In shape,single and frustrated!

ginarochelle · 08-20-2008, 06:58 PM

Ok, so i have been single for over four months now and to many this may not seem to be a big deal. But i have always been the relationship type and find myself happiest when i have that special someone around to share things with....including intamacy. So you can see where this is going. I'm thinking to myself that i have been working so hard in the gym to get into this physical condition and yet there is no one to appreciate it but myself. I just find it ironic and frustrating that when i had all of these insecurities I was in a relationship and now that i'm confident and ready to share the best me...where are all the good, hot, available men!? Grrrr! Is it the new confidence? Does it scare off the men? Is anyone else having this trouble!?!?!

Dr. Painburner · 08-20-2008, 07:06 PM

you like the girl version of me. i feel the exact same way about everything you said actually. you my sister i dunno about?

EDIT: besides i dont look for men....

allenkster · 08-20-2008, 07:10 PM

haha, I was overweight and always had a girlfreind.. now that I'm not.. I'm single...
how the hell does that work ????

so where are all the good, hot, available women now..

Gundo · 08-20-2008, 07:42 PM

Excellent change, good for you! As for the guys, I would assume from you saying, where are all the ''good, hot guys" that you've had plenty of approaches, just none worth while. Either way women that look like that dont stay single long or are married so your frustration is understandable. Guys know this too, so the likely hood that you are not married, stuck up or single is slim so they think why take the really good chance of being shot down and humilatied when they can play it safe and unhurt. I dont know you or the vibe you give off but you look like a damn supermodel. As far as guys know you've looked that way your whole life. From your 16 birthday till today you have had 1000's of guys chat you up, hit on you, whatever. So to them you have way more experience and you have a "bitch shield". Little nasty ways of telling off all the losers that you are so tired of hitting on you and ways of testing new guys you meet. Remember, this is not YOU but what most likely is the perception of some or most guys. When a guy approaches you, givem credit he has some guts, if hes being a sissy, protecting himself or not clarifing his intentions, call him a pussy and tell him to make a move. Or slap him up side the head and say "Gundo says quit being a little jezzabell and start being a man!"

p.s. enjoy the freedom!!!

kimm4 · 08-20-2008, 07:53 PM

Sounds like you've always been in some kind of relationship. It's only been 4 months and you're still young so what's the rush? Enjoy some time to yourself. The relationship will come when you're not out looking for it

dochall22 · 08-20-2008, 07:55 PM

Lower your standards, always seems to solve the problem.

ginarochelle · 08-20-2008, 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by disturb3d15

you like the girl version of me. i feel the exact same way about everything you said actually. you my sister i dunno about?

EDIT: besides i dont look for men....

Maybe i am!

I thought that by making my appearance better, it would attract the opposite sex....but i guess that isn't the case.

sickonstorm · 08-20-2008, 10:56 PM

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Originally Posted by ginarochelle

Ok, so i have been single for over four months now and to many this may not seem to be a big deal. But i have always been the relationship type and find myself happiest when i have that special someone around to share things with....including intamacy. So you can see where this is going. I'm thinking to myself that i have been working so hard in the gym to get into this physical condition and yet there is no one to appreciate it but myself. I just find it ironic and frustrating that when i had all of these insecurities I was in a relationship and now that i'm confident and ready to share the best me...where are all the good, hot, available men!? Grrrr! Is it the new confidence? Does it scare off the men? Is anyone else having this trouble!?!?!

**** im in!!!!!!!!!!

ginarochelle · 08-20-2008, 10:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Gundo

Excellent change, good for you! As for the guys, I would assume from you saying, where are all the ''good, hot guys" that you've had plenty of approaches, just none worth while. Either way women that look like that dont stay single long or are married so your frustration is understandable. Guys know this too, so the likely hood that you are not married, stuck up or single is slim so they think why take the really good chance of being shot down and humilatied when they can play it safe and unhurt. I dont know you or the vibe you give off but you look like a damn supermodel. As far as guys know you've looked that way your whole life. From your 16 birthday till today you have had 1000's of guys chat you up, hit on you, whatever. So to them you have way more experience and you have a "bitch shield". Little nasty ways of telling off all the losers that you are so tired of hitting on you and ways of testing new guys you meet. Remember, this is not YOU but what most likely is the perception of some or most guys. When a guy approaches you, givem credit he has some guts, if hes being a sissy, protecting himself or not clarifing his intentions, call him a pussy and tell him to make a move. Or slap him up side the head and say "Gundo says quit being a little jezzabell and start being a man!"

p.s. enjoy the freedom!!!

hahaha, lmao! I love the "bitch shield" comment! But i really want to put down this shield cause it's damn heavy and becoming a burden! I'm actually very down to earth and caring, i'm pretty modest also and would give almost any guy a chance. Any tips on appearing like less of a warrior and more of the girl nextdoor?

Reaver1881 · 08-20-2008, 11:03 PM

in before all the horny misc'ers and teens......

sickonstorm · 08-20-2008, 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by sickonstorm

**** im in!!!!!!!!!!

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Originally Posted by Reaver1881

in before all the horny misc'ers and teens......

too late lols

ginarochelle · 08-20-2008, 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by kimm4

Sounds like you've always been in some kind of relationship. It's only been 4 months and you're still young so what's the rush? Enjoy some time to yourself. The relationship will come when you're not out looking for it

It's not even that i'm in a rush....i'm just wondering why the only way i can get a date is when someone asks me out on some form of internet chat! But i do agree that i don't need to rush into anything serious but it would be nice to have some sort of interaction.

sickonstorm · 08-20-2008, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by ginarochelle

It's not even that i'm in a rush....i'm just wondering why the only way i can get a date is when someone asks me out on some form of internet chat! But i do agree that i don't need to rush into anything serious but it would be nice to have some sort of interaction.

stop ignoring my posts please.

Reaver1881 · 08-20-2008, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by sickonstorm

stop ignoring my posts please.

So it begins...

Gundo · 08-21-2008, 12:36 AM

Lets see... tips on picking up dudes... yeah havent done much of that lately been kinda busy, well and I am a dude so not really my thing. I would say keep the shield, filters out the bad guys. Nothing is more dissapointing than seeing a great women with a complete tool. I am half tempted to go all Dr. Phil meets Rev. Jackson on this beast with some soppy deep level stuff, but I will restrain myself. I think you know your situation, you know your solution and you dont get to whine anymore

because you have more guys drooling over you than you could shake a stick at. serious, your arm would fall off before you got to them all... Its natures way.

-dubby- · 08-21-2008, 12:51 AM

Don't worry, you're hot. A men with enough balls will pick you up soon enough. I find it that the more you look for love, the harder it is to find it, but that might just be me. If you are really sick of waiting though, try to be the one approaching; some men might be intimidated by you, they might want to approach you but they're too shy. Next time you see a guy you consider "hot" and doesn't have a ring on his finger, just say hi and see what happens from there. good luck...

BRAVE-HEART · 08-21-2008, 01:13 AM

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Originally Posted by ginarochelle

Ok, so i have been single for over four months now and to many this may not seem to be a big deal. But i have always been the relationship type and find myself happiest when i have that special someone around to share things with....including intamacy. So you can see where this is going. I'm thinking to myself that i have been working so hard in the gym to get into this physical condition and yet there is no one to appreciate it but myself. I just find it ironic and frustrating that when i had all of these insecurities I was in a relationship and now that i'm confident and ready to share the best me...where are all the good, hot, available men!? Grrrr! Is it the new confidence? Does it scare off the men? Is anyone else having this trouble!?!?!

The hottest girl in the club never gets sleezed on by guys, because guys naturally think your not interested, got a Bf, Love yourself,

its sad but true, Youl find that when you talk to them, theyr'e actually the soundest, nicest girls in the place

Because you are very beautiful you might have to go up to the guys and give them some chat first.

hope this helps ...

DaBurg3r · 08-21-2008, 01:26 AM

Ginarochelle, I would take you out to dinner if I could. Moving on though. You will definetly find someone or someone will find you. Some times the gym just isn't the best place to meet someone, like there's this girl that I have a thing for at the gym and some days she doesn't even give me the time of day she will like just be uber focused on training and others she will be all smiling and talking. I found out just yesterday she is training for a marathon, maybe that's why she's so serious.... Any way, everybody has different stuff going on in there life that affects how they act and feel. ****, maybe some guys are afraid to approach you because they're afraid of getting beat up by the boyfriend they imagine you already have; who knows. As long as you don't have a reputation for being "the crazy-hot-chick, who beat her last boyfriends car with a baseball bat" well then again, even that's kind of hot. But any way, I guarantee that if you see a guy you like and you initiate even like 1 or 2 conversations with him you'll have that dude wrapped around your little finger. He'll probably end up asking you out!

bordrshane · 08-21-2008, 01:29 AM

Uhh, come to hawaii. Ill take care of you.

Amelia · 08-21-2008, 01:41 AM

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Originally Posted by ginarochelle

Ok, so i have been single for over four months now and to many this may not seem to be a big deal. But i have always been the relationship type and find myself happiest when i have that special someone around to share things with....including intamacy. So you can see where this is going. I'm thinking to myself that i have been working so hard in the gym to get into this physical condition and yet there is no one to appreciate it but myself. I just find it ironic and frustrating that when i had all of these insecurities I was in a relationship and now that i'm confident and ready to share the best me...where are all the good, hot, available men!? Grrrr! Is it the new confidence? Does it scare off the men? Is anyone else having this trouble!?!?!

Sounds familiar

killamayne · 08-21-2008, 01:42 AM

damn baby. come to cali, i show u a good time. jk jk (not a perv)

same here, i was a bit fatty and i was gettin numbers and the wat not

since i been gettin my muscles and a package down there, i been on a cold stint. WTF!!!

btw, ur hot baby (no homo)

Bako3G · 08-21-2008, 01:54 AM

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Originally Posted by BRAVE-HEART

The hottest girl in the club never gets sleezed on by guys, because guys naturally think your not interested, got a Bf, Love yourself,

its sad but true, Youl find that when you talk to them, theyr'e actually the soundest, nicest girls in the place

Because you are very beautiful you might have to go up to the guys and give them some chat first.

hope this helps ...

True that! A killer physique of that of a woman screams intimidation into a lot of guys eyes!...Therefore not even wanting to try and start a convo or whatever.

graciemae07 · 08-21-2008, 06:39 AM

lol well I honestly can't say much for the comment about you being too young because I'm younger than you and married. For a lot of guys they are intimidated by confidence. That would be why when you had your insecurities you had more hit on you because then they could see you as not being "perfect". You have to understand though that it's not that they aren't attracted just because they don't approach you. It truely is a lot more attractive for someone to be confident in themself. My suggestion would be to either approach guys or give it a little more time and see what happens. I would agree that usually love and relationships find you when you aren't looking for them. It's not that you're not a beautiful woman because you are and as long as you know that, that's what that matters.

Yukk · 08-21-2008, 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by ginarochelle

It's not even that i'm in a rush....i'm just wondering why the only way i can get a date is when someone asks me out on some form of internet chat! But i do agree that i don't need to rush into anything serious but it would be nice to have some sort of interaction.

Hey, what's wrong with the internet chat? Seriously though, if a girl is good looking, a lot of guys are too intimidated to approach them. It is also very flattering for a guy when a girl approaches first . Why don't you try that? 90% of the guys won't reject for sure.

Gundo · 08-21-2008, 11:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Bako3G

True that! A killer physique of that of a woman screams intimidation into a lot of guys eyes!...Therefore not even wanting to try and start a convo or whatever.

yep

bambifox · 08-21-2008, 11:27 AM

I feel your pain OP! I know exactly what ur talkin about. I've come to the conclusion that its not YOU...or your APPEARANCE, but its that the man/woman ratio is off the charts. I believe that there's now something like 25 females to every 1 male. If you appear to have a shred of love for yourself or dignity, most men will just opt for the "easy to go" type female. It's terrible, I know...but this has been my observation.

I do believe that there are men out there to appreciate a fine specimen (such as yourself), just few and far between because of the rash of young, low self-esteem having, moral-less, teenie bobbers out there blowing men in the bathroom stalls in nightclubs!

ginarochelle · 08-21-2008, 11:45 AM

Well, this helps a bunch....I think...I might be more confident after reading these responses!

I think I will just be myself and if I see a guy that I believe has potential, I will go for the approach method. This would be stepping outside my box a little since i've never done that before. Maybe protein shakes will be my new liquid courage!

Thanks for the help everyone, very useful. If anything, atleast I know I'm not alone in the matter and maybe i need to move to Hawaii or Cali! hahaha.

precisou2004 · 08-21-2008, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by dochall22

Lower your standards, always seems to solve the problem.

i do NOT agree.. why settle for second best !!!!!

cactusflower · 08-21-2008, 12:20 PM

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Originally Posted by ginarochelle

Ok, so i have been single for over four months now and to many this may not seem to be a big deal. But i have always been the relationship type and find myself happiest when i have that special someone around to share things with....including intamacy. So you can see where this is going. I'm thinking to myself that i have been working so hard in the gym to get into this physical condition and yet there is no one to appreciate it but myself. I just find it ironic and frustrating that when i had all of these insecurities I was in a relationship and now that i'm confident and ready to share the best me...where are all the good, hot, available men!? Grrrr! Is it the new confidence? Does it scare off the men? Is anyone else having this trouble!?!?!

IT's been almost 5 yrs since my last serious relationship and yea it can suck. However, in that time I was able to find out so much about myself, work on any "demons". Sometimes guys are intimidated by pretty, fit girls. If guys look at you whereever you may be, flash a smile, nothing more welcoming than that....

You willhave no trouble attracting the opposite sex but it comes when least expected.

parsnip1965 · 08-21-2008, 02:32 PM

When I was your age, I would have thought you were too hot for me. You really do look like a supermodel.

Now that I'm old and smart... the only thing stopping me would be that I'm too old for ya. And married.