Women approaching men

[Beklet]

I read a lot on here about how it's always the men who do the initial approach, and how they have to do all the work....

So how do you feel if a woman approaches you?
Is it a good thing?
Do you think she's too aggressive? Too pushy?
Or are you just happy to be let off the hook?

[Curtiz]

i love it

[FullSack]

is she drunk? is she fat? please clarify/elaborate...Obviously you have a situation pictured in your mind...describe it.

[loney]

I read a lot on here about how it's always the men who do the initial approach, and how they have to do all the work....

So how do you feel if a woman approaches you?
Is it a good thing?
Do you think she's too aggressive? Too pushy?
Or are you just happy to be let off the hook?

It's only ever happened to me once or twice. And nothing really came out of it.

[YuMadThough]

I'd think that she probably approaches lots of other guys in the same way and presume she gets around a bit.
...and in my experience all the ones that approached me aggressively turned out to be head cases so i proceed with caution lol

[thecheezman]

id prefer me go up to her and talk to her. if she or her friend came up 2 me id talk to them and be nice but prolly woodnt do anything about it. depends on the situation tho

[Beklet]

is she drunk? is she fat? please clarify/elaborate...Obviously you have a situation pictured in your mind...describe it.

No real situation in mind, just an average night out - she's OK, scrubs up quite well, out at a club/party/social gathering of your choice, maybe had a couple of drinks so there's a bit of Dutch courage but not pissed. Man has shown signs of interest but nothing concrete (just your average scenario )

[Tireman84]

Its a turn off. The lion wants to hunt his meat, he'll take it from the zoo keeper, but man... it just doesn't feel right.

[FullSack]

No real situation in mind, just an average night out - she's OK, scrubs up quite well, out at a club/party/social gathering of your choice, maybe had a couple of drinks so there's a bit of Dutch courage but not pissed. Man has shown signs of interest but nothing concrete (just your average scenario )

verdict - totally cool, for that night at least.

[matteothefart]

Its a turn off. The lion wants to hunt his meat, he'll take it from the zoo keeper, but man... it just doesn't feel right.

lawl.. i'd be nice if they put some obvious signs out, just nothing like: "lets go on a date"

[-Live2Lift-]

Its a turn off. The lion wants to hunt his meat, he'll take it from the zoo keeper, but man... it just doesn't feel right.

lol wut? since when did we live in africa on the Savanna plains?

[wildphucker]

Women should do it more- A guy usually has the whole 'creep' factor to get around when approaching. A woman has no such concern and should do it more. It's happened to me before and its alot better than having to try and facing possible rejection.

[andydriffield]

I read a lot on here about how it's always the men who do the initial approach, and how they have to do all the work....

So how do you feel if a woman approaches you?
Is it a good thing?
Do you think she's too aggressive? Too pushy?
Or are you just happy to be let off the hook?

if you played it to make her do it ,than it is a better feeling than going up to her and asking her and a lot harder to pull off

[caramon]

I read a lot on here about how it's always the men who do the initial approach, and how they have to do all the work....

So how do you feel if a woman approaches you?
Is it a good thing?
Do you think she's too aggressive? Too pushy?
Or are you just happy to be let off the hook?

Usually, I'm totally fine with approaches depending on how it's done. I like it when a woman shows that she's interested in me and comes up to talk, as long as it's not overly-aggressive.

I think some men who are shy would especially enjoy this since it's hard for them to approach a women in general. Not all men approach women, and it's usually these type of guys who get passed over. If a woman expects a man to approach her, then chances are, the man who she often encounters is usually the player who's comfortable approaching many women.

I've had some women approach me lately and, even though I'm taken, it's a compliment. I think the only ones who I found to be too pushy were the ones who clung to me, or grabbed me and tried to drag me to the dance floor.

[Beklet]

OK, bit of a mixed bag there!

See the usual scenario is a girl shows interest, boy approaches once he has the right signals, but often that doesn't help a man who is quite shy.

I know men who are really shy and in the end, the girl lost patience, approached him and all was good, but then I've seen men who appeared interested even after the approach but then went all weird afterwards.
Is it because you think she'll turn into a bunny boiler?

To Fullsack - why only for that night?

Is a girl approaching you some sort of slur on your masculinity? (that's to all of you)

I just find it interesting as men on here claim they hate having to do all the approaching but in reality you'd be a bit suspicious if you were approached.

[Dom_88]

I read a lot on here about how it's always the men who do the initial approach, and how they have to do all the work....

So how do you feel if a woman approaches you?
Is it a good thing?
Do you think she's too aggressive? Too pushy?
Or are you just happy to be let off the hook?

Most women I end up with approach me(serious) I approach a few, but I'm in the lucky situation where most of the guys around are idiots so the women have slim pickings and have to be aggressive. Plus the hot women who are my friends seem to bring out the competitive nature in girls.

[gogz]

I remember I was walking with a friend and some hot girl grabbed my hand and pulled me to a corner and started kissing me LOL was awesome

[tonymar]

Who cares? If you want to approach a guy then do it. But if you're only doing it cuz he's too shy to approach you then he's kind of a bitch and you won't be happy with him anyway. Just sayin....

[Beklet]

Who cares? If you want to approach a guy then do it. But if you're only doing it cuz he's too shy to approach you then he's kind of a bitch and you won't be happy with him anyway. Just sayin....

No that's not it - I was just curious.

Seems to be another double standard - men don't ewant to have to approach all the time but are suspicious of women who do approach - not really a win/win situation!!

[tonymar]

No that's not it - I was just curious.

Seems to be another double standard - men don't ewant to have to approach all the time but are suspicious of women who do approach - not really a win/win situation!!

Why do women think everything is about a double standard? Newsflash, men and women are different. It's not a double standard, it's different standards for different sexes. There's a huge difference.

And even if you don't believe in any differences between men and women, the whole approach thing really doesn't matter. If you want to do it then do it, if you don't then don't. But don't say how "every guy will respond" because some guys will respond one way and some another. Some guys like it, some don't. I don't think any guy is going to hate you for approaching him, I'm just saying if you come on too strong there's only a certain kind of guy that likes that and it's the clingy type.

[deadfingers]

The last girl I dated actually initiated it all with me. Mind you it started off with a drunken message on myspace, but still she was the one that started it. Needless to say, I'd love it if a woman asked me out. Hell I might even be more lenient on my "standards" on that alone. Albeit, if she's not attractive at all and I just don't see myself being remotely interested in her, then I'd have to say now. Women who ask men out are far and few between, so you have to applaud them for having the "balls" to do what most guys do.

[Beklet]

Why do women think everything is about a double standard? Newsflash, men and women are different. It's not a double standard, it's different standards for different sexes. There's a huge difference.

And even if you don't believe in any differences between men and women, the whole approach thing really doesn't matter. If you want to do it then do it, if you don't then don't. But don't say how "every guy will respond" because some guys will respond one way and some another. Some guys like it, some don't. I don't think any guy is going to hate you for approaching him, I'm just saying if you come on too strong there's only a certain kind of guy that likes that and it's the clingy type.

Hmm I'm not the only one generalising here...

I was just asking opinions. and as I said before I got a mixed bag of responses.

I know everyone is different and will respond a different way.

I'm probably just not wording it very well

(hey it's Friday afternoon, been a long week and I want to go home!!! )

[FNB25]

Girls always approach at a nightclub or bar or what ever. They give AI's (Approach invitations) during the day or few times come and talk even during the day. So I would say it's totally natural even If a girl goes up to a guy but what I have understood many girls are a little scared of the outcome and therefore don't approach as much as we guys do. So in other words nothing wrong if you would want to approach guys as well.

[dimepiece]

ugh I want to kick it to a guy at my gym next week but the responses in here make me wonder if i should

[Pool_Shark]

There is nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man that she's interested in. To me it shows maturity as well as confidence on her part.

I think some men are intimidated by strong women and those are the men who will be turned off.

[Bonifacius]

It depends where it happens, if it's a club (most often) then I'm thinking, here's some easy pussy, BUT if it happens outside in regular life then I would consider dating her seriously

[Beklet]

ugh I want to kick it to a guy at my gym next week but the responses in here make me wonder if i should

Yeah, I was thinking that (though I don't actually have anyone in mind yet lol!

There is nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man that she's interested in. To me it shows maturity as well as confidence on her part.

I think some men are intimidated by strong women and those are the men who will be turned off.

I think you're probably right

In the past I've had really mixed reactions

[DrewBlueR32]

It depends where it happens, if it's a club (most often) then I'm thinking, here's some easy pussy, BUT if it happens outside in regular life then I would consider dating her seriously

x2...

at a club/bar/lounge...its fair game, who approaches who doesnt really seem to matter there'll always be a mix...every1's pretty much mind f'd from the alchohol anyways...but in an open, sober, public environment i think men do the majority of the approaching...or initiating contact i should say...Theres always the friend exception though, like when your with someone who has a friend that's feeling you and your friend becomes the mediator and hooks it up...

But personally i like the thrill of the huntt =)...no matter where it is....although the new car takes most of the work off my hands by grabbing attention and keeping it long enough for me to do my thing ;-)

[dimepiece]

Yeah, I was thinking that (though I don't actually have anyone in mind yet lol!

well it's just hard because you can send 100s of signals but some guys just don't pick up on them. i don't want to have to be the one to approach but this guy is cuuuuute and i don't want some other broad get in there first. and the gym is the one place where i don't want to do something idiotic that would require him to help me out. i've found that carrying heavy objects while wearing stilettos or dropping things sends guys to the rescue. i'm shady . if you ever want to meet men wear 4" heels to the airport and have 3 suitcases...

would it be creepy if i said "nice pecs" hahaha or maybe i should offer to spot him

[LeftNut]

I have no problem with it and in fact love the ego boost when a woman initiates things. Its great.

I usually reserve my judgement on her by her behaviour rather than the fact that she's someone who knows what she wants. If she's a drunk or acts like a tart then I'd be put off but if she's fun and jokes around then its great because you can just play off that.

I've met a few great girls who've initiated and 2 of them have become good friends of mine, funnily enough the girls who have ever initiated with me are generally the ones who have passed my zombie test.