def smash her. We are still close when we talk, but I learned from that mistake and glad I did . Chances of us hooking up are very low because of how cautious I may be.

[bluemarlinO4]

Had gf of five years. Broke up with her and had to cut contact for good for both our benefits. At the same time I left the Navy to go back to school. My life did a complete 180 degree turn in one day. Took me awhile to get used to it and even want to talk to women again. I'm better now though, it sucked balls for the first 9 months.

[m.djemal]

Breaking up from the first girl İ ever had feelings for. İ was 16 she was 20, we were together for 6 months and did everything together and were living together. man it was like the end of the world, İ was so immature and attached İ had no idea what the hell was going on.

İ lol so much when İ think about it.

[ktj4l]

Breaking things off with my wife of 5 years recently. We got married extremely young and the compatibility didn't end up being there for a lifelong relationship, so I broke it off instead of wasting more time once I knew that. It was basically a mutual thing, so we're good to go now and still talk. No ugly breakup.

I learned a lot from it to say the least.

[fretslayer]

First time I fell in love and had my heartbroken. I cried every single day for months, no joke. It took me well over a year and another relationship to finally not hurt anymore. Emotionally, it was absolutely brutal. While I of course moved on, I have never quite been the same after that point in life. Until then, I had never even come close to hurting in such a way, didn't even know it was possible.

[ausurfer]

One of my mates going behind my back to try and get with a girl I was seeing ..

[Mr-Bombay29]

First time I fell in love and had my heartbroken. I cried every single day for months, no joke. It took me well over a year and another relationship to finally not hurt anymore. Emotionally, it was absolutely brutal. While I of course moved on, I have never quite been the same after that point in life. Until then, I had never even come close to hurting in such a way, didn't even know it was possible.

how old were you brah?

[Tony_S]

First time I fell in love and had my heartbroken. I cried every single day for months, no joke. It took me well over a year and another relationship to finally not hurt anymore. Emotionally, it was absolutely brutal. While I of course moved on, I have never quite been the same after that point in life. Until then, I had never even come close to hurting in such a way, didn't even know it was possible.

damn that's rough. it's a really terrible feeling being in that state of mind but i'd never let myself sit around and cry about it. no bitch is worth me fuking my life up over.

what made it so hard? i want the story.

[Mr-Bombay29]

damn that's rough. it's a really terrible feeling being in that state of mind but i'd never let myself sit around and cry about it. no bitch is worth me fuking my life up over.

what made it so hard? i want the story.

i want the story too lol

[entershikari]

Never got over it =\

[Tony_S]

Never got over it =\

story?

[icewill36]

the fact that there is no woman you can trust 100% other than your mom.


seriously feels bad man

[keeko]

First time I fell in love and had my heartbroken. I cried every single day for months, no joke. It took me well over a year and another relationship to finally not hurt anymore. Emotionally, it was absolutely brutal. While I of course moved on, I have never quite been the same after that point in life. Until then, I had never even come close to hurting in such a way, didn't even know it was possible.

Damn. Sounds exactly like what happened to me.

[rickymartinn]

currently: dating a girl for 8 months, we ****ed a lot which was why I stayed with her that long in the beginning, but then we became really good friends by the end, but I still put no effort into the relationship because she was a pushover and I am lazy. I wanted out still because I didn't appreciate the good things about her and we broke up last week. She loved me head over heels for 8 months but I kept pushing her away. She finally had had enough and lost her love for me because of the way I treated her. Now I am dealing with realizing that I loved her back and that she is utterly disinterested in me romantically. I also lost my best friend because she was - and shes acting like we never even dated or were best friends -- and of course she was 5'3 120-125 throughout the 8 months and now decides to get down to 110. f'n b's

I think I am over it but I have had a lot of deep thinking this past week and it has almost made me re-arrange my life values because why I wanted to break up with her was because I didn't think she was hot enough - like a show girl type - since I am constantly seeking approval from other people / perfectionist personality, when really you should focus on the person and not aesthetics and not care what other people think to some extent- hard to get appeal from a BB crowd but it's true. I would rather continue dating her - someone who could be my best friend - than a hot blonde bimbo who annoys the hell out of me.

[Peagle85]

-ex broke up with me 5 months ago, i didnt show my true feelings apparently
-i think about her everyday
-she texted me a week ago asking how my life is going
-meeting up for coffee with her tonight
-going to confess my love to her haha

we will see what happens....

[ArnoldS1995]

Relationship with my best friend.
Goes on for about a week.
She then acts like nothing happened, never talks about it, never acts the same as like it was before when we were best friends, still are by the way.

Either there was something that turned her off, or idk. Either way gets me mad when I think about it

[MetaFitX23]

Dated a girl for 5 years. Only girl I've ever loved/had strong feelings for. She broke up w/ me and it took me over 2.5 years to even go on a date w/ another girl. That girl was my life, and when it was over, it was like my life had no meaning without her. When things went rough in my life I could say, well I'm still OK b/c I've got the greatest girl in the world whose by my side and after I lost her it was such a huge blow to my self-confidence/ego.

Have dated other girls and had very brief relationships with other girls after finally getting over her but have never developed strong feelings for another girl like I did with her. I think (pretty often) that I may never, TBH. It definitely distorted my perception of love/relationships.

[Tony_S]

-ex broke up with me 5 months ago, i didnt show my true feelings apparently
-i think about her everyday
-she texted me a week ago asking how my life is going
-meeting up for coffee with her tonight
-going to confess my love to her haha

we will see what happens....

keep us updated

Relationship with my best friend.
Goes on for about a week.
She then acts like nothing happened, never talks about it, never acts the same as like it was before when we were best friends, still are by the way.

Either there was something that turned her off, or idk. Either way gets me mad when I think about it

i feel u. sucks when a girl leaves u hangin like that. especially when u still see her

[fretslayer]

how old were you brah?

I was 21

damn that's rough. it's a really terrible feeling being in that state of mind but i'd never let myself sit around and cry about it. no bitch is worth me fuking my life up over.

what made it so hard? i want the story.

For the most part, I agree. No girl is worth letting have that much power over you. But when it hurts, it hurts, and that's how I dealt with it back then.

I was very inexperienced at that time, never really had a GF, and had just lost my v-card a few months prior with someone else. I had never had "feelings" for a girl, so when I fell, I fell HARD. At that point in my life, if a girl told you she loved you, that was it, she was "the one" (silly me) I was totally head over heels, had never felt so good. We had been friends for a year, worked together and I had always liked her. We had a vibe right away, but she had a BF whom she lived with, and worked with us (I know, bad news right there) Long story short, she eventually made a move on me. When we finally hooked up, the chemistry was mega intense. Made even more intense because it was a big secret and we had to sneak around etc. This went on for a few months.
Anyhow, I was dumb enough to think she was going to leave him for me, and when she didn't I couldn't believe it. No matter what, she stayed with the guy but kept telling me how in love she was with me etc. I finally had to cut it off. For whatever reason (mostly being young and foolish) it just royally wrecked me. I mean I was devastated, it just would not stop hurting. I've been through worse since and it of course hurts like hell but over the years and through experiences like the one above, you toughen up and know that you'll live through it. Live and learn they say.

Oh and for the record, I would never get involved in such a situation ever again. Not to mention I look back at the girl and facepalm, wouldn't touch her with someone else's di$k! Funny how that works.

i want the story too lol

See above.

[Oneandonlysunkist]

About a year ago I met someone who was 16 years older than me. At first it was more like a friends with benefits type of relationship but as time went on we grew stronger feelings for each other. My friends warned me to keep it FWB and to not let it get serious but it was too late to eject. Three months ago I called her out for lying to me about something I found in her email. No keylogger type sh*t..she was just always open with her email and one day I had a gut feeling she was lying to me about something. Logged in to see my gut feeling being correct. At that point, I started having doubts in her and how much I could trust her. We decided to stay together and try to work things out. Things were going well..or at least I thought. I just recently found out she's been seeing someone behind my back. What's funny is that when I called her out on it she kept denying it. She had no idea I had seen the hotel reservations with the other guy with my own eyes.

Here's the hard part. About a month ago I started working "under the table" at her workplace. Everyone there loves me. They just offered me a full time job. I'm thinking about taking it. I know a lot of you will probably try to convince me of just looking for another job but this is ultimately my decision. I have my reasoning.

[Tony_S]

I was 21



For the most part, I agree. No girl is worth letting have that much power over you. But when it hurts, it hurts, and that's how I dealt with it back then.

I was very inexperienced at that time, never really had a GF, and had just lost my v-card a few months prior with someone else. I had never had "feelings" for a girl, so when I fell, I fell HARD. At that point in my life, if a girl told you she loved you, that was it, she was "the one" (silly me) I was totally head over heels, had never felt so good. We had been friends for a year, worked together and I had always liked her. We had a vibe right away, but she had a BF whom she lived with, and worked with us (I know, bad news right there) Long story short, she eventually made a move on me. When we finally hooked up, the chemistry was mega intense. Made even more intense because it was a big secret and we had to sneak around etc. This went on for a few months.
Anyhow, I was dumb enough to think she was going to leave him for me, and when she didn't I couldn't believe it. No matter what, she stayed with the guy but kept telling me how in love she was with me etc. I finally had to cut it off. For whatever reason (mostly being young and foolish) it just royally wrecked me. I mean I was devastated, it just would not stop hurting. I've been through worse since and it of course hurts like hell but over the years and through experiences like the one above, you toughen up and know that you'll live through it. Live and learn they say.

Oh and for the record, I would never get involved in such a situation ever again. Not to mention I look back at the girl and facepalm, wouldn't touch her with someone else's di$k! Funny how that works.



See above.

that sucks man. i'm going through something kinda similar right now. did u continue to see her at work? how did u get over it and stop caring about her when u still saw her everyday?

[fretslayer]

Dated a girl for 5 years. Only girl I've ever loved/had strong feelings for. She broke up w/ me and it took me over 2.5 years to even go on a date w/ another girl. That girl was my life, and when it was over, it was like my life had no meaning without her. When things went rough in my life I could say, well I'm still OK b/c I've got the greatest girl in the world whose by my side and after I lost her it was such a huge blow to my self-confidence/ego.

Have dated other girls and had very brief relationships with other girls after finally getting over her but have never developed strong feelings for another girl like I did with her. I think (pretty often) that I may never, TBH. It definitely distorted my perception of love/relationships.

Yeah, that's a rough one. When you share a chunk of your life like that with someone, it's hard to let go.

[Oneandonlysunkist]

My key take away points I learned from the relationship I mentioned in the above post. I really hope it helps others.

#1 If you meet a girl who is in a relationship and she is flirting with you NEVER ever pursue this type of girl for more than a friend. Why? I learned that a women who has cheated on a previous relationship will more than likely cheat again. No matter how great she may seem. She will tell you how miserable she is with her current guy. You'll feel great at the moment. You'll say to yourself "nows my time to come in and to swoop her up". That's the wrong mentality. This type of girl will more than likely jump ship at your first little f*ck up.

#2 Try your best to keep a FWB a FWB. I know it's hard but its another lesson I learned and still trying to deal with. I can't expand much on this because I don't really know any tricks on how to keep feelings from growing. I takes a strong character so I think it must be within. If anyone wants to share advice on this topic please do so.

#3 Never settle for a girl with baggage. My ex was 16 years older, with 2 kids, and 2 divorces and yet I made the mistake of developing feelings for her. Realize that the world is full of women. Every woman has some sort of baggage. DO NOT SETTLE. At times it may seem like you are lonely and the first girl that shows interest in you, you'll want to settle down with. Realize that you can meet someone at ANY point in your life. If you decide to settle with the baggage girl, you may be at a starbucks the next day, without even knowing, rejecting someone who might be a way better choice for you.

#4 Never date someone that you KNOW deep down you have no future with. Her and I both knew this from the get go. We both thought that one day we could go our own separate ways on a mutual/happy basis. Wrong. If everything was going smoothly why would 2 people separate? Deep down I always knew that one of us would hurt the other and thats how it would end. Unfortunately in my case, she was the one to hurt me before I hurt her. Oh well, lesson learned.

[fretslayer]

that sucks man. i'm going through something kinda similar right now. did u continue to see her at work? how did u get over it and stop caring about her when u still saw her everyday?

Honestly it's not that bad of a situation, it just had a bigger impact because I had never felt those kinds of feelings before. The guy found out what happened, she quit but he continued to work there. It was pretty awkward for a while. That single expereince taught me a lot, and I wouldn't change anything about it except for the fact that I messed around with another guys girl. Once I got hurt, I realized how sh!tty it is to do so, and years later I got to apologize to him.

How did I deal with it? Dude I poured my heart out to whomever would listen, talking about it helped, but really time was the true cure.

Like I said, I've been through worse since (GF I lived with for 3+ years pulling a 180 on me and moving out out of the blue leaving me sleeping on the floor of our empty apartment in a sleeping bag was not fun) and each time you go through this kind of stuff, you learn to deal with it a little better, and it hurts a little less. Last time I had to let go and get over a relationship I found the best way to deal with it was by distracting myself with my interests, hanging with friends, going out and having a few drinks on the weekends and cutting loose, etc.

So what's your story?

[Dave P]

Drugs and Drug dealing.


Drugs is hard but its willpower...dealing is a whole nother beast.