Sad news (very serious)(long)

[DJINN]

Good day everyone...

My fiance' and I have looked forward to the arrival of our son since we first learned we were pregnant. He was due April 27th, but as with so many 1st time pregnancies, our little boy decided that he wanted to stay inside a little bit longer than that. We were scheduled to have cesarean section delivery on May 9th to bring our little boy into the world...

...well, our anticipation of parenthood has come to an end...unfortunately not the celebratory end that most people hope for. It is with a very heavy heart that I announce on Thursday May 8, 2008 Anthony Christopher Washington entered this world deceased. As a result of acute placental rupture requiring immediate intervention to try to save him, my son was neither able to see a glimmer of sunlight nor inhale his first or last breath. He weighed 9lbs, 4oz and was blessed with hair that would make me quite envious.

It is most tragic that this occur at any time to anyone, but to occur the day before his scheduled arrival adds insult to injury. My fiance' is physically well and recovering. Emotionally, we are both devastated. This is the worst thing that has ever happened to us as quite literally, a piece of both of us has died. There are no words to describe how we feel, nor any condolences that will truly ease our pain. I guess time really will be the great healer of our wounds.

I share this news because we realize that we have a long road ahead in grieving and recovery. A parent should never have to bury their children...it should always be the opposite. As we stumble through our loss and plan private arrangements, we hope to avoid reliving this day countless times but know that it will take time and talking to get through this tragic event. Sharing my loss is part of my recovery from it.

On this day, Mother's Day, I ask that you not grieve our loss, but behold and take not for granted the loved ones in your lives. Make the most of each day you have, hug those you love, and never let a day pass without telling those close to you how much they mean.

[ChicagoCubz]

Really sorry to hear that. My sister just had her son yesterday, 6 weeks prematurely, we still don't know if his lungs are fully developed.

[DJINN]

Really sorry to hear that. My sister just had her son yesterday, 6 weeks prematurely, we still don't know if his lungs are fully developed.

Congrats on being a new uncle...I truly wish the best for your nephew and will keep him in my thoughts and prayers.

[ChicagoCubz]

Congrats on being a new uncle...I truly wish the best for your nephew and will keep him in my thoughts and prayers.

Nah, been an uncle for a while now. But thanks, I appreciate it. Hopefully we'll know today.

[jp1390]

really sorry to hear that

[ShutUpAndSquat]

That sucks man...sorry to hear about your loss. I'm glad that your fiance is physically OK, though.

[DJINN]

really sorry to hear that

That sucks man...sorry to hear about your loss. I'm glad that your fiance is physically OK, though.

Thank you...words like these really mean a lot in times like these.

[dazzlepecs]

you going to try again? My mum had the same difficulty with her child before me

[SightSeeker]

Sorry bro.

[DJINN]

Sorry bro.

Thanks bro...

you going to try again?

That is our plan...my fiance has to fully recover and we need time to heal emotionally. After that we will talk thoroughly with our docs and see if trying again is a reasonable option. If so, then yes we will jump back in the saddle.

[maori-rap]

Sorry to hear this, can't imagine how you must be feeling. I guess you just gotta keep moving forward.

[DJINN]

Sorry to hear this, can't imagine how you must be feeling. I guess you just gotta keep moving forward.

Even in the face the biggest tragedy in my life, and I've been through alot of things, life moves forward and at some point we need to move forward with it...or be left behind.

[loney]

So so sorry to hear the news bro. Does anyone know what exactky caused the placenta disruption?

[Brutal__Truth]

God be with you and your family during this difficult time.

[DJINN]

God be with you and your family during this difficult time.

Thanks bro...that means alot

So so sorry to hear the news bro. Does anyone know what exactky caused the placenta disruption?

The docs are still figuring that out because everything seemed normal even the day just before he was due to be delivered. Supposedly bleeding began sometime when we went to bed and thankfully my fiance woke up to use the bathroom. She thought her water broke, but instead the bed was full of blood. We rushed to the ER but it was too late. We are lost for answers at thsi point.

[TheBigEasy]

My deepest sympathys bro....we are just starting to try to have our first. I hope someday, by the strength of god, you are able to have a healthy baby.

Keep your head up and be strong for your wife.

[krazyfk]

Good day everyone...

My fiance' and I have looked forward to the arrival of our son since we first learned we were pregnant. He was due April 27th, but as with so many 1st time pregnancies, our little boy decided that he wanted to stay inside a little bit longer than that. We were scheduled to have cesarean section delivery on May 9th to bring our little boy into the world...

...well, our anticipation of parenthood has come to an end...unfortunately not the celebratory end that most people hope for. It is with a very heavy heart that I announce on Thursday May 8, 2008 Anthony Christopher Washington entered this world deceased. As a result of acute placental rupture requiring immediate intervention to try to save him, my son was neither able to see a glimmer of sunlight nor inhale his first or last breath. He weighed 9lbs, 4oz and was blessed with hair that would make me quite envious.

It is most tragic that this occur at any time to anyone, but to occur the day before his scheduled arrival adds insult to injury. My fiance' is physically well and recovering. Emotionally, we are both devastated. This is the worst thing that has ever happened to us as quite literally, a piece of both of us has died. There are no words to describe how we feel, nor any condolences that will truly ease our pain. I guess time really will be the great healer of our wounds.

I share this news because we realize that we have a long road ahead in grieving and recovery. A parent should never have to bury their children...it should always be the opposite. As we stumble through our loss and plan private arrangements, we hope to avoid reliving this day countless times but know that it will take time and talking to get through this tragic event. Sharing my loss is part of my recovery from it.

On this day, Mother's Day, I ask that you not grieve our loss, but behold and take not for granted the loved ones in your lives. Make the most of each day you have, hug those you love, and never let a day pass without telling those close to you how much they mean.

really, really sorry to hear that.
My condolences.

stay strong, for your son

[DJINN]

My deepest sympathys bro....we are just starting to try to have our first. I hope someday, by the strength of god, you are able to have a healthy baby.

Keep your head up and be strong for your wife.

Thanks bro and good luck in your journey...can't wait to here the news when you two find out you're preg and then when your little bundle of joy enters this world. It really changes your life.

really, really sorry to hear that.
My condolences.

Thank you sincerely

[MC Fresh]

I feel for you both bro.

[SomeoneStopMe]

really sorry for you man, after i saw my nephew i wouldn't know how to feel if one day god forbid something happen to him. thats terrible man, but best of luck in the future, as bad as it sounds these things happen for a reason, something is good in the future.

[Rizen]

I am very sorry to hear that this can't be an easy time for you. My thoughts are with both you and your wife.

[OrdoAbchao]

Damn man, very sorry to hear.

[Mango7]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Try to put it behind you as soon as possible and try to accept this as what's meant to be and get busy on the next one once you've gotten past the greiving. Please hang in there.

[DJINN]

I feel for you both bro.

Thank you bro

really sorry for you man, after i saw my nephew i wouldn't know how to feel if one day god forbid something happen to him. thats terrible man, but best of luck in the future, as bad as it sounds these things happen for a reason, something is good in the future.

Everything happens for a reason and it is all in God's hands (for those that believe as I do). I can sit here and question as to why this happened, and be angry at the world, but it really doesn't resolve anything. Perhaps the next time around will have a happy ending.

[T-Roach]

this may not mean a lot coming from someone on the internet but i am very sorry for your loss.

I can't even imagine how much losing a child could and will hurt. I've also been going through a pretty rough time for the past few weeks and the only advice I can give you is let the sorrow come out. Listen to music that touches your heart, let the tears flow and most importantly, you and your fiance need to spend time with each other and your friends. They will help.


Once again, im truly sorry

-Tero

[DJINN]

I am very sorry to hear that this can't be an easy time for you. My thoughts are with both you and your wife.

Thanks bro...it is very tough especially on a Mother's Day that we thought we'd be actually celebrating.

Damn man, very sorry to hear.

I know...its even togher to live through.

I'm so sorry to hear this. Try to put it behind you as soon as possible and try to accept this as what's meant to be and get busy on the next one once you've gotten past the greiving. Please hang in there.

Your advice is solid...thanks

[MoonMan12]

Thank you...words like these really mean a lot in times like these.

God man, what happened to you sucks. I really do hope that you make it through these tough times. You and your fiance are in my prayers.

[DJINN]

this may not mean a lot coming from someone on the internet but i am very sorry for your loss.

I can't even imagine how much losing a child could and will hurt. I've also been going through a pretty rough time for the past few weeks and the only advice I can give you is let the sorrow come out. Listen to music that touches your heart, let the tears flow and most importantly, you and your fiance need to spend time with each other and your friends. They will help.


Once again, im truly sorry

-Tero

You can't imagine how helpful the support from people here is...or perhaps you can relate since you've been dealing with some tough things as well. Even though I may not know everyone here and it is the internet, I think we all have compassion for others and I truly appreciate every word written and the sentiments expressed.

God man, what happened to you sucks. I really do hope that you make it through these tough times. You and your fiance are in my prayers.

Thanks bro...I appreciate your kind words

[OrdoAbchao]

I know...its even togher to live through.

I can't even imagine. I wish you the best in the future.

[Rattus]

Sorry to hear that mate. My aunty had a miscarriage some years ago and needless to say it was devastating for her emotionally. Hope you find the strength to move forward, my thoughts are with you and your fiance.