I flopped big time, I dont know what happened to me, I am back to an AFC..Help:(

[dfdsgdfgyh]

I dont know what got into me man.....about 6 months back I totally gave up on partying and socializing, I just did my job, came home, slept, than went to college and than to work.

Last night I went to a club after 6 months, and I was a total A.F.C

I was standing right on the bar, and this chic, who was dancing, she did X, coke for the first time, kaz her friend kept on telling her, dont worry youre ok, it happens the first time, she kept on ditching her friends and started standing with me.

She started falling on me, and stood right next to me, touching...she kept on looking at me, but I got freakin confused and nervous

than she even asked me where Im from, I stood quite pretending I never understood her, LOL

than she asked me for a smoke, even though i did had ciggs, lol but I said no.

I ****ED UP BIG TIME.

Than the girls/guys I was with, one of the girls came up to me, and shes like you look down, lets dance ill cheer you up, im like nah, im too tired lol



God dammit, I gave up on a total of 4 chances of hitting some 8+(you dont have to beleive me on the 8+ #) broads.


What has happened to me man ??? How the hell do I get back my old fun loving socialistic personality

last night I was also way too worried about my outlook, my hair lol kaz it rained and it kinda messed it up


has this happened with anyone else ?

I WANT MY OLD PERSONALITY BACK

[janky]

first of all stop spelling cuuzzzzzz as kaz.
thats confusing

dude it takes time. You cant be an anti-social hermit, then just one night go out to a club and pull hella bitches. sometimes you gotta get back in your groove.

I personally dont like fckin with girls that are on hella drugs or overly drunk to the point where they're a mess. if they hit on me i usually laugh and say "You're way too fcked up go sit down somewhere"

Maybe you're not ready? dont force ****. The best thing you can do is be honest about what you're feeling.
dont wanna dance with a bitch? Tell her you dont wanna dance w her. dont say why. let her worry about it.

you dont HAVE to be out at the club every night getting ass. I hate that about going with my friends. It's like its a gigantic pussy store where if you dont go get some you're a fckin loser and you HAVE to do it cause you're here.
fck that. my friends that go all have gfs and just stand around drinking with our other friends or we dance w our female friends that are there.
If I see something I like, I'll go for it. If I dont, I'm gunna have a good time w my friends. no pressure.

[FNB25]

I don't prepare myself socially for going to a nightclub or having fun. Instead I go there to have fun and socialize. I become happy when I'm at nightclubs and have fun. You write that you haven't been out socializing in about 6 months. Therefore it could be that you need to get out again and meet people. Do it more often. By doing it you become again social and gradually start having more and more fun. That way you in time start to feel comfortable meeting new HBs and when you do that your game improves.

[Curtiz]

I see a nightclub as a game.

The least i get is a number or else the next day i feel like ****.

Having spent $60 and not have anything to show for it.

[dfdsgdfgyh]

Originally Posted by janky

first of all stop spelling cuuzzzzzz as kaz.
thats confusing

dude it takes time. You cant be an anti-social hermit, then just one night go out to a club and pull hella bitches. sometimes you gotta get back in your groove.

I personally dont like fckin with girls that are on hella drugs or overly drunk to the point where they're a mess. if they hit on me i usually laugh and say "You're way too fcked up go sit down somewhere"

Maybe you're not ready? dont force ****. The best thing you can do is be honest about what you're feeling.
dont wanna dance with a bitch? Tell her you dont wanna dance w her. dont say why. let her worry about it.

you dont HAVE to be out at the club every night getting ass. I hate that about going with my friends. It's like its a gigantic pussy store where if you dont go get some you're a fckin loser and you HAVE to do it cause you're here.
fck that. my friends that go all have gfs and just stand around drinking with our other friends or we dance w our female friends that are there.
If I see something I like, I'll go for it. If I dont, I'm gunna have a good time w my friends. no pressure.

i understand, but when i look back at the old me, than compare it with the present me, i feel ****ed.....i was never like this.i was extremely social and outgoing, and pulling ass was no problem.....im worried because i think isolating myself for the past 6 monthss from everything has had an enormous change on my personality...im worried because i dont want to be like this forever ....i actually went to the club just to have fun, dance, wasnt thinking about pussy at all...................but when i saw the chances i was getting and how i was a total social-****up, i went even more downhill from there

[dfdsgdfgyh]

bump

[justanothagirl]

Originally Posted by dfdsgdfgyh

i understand, but when i look back at the old me, than compare it with the present me, i feel ****ed.....i was never like this.i was extremely social and outgoing, and pulling ass was no problem.....im worried because i think isolating myself for the past 6 monthss from everything has had an enormous change on my personality...im worried because i dont want to be like this forever ....i actually went to the club just to have fun, dance, wasnt thinking about pussy at all...................but when i saw the chances i was getting and how i was a total social-****up, i went even more downhill from there

dont worry about it, i stopped socializing for a while as well in the winter and when i started trying to become socially active again it was weird, for like a week. it will come back to u just be confident and comfortable with yourself. you simply have to get used to the situation again.

[Amris]

Practice on some old ladies. Go to the grocery store, get in line behind an old woman, and chat her up.

It may sound ridiculous, but getting comfortable around older women, getting smiles and positive responses from them is easy because you don't care. And as you get more comfortable with THEM, you will get more comfortable with younger women, as well. It just flows naturally.

Many people think it won't work, because "it's different," but the fact is, just getting positive responses from people will begin to shift your outlook. And being more social in general will help you build a good foundation for ALL socializing.

[Drop_Dead]

its all in your head


thats it.

[shivsean]

Originally Posted by Amris

Practice on some old ladies. Go to the grocery store, get in line behind an old woman, and chat her up.

It may sound ridiculous, but getting comfortable around older women, getting smiles and positive responses from them is easy because you don't care. And as you get more comfortable with THEM, you will get more comfortable with younger women, as well. It just flows naturally.

Many people think it won't work, because "it's different," but the fact is, just getting positive responses from people will begin to shift your outlook. And being more social in general will help you build a good foundation for ALL socializing.

Op listen to this chick. If you are lucky the older lady you are chatting with may be a MILF nympho and it is good from there...hahaha

[dfdsgdfgyh]

yeah ^

[BEhave]

she was on all sorts of drugs. i think you did the right thing lol