u did the right thing!
prayers for u and your wife!
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Thread: I lied to my wife. sad one.
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08-22-2008, 07:41 PM #31
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08-22-2008, 08:21 PM #37
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So sorry to hear about your wife. I understand why you did what you did...I hope you both are able to enjoy your vacation.
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08-22-2008, 10:02 PM #38
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TDetoit, you did the right thing. I lost my wife to the same thing after 28 years of marriage in Sept. of 2006. She was stage IV, and I had no idea what that meant. I just kept hoping one of the treatments would make her better. She seemed to be hanging in there, then the last two days she just looked so bad. I found out later that she knew; the Doctors told her she only had days, but she didn;t tell me. I didn't see it coming. I still kick myself for not seeing that and trying to make the last few months of her life more enjoyable. So "BRAVO" to you for what you are doing. My prayers are with you.
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08-22-2008, 11:04 PM #39
That's a pretty sad story, I can't imagine myself in a predicament like that, it really brings out the true love that you have for your spouse. I know my wife and I sometimes argue about money or get suspicious about another lover, but a predicament like yours never came into our life, I never thought about that. Something like that would definitely give me a change of heart.
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08-23-2008, 01:48 AM #40
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TDetroit - I'm so sorry to hear about your wife - this must be unbearable for you. Personally I think you did the right thing giving her the opportunity to enjoy her holiday. My mother died at 50 from cancer and it was clear from the biopsy (brain) that it was inoperable. We told her she would be OK (because the Biop left her mute and paralysed) and treatment would sort it. We wanted her last few weeks of consciousness to be full hope - I stand by that.
I wish you and the wife the very best of luck
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08-23-2008, 04:26 AM #41
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08-23-2008, 04:41 AM #42
I'm a firm believer that the truth is almost ALWAYS the best policy. However, when you find yourself the rare situation where the truth can do absolutely no good at all, and in fact can only make things worse such as the situation you have sadly found yourself in, then there is no evil at all in witholding it.
In this particular case, the only thing telling your wife the truth would accomplish is increasing her anxiety, depression, and especially with cancer those 2 things only speed up the process, not to mention dampen the spirit of the time you 2 have togehter.
IMHO, do your best to enjoy your vacation with your family, and create the best memories you can to hold on to later."the greatest part of an adventure isn't being at the destination, it's the journey to get there."
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08-23-2008, 12:54 PM #43
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08-26-2008, 10:29 AM #46
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First off, my heart and prayers go out to you. My wife and I had our own scare earlier this year, but thankfully she's fine. But i'm so sorry you're all going through this.
Next, I know technically it was a lie but it wasn't to hurt so I wouldn't consider it wrong. You're doing the right thing. You know it's not the truth and you're protecting her. Obviously you're a great husband who loves his wife dearly. God bless you for that.
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08-26-2008, 12:15 PM #47
You did the right thing!
Enjoy and treasure that vacation, take many, many pics of your wife with the kids and with you! Don't be shy about asking strangers to snap that family pic for you, lots and lots of family pics.
I would also like to suggest, when you return from vacation, you have a real family portrait taken. My dad was a very wise man. He knew, I am sure she knew, but we have a wonderful family portrait. I am only 2 sitting on my dad's knee, but I have treasured that photo with my mother my entire life.
It is unlike any other possession I have, it is what I would grab on my way out of the burning house......... My dad, my mom and the four young daughters. Priceless!
God Bless and many prayers being sent to your family.... "and the bootprints behind me are someone's I used to be...."
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