what makes a man refuse sex???

[Chakra]

last time bf [together 6 months] and i made love was July 23rd...we used to have sex all the time too...since then if I try to get frisky with him.. he says.. "I can't!" he had a wee problem with keeping an erection last time we made love...know it bothered him alottttttt, but not sure if that's his reason now... or hez just not horny...already tried reassurance and told him he could try viagra or something......we spend all our free time together so I don't feel hez cheating...not sure how long I can hold out tho, got men chasin me .....btw I am not getting any explanation for his lack of libido...obviously my waiting over 7 weeks shows that I am not all about sex, but I can't say I don't want to make love to the man I love.....

7 weeks and holding.........btw hez not pregnant lol

serious replies plz... no joking

[dcarrera]

Originally Posted by Chakra

last time bf and i made love was July 23rd...since then if I try to get frisky with him.. he says.. "I can't!" he had a wee problem with keeping an erection last time we made love...know it bothered him alottttttt, but not sure if that's his reason now... or hez just not horny...already tried reassurance and told him he could try viagra or something......we spend all our free time together so I don't feel hez cheating...not sure how long I can hold out tho, got men chasin me .....btw I am not getting any explanation for his lack of libido...obviously my waiting over 7 weeks shows that I am not all about sex, but I can't say I don't want to make love to the man I love.....

7 weeks and holding.........btw hez not pregnant lol

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[WinterFresh]

Just attempt rape (serious)

[slowteg]

lol.

1. he might be gay.
2.he might be cheating.

[Schnitter]

I've said NO to sex only two times...

1) Had a GF and another girl wanted me to cheat on her

2) This girl kept bugging me to be her BF for a long time, but I always found some excuse to tell her NO in a nice manner. Well one day, I end up having sex with her and she tells me she loves me... we werent even GF & BF and she told me that... so yeah I decided not to sex her up anymore before things got worse.

EDIT - NEVER said NO to a Girlfriend EVER. If your BF lacks libido and feels ashamed, he should try to reassure you ASAP instead of being afraid to fail again.

[ALPHAMALE419]

id refuse if she were fat or ugly lol......maybe a
'buttaface"id take though....id just turn her ass around and pretend shes pretty....

[musclebound2007]

Originally Posted by Chakra

last time bf and i made love was July 23rd...since then if I try to get frisky with him.. he says.. "I can't!" he had a wee problem with keeping an erection last time we made love...know it bothered him alottttttt, but not sure if that's his reason now... or hez just not horny...already tried reassurance and told him he could try viagra or something......we spend all our free time together so I don't feel hez cheating...not sure how long I can hold out tho, got men chasin me .....btw I am not getting any explanation for his lack of libido...obviously my waiting over 7 weeks shows that I am not all about sex, but I can't say I don't want to make love to the man I love.....

7 weeks and holding.........btw hez not pregnant lol

serious replies plz... no joking

I am thinking that issue he had, the erection problem, is what's making him say no. He's probably very fearful it'd happen again, even though you are reassuring him and providing logical suggestions. No one ever wants to go through something like that even once, so imagine having him try to get turned on and possibly have anxiety that that will occur again. And even by having anxiety about it, he may not even be able to keep it long enough, inevitably leading to the same thing.

[Kiwi_Fella]

He's obviously really hung up on his not getting it up, or he's cheating. Most guys might turn it down after a very hard workout at the gym, but not for 7 weeks

[Sach]

No man can resist pussy after 7 weeks. It's physically impossible.


i've never turned down sex in my life, even when I was running a fever.

[Sach]

Originally Posted by Chakra

last time bf [together 6 months] and i made love was July 23rd...we used to have sex all the time too...since then if I try to get frisky with him.. he says.. "I can't!" he had a wee problem with keeping an erection last time we made love...know it bothered him alottttttt, but not sure if that's his reason now... or hez just not horny...already tried reassurance and told him he could try viagra or something......we spend all our free time together so I don't feel hez cheating...not sure how long I can hold out tho, got men chasin me .....btw I am not getting any explanation for his lack of libido...obviously my waiting over 7 weeks shows that I am not all about sex, but I can't say I don't want to make love to the man I love.....

7 weeks and holding.........btw hez not pregnant lol

serious replies plz... no joking

by the way, get the f*ck over yourself. You're not hot.

[Schnitter]

If he cant have an erection after 7 weeks, he is either gay, masturbates more than a 14 y/o that just found out what an erection is, or doesnt feel attracted to you anymore.

[stealth_maven]

-std's

-smell

-loose vag

-stressed

-football game

-fcuking some other broad

[Chakra]

he still claims hez .. 'in love with me'.. but seriously, how long is he gonna make me wait...this is getting old....i know guys don't say noooooooooooooooo
not stupid bout that ok....but hez not cheating ok

btw ...Sach thanks for your rudeness.... just saying...there's plenty of guys who WONT SAY NOOOOOOOOOO

[Bigdank]

sounds like hes bored or something. You need to do something freaky to turn him on.

[Da_RealG]

lookin at ops pic i would say......

gingers

[8282]

He might watch porn and/or masturbate a lot? This can result in him loosing sexual interest.

[knappstaman]

Originally Posted by stealth_maven

-football game

quoted for truth

[StarFox]

everytime you two have sex he probably thinks about that insufferable way you spell "he's" with a z, and that kills his boner and makes him want to skull**** you more than piitv. jus sayin'

[ccm]

you need to step if up to chakra, maybe try something you dont usually do? (PIITB)

[du3ce]

oh hai dere chakra khan

[TonicWater]

Originally Posted by musclebound2007

I am thinking that issue he had, the erection problem, is what's making him say no. He's probably very fearful it'd happen again, even though you are reassuring him and providing logical suggestions. No one ever wants to go through something like that even once, so imagine having him try to get turned on and possibly have anxiety that that will occur again. And even by having anxiety about it, he may not even be able to keep it long enough, inevitably leading to the same thing.

Thinking a lot like this. Has he still got the urinary problem?
If it caused me pain, or there's was a very good chance I'd flop up quick, I'd probably be anxious and wanna wait off til I was better. Believe it or not, some people do have the self discipline to resist publically (even tho even tho your brain goes thru all sorts of horny **** cos of it!)

and btw, if I had a medical issue prevent me getting a decent hard on and my g/f suggested going for viagra, it'd privately make me feel pretty crap inside that I can't please her on my own. It probably make me even less likely to go down that route tbh... which might be a dumb ass mistake cos it'd probably be even more pressure on me, but that's how I'd feel in his place.

[Arquine]

Originally Posted by Chakra

not sure how long I can hold out tho, got men chasin me

...

[TonicWater]

you can't hold out? <_<

ho much?

[momo5]

Originally Posted by Arquine

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LOL!!!! nice!!!

TO OP:

you have expired mam you are now outdate cottage cheese that no one will eat for free or purchase. Enjoy the cobwebs and shelf time you will be getting alot of it.

[MP525i]

maybe he's resisting because he thinks you'll get fed up and leave him since he doesn't want to break up with you himself.

[Purge]

Originally Posted by Chakra

last time bf [together 6 months] and i made love was July 23rd...we used to have sex all the time too...since then if I try to get frisky with him.. he says.. "I can't!" he had a wee problem with keeping an erection last time we made love...know it bothered him alottttttt, but not sure if that's his reason now... or hez just not horny...already tried reassurance and told him he could try viagra or something......we spend all our free time together so I don't feel hez cheating...not sure how long I can hold out tho, got men chasin me .....btw I am not getting any explanation for his lack of libido...obviously my waiting over 7 weeks shows that I am not all about sex, but I can't say I don't want to make love to the man I love.....

7 weeks and holding.........btw hez not pregnant lol

serious replies plz... no joking

Maybe your bad grammar skills turn him off.

[DANDIESEL]

7 weeks?
hes ****ing somebody else.

[jwdjrs]

Originally Posted by musclebound2007

I am thinking that issue he had, the erection problem, is what's making him say no. He's probably very fearful it'd happen again, even though you are reassuring him and providing logical suggestions. No one ever wants to go through something like that even once, so imagine having him try to get turned on and possibly have anxiety that that will occur again. And even by having anxiety about it, he may not even be able to keep it long enough, inevitably leading to the same thing.

Best answer so far. I really think this is the problem and hopefully for the OP it is, Because it can be fixed

Honestly the OP is a nice looking lady with a very good paying job Be nice guys

Repps to musclebound2007

[Chakra]

i am talking in RL ok....you are naming people?

for the record too....my bf is the one who offered to take Viagra or Cialis...I just agreed with him, if that's what he wants then fine with me....but hasn't taken any that i know of.

Just wanna say also... this WAS a serious thread to me and I very much appreciate you men who have contributed! not so much to the displays of immaturity by the non contributors foul comments

[Chakra]

Originally Posted by MP525i

maybe he's resisting because he thinks you'll get fed up and leave him since he doesn't want to break up with you himself.

now there's a good point .. that crossed my mind...