I got stood up

Jenflower2 · 08-02-2008, 06:29 PM

The first time I have ever gotten stood up before (I am fortunate to have dealt with a majority of dependable people this far)
I am hurt and pissed off. It doesn't feel good to be stood up.
People can be real jerks sometimes.

Just needed to vent.

FLASH- · 08-02-2008, 06:45 PM

i was stood up before..

i was pissed but i got over it!

plenty more fish in teh sea as they say....

ccm · 08-02-2008, 06:45 PM

the guy must be alpha, you prolly want him even more.

nitr0x2 · 08-02-2008, 06:49 PM

hot girls dont get stood up

jus sayin

Jenflower2 · 08-02-2008, 06:58 PM

aww thanks flash!

ccm & Nitro-your comments made me laugh.
thanks for making me smile

Violator009 · 08-02-2008, 07:00 PM

Tough s**8, thats life baby

kyles1991 · 08-02-2008, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Jenflower2

aww thanks flash!

ccm & Nitro-your comments made me laugh.
thanks for making me smile

Could you be more specific about how you got stood up?Was it like he said you were gonna go out then din't even call you or called you at the last minute saying he can't go,the first is ten times worse imo.Or was he supposed to meet you somewhere then didn't show up at all,thats one of the ****tiest things you could ever do.

Jenflower2 · 08-02-2008, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by kyles1991

Could you be more specific about how you got stood up?Was it like he said you were gonna go out then din't even call you or called you at the last minute saying he can't go,the first is ten times worse imo.Or was he supposed to meet you somewhere then didn't show up at all,thats one of the ****tiest things you could ever do.

It's the first one.
He's been persistantly trying to date me for a long time now. Finally we planned to go out because we were both single and he said he would call today and we'd do something tonight. Not a single word from him all day long and now it's after 9. Ridiculous. He knows I can't call him because it's long distance so it was up to him to call. That was our deal.
It astounds me how undependable people can be. I have crossed him off of my little list and I will not give him another chance. and I mean that completely.
There sure are many other fish in the sea, I don't have to settle for such a undependable loser.

kyles1991 · 08-02-2008, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Jenflower2

It's the first one.
He's been persistantly trying to date me for a long time now. Finally we planned to go out because we were both single and he said he would call today and we'd do something tonight. Not a single word from him all day long and now it's after 9. Ridiculous. He knows I can't call him because it's long distance so it was up to him to call. That was our deal.
It astounds me how undependable people can be. I have crossed him off of my little list and I will not give him another chance. and I mean that completely.
There sure are many other fish in the sea, I don't have to settle for such a undependable loser.

I hear you,i've had only one girl do this to me and it truely sucked,funny thing is she did it twice.And then txted me later that week like nothing happened.No idea what would cause someone to do this I know I certainly wouldn't ever do it.

King of the Misc · 08-02-2008, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Jenflower2

It's the first one.
He's been persistantly trying to date me for a long time now. Finally we planned to go out because we were both single and he said he would call today and we'd do something tonight. Not a single word from him all day long and now it's after 9. Ridiculous. He knows I can't call him because it's long distance so it was up to him to call. That was our deal.
It astounds me how undependable people can be. I have crossed him off of my little list and I will not give him another chance. and I mean that completely.
There sure are many other fish in the sea, I don't have to settle for such a undependable loser.

Maybe he got scared?

sensetarget · 08-02-2008, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Jenflower2

It's the first one.
He's been persistantly trying to date me for a long time now. Finally we planned to go out because we were both single and he said he would call today and we'd do something tonight. Not a single word from him all day long and now it's after 9. Ridiculous. He knows I can't call him because it's long distance so it was up to him to call. That was our deal.
It astounds me how undependable people can be. I have crossed him off of my little list and I will not give him another chance. and I mean that completely.
There sure are many other fish in the sea, I don't have to settle for such a undependable loser.

how do you know hes not in a coma? lost phone, got into an accident , etc..
**** happens sometimes, and even to those that "are dependable people" ,

I can say for myself if I promise something, I do it, but I also recall a couple of times I couldn't do this because of various reasons.

kyles1991 · 08-02-2008, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by sensetarget

how do you know hes not in a coma? lost phone, got into an accident , etc..
**** happens sometimes, and even to those that "are dependable people" ,

I can say for myself if I promise something, I do it, but I also recall a couple of times I couldn't do this because of various reasons.

But even if you couldn't go you'd atleast call right?I know i would.

Jenflower2 · 08-02-2008, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by kyles1991

I hear you,i've had only one girl do this to me and it truely sucked,funny thing is she did it twice.And then txted me later that week like nothing happened.No idea what would cause someone to do this I know I certainly wouldn't ever do it.

The reason they do it is because we are not high priority or important enough in their lives to remember.
That hurts, but their loss, right?
Best to eliminate people like that.

This guy won't have a chance to do it twice. I'm staying strong.
This will be a test to see how strong I truly am lol.

angelfire2005 · 08-02-2008, 07:22 PM

he might have just gotten nervous, or was just playing around with you before then once he actually got a date he didn't know what to do. either way there's plenty of others guys out there; i wouldn't worry about this one.

kyles1991 · 08-02-2008, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Jenflower2

The reason they do it is because we are not high priority or important enough in their lives to remember.
That hurts, but their loss, right?
Best to eliminate people like that.

This guy won't have a chance to do it twice. I'm staying strong.
This will be a test to see how strong I truly am lol.

Yeah their loss,I know this girl couldn't of had anything more important to do,she must be a lesbian to resist me

lol It's just so weird cuz during school she was all over me then summer comes SHE ASK ME to hang out and blows me off.She'll always remain a mystery to me I guess.

Idgara · 08-02-2008, 07:31 PM

Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me.

Tell this guy to kiss your ass and send it to the moon. If he doesn't have the decency to let you call you, then he's not worth the time.

Jenflower2 · 08-02-2008, 07:34 PM

this guy is not shy (at least he doesn't appear it at all) so I don't think he got nervous and I highly doubt he is in a coma. He simply forgot. At least I'm pretty postive that's what it is.
The annoying thing is I stayed in for a good portion of the day so I could be here to get his call. I canceled plans with another potentional bf and also didn't go to a b-day party which I really wanted to go to, just so I could be in to get his call and go out with him because that's what we had planned.
Sweet little dependable me lol.

Thanks guys for comments. I will update you with his lame excuse if he happens to have one.

Jmh80 · 08-02-2008, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Jenflower2

this guy is not shy (at least he doesn't appear it at all) so I don't think he got nervous and I highly doubt he is in a coma. He simply forgot. At least I'm pretty postive that's what it is.
The annoying thing is I stayed in for a good portion of the day so I could be here to get his call. I canceled plans with another potentional bf and also didn't go to a b-day party which I really wanted to go to, just so I could be in to get his call and go out with him because that's what we had planned.
Sweet little dependable me lol.

Thanks guys for comments. I will update you with his lame excuse if he happens to have one.

You don't have a cell???? Can't figure out why you'd stay home otherwise.

Anyway - I wouldn't make a habit of putting off your life and things you want to do for something like that.

Jenflower2 · 08-02-2008, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Jmh80

You don't have a cell???? Can't figure out why you'd stay home otherwise.

Anyway - I wouldn't make a habit of putting off your life and things you want to do for something like that.

Well I thought he would be dependable, I never thought he'd do something like that. I don't put off my life but I cancel other big plans if I think I'm going to have big plans with someone.

and no I don't have a cell.

mandmandi1 · 08-02-2008, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Jenflower2

this guy is not shy (at least he doesn't appear it at all) so I don't think he got nervous and I highly doubt he is in a coma. He simply forgot. At least I'm pretty postive that's what it is.
The annoying thing is I stayed in for a good portion of the day so I could be here to get his call. I canceled plans with another potentional bf and also didn't go to a b-day party which I really wanted to go to, just so I could be in to get his call and go out with him because that's what we had planned.
Sweet little dependable me lol.

Thanks guys for comments. I will update you with his lame excuse if he happens to have one.

Yea **** that, people who do this kinda dont change and will do it again. I had a girl tell me we were gonna chill 40 mins b4 leaving my house then she never showed up. i called 5 times and she never answered that night. Next day she calls me telling me she had to do some **** (no explanation)and that she was sorry. I dint get angry nor did i tell her off cause i was goin to spring break the next day. I get back from spring break and she calls 3x and i never answered. Called me again and asked if i wanted chill to whcih i said no. Its been 4 months and she still texts me once a week. I rarely reply and she still texts. I considered going out with her again, but then i rember how it felt like standing outside that night like a jack ass waiting. In the end she will always be a **** and will never ****ing date her.

Drop_Dead · 08-02-2008, 07:50 PM

wow strong jumping to conclusions

ive stood up girls like that before. BUT i had a good reason, for example one time work called and pretty much begged me to come in for a shift because somebody just quit. i had a dinner date planned that night. while i was at work she called my house a few times, i didnt answer (cuz i was at work duh) so she made other plans. she was a little upset that i didnt call her to let her know i had to cancel,but i didnt have time, i had to get ready and get to work so i wouldnt be late.

maybe he doesnt have an excuse, maybe hell have a great reason, maybe he will have a lame excuse. MAYBE you shouldnt be so goddam negative. youd enjoy life much more that way. why do women always assume the worst? every friggin time. people say they get stressed out over shyt like that, **** them, there is no such thing as stress, just people who have no will power and let every little negative thing get to them.

Jmh80 · 08-02-2008, 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Jenflower2

Well I thought he would be dependable, I never thought he'd do something like that. I don't put off my life but I cancel other big plans if I think I'm going to have big plans with someone.

and no I don't have a cell.

That's fair.

You are seriously the first person under about 60 I've met in a few years that doesn't have a cell. Do you at least have something other than dial up? LOL

LeftNut · 08-02-2008, 07:50 PM

Maybe he just got completely sidetracked and didn't even realise? I've done that quite a few times and completely forgot the courtesy of just sending a text to reschedule for another time.

I didn't do it intentionally and I was more than looking forward to the dates with them (even though I only said I would call and made no promises of meeting them somewhere) but sometimes **** just happens that you cant control and your mind gets focussed on something else.

I later apologised when I realised what I'd done (i.e misunderstanding) and things were cool, but just saying it can happen sometimes.

Idgara · 08-02-2008, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Drop_Dead

wow strong jumping to conclusions

ive stood up girls like that before. BUT i had a good reason, for example one time work called and pretty much begged me to come in for a shift because somebody just quit. i had a dinner date planned that night. while i was at work she called my house a few times, i didnt answer so she made other plans. she was a little upset that i didnt call her but i didnt have time, i had to get ready and get to work so i wouldnt be late.

maybe he doesnt have an excuse, maybe he does. MAYBE you shouldnt be so goddam negative. youd enjoy life much more that way. why do women always assume the worst? every friggin time. people say they get stressed out over shyt like that, **** them, there is no such thing as stress, just people who have no will power and let every little negative thing get to them.

So you couldn't spare less than 1 minute to call and say "I have work"?

How long does it honestly take?

mandmandi1 · 08-02-2008, 08:00 PM

I am a guy and i say standing people up is not ****ing alpha, its a $hit thing to do. You dont look mysterious nor do you seem cool. That just makes the person your dating hate you.

Drop_Dead · 08-02-2008, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Idgara

So you couldn't spare less than 1 minute to call and say "I have work"?

How long does it honestly take?

BUDDY! the work called me 15 minutes before the shift started. the manager even specified for me to try not to be late.

could you take a shower, make a protein shake, brush your teeth, drive to work AND talk on the phone with some girl in less than 15 minutes? maybe if you had a cell phone and called her while driving. but i dont have a cell phone.

btw i did call her finally once i got on my break

Idgara · 08-02-2008, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Drop_Dead

BUDDY! the work called me 15 minutes before the shift started. the manager even specified for me to try not to be late.

could you take a shower, make a protein shake, brush your teeth, drive to work AND talk on the phone with some girl in less than 15 minutes? maybe if you had a cell phone and called her while driving. but i dont have a cell phone.

btw i did call her finally once i got on my break

Yep, I sure could have. Multi-tasking isn't that hard. It's called common decency. Most people today do not have it.

And for the record, don't exaggerate your story. I highly doubt your work called you 15 mins before a voluntary shift and said "Don't be late or you're fired!". I know I know, "that's how it happened", right?

FullSack · 08-02-2008, 09:10 PM

my prediction is that he calls with a good excuse and you agree to go out with him and you justify it to yourself one way or another in order to avoid feeling bad about going back on your word.

LovesMuscles · 08-02-2008, 09:25 PM

That's a deal breaker for sure.

I'd cut off communication and have him worry like a sick dog, that'll teach him not to do it again. Give myself time to calm down and give him call to hear what he has to say.

But he could have a good reason. I stood someone up once (yes, admitting it) and in all honesty, it was in no way intentional (I was supposed to meet up with a guy friend to see a movie. Problem was, on the way there I got lost taking the train and didn't know which neighborhood I was in. Before I knew it, it was too late to head there and walked about 3 miles back home and called him right away to tell him what had happened. True story).

And Jmh, I don't own a cell either.

Richie_Awesome · 08-02-2008, 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Jenflower2

It's the first one.
He's been persistantly trying to date me for a long time now. Finally we planned to go out because we were both single and he said he would call today and we'd do something tonight. Not a single word from him all day long and now it's after 9. Ridiculous. He knows I can't call him because it's long distance so it was up to him to call. That was our deal.
It astounds me how undependable people can be. I have crossed him off of my little list and I will not give him another chance. and I mean that completely.
There sure are many other fish in the sea, I don't have to settle for such a undependable loser.

Ugh, I did the same thing. Girl wanted to hang out with me saturday night. Well I sent her a text or two on thursday and friday night asking her what was up/good night, stupid stuff. We're good friends so I thought it was fine. Well, she never got back to me, and I kind of lost interest(my fault) So when saturday rolled around, i didn't want to hang w/ her. i told her the night b4 that she should make other plans and not to depend on me cuz I didn't know what we'd be doing.

i think she's an awesome girl and I want to hang w/ her again...but for some reason, i stopped wanting to hang out when I didn't hear for her for a few days