Dealing with jealousy and long distance relationship

cactuschris26 · 08-25-2008, 10:58 AM

My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months. We are going to different colleges about 2 hours away. I'm always low on money and can really only see her about once a month + the breaks. Shes not much of a drinker but being away from someone gets you thinking of the things that they can be doing while you arent around. I really trust her but I don't trust other guys my age. For people who have been in long distance relationships how did it work out.

quietstormx1 · 08-25-2008, 11:02 AM

trust

my girlfriend and her mom moved back to her home town in PA..about 6 hours away from me in here in jersey..

i have the most trust i can for her. unfortunately she doesnt have a lot in me and gets jealous every so often, but i understand it and roll with the punches. but i trust her not to be stupid. weve been together for 3 years.

shes not much of a drinker/party-er each, but some people are willing to try new things and change, and i know she might. but, again, i trust her not to.

gotta have trust, brah. without it, any kind of relationship is pointless.

djl236 · 08-25-2008, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by quietstormx1

trust

my girlfriend and her mom moved back to her home town in PA..about 6 hours away from me in here in jersey..

i have the most trust i can for her. unfortunately she doesnt have a lot in me and gets jealous every so often, but i understand it and roll with the punches. but i trust her not to be stupid. weve been together for 3 years.

shes not much of a drinker/party-er each, but some people are willing to try new things and change, and i know she might. but, again, i trust her not to.

gotta have trust, brah. without it, any kind of relationship is pointless.

word. x2. without trust, your relationship is doomed, plain and simple. I can understand not trusting other guys, but when it comes down to it, unless she's raped (god forbid tthat ever happened), it takes two to tango, so either you trust her to be faithful or you don't, and if you don't, either talk to her about it or break it off now.

Al_Pal · 08-25-2008, 11:31 AM

its trust. and if you have a woman who is trustworthy, dont ever forget to treat her as such. they are rare.

ChristmasFnatic · 08-25-2008, 11:50 AM

Glad to see you guys giving positive advice about virtues and all. Cuz most of the time, I see "break up with her, shes getting gangbanged!". lol. It kinda surprises me even.

Oh well, in before gangbang/breakup advice.

BEhave · 08-25-2008, 11:53 AM

wow you sohuld consider yourself lucky being able to see her even once a month. some friends i know are dating girls that are in the states for school (we live in canada).

pondus_levo · 08-25-2008, 12:20 PM

You can't worry about the other guys. Guys are going to do what they want and you have no control over that. It comes down to your G/F actions. Unless she is giving you a reason to question her loyalty, you just need to think if it as a complement that other guys are hitting on your woman. If you start to be need/insecure towards her, that will only push her away. Maybe she feels the same way you do. Ever talked to her about it?