My Girl scartched my M3, how to handle this one?
The girl I have been seeing recently, suggested that we grill some food over the weekend and have some people over. So Saturday when we woke up, we made a list of what to get and such. I was out back, cleaning up abit and setting some things up, and she asked when we were going to head to the store. I still had some things to do around the place, and suggested that if her and her roomie wanted to run over there real quick, I would finish around the house. So said ok, and about 2 mins came back and said my car was in the way, I told her, if she wanted to just take it and be extremely safe she could. Mind you this is my baby, the car haha It?s a 2006 BMW M3, and has never seen snow or even rain, it's garaged every night and I clean it every week. She said ok, she kinda smiled, knowing this was way outa the blue for me to say. But I didn't feel like moving it at the time. Well they come back about 30mins later, and she walks up to me and right away I can tell something bad happened, she just looked soo scared and nervous, and she completely breaks down and cry, and hugs me, like she'll never see me again. So I ask what is wrong, thinking something terrible has happened, and goes on to tell me, that someone hit my car in the parking lot and had drove off, not leaving a note or anything. At this moment my heart stops, and was like your funny, but she wasn't joking. I went and looked at the damage, it wasn't pretty, prob around 2000. I held it in, and didn't freak out, and said I'm just ok your alright and it can be fixed. Didn't help that she wouldn't let go of me and was holding on for dear life it felt like and shaking. And all weekend she has been acting different and nervous and cried twice about it. Of coarse I wouldn't make her pay for it, seeing I didn't move the car and I was the one who said she could take it. But not sure how to make her feel better, like its ok and not to worry. Because hate seeing her like this, any suggestions?
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09-02-2008, 07:45 AM #1Registered User
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My Girl scartched my M3, how to handle this one?
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09-02-2008, 08:52 AM #2Coconut Oil Pusher
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Wow...good job on handling yourself when you found out. Yikes! Has she offered to pay or anything? I know my insurance covers whatever car I'm in no matter who owns it but I dont know if that's the norm. She's obviously sorry but you need to figure out something so that you don't resent her. (if you even do now)
This could be a really funny story about "when mommy and daddy first started dating"....one day. lol
BTW...she is "your girl" now
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09-02-2008, 09:02 AM #3Registered User
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Trust me I wanted to yell and freak out, but with her crying and all nervous. I knew it would only makes things worse. I think I went and looked the the car 25times yesterday, each time tears were close haha My insurance covers it, so does her, will have to pay a deductible, which not sure who will pay that. Maybe split it. Yeah funny story, she is my girl you could say, haven't gone all internet and changed my ******** status haha But yeah, she's finally my girl...Originally Posted by TeresaMalia
Wow...good job on handling yourself when you found out. Yikes! Has she offered to pay or anything? I know my insurance covers whatever car I'm in no matter who owns it but I dont know if that's the norm. She's obviously sorry but you need to figure out something so that you don't resent her. (if you even do now)
This could be a really funny story about "when mommy and daddy first started dating"....one day. lol
BTW...she is "your girl" now lol"I read somewhere how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong, to measure yourself at least once... to find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions, facing blind, deaf stone alone, with nothing to help you but your own hands and your own head. . . ."
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09-02-2008, 09:04 AM #4Registered User
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you gotta change the ******** status otherwise its not official - LOLOriginally Posted by BostonBoy22
I've always made a total effort, even when the odds seemed entirely against me. I never quit trying; I never felt that I didn't have a chance to win. - Arnold Palmer
Everyone dies but not everybody lives.
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09-02-2008, 09:05 AM #5Registered User
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That only took 2mins before someone on here notice that hahaOriginally Posted by sandy131
you gotta change the ******** status otherwise its not official - LOL"I read somewhere how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong, to measure yourself at least once... to find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions, facing blind, deaf stone alone, with nothing to help you but your own hands and your own head. . . ."
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09-02-2008, 09:08 AM #6Registered User
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seriouse though I think u handled the situation well! If my boyf or anyone scratched my Car I would of lost it BIG TIME - Yes I love my Car! and you've got an M3 - nice!!Originally Posted by BostonBoy22
I've always made a total effort, even when the odds seemed entirely against me. I never quit trying; I never felt that I didn't have a chance to win. - Arnold Palmer
Everyone dies but not everybody lives.
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09-02-2008, 09:11 AM #7Registered User
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Like when it comes to the Deductible, seeing she already said she would pay for whatever needed to be gone. I feel bad talking the money, knowing really this isn't her fault, and don't want this to effect our relationship, or make thing weird. It's 500 I don't want to spend, but it's worth it, if it means not changing anything in the relationship, or would me paying set me up for something down the road?
"I read somewhere how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong, to measure yourself at least once... to find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions, facing blind, deaf stone alone, with nothing to help you but your own hands and your own head. . . ."
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09-02-2008, 09:17 AM #8ummmmm delicious
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Who needs a g/f when you have an M3?
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09-02-2008, 09:18 AM #9Registered User
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couldnt agree more!Originally Posted by paulytosway
I've always made a total effort, even when the odds seemed entirely against me. I never quit trying; I never felt that I didn't have a chance to win. - Arnold Palmer
Everyone dies but not everybody lives.
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09-02-2008, 09:19 AM #10ummmmm delicious
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Now, if the M3 came with a built in Sandy....damn that's one sweet car...Originally Posted by sandy131
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09-02-2008, 09:21 AM #11bb.coms hellraiser
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pictures of said damage?
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09-02-2008, 09:21 AM #12Registered User
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ouch i hear your pain. i have a Lexus and if my bf damaged the car, i think i would cry...not gonna lie!! it might set you up for something later if you make her pay (because you both haven't been in the relationship that long to know how "money" plays between you both). BUT if I were her, I would at least offer to pay all or pay half cause it isnt fair for you to pay for it all nor is it her since it was an accident and she wasn't at fault. so maybe just say well its $500 (for example), ask for 100-200 and you pay for the rest, just tell her you need some help with it (not saying you couldnt pay for it by any means)...but might help calm her down and "balance" everything out....who knows might be a good lesson learned for later down the road.
It's funny, isn't it? How one moment can change a million after it.
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09-02-2008, 09:34 AM #13Coconut Oil Pusher
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But has she? lolOriginally Posted by BostonBoy22
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09-02-2008, 09:54 AM #14Banned
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In a way that he can't detect.Originally Posted by TeresaMalia
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09-02-2008, 09:55 AM #15Registered User
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how many cars do you have?Originally Posted by BostonBoy22
It's funny, isn't it? How one moment can change a million after it.
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09-02-2008, 10:02 AM #16Registered User
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Think her says in a relationship. I don't go on there very often....But when introduced to her Mom, it was as the boyfriend...Originally Posted by TeresaMalia
"I read somewhere how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong, to measure yourself at least once... to find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions, facing blind, deaf stone alone, with nothing to help you but your own hands and your own head. . . ."
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09-02-2008, 10:04 AM #17Registered User
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2Originally Posted by trace621
The 06' M3 and a 2000 F-150"I read somewhere how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong, to measure yourself at least once... to find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions, facing blind, deaf stone alone, with nothing to help you but your own hands and your own head. . . ."
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09-02-2008, 10:04 AM #18Registered User
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O trust me I pay 2600 for insurance for a reason, had my fun with the car, I think to much fun...Originally Posted by paulytosway
"I read somewhere how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong, to measure yourself at least once... to find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions, facing blind, deaf stone alone, with nothing to help you but your own hands and your own head. . . ."
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09-02-2008, 10:13 AM #19Registered User
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I wouldn't ask her to pay anything. You assume all risk when you lend someone your car. Besides, she didn't scratch it. Someone hit the car & took off. The same thing could have happened to you had she waited & the two of you went together.
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ha i was gonna say, you gotta have two cars if you live in methuen. I live 40min or so from you and for that car to not see rain or snow considering where we are, i was a bit curiousOriginally Posted by BostonBoy22
It's funny, isn't it? How one moment can change a million after it.
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09-02-2008, 11:43 AM #21Registered User
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So decided I'll pay the full delectable, knowing this wasn't her fault. And it prob would of happened anyways if I had went to the store with her like planned. And she did send a card and a little bear to my office. Damn she's good.....
Thinking take her out to dinner tonight to smooth this over and leave it in the past.
Note to self, never let someone drive you car haha
Thanks everyone for the opinions!!"I read somewhere how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong, to measure yourself at least once... to find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions, facing blind, deaf stone alone, with nothing to help you but your own hands and your own head. . . ."
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09-02-2008, 11:45 AM #22Squats traps to grass
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Doing bodywork would probably occupy her mind....
just sayin.CSCS, ACSM cPT.
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09-02-2008, 12:02 PM #23
When you baby your car, like you do, and make it your life, of course she is going to act the way she did when it happened. Possesions have taken over people's lives these days. They come and go, same as money, and it doesnt mean a thing. Now the girl you have, is probably one that cannot be replaced. My 0.2 cents - Get it fixed and throw it away. Not a big deal, **** happens.
And yes I am a car nut, so I do understand.
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09-02-2008, 12:07 PM #24Registered User
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I was thinking of doing that this winter, give me a winter project. But not sure her seeing me working on the car is going to help. Seeing I've done all the work on the car, here's a photo(before scratch) so to show how much I wanted to cry when it got scratched.Originally Posted by Defiant1
"I read somewhere how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong, to measure yourself at least once... to find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions, facing blind, deaf stone alone, with nothing to help you but your own hands and your own head. . . ."
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09-02-2008, 12:12 PM #25Registered User
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Yeah it's has def. become my life for the past 2 1/2 years, and about half my bank account. Currently running with the following:Originally Posted by CoffeCanSlayer
The performance related stuff was primarily for handling and braking and is still in the works, here's what it currently entails:
Wheels: Volk TE37 Time Attacks 19x9 front/19x10.5 rear, with Toyo T1R's in 255/35/19 and 275/30/19.
Suspension: Eibach Pro Kit
Brakes: Brembo Gran Turismo four-wheel big brake kit. 15" rotor/6 piston front, 14" rotor/4 piston rear.
For Kicks:
Forumla 1 ceramic tint, 20% all around.
LLumar paint protection/clear bra (worth every penny).
Custom illuminated M3 door sills.
BMW M3 aluminum pedal kit (car should've come with the damn things).
Vorsteiner carbon fiber engine cover (it was free, sort of)."I read somewhere how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong, to measure yourself at least once... to find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions, facing blind, deaf stone alone, with nothing to help you but your own hands and your own head. . . ."
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09-02-2008, 12:16 PM #26
Im not gonna lie, it is a gorgeous car. But its just a car, and that is all its ever going to be. Mark my words it wont be the last time it is scratched.
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09-02-2008, 03:11 PM #27S1NN3R G0N3 G00D
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**** sorry to hear that bro
My wife has hit my two of my BMWs so far lol
I would be pissed for a while, but than even though she is my wife I just dont let her touch the E30 at all
and when I do get another car, I will either be looking at a GT3 or the new M3
and Im getting them in manual, so she wont drive themEX YU Mafia #1 ----Cant Touch Us----
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09-02-2008, 03:15 PM #28Extreme Cyclist
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WOW
kudos for not blowing up, that's a real man for ya
quick question, is this the roommate chick you were into a while back?THAT WAS HEAVY!
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If you have any friend's in the autobody business...they can work that deductible right into the figure and you won't have to pay any extra...Originally Posted by BostonBoy22
Just something to think about
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09-02-2008, 04:36 PM #30Call me Ishmael
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QFT, I had a connection last time I had a fender bender in the glorious la rush...guy rolled it all in and was even trying to add some aftermarket parts on the bill but the insurance company wanted to inspect the vehicle post repair so that went out the door.Originally Posted by kimm4
If you have any friend's in the autobody business...they can work that deductible right into the figure and you won't have to pay any extra...
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