Cliffs:
Got matching angel wings on my back with my niece
It means something to her and I and we both like them
He thinks tats on girls are trashy and thinks I was irresponsible for getting it done so soon and without consulting him first
I think he is second guessing being with me cuz of this
He seems really dissappointed and put off by it
Advice?
Laser removal?
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Thread: Boyfriend hates my tattoo
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09-13-2008, 12:38 AM #1Gym Bunny
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Boyfriend hates my tattoo
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09-13-2008, 12:39 AM #2Gym Bunny
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Forgot the (serious) tag
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09-13-2008, 12:39 AM #3
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09-13-2008, 12:42 AM #4born to roam
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it's not that f4ggot jballa is it?
that's fuking pathetic if it is. dude has venom on his back. it doesn't get anymore gay and immature then that. tell him to stfu.You can walk outside and listen to all kinds of talk, get told you're a god or a total bastard. The iron always kicks you the real deal. It's the great reference point, the all-knowing perspective giver. I have found it to be my greatest friend. It never freaks out on me, never runs. Friends may come and go. But 200 pounds is always 200 pounds.
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09-13-2008, 12:43 AM #5This is Absolution!
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Originally Posted by kay_kakes
It's your body, and your choice. I'd tell the person that if they don't like it, I don't care, and that I will NEVER be obligated to consulting them for ANY choice I make. Then I'd tell them to go **** themself if they continued with their prior position.
"Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom."
- Viktor Frankl, Austrian Psychiatrist and survivor of a Nazi concentration camp
"Nothing can resist the human will that will stake even it's existence on it's stated purpose."
- Benjamin Disraeli
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09-13-2008, 12:49 AM #6go phillies!
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if it is somethin you deeply wanted and like then who cares. but if my gf did that without at least telling me id be kinda pissed. like even if a disagree, at least mention it.
Bench:245lbs x 1
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09-13-2008, 12:49 AM #7Banned
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you got a tat that means something to you and your niece but are willing to go through the cost of laser removal for your bodyfriend you've only been with for a few months at most?Originally Posted by kay_kakes
LOL, srsly gtfo
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09-13-2008, 12:50 AM #8Gym Bunny
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No, he and I havent been dating for a while.Originally Posted by WhAtNoWbChSs
Right before getting it done, I had some reservations, but I did it anyway. Then hearing his side of it just made me feel like ****. I asked if it made him think differently of me and he took a long hesitated pause before saying, "Well..." He is 26 and im 20, so I dont want him to think im some little girl who wandered into a tatto parler, saw wings and went "Ooooh pretty!" and got them just for fun. He said thats what he initially thought.Originally Posted by AmateurWrestler
It's your body, and your choice. I'd tell the person that if they don't like it, I don't care, and that I will NEVER be obligated to consulting them for ANY choice I make. Then I'd tell them to go **** themself if they continued with their prior position.
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09-13-2008, 12:51 AM #9Registered User
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pics please
then we can deem how right your bf is...
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09-13-2008, 12:51 AM #10Registered User
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wow strong niece
you guys are not married, you dont have to consult him about anything
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09-13-2008, 12:52 AM #11go phillies!
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whats up with girls dating guys who are alot older? theres this 21 year old girl i work with and she is dating a married 38 year old dude. and another 22 year old is dating a 33 year old...like wtfOriginally Posted by kay_kakes
anyway, **** him. do what you want.Bench:245lbs x 1
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09-13-2008, 12:56 AM #12Gym Bunny
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LOL. Yeah, my sister is 37.Originally Posted by romeo2
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09-13-2008, 12:57 AM #13Gym Bunny
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Oh and BTW, when I text him good night a few hours ago when I was falling asleep, he just text back "Good night Kayla" No honey, sweetie, sweet dreams...like normal.
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09-13-2008, 12:58 AM #15Banned
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this.Originally Posted by roccobladr
is it who you are?
is he ok with it?
from that you should be able to decide what the right choice is.
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09-13-2008, 12:59 AM #16Gym Bunny
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09-13-2008, 01:00 AM #17born to roam
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he really has you wrapped around his finger doesnt he?Originally Posted by kay_kakes
You can walk outside and listen to all kinds of talk, get told you're a god or a total bastard. The iron always kicks you the real deal. It's the great reference point, the all-knowing perspective giver. I have found it to be my greatest friend. It never freaks out on me, never runs. Friends may come and go. But 200 pounds is always 200 pounds.
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09-13-2008, 01:00 AM #18Gym Bunny
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Its apart of both my niece and I so it means something. And he is NOT ok with it.Originally Posted by octavio tremendo
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09-13-2008, 01:01 AM #19Gym Bunny
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Well, I really value his opinion and care what he thinks of me.Originally Posted by WhAtNoWbChSs
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i'm gonna be dead serious (though keep in mind that a tattoo is a very PERSONAL thing).
the wings look too small on your back and the angel wings is a very trite, very cliched tattoo.
it's like the tribal band around the bicep of a guy or chinese lettering on the oblique area.
everyone has a 'reason' for getting the chinese lettering ("look, IKnowWhoYouAre, my tattoo is the chinese symbol for unity because my late father really was all for unification"). Still, they're lame-o.
if you really like it then f*ck the haters, but that's just my 2 cents.
you don't need to take orders from the dude, y'all just started going out!
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09-13-2008, 01:02 AM #21This is Absolution!
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Originally Posted by kay_kakes
Well, you aren't responsible for his perception of you; you know why you got the tattoo, and if you've told him that, and he doesn't believe you, for whatever reason, you're only gonna be stressing yourself anytime you worry too much about something you don't control; his opinion."Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom."
- Viktor Frankl, Austrian Psychiatrist and survivor of a Nazi concentration camp
"Nothing can resist the human will that will stake even it's existence on it's stated purpose."
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09-13-2008, 01:02 AM #22Registered User
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Dont let it get to you too much...I would be kind of surprised if my gf got a tattoo out of nowhere. If you guys are really serious then he'll get over it.
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09-13-2008, 01:03 AM #23Banned
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You would actually get that lasered off already? The tattoos are small, no big deal. My cousin has angel wings tattooed on his back, he looks like a ***.
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if he cares about you, and cares what you think of him, then he wouldnt be making a big deal.Originally Posted by kay_kakes
youre a doormat. stop being a doormat, grow a proverbial pair and tell him to put up or shut up. i dont like some of the tats my wumman has, but that doesnt mean i have the right to tell her what she can and cant get on her, and weve had children for ****s sake.
tell him to gtfo.dont be bitchin about somebody not being a mexican while ignoring someone who isnt irish.
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He shouldn't really be kicking off about tatoos like that, its a very inoffensive design. He doesn't own your body, he can disapprove of it personally but he is an a$$hole if he holds it against you and makes it a grudge.Originally Posted by kay_kakes
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09-13-2008, 01:06 AM #26Registered User
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Gotta be honest, tattoos on girls really put me off too. My last ex got hers with her ex bf, which is really the only reason I didn't like it on her. You got yours with your niece though and it's completely innocent, I wouldn't think about yours for more than a minute - this coming from someone who really doesn't like tattoos on chicks. Also, when a guy doesn't like tattoos on women it's almost universally because it makes them think the woman is really "impulsive" - which is kind of what you said in a previous post. It's not really a fair judgment I completely admit, but it's a judgment a lot of people have nonethless.
He shouldn't really give a **** about yours.
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09-13-2008, 01:08 AM #27born to roam
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Originally Posted by kay_kakes
he sounds like a total control freak, like me.Originally Posted by kay_kakes
challenge him, tell him that it means a lot to you and your niece and that she would be upset if you had it removed. say that if he really loved you he wouldnt try to come between you and your family like this. etc etc etc.
if that fails tell him he can pay for the laser removal. do you realize to have it removed will cost around 4-5x what the tat cost and is also alot more painful?You can walk outside and listen to all kinds of talk, get told you're a god or a total bastard. The iron always kicks you the real deal. It's the great reference point, the all-knowing perspective giver. I have found it to be my greatest friend. It never freaks out on me, never runs. Friends may come and go. But 200 pounds is always 200 pounds.
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09-13-2008, 01:09 AM #28Banned
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Ill say this nicely. The dude you are with is using you. Hes much older and knows how to manipulate women. hence, him getting mad over a tattoo. Its only going to get worst. (Im not being a dick, im serious, this happend to a girl I knew until she finally woke up). Its your body, means something, and looks good. I find tattoos hot on women. Your BF is an *******, dump him.
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Congratulations, his opinion of you just dropped.Originally Posted by kay_kakes
Everyone saying "it's your body, do what you want with it" are morons. They all care about what their significant other does to their body.
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09-13-2008, 01:10 AM #30Gym Bunny
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Thanks guys. I mean, the tat is small and meaningful so I didnt think it would be that ofensive. And my niece and i have been researching tats for a loooong time but i just happend not to havent mentioned angel wings to him specifically so he was caugt off gaurd. Even though our relationship is new, i do care what he thinks. Obviously, if we had been dating a longer time and spent every waking moment together, it would have made more sense to keep him more informed. But since we arent at that level yet, i felt this was more between my niece and i than he and i. I just kinda get the feeling that he will be embarrassed of me now or something.
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