for a great sex drive here is a quick list of do's and dont's, which most certainly can also be unabridged, but here are some the highlights. I'll be happy to expound on them later if asked. However, until then:
Do:
1. Go to church at least once a week from the start of the service to the very end.
2. Seek a true and active relationship with god. Not just one of duty & obligation, or when you need something.
3. Love your wife/husband passionately during everything, not just when they are being wonderful. The key is to be as loving when they are not as nice as they should be. This leads to the next point.
4. Lead by example.
5. Read things that will help strengthen your soul (i.e. The bible, but also other books. Authors like c.s. Lewis, max lucado, rick warren, & joel osteen are great). And read them with your spouse (one chapter a night is all you need, or one bible passage).
6. Think positive -- all the time! The glass is always 1/2 full.
7. Finally, dedicate as much time to your spiritual well-being as you do to your physical well-being. Pick up a book, go for a walk, have some quiet time.
And now the flipside:
1. Don't put god on the back burner. You go to work to enrich yourself financially. You go to the gym to enrich yourself physically. You go out and meet people to enrich yourself socially. School is for mental enrichment. What do you do for your soul? That is the most important element. On your soul, all things are built.
2. Don't lose control of your emotions. This does not equate to "turn yourself into a cold-hearted fiend," but instead means don't fly off the handle. No road rage, no impatience, no lack of faith. What's wrong with you? Are you a man or beast? What separates you from a gorilla? Your mind! Use it!
3. Don't be a consistent tv-watcher. If you have to turn it on, try to keep it for only a short a period of time. Watch what you must, and forget the rest. The key is to minimize tv. Who cares if you missed the game or the latest episode of grey's anatomy? In the grand scheme of things, it didn't matter.
4. Don't listen to music that is not in accordance with the new you. How can you be positive and strong when you are listening to someone sing about the "hoes," getting drunk high, etc.
5. Don't be negative. If somebody rubs you the wrong way - be nice. If your facing tough odds - stand strong. If someone is trying to have you compromise your values - hold fast, which leads to...
6. Don't be dichotomous/duplicitous. Meaning saying one thing and doing another flagrantly. Yes, the word "hypocrite" could have been used, but all of mankind, with the exception of one are hypocrites. A person that is dichotomous, may truly want to do the right thing, but due to other influences caves in. This cannot be. However, you also cannot succeed alone. You must turn to god. If you don't -- trust me, you will never win.
And finally...
7. Lay off the porn. If you and your wife/husband are into that - fine. Watch together. However, don't make it a habit. And never watch it alone. You're relationship will suffer. Believe me.
And for all the skeptics, there are physiological reasons behind the guidelines listed, but i have typed for long enough. I hope this helps.
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ps. Introducing toxins into the body, whether through smoking, drinking, illicit drug use, is terribly damaging and will destroy you from the inside out -- including that sex drive. However, the things mentioned above are proven to wreak even worse damage. Stress through tv, emotional outrage, internet addiction can nuke your system. You have one body and one life. Protect it.
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